I'm hoping to have an update tonight but I'm not sure. Some things have happened and I'm trying to tend to all of that over the weekend and get ready for school on Wednesday. (we have a mardi gras break on mon & tues)
I am having major problems with DS's teacher. On Wednesday she screamed at me in front of all the kids plus other teachers in the cafeteria. This is not the first time she's done this. Actually it is the 3rd. I have complained on her before about this but obviously nothing is being done. She minds her "p's" and "q's" for about a week, doesn't talk to me much, and then she starts letting me back in to help again after a couple of weeks. Each time I think..."ok it's over, let's move on, everything is good".
This is also the principal's last year as she is retiring. So...i'm sure you can figure out that she is not wanting to make big waves on her way out. I don't understand why this keeps happening especially since I am up there helping/volunteering pretty much every single day. I've worked with the class helping out the teacher too many times to count. I've helped the other pre-k teachers and i'm involved in other school activities.
This time she yelled at me because I told her I was concerned that DS was getting hit or kicked at least 3-4 times a month. She set up a class policy in the beginning that if someone hits, pushes, or kicks you that you are not to do it back but to tell a teacher. We talked to DS about this and he has been doing it the way she wants. The problem is that many of the other kids are not. They have figured out that DS will not hit back and only go tell. I told her I was concerned that he was turning into their punching bag. She then totally flipped her lid on me and started screaming about how from now on EVERYONE involved in ANYTHING is going to "yellow". (they have a calendar that is sent home every day with a stamp on it....green=good day, yellow=something happened that needs your attention, red= conference needed)
I tried to explain to her that that was not what I meant and if DS does something then by all means give him a yellow face. But that i was concerned that not everyone who has been hitting is getting the yellow. She starts screaming at me again and saying that everyone will go to yellow from now on....meaning if my son gets hit, he will also go to yellow because he is "involved". (yes, I am aware this makes NO SENSE) She also starts yelling at me saying that "you are always trying to get to the bottom of something!!!" WHOA!!!....ok, this is where I know I am dealing with a "crazy". I scooped up ds and left the cafeteria. My face said I was extremely mad, and DS was crying because he was scared of the teacher screaming at his mommy. The other kids were terrified. The other teachers were staring at me while I walked out. Now when I go to school the other teachers who usually love me, won't make eye contact with me.....including the kindergarten teachers. I am upset that she has gone and "justified" herself to all the teachers and that it is going to cause a problem for DS and myself next year. I have worked so hard to help out and to develop a good relationship with all of these teachers & aides. Now I feel that it is all being taken away.
I'm sorry for ranting about this here. I just really needed to get it out. It's got me down right now because like I said before.....I'm always there to help out and somehow anytime I express a concern to her she takes it as I'm "questioning her authority" or at least that's the vibe I'm getting from all the yelling.
When I complained to the principal on Thursday I just got a bunch of mumbo-jumbo again. She even went as far to say that maybe I should not come up to the school anymore. WHAT?????
I politely told her that she is not going to keep me from enjoying DS's pre-k experience, especially since I have done nothing wrong and also because these things are open to ALL parents and also because I am paying $450 a month for my kid to go to school there. I am quickly learning that private school is NOTHING like public school. This teacher would no longer be employed at a public school. Yet she is getting nothing done to her here and I am being told that maybe I shouldn't go to the school anymore??? AM I IN THE TWILIGHT ZONE????
I'm trying desperately to fix this situation. There is only 3 months left of school. Then we will be out of her class AND there will be a new principal. We don't want to switch schools. We looked long and hard at all the schools in our area and toured them twice. This is our pick and I'm confident that he will come out of it in the end with a good education. I'm not sure what else to do really. I have an appointment with an attorney on monday. mostly just to point me in the right direction and help me get organized. I'm not planning on suing the school or any nonsense like that. My plan on Wednesday is to talk to the principal again and ask for a conference with her and the teacher simply so that I can tell the teacher the one thing that I keep wanting/needing to say to her every time this happens but I end up walking away first just to make her stop yelling. I want to tell her that I understand the stress that she is under probably better than anyone else because I'm up there helping all the time. I want to tell her that when I talk to her about my son, I am not "questioning her authority" but that i see something that's not quite right and I'm asking for help with the situation.
To all the mom's out there.....anyone who has experience with anything even close to similar to this. What are your thoughts? Do you think the conference is the right thing to do or do you think that I've complained enough and nothing has been done and now it's time to take it to the top office with my complaints?
Again, sorry for this but thanks for any light you can shed on the situation as I am new to all of this.
I promise to have an update to my TR up either tonight or tomorrow.
On the 3rd I finally just said my piece! 
He was driving me crazy.).
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