This is how my family does it (A mix of planing and being spontaneous is our way of doing it)
1. we look at the menus on allears.net and since we have the dining plan, we choose what table service restaraunts we'd like to go to.
then we look at the Extra magic hours for the parks for the time we will be in Disney. (We stay on site so we get to participate in the extra magic hours. My wife and much prefer the PM Extra magic hours and prefer not to go to the AM magic hours at all.)
We then see if any of our restaurant choices are in any parks and put that restaurant on the PM EMH day for that park. (We do this if we can because we think the less time we spend "traveling" between parks, the better since "traveling" stresses us both out).
Once our "park restaurants" match up with our evening EMH hours we see what other locations are chosen retaurants are in and try and put those restaraunts on the days that we will be at the nearest park for traveling to that location. (I.E) Boma is in the Animal Kingdom Lodge which is closest to the animal kingdom, so if we aren't eating in the Animal kingdom park that day, we will put our Boma dinner reservation on this day for the shortest amount of travel.
We then look in each park and choose our top 3-5 must do's for each park. since there's only the 2 of us, we have the ability to make sure we each get at least a few of our "top must do's" in. The rest of that park day is devoted to "whatever we feel like doing!" We also don't neccesarily do our "must do"s first thing. We do them as we come across them in the parks. So are "plan" is in between all the "go with the flow" .
A lot of time are top choices actually match so that works out well too! But we've been before so we know already what to expect when we pick our top choices. You have the element of still getting to experience it for the first time! (So exiting!!!)
I also take note of one last thing: parades, shows, and fire works times and locations.
I write/type all this into a word processing document. I start by listing the day of the week and the date. Under the appropriate day I:
Then I list what park we want to go to on each day and note if it's an AM or a PM EMH.
Then I list our food reservations and the confirmation numbers
then I list the shows/parades/fireworks times for that day
on a 2nd piece of paper i type in the names of the 4 parks and under each appropriate park I list our "must do's"
finally my third sheet of paper lists how to best transport ourselves between the parks and to and from our dining "ressies" I do this by using the travel wizard at the laughing place.com
One last note. Since my wife and I go for a week we ALWAYS plan a "whatever" day in the middle of the trip. Nothing at all is planned for this day except our meal reservations. We use this day to go back to a park and do things we feel like we didnt' get a chance to do, explore our resort, go resort hopping, swim at the pool, sleep in all day, or do literally whatever we want for as long as we want. We dont' take a break during the middle of the day and take naps so this day is really important to us. Also, you can use this day to swap out any other day if you have an emergency or bad weather. (I ended up in the ER on one of our "park days" and felt like poo so we used it as our "hang out" day and went to the intended park on our original hang out day!
Finally, even though we take this 3 page document with us the whole trip. We only use it as a reference and then only if we feel like it!. It's just a guide, suggestions for ourselves. We're both totally willing to trash the whole thing if we find we're doing just fine without it and are having a blast. It's a "just in case" . I just enjoy the planning so I don't mind if all my "planning" goes "to waste". For me , planning is fun.
No matter what y'all decide. Plan , no plan or semi plan. Have a great first time!!!!