Nancyg56
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- Aug 17, 2005
I talked to him last night. He sounds good, but just really down. I don't think he is DEPRESSED but I feel like he is down and does not really have the heart right now.
He keeps saying all the right thins, but I think he is just saying them.
Brandi- I am so sorry that your Dad is going through this and that you cannot do everything that you want to do to help him. I know you want to be there for him but I would like to offer another perspective to think about.
People grieve differently for every loss that they experience. I am trying to put myself in your Dad's position and I figure we must be about the same age or so. Your Uncle was sick for a long time and the bond that your Dad had with him was a strong one. I imagine that your Dad was very conflicted about what he wanted for him and if he was anything like me he stopped knowing what to pray for. How do you ask Gad to take someone who is part of you? How do you ask God to spare him knowing that means more pain?
Your Dad may really be telling you that he is fine while he works this out for himself. He knows you are there and that you care and if you just keep keeping in touch that may be the best thing for a bit. I think that as much as I love my children and as much as I rely on them for companionship and for support in many things if I lost my brother or sister I might need to be my old sad self by myself for a bit.
Please trust him and your own instincts. You will know if you need to go to him because he will let you know just in what he says. If he is not depressed then I would trust what he is telling you.