How do you get your husband to go....

[alabamagirl]

Ok. I am a newlywed and it is wonderful and all that but......he is not as ummm......disney spirited as I am. So when he tells me that he would rather not go back to Disney World until we have kids this presents a problem. I want to go a lot sooner than that (we have already decided we are going to wait 5 years to have any kids).

My question is to those of you who have husbands or wives that are not as thrilled about Disney as you. How do you get them to go or get them excited about going?

Any suggestions are appreciated.

[Simba's Mom]

Does your DH golf (he really should if you live in Alabama-DH just got back, loves the courses there)? My DH was never a big Disney fan. What works for us is that DH golfs virtually every day we're in Disney World and I hit the parks (alone, but hey, it works for us). Then we meet up at the resort or a park, and spend the evening together. We've spent many evenings wandering WS, eating dinner, watching Illuminations. Now he really looks forward to our trips to WDW. This last trip, he even volunteered to go to a character meal with me-I never would have expected that!

[pinkdiamonds1007]

Although, now we have children, and I thought it would be different, i thought he would be just as excited as I am to go back..we do still have 5 months to wait. BUT...I hate being excited alone! MY dd is too young to be really excited, although i think she is the only one who hasn't told me..."enough disney already..give me a break" :guilty: Husbands, or not. I guess not everyone is into Disney like us.

I just plan the vaca's now..and try to surprise him with them. Even adding a little something extra to the mix he may enjoy..like espn dinner, or go during football season and get him tickets to a game *nfl* while we are down this way we are all excited and can enjoy a good time. :umbrella:

[foolishmortal]

Ok I like Disney, but if I didn't here are a few things my wife could say to make me want to go.

Golf
Disney sports complex
Espnzone
Ride or drive in a Nascar
Tower of Terror
Haunted Mansion
Star Wars ride
All of the resturants (any type of food he likes mention a specific one)
get a beer from a different country..lol
and the easiest way to get me to go..........would you rather be at work??

[alabamagirl]

Those are good suggestions. He does golf so I am sure he would enjoy that (I would have to talk him into spending that much money to golf though). I had forgotten about the Nascar driving experience that might be something he would like. I just don't know. He doesn't like all the cutesy stuff at Disney World. So when I say "Let's go to Disney World!" He's like "Mickey Mouse, no thanks". I will mention the golf and nascar things to him for sure though. All of the others we have done and he enjoys, but again it is the cutesy factor that gets him.

[spiceycat]

just don't do MK.

Epcot and Studios aren't quite so cute!!! neither is the AK.

don't ever stay at Pop Century.... :goodvibes

Does he like to fish? WDW has some of the best fishing in the country.

He could watch a game at WWoS, play tennis or golf, go swimming at the hotel pool or BB or TL, bird watch (there are a ton of birds that visit WDW), go boating, biking, horseback riding (very tame).

http://disneyworldsports.disney.go.com/dwws/en_US/home/home?name=HomePage

http://disneyworld.disney.go.com/wdw/moreMagic/moreMagicGolfLanding?id=WideWorldOfSportsLandingPa ge

http://disneyworld.disney.go.com/wdw/moreMagic/moreMagicOverview?id=moreMagicOverviewPage

Anyway good luck. I have been trying to get my brother to come to WDW for around 28 years. He went in 1974 and has not been back since.

He lives in St Augustine. WDW is about 1 1/2 to 2 hours from his front door.

the thing is he would love Epcot!!! but he won't even try.

[mouseRD]

My DH is kind of the same way & we also do not have children at this time. I've found out what he enjoys doing on vacation, so we just alternate between WDW, the beach, the mountains, etc. Your DH may even agree to a combination trip such as 3-4 nights in Destin & 3-4 nights at WDW. I can usually get my DH to agree to a WDW trip (or mini trip) every 12-18 months (now I could go every 3-6 months easily!). Once he gets there, he has a great time though & says he just loves to watch the expressions on my face & how excited I get about being there. I also have heard great things about the golf courses at WDW from my dad.

[wdwr]

I'm not sure exactly, but I heard that some of the golf courses are having a cut in there greens fees...so it is a much better deal to golf for the next few months.

Sorry I can't be more help. If I can find the email that told me about this I will try to add the info for you.

I do remember that one of them was going to be closed for 'refurbishing' but there are still lots to choose from.

WDWR

[alabamagirl]

I forgot about the fishing!! That is his passion. Does anyone know where you can fish at WDW and where the best fishing is? He could do that one day and I could go to MK (got to cut down on that cutesy factor).

I appreciate everyone's suggestions. I would have never thought about a lot of these things because when I go, I go for the parks. I will just have to adjust to a different way of thinking when I plan a trip for just the two of us.

Switching between WDW, the beach, and other places would probably work also. The only problem with that is not getting to go as much as I would like (which would be at least two times a year).

[Simba's Mom]

Boy, do I understand DHs not going for the "cutsey" factor! I don't know TOO much about the fishing, but I think there's a 2 hour bass fishing excursion, where, depending on where you're staying, they pick you up at your resort beforehand. At POR, there's cane pole fishing there, where for some inexpensive price ($4/hour), you can fish there. And although I'm not sure of this, I think I heard once about an early morning excursion you could take on the WS lagoon before Epcot opens (or was that one wishful thinking on my part?). Hopefully, the Disney website, under "recreation", has more info. Me, I'm going to look for the characters, so I can stand in line to get my picture taken, then go to Fantasyland and ride some rides.

[spiceycat]

how much do you want to spend?

FW probably has the best fishing.

WDW sometimes has bass fishing on seven seas lagoon and bay lake, as well.

there is also one that goes from PO.

there are several other places close to WDW but much cheaper.

A #1 bass guide service
www.a1bassguideservice.com
A+ Tom & Jerry's Bass-n-saltwater charters
www.tomandjerrys.net
a1 action bass fishing guides, professional services
www.centralforidabassfishing.com
aaabbb bass guide-shiner king
www.ebrock1cfl.rr.com
bass guides
www.bassfishingguideflorida.com
big toho marina
www.bigtoho.com
capt. bob's lunker bass guide service
www.cyberangle.com/guides/lunkerbass
captain john kumiski's spotted tail outdoor adventures
www.spottedtail.com
captain seaweed professional guide service
no website 1-407-846-3881
central florida guide service
www.floridabassfishing.com
champion pro guide service central florida
www.championbass.com

these are not cheap!!!
there are serveral more -

to get WDW prices - call 1-407-WDW-PLAY

do you don't need a fishing license to fish at WDW.

the other places I think he does.

at WDW if your room doesn't contain a kitchen (FW or DVC villas) - then the fish is returned to the water.

if he really likes to fish - he will LOVE central florida - he can do lake fishing and around 90 miles away he can do ocean or gulf fishing.

get this booklet for him.

http://www.floridakiss.com/tools/requestinfo/index.php

it is the visitor guide for Kissimmee (the area next door to WDW) - it tells about all the fishing and other stuff in the immediate area.

IT IS FREE.

and has one of the best and more actual maps around. Much better than the AAA maps - not to mention WDW.

[alabamagirl]

Wow, thanks for all the information spiceycat. I will look into it. I signed up for the planning guide and it should be here in 2-3 weeks. I am thinking I could really lure him down there with the promise of bass fishing. :banana:

[jenrose66]

I wouldn't say my husband isn't disney spirited, however, he isn't as die hard disney as me.

He was happy to go on our honeymoon last year. We came back and he was like...well I had a great time but "we're not gonna be a family that goes to disney every year". Not what I wanted to hear.

Fast forward to March and we're trying to plan our summer trip. I told him I wanted to go to disney and he said no. I then reminded him that he loved disney. I then priced cruises, trips to vegas or hawaii, even europe. I showed him that disney was actually a bargain and a great time compared to anywhere else we would go.

He is now very excited about our upcoming trip, but when I hint I'd like to learn more about DVC on this trip, he reminds me we aren't going to be a disney family every year.

We'll see about that...

[alabamagirl]

Awwww....yall are so cute. It is nice to know that I am not the only one with a husband that is not as excited over Disney as me. I think if I show him the other side of Disney (i.e. fishing, golfing, eating, :goodvibes ) then he will come around eventually. He has been twice however and is still against going back. I going to use some of the tactics mentioned on this thread to change his mind.

[jeminni]

Alabamagirl, I have been married 23 years and my husband *STILL* wont even consider an disney vacation. The kids and I have gone different times but he wont go with us. His big thing is that Disney is an " amusement park" and that he hates those. He wont listen to any other point of view on that . :P


Since both Kids will be away at college this fall will be making my first Solo trip Sept29-Oct4. I cant wait I love Disney . :love:

[oogsdaughter]

Try some of the backstage tours, those are really interesting. Like Aqua Seas ,Backstage Safari, around the world on a Segway, not kiddy or cutesy at all.

[New England Eeyore]

Well, I'm going to post here, but I don't really have an answer to the question. I really don't know how I got my DH to go so often. We've been 5 times now, and doesn't love it like I do. He's just a very good sport. :goodvibes He goes because he knows how happy it makes me. Having said that, he did ask me for a break after our last trip, and after crying for days ;) I realized that it wasn't the end of the world, and I'm planning the next trip with my Dad (another good sport.) If he turns out not to like it, I wouldn't be opposed to going solo in the future. But over the past 5 years, I've tried to find a balance between how much I love WDW and not wanting to 'drag' my DH too much. Some of the compromises included shorter trips to WDW every other year (like a long weekend - enough to satisfy my appetite, but not enough to wear him out) and taking other vacations during the year that he chose that I might not be crazy about. It's all about compromise.

[MSC]

Bribe him with sex seems like the too obvious answer to me.

But I'm a guy, what do I know?

[cdrn1]

My hubby HATES to travel, and his idea of a vacation is spending a few days with his relatives :rolleyes: . All the time our girls were growing up I took them alone or with my sister's family. Then along comes our first grandchild and he is totally smitten...he gladly went for her first trip in December at 11 months old!

[WHIT1]

My hubby HATES to travel, and his idea of a vacation is spending a few days with his relatives :rolleyes: . All the time our girls were growing up I took them alone or with my sister's family. Then along comes our first grandchild and he is totally smitten...he gladly went for her first trip in December at 11 months old!

threaten to go solo i did cause dh said he never wanted to go back to disney again. well never say never cause he knew i would leave him home so now he goes and is a good sport about it. we are going in oct and i got him the petty driving experience to show my appeciation. besides sex i'm sure you can get him something he will enjoy,fishing ,a boat ride,parasailing. there is so much to choose from.

[florida-again]

My boyfriend fits this description perfectly. He was a first-timer last year and while Orlando blew him away, he wasn't too enthusiastic about Disney either before or after we'd been.

We're going back again this year and he doesn't want to go back to Disney parks but does want to go to the disney waterparks and the restaurants.

So I guess the best thing to do is to feed into something he might like, a particular restaurant, a river cruise etc.

Research together and see what you both like the look of

[8 Ears]

MSC, :rotfl: I am sitting here reading this and :rotfl2: . DH asks what is so funny on the DISboards this morning. I tell him to read... now both of us are :rotfl: :rotfl2: :rotfl: :rotfl2: , he seems to think your idea would work REAL fast for him.

So I say, when can we go? He says "book it" ;)

Hey kids, we are headed back to Disney!!!!! :teeth:

[alabamagirl]

That is great! I am glad this thread helped you get another disney trip out of your DH. I am jealous though........... :mad:

[ladysoleil]

Bribe him with sex seems like the too obvious answer to me.

But I'm a guy, what do I know?

LOL. That method certainly works on my DH. :rotfl2:

Seriously, he was concerned the first time that it would be too "babyish", but after a little bit of :drinking: and :love2: , he was sold. :teeth:

[Brian Noble]

Don't ask me. I'm the one that dragged DW to Disneyland, and turned her into a fanatic.

I do have a close friend who thinks our family is nuts to enjoy amusement parks. He claims it is because they are too crowded, but I believe it is because they are too pedestrian and bourgious for his refined tastes (he's from one of those families that traces their roots back to the Mayflower).

However, I did spot a Disneyland lightchaser on his kitchen counter. He mumbled something about the wife and kids going without him, but I don't believe it for a second.

[mrcricket]

While I'm a Disney fanatic, my wife tolerates it. I've gotten her to go 3 times in 6 years and to her that is WAY TOO MUCH. The times I've gotten her to go I've:

1)begged and pleaded. that worked the first time;
2) went to Disneyland, but put a "California Spin" to the vacation. Did more than Disney, beach, etc.; and
3) got friends to help convince her to go on a grand gathering for Christmas.

She's now let me know that WDW is out for at least 2 years. I'm not for sure I could get her back before then no matter what...but I'm thinking. Maybe a kids band trip or competition?

Good luck with your Husband. And remember, just because your married doesn't mean you have to do everything together. I'm going back to WDW this November and taking my cousin for her very first visit. She's really excited, as she's pushing sixty and has always wanted to go. And my wife...she's happy for me and my cousin. She knows I love this stuff and she's happy that I can share it with a loved one.

[alabamagirl]

UPDATE: I was watching "Toy Story" last night on ABC (gotta love the Wonderful World of Disney) and I was talking about my upcoming trip with my CP roomies in June 2006. So DH asks "So when would you wanna go back?"

AHA!!

So does this mean he is more open to the idea or he just wants to shut me up? It told him that we could plan a trip around the time they have the big bass fishing tournament down there and do the weigh in at Wide World of Sports. He seemed really interested then. I may be on to something........

[pozey]

You ladies need to be more selective in the spouse department.... :earboy2: just kidding of course......

There are more of us Disney-loving men out here..... :cool1: ....you just have to find us...... :wave2:

While I was born in Florida and went many times as a child, it wasn't until my DW and I went together for the first time, that we both became "Disney fanatics".

I'm the one she turns to and says "Plan it." :banana:

[BriansTinkerbell]

My huby loves WDW so I don't have too much of a fight to get him to go. Why don't you try to talk to him & explain to him how you feel about Disney & how much it means too you & see how that goes.

[cjb71870]

I was a Disney fanatic with my boyfriend at the time from '89-'93. We used to go to the parks a few days a week! Well, that ended, and I reunited with a guy I dated in high school. Well, we're married now and have been annual passholders for 7 years now. We live in FL. which is easier. But we have been there already 7 times this year! We stay at the same hotel that we did in '98. We've chosen not to have kids because of all of our trips!!! People say we have the best life for a kid! But, Disney is alot different with a child than without!! Just Show him a GREAT time!! We also got married at Disney!! He became a fanatic also! We go atleast once a month! Just show him a GREAT time!! If it doesn't work. That sucks!!!

[klofan]

You can go to Disney first. Then next year go to a trip of his choice. Or be like 'your going and that's final!!!' haha

[SusanD]

We have been DVC owners for about 8 years. Because of the distance we go every 12-18 months. My husband and the boys seem to be happy with that arrangement. The problem is that I would be happy going twice as often. The solution is I usually take a trip without my immediate family in January. (Last year I took my aunt and this year I'm taking my husband's niece.)

It is much cheaper if you are only paying for one to go compared to a family of four. DVC,annual passes and frequently flier miles make this an almost free trip.

I don't recommend this approach for newlyweds but it is something to keep in mind for the future.

[PepeLePirate]

I confess, I was not a Disney Fanatic for a while; in fact, when I was dating my now-wife, she would go to disney with her family, and I would stay behind. Then, I decided to compromise; I agreed to go to Disney, if she would agree to go to Vegas with me (she hated and still hates Vegas). Anyway, first time, she plan the trip according to what she thought I would like (drink around the world, yeah baby!), and I found myself really liking the place, because everything is set up so you would forget about your real life while you are there (I mean, you pay with your room key so you don't realize is your money until you check out). Fast forward 8 years, and now I'm the one nagging and begging to go all the time, and we have not been back to Vegas in about 6 years.

As you can guess, the "get away from reality, and stop worrying about everything" is what really turned me into a fanatic. That, and getting my hair cut with the pixie dust.

[jerbroni]

Pepe, your story is identical to mine. It's uncanny. I had the same Vegas/Disney arrangement, have the same Vegas-hating wife, and now I'm the Disney addict, and it sounds like we love it for the same reasons. Nothing beats stepping out of 'real life' for a few days....