Boy suspended for wearing his hair too long

[cheermom1]

Some of you believe that the Mom is doing this to get attention. Attention is exactly what should be brought to this ridiculous rule. I asked many posts ago why it is OK for a girl but not a boy. Hasnt been answered yet. Very close minded. A little diversity goes a long way. Maybe he should be made to ride the back of the bus too, sound familiar.

I asked the same question as well..guess we will never know the answer huh?

 

[Briarmom]

Some of you believe that the Mom is doing this to get attention. Attention is exactly what should be brought to this ridiculous rule. I asked many posts ago why it is OK for a girl but not a boy. Hasnt been answered yet. Very close minded. A little diversity goes a long way. Maybe he should be made to ride the back of the bus too, sound familiar.

It's just hair. I mean, come on. The Beatles had really long hair, and they were allowed in public.

 

[MichelleVW]

I asked the same question as well..guess we will never know the answer huh?

Because it's more acceptable for girls to have long hair...that's the answer.

 

[hentob]

Long hair on men is not permitted where I work. In fact, it has not been permitted in any job I have ever had. .

What do you do Again, there are many high level professional jobs that allow men to have neat and tidy long hair. I don't see a problem. I have seen women with gross, dirty, straggly long hair I think the key is clean and tidy.

 

[Bluestars]

If people think boys should be able to wear long hair to school, then they should work on changing the rules. I have nothing against long hair on boys. I just think people should do things without breaking the rules. Get the rule overturned, or whatever they need to do. If enough people have a problem with it, it seems like they could get it changed.

I have a feeling that people who like long hair on boys might be in the minority, but I could be wrong. Someone could do a poll.

But to make a statement by intentionally breaking a rule and to use your 4 yr old child to do it is so wrong. That poor little boy.

 

[Bluestars]

What do you do Again, there are many high level professional jobs that allow men to have neat and tidy long hair. I don't see a problem. I have seen women with gross, dirty, straggly long hair I think the key is clean and tidy.

I agree. I just disagree on the way the mother is going about it. She is using her child to force a change. That's wrong.

ETA - I work in an office, which is probably why we have strict rules.

 

[hentob]

Because it's more acceptable for girls to have long hair...that's the answer.

Weak.

Again, 2010 people. Many things have been deemed "acceptable" in the past and I cringe to think what the world would be like right now if everyone would have just said "Oh well. It's a rule. We better follow it blindly. Afterall, it is a rule"

 

[christineann]

Our public schools is South Carolina are ranked consistently at or near the bottom of the country, and the problems are more complicated than the allowance or prohibition of long hair on boys. We have teachers getting verbally abused, threatened and even beaten up by kids who come to school with the attitude that they don't have to comply with rules or guidelines if they don't feel like it.

Parents who don't like the rules at a school have other options. I agree with the poster who suggested that the mother take her child out of school and work within the system to change it. I guess that wouldn't get nearly enough press, though.

 

[cheermom1]

Because it's more acceptable for girls to have long hair...that's the answer.

But why?? I don't see the point...I mean this is such a stupid issue ..my dh has grown his hair out so many times for locks of love and my stepsons all have long hair b/c they want it ... it is just hair it will always he changing ..I would rather my kids express themselves through hair and things like that than to be arrested for expressing themselves through graffiti....this just seems to a battle that doesn't need to be battled ....everyone has their opinion and should be able to have their hair the way they want. we live in a free country right?

 

[Luv Bunnies]

Many people seem to be in agreement that there's nothing wrong with long hair on a boy. I also happen to argee. But that's not the point here.

The point of this story is that the rule is already in place and this mother is choosing to fight it. Fighting to change a rule that you don't agree with is fine. However, it's not fine to do it at the expense of a little boy's education and, in the process, parade him in front of cameras. He's being suspended and made to sit in a room away from his class. This is a choice his mother is making by refusing to cut his hair and, thus, causing him to break the rule.

If she doesn't like the rule, she could start a petition and take it to a school board meeting. She could do some research and poll similar schools on their policy about long hair on boys. Then she would have data to back up her claim that the rule should be abolished. There are ways to go about inciting a rule change. Causing your little boy to suffer, to me , is not acceptable.

 

[MichelleVW]

Weak.

Again, 2010 people. Many things have been deemed "acceptable" in the past and I cringe to think what the world would be like right now if everyone would have just said "Oh well. It's a rule. We better follow it blindly. Afterall, it is a rule"

I didn't say it wasn't weak...but you asked for the answer and that IS the answer.

Many people seem to be in agreement that there's nothing wrong with long hair on a boy. I also happen to argee. But that's not the point here.

The point of this story is that the rule is already in place and this mother is choosing to fight it. Fighting to change a rule that you don't agree with is fine. However, it's not fine to do it at the expense of a little boy's education and, in the process, parade him in front of cameras. He's being suspended and made to sit in a room away from his class. This is a choice his mother is making by refusing to cut his hair and, thus, causing him to break the rule.

If she doesn't like the rule, she could start a petition and take it to a school board meeting. She could do some research and poll similar schools on their policy about long hair on boys. Then she would have data to back up her claim that the rule should be abolished. There are ways to go about inciting a rule change. Causing your little boy to suffer, to me , is not acceptable.

Totally agree with everything you said.

 

[cheermom1]

Many people seem to be in agreement that there's nothing wrong with long hair on a boy. I also happen to argee. But that's not the point here.

The point of this story is that the rule is already in place and this mother is choosing to fight it. Fighting to change a rule that you don't agree with is fine. However, it's not fine to do it at the expense of a little boy's education and, in the process, parade him in front of cameras. He's being suspended and made to sit in a room away from his class. This is a choice his mother is making by refusing to cut his hair and, thus, causing him to break the rule.

If she doesn't like the rule, she could start a petition and take it to a school board meeting. She could do some research and poll similar schools on their policy about long hair on boys. Then she would have data to back up her claim that the rule should be abolished. There are ways to go about inciting a rule change. Causing your little boy to suffer, to me , is not acceptable.

I agree I would do things differently however you saying that she is causing her son to suffer is your opinion...she obviously doesn't see it that way...and we all parent differently and live life differently...maybe they way they live their life it is not wrong and they maybe seeing this as her way of fighting this rule that she finds unacceptable...

btw I am not talking about abuse as to me this does not fall under that category ...

 

[Bluestars]

So having the little boy sitting in a room by himself is not punishment? I'm sure that little boy would much rather be sitting with the rest of the class than to be used as leverage in a battle.

The mother is not thinking about what is best for her child. She is thinking that she only has to obey the rules she agrees with. Life doesn't work that way.

 

[JessicaR]

So having the little boy sitting in a room by himself is not punishment? I'm sure that little boy would much rather be sitting with the rest of the class than to be used as leverage in a battle.

The mother is not thinking about what is best for her child. She is thinking that she only has to obey the rules she agrees with. Life doesn't work that way.

Kinda like home schooling.

 

[Bluestars]

I don't think homeschooling is punishment. Several of my family member successfully homeschool their kids. They like the freedom of choosing the curriculum and being able to take trips when they want to, among many other things. I think it's a good option for people who don't like to follow rules too, although this was not the case with my family.

 

[JessicaR]

I don't think homeschooling is punishment. Several of my family member successfully homeschool their kids. They like the freedom of choosing the curriculum and being able to take trips when they want to, among many other things. I think it's a good option for people who don't like to follow rules too, although this was not the case with my family.

Exactly, thats my point.

 

[Bluestars]

Sorry Jessica, I guess I am tired and missed your point. That's what happens when I stay up too late.

 

[JessicaR]

Sorry Jessica, I guess I am tired and missed your point. That's what happens when I stay up too late.

Me too! 6:00A comes way too early lately!

 

[Bluestars]

Isn't that the truth! That's what time I have to get up too. But here I sit, not making any sense.

 

[FireDancer]

Many people seem to be in agreement that there's nothing wrong with long hair on a boy. I also happen to argee. But that's not the point here.

The point of this story is that the rule is already in place and this mother is choosing to fight it. Fighting to change a rule that you don't agree with is fine. However, it's not fine to do it at the expense of a little boy's education and, in the process, parade him in front of cameras. He's being suspended and made to sit in a room away from his class. This is a choice his mother is making by refusing to cut his hair and, thus, causing him to break the rule.

If she doesn't like the rule, she could start a petition and take it to a school board meeting. She could do some research and poll similar schools on their policy about long hair on boys. Then she would have data to back up her claim that the rule should be abolished. There are ways to go about inciting a rule change. Causing your little boy to suffer, to me , is not acceptable.

I think the rule is idiotic and really accomplishing nothing but as I said in my original post, it just isn't a big enough issue for me to fight. Seeing as he has 14 more years of education I'll save my time and effort for something that is worth fighting for. This would be a good lesson for the child in picking battles. There are plenty things that schools do that I don't agree with and I don't want to waste my effort on something so trivial.

My employer has some rules that I am not a fan of and while I think they are kind of counter productive I challenge the ones I think are important (with rational conversation mind you, not by ignoring them) and live with the ones that I don't.

If this is a big deal for the mother then of course she should challenge the rule, but not by breaking it. The boy should have his hair cut because all that is happening now is the poor kid is a pawn and the one who is being punished. If the fight against the rule is successful the hair can be grown back out. If it is unsuccessful at least she fought the good fight.