I had to severly learn that my grandkids did not need 30 presents from me.
I had to learn this, too! I remember our first grandchild having to take a nap in between opening Christmas presents. The same thing happened on his birthday! We have since cut back on the gift giving (but not the spoiling!)
I have always loved Christmas and I don't see that changing. Maybe I've been extremely lucky and fortunate, but I've never associated Christmas with a lot of stress. Sure, there have been times throughout the years when the holidays have been overwhelming, but it's never been so stressful that I dislike Christmas. Growing up, our house was always the place where everyone gathered for the holidays. We always hosted the annual family Christmas party, and Christmas Day we always had a big, holiday meal for the grandparents and anyone else who happened to stop by. I have nothing but fond, warm memories of Christmas.
Now, however, my husband and I are older (aren't we all!) and our kids are grown. We are now the grandparents! We have lost both sets of parents over the years, and they are very much missed, especially over the holidays. To me, that's the worst part of Christmas, not having all of our loved ones still with us. However, we keep their spirits alive by remembering all the good times we had over the years and retelling stories about past Christmases when they were very much with us.
I've always loved decorating for the holidays, so I have not cut back on that. I love arts and crafts, so I continue to make gingerbread houses, homemade ornaments, and bake and decorate cookies and cupcakes. I now do this with the grandkids, just like I did with my own kids when they were little.
A good way to eliminate stress is to focus on the things that are important to you during the holidays. Try to do those things that you want to do and that you enjoy doing. I don't enjoy cooking and baking, so I don't do a lot of it. There are grocery stores that put together wonderful party platters for you!
I think traditions are important to uphold over the holidays. For years, we got our trees from the same tree farm. The farm where we also bought our wreaths and enjoyed the most delicious gingerbread men I've ever tasted. Christmas Eve, our kids exchanged their gifts to each other. Christmas morning was always stockings first, a big breakfast, then gift opening. Attending a local performance of the Nutcracker was also a tradition. Okay, my husband could have done without that tradition, but he was a good sport about it.
And, if you really want to get into the holiday spirit, I suggest spending some time with a four year old this Christmas.
Our grandson turned four in August and this is the first Christmas were he "gets" it. He is totally in love with everything having to do with Christmas, and so totally believes in all the magic of the season! He loves the lights, the decorations, the trees, the music, the holiday shows and holiday books. Seeing it all through the eyes of a four year old is magical in itself! I just love his enthusiasm and wonder of it all.
Even though our grandson understands (as much as a four year old can) the religious aspect of the season, his focus is mostly on what Santa is going to bring him Christmas morning.
He's always seeing something he wants, either in a store, on tv, or in a sale flyer. The other day, I jokingly said to him: "Gee, you want EVERYTHING for Christmas!" His answer: "No Gramma, not EVERYTHING! If it's not a toy, then I don't want it."
And, last week, we went to see a local light display that I was very excited about. Well, my first impression was that it wasn't as great as I had thought it would be and I was a bit underwhelmed. However, our grandson took one look at it and was awed by it. He thought it was "the most beautiful place I've ever seen!" So, seeing it through the eyes of a four year old, I had to change my opinion!
My hope is that everyone finds some way to slow down, relax and enjoy the holidays. Spend time doing what is important to you and find time to really focus on your loved ones. Find time to reflect on the past. Find time to help someone in need. And, most of all, find time to laugh and live in the moment!