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ArRzrbk
02-21-2005, 08:53 PM
I am afraid to fly, but my husband has just announced that he prefers we not drive to our first trip "home" as DVC members to the Beach Club Villas for DS's 3rd birthday. We were looking at about a 14 hour drive with a 1 year old and a 3 year old. Anyway, we've thought about several airlines...

1.) Ted - I never heard of it, but husband says it is run by United Airlines and has all new planes and great fares

2.) Delta - Husband says he much prefers United to Delta, but I have flown Delta to Disney once before and had a good experience

3.) United Airlines

4.) Southwest - Heard they are a fun airline, but I know husband is not keen on no assigned seats

We'd also consider others. We need good fares, and I need a solid airline with a good safety record. I am a big, big, chicken :sad1: You're help and advice and encouragement are much appreciated.

Lewisc
02-21-2005, 09:01 PM
With a 1 and a 4 yearold SW will let you pre-board so I wouldn't worry about no assigned seats. You really ought to purchase a seat for the 1 year old.

SeeDisney
02-21-2005, 09:24 PM
HI


I understand you nervousness about flying. Put your fears in this respective. Flying is absolutely much much more safer than driving. If you drive, you could be stuck in traffic congestion for hours on end (and you and your husband may get frustrated). This happened to my friend who decided to drive to WDW and got stuck in an traffic delay on 1-95 due to a CAR ACCIDENT.

Another perspective.....this may be morbid but realistic. Ask yourself, how many people do you know or know of that was killed in an car accident??? (I personally and sadly know of around 2 or 3 dozen). Then ask youself, how many people do you know that was killed in an airplane accident? Chances are it's probably none. When I thought of this.....I instantly felt much bettter about our decision to fly to WDW.

I see you're from Md, so I assuming you'll be going to Baltimore. They have great great rates from there and you will get to WDW in a very short 2 hours!!!!!!

How about getting yourself a glass a wine before you board to get the edge off? Or getting a prescription for an anti-anxiety drugs.


Good luck and pixie dust to you. You will have a GREAT AWESOME time the at the magically and happiest place in the World!

CarolA
02-21-2005, 09:32 PM
All of your choices are fine. I would just pick the one with the best times and fares.

dudspizza
02-21-2005, 09:50 PM
Always think this... when is the last time you heard of a plane crashing????? Car accidents happen all the time..... plane crashes almost never happen!

Air travel is safe and fun.

Duds

*Fantasia*
02-21-2005, 10:17 PM
Just make sure you get a non-stop (direct flight) to Orlando. I think it's a hassle to go up and down and change planes.

BabkaGal
02-21-2005, 10:22 PM
Hi!

If your airports have Delta Song or Jetblue, I HIGHLY recommend them! I detest flying, but I have absolutely no problems flying on Jetblue...it reminds me of a train (but nicer!). The plane is roomy, there is TV for distraction, and the stewardesses are super-nice. Song is not quite as good (more like an airline), but it also has TVs for distraction. Both have very good saftey records.

Whatever you do, definitely get a one-way flight...that way, you only have to deal with the stress of one take off and landing! Also, think about some Dramamine...it is technically for airsickness, but it makes me so sleepy that I fall right asleep and don't worry about the ride the whole time! :banana:

--Babka Gal

only1mouse
02-21-2005, 10:27 PM
I was terrified of flying after I had my son. In 1996 we flew from Portland, OR to WDW and it almost ruined our trip because I worked myself up into a good panic attack.

Back in 2003 I took a job in CA but still live in OR ,so I have to fly regularly. Last week when I was flying home I was looking out the window at the beautiful landscape below and kept thinking to myself what was I nervous about.. I still don't know, I think it's just I wasn't in control of the plane.

Anyhow, I am more nervous driving the streets of Los Angeles than I am flying anywhere. As others have said, it's a very safe means of travel and you will be fine. I know you've heard that many times and it's hard to believe, but you really will be fine. Everything is so beautiful from the air.

Don't worry yourself too much and have a great trip.

GJM
02-22-2005, 07:24 AM
I know how you feel, I hate to fly and probably always will. We have driven to FL from NJ a couple of times and I just couldn't do it when we went in Oct. We flew Delta Song, I love the TV! This was my DS first flight and I was worried how he would be, he was fine. I also will not fly on certain airlines, I was so worried about flying Song the first time, but I loved it.

I do take a valium when I fly now. I use to get myself so worked up days before a flight, the valium does help but I still get a little nervous.

I would also always choose a direct flight. I hate the take off and I don't want to do it more then once. When we went to Hawaii we did a direct flight, it was long, but so worth it.

Dan Murphy
02-22-2005, 07:29 AM
This is a very helpful site if you have a bit of trouble with flying.........

http://www.fearofflyinghelp.com/

Give it a look. You'll do fine. :hug:

shatzjsl
02-22-2005, 08:11 AM
Dan,
Thanks for the link. I have the fear of flying thing too. Mostly because I only do it about once a year.

Susie

erikthewise
02-22-2005, 08:41 AM
Airtran flies about 5 nonstops daily from Baltimore-Washington (BWI) to Orlando, and I highly recommend them. With young children, having a nonstop is priceless. It's pretty nice for adults too!

Flying is so safe that if you WANTED to die in crash on a commercial airliner, and spent your whole life trying to do so, you couldn't do it! I know that irrational fears are just as hard to face but maybe that will help a little.

Pea-n-Me
02-22-2005, 08:49 AM
I'm kind of nervous flying too. What I've learned to do is watch the flight attendants chit chat non-chalantly, all in a day's work. It makes me realize if it were really unsafe they probably wouldn't do it as their life's work. I picture how many hours I work at my job and think they're just doing the same. So if they're not nervous than I don't need to be. (OTOH, if they get nervous then I know we're really in trouble, LOL). Good luck. :wizard:

ArRzrbk
02-22-2005, 09:29 AM
Thank you all for your words of encouragement and advice. I am still not sure I will have the courage to fly, but I am going to do my best. I do think it would be a whole lot easier on the rest of the family - it's three to one! And it does seem like any of those airlines would be OK. Thanks again.

shatzjsl
02-22-2005, 09:56 AM
I'm kind of nervous flying too. What I've learned to do is watch the flight attendants chit chat non-chalantly, all in a day's work. It makes me realize if it were really unsafe they probably wouldn't do it as their life's work. I picture how many hours I work at my job and think they're just doing the same. So if they're not nervous than I don't need to be. (OTOH, if they get nervous then I know we're really in trouble, LOL). Good luck. :wizard:

Oh great! Now the FA's are going to think I am weird because I am going to be staring at them to see any change in attitude! :)

dudspizza
02-22-2005, 11:18 AM
Oh great! Now the FA's are going to think I am weird because I am going to be staring at them to see any change in attitude! :)

Seriously, watch them on your next flight. They are still up and moving while the plane is headed to the runway. The sit down as the plane makes the turn on to the runway.... I have never seen a flight attendant concerned, ever. Last trip the FA read the paper during takeoff. It is just another day at work for them.

Flying can make you feel physically ill. If that is the case, some of the suggestions of other posters are great. Really, flying is very safe and think about what is on the other end, MICKEY!

Breathe, breathe again, and walk down the jetway. You get to your destination so much quicker and you can enjoy the remainder of your trip.

I read, listen to music, and relax during a flight. Enjoy!

Duds

uva185
02-22-2005, 05:26 PM
Another option for you would be Independence Air out of Dulles (I dont know where in Maryland you live). I personally like Independence but hate dulles alot so I dont fly with them too often, they have great service. I personally prefer to fly out of National eventhough it costs more, it is very easy to navigate that airport!

Dznypal
02-22-2005, 06:57 PM
My SIL is a pilot!! Shes petite and blonde the lat person youd think is a pilot. Anyways she always gets upset either people think shes the FA or business wont fly with her since shes a woman!!!!! which really ticks her off!!!!

One time when my parents were going somewhere she was their pilot. My mom was talking to the guy accross the aisle (my mom loves to talk!!!!)

he mentioned that was wasnt too happy to hear they had a woman pilot and asked my mom how she felt welll my om couldnt resist the opportunity to say that was her daughter in law and a vry competent pilot.!!!

The guy didnt know what else to say!!

sort of a funny story

inkkognito
02-22-2005, 09:57 PM
An interesting point about FAs...we fly a lot (at least twice a month roundtrip to Orlando), and I am scared to death of flying so I tend to watch the FAs too. Since we often sit by the jump seats, I've also talked to many of them. I mentioned watching to see if they are scared, and one FA told me that no matter what he might be thinking, he can maintain his calm in order to keep the nervous passengers calm. He said true emergencies are rare, but once there was turbulence so bad that he ended up having to lie down in the aisle because he could not get to his seat. A little boy was watching him and was on the verge of panic, so he turned it into a joke...he said he was scared inside but on the outside he knew it was critical to maintain his professionalism and keep the little boy (and everyone else!) calm. FAs are definitely true professionals!
Barb

Luckymommyx2
02-23-2005, 06:49 AM
Wow Barb, what a story! I think I would pass out or have a heart attack if turbulence got that bad. Turbulence and take off's are the worst for me.

The fearofflying.com is a really good site. You can even print out pages and go through a little check list which is very helpful. Try and take the time to go through it. It may not completely "cure" you but it does help. Good luck!!

buckeye
02-23-2005, 07:56 AM
I recommend going to the doctor and getting a prescription. It can just take the edge off a bit. Plus, just knowing that it's in your purse can make you feel better, even if you don't take it.

I feel for you. I have to fly twice this spring---once for work and once for...DISNEY. Hey, if it gets you to Disney, it's worth it!!

Pea-n-Me
02-23-2005, 08:13 AM
An interesting point about FAs...we fly a lot (at least twice a month roundtrip to Orlando), and I am scared to death of flying so I tend to watch the FAs too. Since we often sit by the jump seats, I've also talked to many of them. I mentioned watching to see if they are scared, and one FA told me that no matter what he might be thinking, he can maintain his calm in order to keep the nervous passengers calm. He said true emergencies are rare, but once there was turbulence so bad that he ended up having to lie down in the aisle because he could not get to his seat. A little boy was watching him and was on the verge of panic, so he turned it into a joke...he said he was scared inside but on the outside he knew it was critical to maintain his professionalism and keep the little boy (and everyone else!) calm. FAs are definitely true professionals!
Barb
It just dawned on me one day as I sat there all tense. Watching them chatting it reminded me of myself at my own job. I just got to thinking how it is just another day at the office for them. I don't "stare" at them, LOL, I just take my cues from them as I watch them happily go about their work.

As far as staying calm in an emergency, I have to do that in my work as well being a cardiac nurse. It's called masking and means you may be ready to fall apart on the inside but on the outside you better be calm. We deal with life threatening emergencies all the time and have to be calm and cool no matter what. We are taught to "run to the room but walk inside". If we're not calm then the patient definitely won't be but if we are then it goes a long way toward making the patient feel safe. I'm glad to know FAs are trained the same way. :)

I've done the prescription med route and it didn't help at all. Maybe having two small children to care for negates the effects of the med. :hyper2: A glass of wine is much more soothing to me, maybe next time I'll order a mimosa on my early flight out. :wizard:

erikthewise
02-23-2005, 08:27 AM
An interesting point about FAs...we fly a lot (at least twice a month roundtrip to Orlando), and I am scared to death of flying so I tend to watch the FAs too. Since we often sit by the jump seats, I've also talked to many of them. I mentioned watching to see if they are scared, and one FA told me that no matter what he might be thinking, he can maintain his calm in order to keep the nervous passengers calm. He said true emergencies are rare, but once there was turbulence so bad that he ended up having to lie down in the aisle because he could not get to his seat. A little boy was watching him and was on the verge of panic, so he turned it into a joke...he said he was scared inside but on the outside he knew it was critical to maintain his professionalism and keep the little boy (and everyone else!) calm. FAs are definitely true professionals!
Barb

Good point. As far as reassurance goes (aka "knowing if you are going to die"), it is better to watch experienced passengers. They have no professionalism to maintain. If everyone else on the plane is calm, then things are OK, in spite of that noise that clearly sounds like the plane is coming apart at the seams.

Selket
02-23-2005, 08:47 AM
I flew to California a few years ago when my DS was 3.5 and I bought him one of those Color Wonder coloring books and that certainly kept me entertained. I think I colored the whole dang thing :rolleyes: I'm not sure what he did - heh - just kidding. But taking care of little kids on the plane does keep you busy.

I'm afraid to fly as well. One of my co-workers was on the hijacked flight that went into the Pentagon - along with her husband and two young daughters. I have sometimes heard that flights out of National had more marshals on them - not sure if that is still true or not. I think we may be safer flying out of this area (you're in Maryland right?) - lots of extra security now. At least that is what I tell myself :earboy2:

There is always Amtrak - you leave out of DC around 4pm or so and get to Orlando around 11 a.m. the next morning.

dtsaos
02-23-2005, 02:27 PM
I didn't read all these posts so please forgive me if someone already said this, but what about Amtrak? My DH will not fly- period, but we've had great success with the train in the past (even though he wants to try driving this time) :sad2:

ArRzrbk
02-23-2005, 02:34 PM
I actually now have a room on hold on the Autotrain and another post on these boards asking about how to handle the sleeping arrangements in a Superliner Bedroom Vs. Family Bedroom with a 1 and 2 year old.

It's funny, because all these replies about flying had me pretty convinced, but then when I just mentioned the train to my husband, he jumped on it! And my son (the two year old) said he preferred the train. And he has no fear of either, but I guess it sounded like more fun. Go figure!

Anyway, thanks again to all of you. And if you have experience with Autotrain, please feel free to look for my other post or pass on your advice here. Thanks so much!

Pea-n-Me
02-24-2005, 08:30 AM
The auto train would be a nice option but when I priced it from MA it was almost $2k for us and involved changing trains with a layover in NY. :(