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DisneyGirl1994
12-18-2005, 02:40 PM
ok i really and i mean really like this guy. he is so cute and the best thing is i have his phone number! but bad news is we are really good freinds and i don't think he likes me more than a friend. should i try to ask him out or should i just stay friends with him. this question keeps on ringing in my head. so this is why i am asking you guys... please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

xxDisneyDancerxx
12-18-2005, 03:15 PM
Well dont ask him out because i have many guy friends and they tell me that a girl asking a guy out is weird. and if he likes you more then a friend then he'll ask you out. also if you want try asking him who he likes or something and if he asks you back just say.." I like you a little bit"


I hae the same problem but now the guy i like likes my best friend so....it really stinks...but just try that and it might help :)


-Jessie princess:

2HOT2touch
12-18-2005, 03:55 PM
from my experience with guys, they actually like it when the girl makes the first move... It shows them that the girl can take charge and she is sure about herself. I think you should try and find out if he likes you, if you find that he doesnt like you then you can try and flirt with him or hang out with him more and he will probably grow a little crush on you. but if you are afraid it will ruin your friendship then don't do anything, this could just be a crush and you don't want to ruin a great friendship over something little that you can get over very quickly and easily.

Princess Ash
12-18-2005, 04:56 PM
I have strained and ruined my best friendship by trying to make it more than friends...

It hurts.....
A
LOT
When he
BREAKS
UR
HEART

But then again, maybe your guy will be different. I wouldn't take back the time we had for anything, but I was so hurt...that...yah... :guilty:

MuNkY
12-18-2005, 07:07 PM
from my experience with guys, they actually like it when the girl makes the first move... It shows them that the girl can take charge and she is sure about herself. I think you should try and find out if he likes you, if you find that he doesnt like you then you can try and flirt with him or hang out with him more and he will probably grow a little crush on you. but if you are afraid it will ruin your friendship then don't do anything, this could just be a crush and you don't want to ruin a great friendship over something little that you can get over very quickly and easily.
Yeah. I can't tell you how many guys I've talked to have questioned why guys have to be the first ones to make moves.

But I would still advice that you don't ask him. Like other people have said, it could ruin the friendship you two already have.

Daisymae26
12-18-2005, 09:18 PM
I have strained and ruined my best friendship by trying to make it more than friends...

It hurts.....
A
LOT
When he
BREAKS
UR
HEART

But then again, maybe your guy will be different. I wouldn't take back the time we had for anything, but I was so hurt...that...yah... :guilty:

oh ash, i'm so sorry! :grouphug:

DollfieDreams
12-18-2005, 11:53 PM
and always remember. you are youre best judge. life is always about taking chances. and if you hold back your feelings from something that might be something good, it'll only break your heart in the end. you cant have a rainbow without a little rain, darling. theres a time and a place for everything and if youre meant to tell him, you'll know when that time is. take advice, but listen to your heart first. close your eyes and leap, because if you fall down, the only place left to go is up. :goodvibes good luck sweetie. and dont worry, i know a number of us on here feel the same way.

Uuaww
12-19-2005, 12:52 AM
Alright first off, making the first move is great, don't be turned away by that. Next, life is all about taking chances you should never turn one away. Finally, there's a difference between guys and girls, with this scenario. Girls remember this kind of stuff for the future and the friendship might be awkward from the girls point of view when a guy asks her out and she says no. Now from the guy's point of view, it doesn't matter anywhere near as much. See guys forget easily, I mean we invented instant replay in sports because we forgot stuff we just saw.

MuNkY
12-19-2005, 08:21 AM
Alright first off, making the first move is great, don't be turned away by that. Next, life is all about taking chances you should never turn one away. Finally, there's a difference between guys and girls, with this scenario. Girls remember this kind of stuff for the future and the friendship might be awkward from the girls point of view when a guy asks her out and she says no. Now from the guy's point of view, it doesn't matter anywhere near as much. See guys forget easily, I mean we invented instant replay in sports because we forgot stuff we just saw.
No offence but that's kind of stupid. Yeah life is all about taking chances, but you shouldn't take every one you see. There is a chance that if I jump off a bridge onto a moving freeway, I'm going to live, but your not going to see me doing that anytime soon. Also your stereotyping guys as dumb oafs who forget everything. If I was good friends with a girl, and I asked her out, and she said no, it would be kind of wierd talking to her again.

BTW, a little bit of advice girls. You should never NEVER turn down a guy. No matter how apauling he might be, take your free dinner or movie or whatever and deny a second date if it was that bad. Otherwise your just coming off as a prick.

DollfieDreams
12-19-2005, 11:50 AM
BTW, a little bit of advice girls. You should never NEVER turn down a guy. No matter how apauling he might be, take your free dinner or movie or whatever and deny a second date if it was that bad. Otherwise your just coming off as a prick.

not all guys are nice though...really. some of them just want to take a girl out just to do something we're not allowed to talk about. (x_x) i fully agree that you shouldnt just turn down someone because of the way they look or dress or whatever, but personality can mean a really big thing. and if you know from other people that theyre that type of person well....

MuNkY
12-19-2005, 05:45 PM
not all guys are nice though...really. some of them just want to take a girl out just to do something we're not allowed to talk about. (x_x) i fully agree that you shouldnt just turn down someone because of the way they look or dress or whatever, but personality can mean a really big thing. and if you know from other people that theyre that type of person well....
Say no if they try to. It's honestly not that hard. If they still come on to you, you can press charges. :confused3

DollfieDreams
12-19-2005, 06:07 PM
Say no if they try to. It's honestly not that hard. If they still come on to you, you can press charges. :confused3

but remember...not all guys have the same levels of maturity, good consciences, and an all around good heart. some guys just wouldnt understand a "no" if you explained it to them. same thing goes for girls. not everyone is nice and has a good head on their shoulders like you. thats all..

MuNkY
12-19-2005, 07:02 PM
but remember...not all guys have the same levels of maturity, good consciences, and an all around good heart. some guys just wouldnt understand a "no" if you explained it to them. same thing goes for girls. not everyone is nice and has a good head on their shoulders like you. thats all..
Like I said, if they keep pressing for you to, ahem. You can press charges and sue them for quite a bit. I'm sure they would understand "no" once you take away half of their life's savings.

And also let me explain the concept a little more. If a girl says no to a guy, it's like, "what, you can't even take a few hours out of your time to get a free dinner and a free movie?" I'm just saying, it kind of makes you come off as cheap. So just swallow your pride for a good 5 hours, and if it's honestly that bad, just deny a second date. And as I've said for a third time now, if they don't get it, get a restraining order or something. And what if you have a good time? A simple date you would have normally said no to, could turn into a long relationship. I've seen it happen before.

DisneyGirl1994
12-20-2005, 08:14 AM
ok from my point of veiw i have ask out many guys before. and alot of guys said yes but the guys who said no they also said that " I would love to go out with you it is just that it is just not the rite time. " so in the future guess what!! the same guys ask me out!! wow so maybe guys do like to be asked out first by a girl? you never know not all guys are the same ever thought of that?? :confused3

DisneyGirl1994
12-20-2005, 08:18 AM
Like I said, if they keep pressing for you to, ahem. You can press charges and sue them for quite a bit. I'm sure they would understand "no" once you take away half of their life's savings.

And also let me explain the concept a little more. If a girl says no to a guy, it's like, "what, you can't even take a few hours out of your time to get a free dinner and a free movie?" I'm just saying, it kind of makes you come off as cheap. So just swallow your pride for a good 5 hours, and if it's honestly that bad, just deny a second date. And as I've said for a third time now, if they don't get it, get a restraining order or something. And what if you have a good time? A simple date you would have normally said no to, could turn into a long relationship. I've seen it happen before.



so your saying girls come off as cheap if they turn down a date wow what if i said guys are cheap if they said no to a girl asking them out and giving them a 50 dollar gift sirtificate to his fave store or his fave reasteraunt? huh? what about that?? :earboy2:

MuNkY
12-20-2005, 09:19 AM
ok from my point of veiw i have ask out many guys before. and alot of guys said yes but the guys who said no they also said that " I would love to go out with you it is just that it is just not the rite time. " so in the future guess what!! the same guys ask me out!! wow so maybe guys do like to be asked out first by a girl? you never know not all guys are the same ever thought of that??
I don't think your getting what I'm saying.

so your saying girls come off as cheap if they turn down a date wow what if i said guys are cheap if they said no to a girl asking them out and giving them a 50 dollar gift sirtificate to his fave store or his fave reasteraunt? huh? what about that??
That would mean your trying to buy your way in.:confused3

Buying your way in, and coming off cheap is two diffrent things.

DisneyGirl1994
12-20-2005, 12:25 PM
I don't think your getting what I'm saying.


That would mean your trying to buy your way in.:confused3

Buying your way in, and coming off cheap is two diffrent things.
no it just means you are being nice enough to spend your own money on him.

MuNkY
12-20-2005, 01:39 PM
no it just means you are being nice enough to spend your own money on him.
With the way you put it, it would mean to "help" his decision. Hence, your buying your way in.

DollfieDreams
12-20-2005, 03:10 PM
*sigh*...but i do think we're coming off as a little off topic..

MuNkY
12-20-2005, 06:22 PM
*sigh*...but i do think we're coming off as a little off topic..
Yeah no kidding.

DisneyGirl1994
12-21-2005, 09:01 AM
duh! ok so lets get on topic now...

DisneyGirl1994
12-21-2005, 09:08 AM
With the way you put it, it would mean to "help" his decision. Hence, your buying your way in.

no it is just being nice even if he says no you could still give it to him! why do you have to be so negitive about everything?

Princess Ash
12-21-2005, 09:32 AM
Ok...can we please get on topic here?

Have u made any decisions yet...Disneygirl1994?

DollfieDreams
12-21-2005, 01:10 PM
::yes:: lol im curious too!

AmoDolphin
12-21-2005, 03:30 PM
BTW, a little bit of advice girls. You should never NEVER turn down a guy. No matter how apauling he might be, take your free dinner or movie or whatever and deny a second date if it was that bad. Otherwise your just coming off as a prick.

So next time Hitler asks me out, I'll be sure not to turn him down.

StephaBabe50
12-21-2005, 05:07 PM
I hae the same problem but now the guy i like likes my best friend so....it really stinks...but just try that and it might help :)

-Jessie princess:


Ahh! I am that best friend!! I feel so baddddd :( :guilty: :guilty:

MuNkY
12-21-2005, 05:08 PM
So next time Hitler asks me out, I'll be sure not to turn him down.
Well that's impossible because Hitler is dead. :rolleyes:

AmoDolphin
12-21-2005, 06:23 PM
Well that's impossible because Hitler is dead. :rolleyes:

Okay, so next time Osama Bin Laddin asks me to dinner and a movie, I'll be sure to not turn him down. Better?

2HOT2touch
12-21-2005, 07:46 PM
Okay, so next time Osama Bin Laddin asks me to dinner and a movie, I'll be sure to not turn him down. Better?
haha thats funny.

ok I understand that you can tell a guy no when you don't like what he is doing, but I have been in situations where he didn't listen when I said no. And i can't exactly sue a 15 year old, I'll get like what 10 dollars? So I think if I have a good enough reason to decline a date from a boy then I should. And if girls shouldn't say no to guys then guys shouldn't say no to girls either.

MuNkY
12-21-2005, 08:08 PM
I guess what I meant more with that statement is, you shouldn't deny a guy a date because it will "hurt your reputation". I've seen that too much.

DisneyGirl1994
12-22-2005, 12:31 PM
Ok...can we please get on topic here?

Have u made any decisions yet...Disneygirl1994?

ok ok i talked to him yesterday asked him if he liked me a little bit and he said...... :guilty: yes! lol yes i am so happy!

DisneyGirl1994
12-22-2005, 12:33 PM
::yes:: lol im curious too!

lol well more girls can be curios than others but it is interesting that you guys like this thread most threads i do only get 1 or 2 post not 3 pages of post.

Princess Ash
12-22-2005, 05:56 PM
Well A)You started some controversy and B)I'm so happy for u! Still keep us updated...as teenagers I think we tend to like to listen to other ppl's "relationship" stories...

paintballer
01-16-2006, 05:09 PM
ask him out it cant hurt :flower3:

ellindea
01-16-2006, 05:40 PM
How old are you? How long have you known this guy? Don't get in too big of a rush. Just a thought :goodvibes

DisneyGirl1994
03-03-2006, 06:46 PM
ok ok sorry i have not talked on this post for a long time.





i hate him u want to know why he called my ugly! i mean he waled up to me and said sorry i can't go out wit u cause u too ugly! i was buzy crying all night! :furious: