This is a tough topic and tough to write about but I am hoping to get some help.
I have suspected and recently found out with 99% certainty that my 12 year old dd is gay. I have no problem with her being gay. I love her no matter what.
I found out through a trail of social media and texts (I do check up on my kids from time to time).
She hasn't told us and I don't know if it is something I should let her know that I know.
I don't want her going through her teen years worrying about our reaction. There will be no reaction beyond-we love you, is there anything you need from us. I know some kids have a really hard time once they discover they are gay and for some, it takes years for them to come out. I don't want her worrying about her family.
I don't necessarily think it's important at this age to come all the way out (middle school kids can be cruel) but for those who are either gay or have a gay child, would it be a help for her to know that her parents love her no matter what?
How would you approach this? Any personal experience welcome. I posted this on the Community board and someone suggested I also post here. I hope this is ok.
I have suspected and recently found out with 99% certainty that my 12 year old dd is gay. I have no problem with her being gay. I love her no matter what.
I found out through a trail of social media and texts (I do check up on my kids from time to time).
She hasn't told us and I don't know if it is something I should let her know that I know.
I don't want her going through her teen years worrying about our reaction. There will be no reaction beyond-we love you, is there anything you need from us. I know some kids have a really hard time once they discover they are gay and for some, it takes years for them to come out. I don't want her worrying about her family.
I don't necessarily think it's important at this age to come all the way out (middle school kids can be cruel) but for those who are either gay or have a gay child, would it be a help for her to know that her parents love her no matter what?
How would you approach this? Any personal experience welcome. I posted this on the Community board and someone suggested I also post here. I hope this is ok.