momof2minnies
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Wow. Words escape me.
No you guys miss understood-I meant no way at the age the OP was talking about not 19 and 21-HaHa!!!!!
Linda
Wow. Words escape me.
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flyersfan1129 said:This may be DCL policy, but it was not OUR policy with our 11 year old son last year on the Fantasy. Unless it was an ORGANIZED outing, he was NOT to leave the tween club without notifying us, and then one of us would meet him. He had made some friends of the same age, and their parents had made the same rule, so we were OK if he was with one of them, and one of their parents met up with them. I have no doubt in my son; he is a very mature 11 and has had the fear of God put into him about "stranger danger", but it is not him I worry about. We had a sex offender move into our neighborhood over the STRENUOUS objections of all who live in our neighborhood...it only takes a minute.
It is not my daughter or her judgement I don't trust... It is the other people on board.
If for no other reason than for what just came to light about the incident on the Dream.... no amount of teaching, coaching or explaining how to handle herself could save her from that situation... her knowing karate or to "Scream fire" isn't going to help her either.... that child (on the Dream) was touched before she knew what hit her (poor thing)....
Mine are 20 and 22, don't even want to take a cruise wirh Mom and Dad.
Have to admit I worry about them. But really!
Mine are 20 and 22, don't even want to take a cruise wirh Mom and Dad.
Have to admit I worry about them. But really!
Hi Topscot!!
No. Way. Would I let a pair of 10 year old and 9 year old girls out of my sight on a cruise ship.
I may let them be in a stateroom on their own, but that's it.
Watch this clickorlando
Read this Orlando Sentinel article
Ships are more dangerous than riding a bike to school.
My son was 9 when I let him 'roam' along with another (usually older) child. That being said, he is allowed to leave me and go to a specific place on the ship. He can't just wander around. The only caveat is he must contact me every half hour or so. Also, when I call him, he must answer. If not, he loses the privilege.
It has always worked for us.
This is simply a curiosity to understand a different opinion and I don't mean it as a judgement, just genuine curiosity.
Those of you who will let them roam the ship at 8-12 years old all say things like "if they are mature enough", "they call immediately on the wave phone when changing locations"', "they check in at certain times". Do you not worry about situations like what just happened with the 11 year old or do you think it's too rare to happen? Just trying to understand the mindset because checking in with you wouldn't stop those situations from happening.
The more I read this thread the more dangerous I think cruise ships can be because clearly, people let heir guard down. What better place for a child molester to work?
On another note, I agree with the curmudgeon, lol. Add me to that list too because I would be annoyed at watched unsupervised kids acting up on the ship. I just don't get why vacation means to stop watching what they do.
Maybe I'm just too overprotective. Apparently DCL thinks it's okay or they wouldn't allow check out privileges or encourage parents to send kids to the MDRs unsupervised. But it just leaves me scratching my head.
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Hi Abdmom! I have read the article. I don't think that age is going to change the risk of something like this happening on board. Look at what happened to that 16 year old. That being said, it was never my intention to allow my DD to wander by herself. She would only be allowed to go from one area to another with her friend, never leaving each other's side.
This is exactly what I was trying to ask about. I wouldn't be decks away from my DD. Probably on the same deck, just wanted to know the best way of keeping in touch if she is not within eyesight. People on this thread seem to think that I was intending to allow her to wander at all times of the day and night by herself, go to the MDR by herself. Never was my intention.
Your child is far more likely to molested by a family member or friend than by a stranger. You cannot prevent all bad things from happening to your child, no matter what you do. You can teach them to try and prevent putting themselves in potentially perilous situations, and you can deal with fallout when it happens, but you can't keep them in a bubble either. Well you could I guess, but it wouldn't be good for them either.
Reasonable precautions are reasonable. Every family is going to decide what they think is reasonable and what their child can handle. Some parents will think others are crazy, but in the end, it is their family, not yours. When I was 12, I was allowed to roam freely in the condo complex where we vacationed and literally stay out all night and sleep during the day. (very fair skin and lots of sun didn't mesh well) my parents trusted me not to go to the ocean. They trusted me by the pool and with the friends I met. Tons of bad things could have happened. Likely? not really.
There are people who get molested by doctors. I'm not going to stop seeing doctors. There are people who get molested by teachers. I'm not going to stop sending them to school. On and on. That's my philosophy, ymmv
This is simply a curiosity to understand a different opinion and I don't mean it as a judgement, just genuine curiosity.
Those of you who will let them roam the ship at 8-12 years old all say things like "if they are mature enough", "they call immediately on the wave phone when changing locations"', "they check in at certain times". Do you not worry about situations like what just happened with the 11 year old or do you think it's too rare to happen? Just trying to understand the mindset because checking in with you wouldn't stop those situations from happening.
The more I read this thread the more dangerous I think cruise ships can be because clearly, people let heir guard down. What better place for a child molester to work?
On another note, I agree with the curmudgeon, lol. Add me to that list too because I would be annoyed at watched unsupervised kids acting up on the ship. I just don't get why vacation means to stop watching what they do.
Maybe I'm just too overprotective. Apparently DCL thinks it's okay or they wouldn't allow check out privileges or encourage parents to send kids to the MDRs unsupervised. But it just leaves me scratching my head.
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