Yes still talking about same situation. Child is living under grandmas roof with dad. Dad is getting divorce #3 as we speak. Child is not giving grandma or dad any $ towards mortgage.
why should they child have to pay his grandma/dad mortgage?
Yes still talking about same situation. Child is living under grandmas roof with dad. Dad is getting divorce #3 as we speak. Child is not giving grandma or dad any $ towards mortgage.
Yes still talking about same situation. Child is living under grandmas roof with dad. Dad is getting divorce #3 as we speak. Child is not giving grandma or dad any $ towards mortgage.
"In New York State, a child is entitled to be supported by his or her parents until the age of 21. However, if the child is under 21 years of age, and is married, or self-supporting, or in the military, the child is considered to be "emancipated" and the parents' support obligation ends.
A child may also be considered "emancipated" if he or she is between 17 and 21, leaves the parents' home and refuses to obey the parents' reasonable commands."
You are absolutely right and I don't disagree. I was just looking for conversation I guess. I am beyond frustration with whole situation and just want what's fair and I am tired of watching my ex manipulate everyone and every situation to always come out smelling like a rose and getting everything for nothing. I know it's my problem. I chose to have a child with him. A beautiful child I might add who I love more than life itself. While paying ridiculous support I still provide for my son because he won't. Long story as to why son chose to move away three years ago and go live with dad and I wasn't in a position considering his age to stop him. Child will not stand up to dad or say anything to cause waves. Likes the area he lives in and I have to admit it is a great place with many opportunities. Coming "home" would limit him and his options tremendously.
You are absolutely right and I don't disagree. I was just looking for conversation I guess. I am beyond frustration with whole situation and just want what's fair and I am tired of watching my ex manipulate everyone and every situation to always come out smelling like a rose and getting everything for nothing. I know it's my problem. I chose to have a child with him. A beautiful child I might add who I love more than life itself. While paying ridiculous support I still provide for my son because he won't. Long story as to why son chose to move away three years ago and go live with dad and I wasn't in a position considering his age to stop him. Child will not stand up to dad or say anything to cause waves. Likes the area he lives in and I have to admit it is a great place with many opportunities. Coming "home" would limit him and his options tremendously.
I may be wrong, but I think you stereotyped. This sounds like Mom's egg=mom's son=mom has to follow the law. I think the OP mentioned dad lives with parents and child lives in same house.
No court is going to rule that child support $ should go toward grandma's mortgage.
Why shouldn't some of the child support be put towards the housing and utility costs for the child?
why should they child have to pay his grandma/dad mortgage?
If you're the noncustodial parent, and don't have the day-to-day responsibility of caring for the child, you have no say over how the money is spent.
If you're the noncustodial parent, and don't have the day-to-day responsibility of caring for the child, you have no say over how the money is spent.
I agree completely. I thought that some were saying that child support shouldn't be used by the custodial parent to pay a mortgage and that didn't make sense to me.
To be clear, I meant that the court would not order the child support $ to go toward paying grandma's (not dad's) mortgage.
So does that mean that the child must be allowed to live at the grandparents' house for free? Is it unreasonable for the grandparents to expect rent for him to live there (either from the father if he's receiving the support, or from the child if it's going directly to him)?