Have you ever had someone tell you that they are worried about your health?

[disneytyme]

My dad told me last weekend that he has been really worried about my weight and told me that if I want to live to see me little sister (10 years old) grow up then I need to loose some weight. I didn't know weather I should be mad, hurt, sad, or glad that he cared. My dad and I do not have a good relationship AT ALL and I believe that is part of my emotional problem.

I know that I am an emotional eater and have been on a diet (and failed) more times than I can count. I hate to work out and always feel like I just do not have the energy to start. I love sweets and fast food. I just don't know how to get myself motivated and stick to it. I joined WISH a few months ago, started watching what I ate and even joined curves (one year contract). It went really well for about 4 weeks and then I fell and sprained my ankle. I have not been back to curves and totaly went back to my old way of eating.

I hate the way that I feel being fat much less the way that I look. I am about 5' 10 and weigh around 320 pounds (I think) size 30/32 clothing. I know that I have to change my way of thinking and get off the couch. I just have to find the will power and energy to do it. Another problem I have is my work schedule. Sometimes I don't get home until 8 or 8:30 and I have no time before that to eat dinner so I'm always eating late. This schedule also makes it hard to get to Curves. I sometimes went before work, but I hate going in to work after working out and feeling sweaty and flushed.

I'm hoping that by starting a journal here and keeping a daily memo of what I've eaten and how I'm feeling will help me to stay on track. I am 25 years old and love life. This weight is dragging my down. I have a little sister who I adore and there are alot of things she asks me to do with her and I feel like I'm to big to do these things with her. Even though I HATE to admit it I know my dad is right and I have got to make some major changes in my life.

Thanks for listening and if you have any comments they are very welcome.

[Wish I lived in Fl]

No , i haven't had anyone tell me I need to lose weight and it would tick me off if anyone did, especially someone with whom I had a strained relationship.

But ignoring that, I know i need to lose weight to be healthy and you know it for yourself.
In trying to motivate myself i think of my excess weight as so many 5 lb. bags of sugar clutched to my body. How much easier it would be to move with out them. How much easier to shop for clothes. How i want to be able to dance at my daughters wedding. How my sister died at 53 from cancer that was probably fueled by excess weight. (Her cancer was one where the major risk factors are obesity and complications there of).
I am doing weight watchers with a friend. At the meeting before last ,i gave her a $20 to hold for me and give it back if i lost weight the next week or i would forfeit it to her if i didn't. I earned my 20 back!
When i lost weight 15 years ago, before kids. I bought myself a little emerald ring at one sucess point and a little sapphire ring at another sucess point.
I am signed up for the Disney half marathon this Jan, fast walking, so that helps motivate me to do my walking exercise.
It also helps reading of the sucess of others in changing their health habits.
Good luck and i wish you well on a journey to heathier living.

[pearlieq]

Honestly, I think it's often that people, especially those we're not close with, use the "I'm worried about your health" cover to tear into you about your weight. I've never gotten a good or positive message from anyone who did that. The most loving people have accepted me for who I am, supported my efforts, and listened to me try to work through the ups and downs.

I'm in a similar situation to you, and the one piece of advice I can offer is don't try to lose weight because you think you "should". You're only going to wind up the same weight (or heavier) and miserable. When you're ready, the change will come--slowly and with difficulty, but it will happen.

Good luck to you wherever you are on your journey!