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[cabanafrau]

Try looking at it as an opportunity to potentially discover additional happy places. You may discover there are ways to be happy and enjoy that aren't 100-percent tied to Disney -- which in the end may end up making your Disney time more special.

 

[RedAngie]

Even for people who enjoy Disney tremendously, there can be a point where one ODs on it. Even OP grudgingly admits their trips may be "excessive."

I wouldn't want to go TOO often; I'd become even more jaded than I am now. Perhaps OP's partner fears the same thing happening.

 

[mom2rtk]

It still looks like you have been choosing Disney more than your partner has been choosing other destinations. I think you should take the request for a signed contract as a brick upside the head that he's serious about this.

But no, I would not trade 3 years of no Disney for a DCL cruise and Aulani in one year. I'd rather have a short trip to the parks each year than take my total Disney allotment in the form of DCL and Aulani (even if that includes a stop at DL).

I'm a little confused though. Don't you have the DCL cruise and Aulani planned already? Did your partner ask you to sign this contract at the time you scheduled those or is he asking that now?

 

[HM]

I will say that we did spend way too many of our kids growing up years on vacations at Disney. I now regret not going other places more. It was just so easy to get discounts in the early 2000s and so easy to plan.

I think it's actually smart to step away for a bit and try other places. I don't know the ages of your kids, but I'm sure getting to see more of the world will be great for them and you.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

You've had what most would consider a lifetime's worth of Disney in a single year - more than once. I like Disney; I like it a lot. But, I'd be wanting at least a 3-year break after that much Disney too!

 

[Shmily1]

Nope. Never. I would agree to a 2 week hiatus but since I make my own money, I'd never agree to that or anything like it.

 

[CampbellzSoup]

You've had what most would consider a lifetime's worth of Disney in a single year - more than once. I like Disney; I like it a lot. But, I'd be wanting at least a 3-year break after that much Disney too!

Thanks for keeping it honest and for everyone's opinions here too let me just give a BIT more background before everyone thins in being unfair to him lol

He gets fifty paid vacation days I get thirty and he's going on a Royal Careibean cruise with his parents next week I simply don't have the time to do it yet. It's just that he doesn't like Disney - I just want it to be clear I'm not taking away his time to do what he wants to do at all!

 

[SparklePixie]

Nope. Never. I would agree to a 2 week hiatus but since I make my own money, I'd never agree to that or anything like it.

By your wording, I am assuming your husband's money is then his to spend as he wishes?

 

[BadgerGirl84]

At this stage in my life, no I wouldn't agree to three years without a WDW trip. For me alone, I guess I could suffer through it. By my daughter is two and dd#2 will be arriving any day. It's just too magical of a time to keep them out of the parks for three years. We are planning our next trip for early spring when DD2 will be about 3 months old and DD1 will still be free. I couldn't imagine not taking DD1 until she was almost 6. But if it were just me and DH--I would probably be okay waiting a bit before going back again.

 

[lovin'fl]

I just work it. DH says 'no more Disney for a while' and i say 'okay' but then sneak some trips in. For example: my DDs were supposed to play softball in Orlando this fall so I hurried up and booked a room with our DVC points and then I booked non-refundable airfare. Then DDs' team backed out of the softball tourney but, darn, I had non-refundable airfare, a DVC room and MNSSHP tickets already bought...so the trip had to go on . Next, DH and I have done the past 3 F&W events (which he loves) and he always says he doesn't want to go again the following year and then we end up going and can't use our BWV points to get into BWV since we always book last minute. Well, this time I said 'I am booking BWV for Oct 1-5 at 11 months out...just in case'. He grumped and said he didn't want to go, he's had enough WDW and doesn't want to spend the money...yada yada. I told him we could either cancel, down the line, or rent it out so that shut him up. Then his sister, who also has DVC, booked the same dates because her DD will be a freshman in college at U of Tampa and the parent weekend is then (hmmm, wonder who knew that before she booked her BWV for those dates??? ). So now DH is talking about if we're going to fly or drive, so there's progress.

 

[mnrose]

Absolutely. I love Disney. My husband not so much. But, the good news is that there is a big, beautiful world out there, and LOTS to see, much of it as "fun" (if not more so) than Disney. We've been doing a whole bunch of different things since our last "Disney" vacation, and we've all enjoyed it immensely. And, honestly, with the "you must plan everything" change to Disneyworld in the last couple of years, I'm "eh" on whether I'll ever go back.

 

[wilkeliza]

Nope would never sign anything. My future hubby loves Disney just as much if not more than I do. We go to each park at least once a year. Then we also go to another place for a non-Disney vacation. In 2016 we almost cut out our WDW vacation since we had a cruise, trip to Mexico for a wedding, and Aulani for our Honeymoon with a stop in DL but we decided to ax the cruise since we are spending 10 days in the Caribbean between Christmas and New Years so we will add back in a short WDW trip for either post wedding during Food and Wine or pre-wedding during Flower and Garden. We were going to do Star Wars Weekends finally but well we all know what happened to those.

 

[cabanafrau]

Nope. Never. I would agree to a 2 week hiatus but since I make my own money, I'd never agree to that or anything like it.

It might be about the spouse wanting to vacation together on a trip that's special to them and being frustrated at OP's Disney obsession being the overriding priority, no matter how much Disney they've compromised on up until now.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Thanks for keeping it honest and for everyone's opinions here too let me just give a BIT more background before everyone thins in being unfair to him lol

He gets fifty paid vacation days I get thirty and he's going on a Royal Careibean cruise with his parents next week I simply don't have the time to do it yet. It's just that he doesn't like Disney - I just want it to be clear I'm not taking away his time to do what he wants to do at all!

A generous vacation allotment and the financial means to use it does change things somewhat. But, it still sounds like massive Disney overload to me. I can see why he'd want the break.

 

[cabanafrau]

I just work it. DH says 'no more Disney for a while' and i say 'okay' but then sneak some trips in. For example: my DDs were supposed to play softball in Orlando this fall so I hurried up and booked a room with our DVC points and then I booked non-refundable airfare. Then DDs' team backed out of the softball tourney but, darn, I had non-refundable airfare, a DVC room and MNSSHP tickets already bought...so the trip had to go on . Next, DH and I have done the past 3 F&W events (which he loves) and he always says he doesn't want to go again the following year and then we end up going and can't use our BWV points to get into BWV since we always book last minute. Well, this time I said 'I am booking BWV for Oct 1-5 at 11 months out...just in case'. He grumped and said he didn't want to go, he's had enough WDW and doesn't want to spend the money...yada yada. I told him we could either cancel, down the line, or rent it out so that shut him up. Then his sister, who also has DVC, booked the same dates because her DD will be a freshman in college at U of Tampa and the parent weekend is then (hmmm, wonder who knew that before she booked her BWV for those dates??? ). So now DH is talking about if we're going to fly or drive, so there's progress.

When I see people posting about how they maneuver around their significant other, or the rest of their family for that matter, to repeatedly visit Disney it makes me wonder.

 

[cabanafrau]

Absolutely. I love Disney. My husband not so much. But, the good news is that there is a big, beautiful world out there, and LOTS to see, much of it as "fun" (if not more so) than Disney. We've been doing a whole bunch of different things since our last "Disney" vacation, and we've all enjoyed it immensely. And, honestly, with the "you must plan everything" change to Disneyworld in the last couple of years, I'm "eh" on whether I'll ever go back.

It's sad, but WDW as it's set up now isn't our Disney happy place anymore. I'm hopeful the expansions coming will address the capacity issues and we can look at coming back, but I'm trying to keep my expectations in check. For now we'll have to head to DLR for a Disney fix when we want it.

 

[lustergirl]

Not sure why you'd even think it's reasonable to monopolize all the vacation time and money on something only you like in the first place. No contract would be needed in our household; we take everybody's preferences into account and take turns if necessary. And how bull-headed are you about this that your SO feels the need to actually put it in writing? Couldn't you just simply agree, or are you likely to go ahead and plan more Disney trips behind his/her back?

Oh don't get your panties into a bunch. I love disney way more than my hubby does. It would be a cold day in hel(&(*&98 if he made me sign a contract, yea right (not happening in my house). And that is why I go on solo trips.

 

[lovin'fl]

When I see people posting about how they maneuver around their significant other, or the rest of their family for that matter, to repeatedly visit Disney it makes me wonder.

Meh...he wants a cruise and we have one booked for August so he's happy. And he ALWAYS says no F&W next year but then changes his mind around 5 months out and then our BWV points, that we bought specifically to use for F&W, go to waste. With him it's like child birth...he says 'no more' for a few months after a trip but then about 6-8 months later he's forgotten all the 'pain' and has the itch to go again. Cruises and WDW are like that with him. Yes, there are other places to vacation but we hate to fly and the cost of that is just crazy anymore (for a family of 5)...so cruising and WDW and beach trips are it for us for now. Now I agree with DH about being tired of all the crowds, heavy planning and price hikes with Disney...so I am good to cut back to one F&W trip for 4-5 days each year for a while. Our APs just expired, which we had for about 3 years and did multiple trips to get use of them, and we will NOT get new APs.

 

[CampbellzSoup]

Oh don't get your panties into a bunch. I love disney way more than my hubby does. It would be a cold day in hel(&(*&98 if he made me sign a contract, yea right (not happening in my house). And that is why I go on solo trips.

Hmmmm solo trips....


Btw the contract was more of a joke like offically no more Disney not a legally binding piece of paper lol

 

[cluvsdisney]

We go to Disney a lot. DH LOVES it and I like going away and not too particular about where as long as the weather is better than home. We had an annual pass for 2 years so that meant even more trips and it did get to be too much, even for him. So in spring 2015 we went to the beach and just 2 days in Disney when it would have been a week, we're going next weekend for the Osborne lights, but next year not at all (although subject to change..ha!). But we didn't need to put it in writing.