My Faith in Humanity is RESTORED.....

[kimmar067]

Me, too.

It's experiences like those, Kimmar, that uplift me ...

 

[minkydog]

....wow, why are some of you reading more into this than the actual story and message I was trying to put forth? I wasn't trying to belittle or degrade that person. Quite the contrary - I was trying to portray her as someone who, for no other reason other than me spotting her dropped money, performed an act of kindness. I never suggested that she was unkempt, slovenly, smelly, poorly dressed, loud, are anything else of the kind. The fact of the matter is, she was large in stature. Furthermore, she seemed proportionate to her height, which I imagine to be, at least 6'3" or 6'4"[I'm guessing that height because I am 5'6" and my head barely reached her shoulder]. And, the ONLY reason I bothered to mention it was that it surprised me that I saw the fallen money, because she also wore an oversized, very long (past her knees) coat. The woman herself admitted that she wouldn't have seen it and she might have even stepped on the money had she not picket it up....I'm wondering: would any of you feel so strongly had the person in front of me been a MAN?

Well, I guess it would have helped if you had described.her large, oversize coat, rather.than her looks, wouldn't it?

 

[kimmar067]

....would it have made a difference if I had stated 'a woman in an oversized coat' vs. 'a large woman in an oversized coat'? I don't know what else you'd like me to say - she wasn't a small woman in an oversized coat, so I couldn't have written that......and, for the record, I didn't describe her looks. That would have included hair color and style, eye color, glasses (or no glasses), jeans or trousers, striking, ugly, pretty,makeup, no makeup, boots, sneakers, etc......

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Just a suggestion,

Instead of derailing this thread about doing something good for others, why not start a different thread to discuss why do humans find it important to describe a person when relating an event, or why do humans leave out some details when describing a person? Like I said, just a thought.

 

[Shutterbug]

Just a suggestion,

Instead of derailing this thread about doing something good for others, why not start a different thread to discuss why do humans find it important to describe a person when relating an event, or why do humans leave out some details when describing a person? Like I said, just a thought.

likes this!

 

[Mickeynutty]

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....yesterday, when I was standing in line behind a woman. I noticed that a ten-dollar bill dropped by her foot. I tapped her and said, "I think you just dropped your money." She thanked me and said that she probably never even would have noticed...well, no problem - we moved up in line and she ordered [whatever]. A minute or so later, it was my turn (there are two registers) so I ordered a medium iced coffee. As I was retrieving my money from my pocketbook, I noticed an arm going across 'my' register....that woman in front of me had paid for my coffee!

Has anything like this ever happened to you? Please share your stories....

Just wanted to say how much I enjoy your posts,kimmar. Don't let the snarky comments get to you!

 

[shortbun]

When my Dad was healthy, he'd walk over to the local diner for breakfast every morning. He liked it for social fun, talked to people and got a little exersize. If I was in town, I'd go with him. One of his buddies always paid for someone's breakfast-some random person. They'd sit at the counter and he and the waitress would decide who's breakfast needed to be paid for. It was fun and made me know the world was right.

 

[RachelTori]

Just a suggestion,

Instead of derailing this thread about doing something good for others, why not start a different thread to discuss why do humans find it important to describe a person when relating an event, or why do humans leave out some details when describing a person? Like I said, just a thought.

Exactly!


.......and Kimmar, kudos to you and the woman -- both of you are examples of what this world needs more of!

Hugs, sweetie

 

[Aliceacc]

I'll never understand the need to read something into someone's words for the sole purporse of tearing someone down.

Anyway, back to the point. Every Christmas Eve, my husband goes to our local 7-11 and hands the cashier $20, to buy a cup of coffee for the first 10 people who want one. One year, shortly after Christmas, the cashier handed my husband a lottery ticket. It seems that one of the recipients was so thankful, he wanted to reciprocate.

 

[Zerosinthecloset]

I've never understood how this works. How can I pay for my coffee and at the say time pay for the person behind me when they haven't even ordered yet. Do I just leave $5.00 and hope it covers it? How do you know what the cost of the next order will be?

In my case, we were standing at two different cashiers. I just told the other cashier I would take care of the other lady's purchase.

 

[BunsenH]

I took my kids to McDonald a while back for happy meals and to play in their play area. Their credit/debit machines were not working for whatever reason, and I had absolutely no cash on me only debit/credit cards.

A man probably in his 40's watched as I had to tell my kids that we had to leave because I didn't have any cash and came up to me and handed me $10 to cover the two happy meals that I planned on ordering. I refused at first but he insisted and said he does things like this randomly for people.

I haven't found the "right" moment to repay my good deed, but I will someday to an unsuspecting person.

Was it necessary to mention that the man was in his 40's? And watching you? I am in my 50's and your implication that 40 year olds are more generous than me is offensive. And the watching....Please!

 

[Aliceacc]

Was it necessary to mention that the man was in his 40's? And watching you? I am in my 50's and your implication that 40 year olds are more generous than me is offensive. And the watching....Please!

 

[chiefmickeymouse]

....and back to the original topic, I have a story:

When our family returned from overseas (Air Force) our car was shipped to California and we drove from Phoenix to pick it up. The place we had to pick it up was in Watts, which is kind of a scary place. We picked up the car and drove about three blocks to a gas station. After we filled up, the car wouldn't start. This was a scary neighborhood, a busy gas station and people were getting impatient because we were blocking the gas pumps.

I'm in the car with DS5 and DD2 when this absolutely HUGE guy (body description necessary for the story, sorry) comes walking over to DH. Just to let you know, DH is 6'6 and fairly imposing, but this guy made him look small. I am getting a little worried.

Mr. Huge Scary Guy then proceeded to help DH push the car away from the pumps, jump start the car and then refused the $20 DH offered him for the help. I felt ashamed that I had jumped to conclusions about Mr. Huge and Scary, the neighborhood, etc. Every time I start feeling down on Humanity, I think of Mr. Huge and Scary.

 

[klmall]

I had the opposite kind of experience in December 11 at the Poly Laundry room.

I was waiting for washers and noticed several machines that were done but sat untended. I asked everyone if they knew whose clothes they were and no one did.

After 15 minutes I emptied the two washers and loaded my clothes. As I piled the clothes neatly on the table, two $20 bills fell out of the wet clothes.

I carefully buried the money in the clothing so someone else wouldn't walk off with it.

Finally the owner came in and without even looking in the washers she quickly grabbed her laundry from the table. I caught her eye and mentioned that there were $20 bills in her wet clothes.

She looked at me for a moment and then walked out; not even a thank you or mention of protecting her money. She didn't put them in the dryers; just walked out of the building.

Another woman sitting and watching tv with me said "You could have kept that money and she never would have known." Her lack of expected response won't keep me from being honest in the future but I was a little taken aback.

Maybe she was embarrassed or something but I still think it was rude of her.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

We used to do a twisted version of this years ago in our teens. We'd be driving down the shore, 2 or 3 car loads of friends, and the person in the lead would pay for the toll for those behind. So each toll booth they would waive you through. Well occasionally, the lead person would do this a few times and then stop and the people behind would blow right through the toll booth only to be pulled over by the troopers a little while later for fare evasion.

Yep, I know the bruising comments are coming about wasted resources...but we were kids and it was funny back then.

 

[MIGrandma]

I'll never understand the need to read something into someone's words for the sole purporse of tearing someone down.

Happens here all the time. And quite often by the same people over and over. Sad.

DH and I had dinner at a local restaurant a few months ago and the waitress paid our bill. We were so surprised! We left her a good tip though.

Then, a few days later, we "paid it forward" at another restaurant. The man behind us was elderly, wearing a jacket with military patches, etc. on it and DH decided to pay his bill. He just asked his waitress (who was also waiting on us) to give him the bill. So the man never knew who actually paid it.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

I did something like this a while ago. DD was getting her hair done for her 16th and we were running late. An elderly woman had the next appointment and because we were late, we backed up her appointment. The stylist explained that she was running late and the woman was very understanding. We chatted while DD had her hair done and I apologized profusely. The woman was quite forgiving and explained that since she was retired (why I mentioned she was elderly) and had no family in the area, she was in no rush and was happy to wait. So when DD's hair was done and the woman went back to get her hair washed, I paid for her haircut. I was so stressed out about running late, and so grateful for her patience, I wanted her to realize how her understanding and kindness had touched me.

 

[TagsMissy]

We get this a lot, most often when my husband is in uniform. Not just a drink but a whole meal etc at restaurants. It's always appreciated.

 

[Carole]

Many years ago we had a house fire. A co-worker gave me $50.00 to help. I knew it was alot of money for him. All he asked was that I do it for someone else someday. I have repeated the favor many times always telling my story about the kind co-worker.

 

[kimmar067]

...great stories!