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Duchie
11-13-2004, 12:59 AM
... with both DS and DD teachers, telling them we'd be taking the kids out of school for our upcoming trip. Know what they both said?

"That's great! Have fun! Won't be a problem at all."

I was so relieved! Both teachers said that while they do believe school is important, they realize that family time is just as critical, and loved that the kids would be with their grandparents and a great-grandmother. DD's teacher even said that they may learn more from their great-grandmother than anyplace else (she's 92).

Time to start packing!!!!!

Dean
11-13-2004, 01:31 AM
Originally posted by Duchie
... with both DS and DD teachers, telling them we'd be taking the kids out of school for our upcoming trip. Know what they both said?

"That's great! Have fun! Won't be a problem at all."

I was so relieved! Both teachers said that while they do believe school is important, they realize that family time is just as critical, and loved that the kids would be with their grandparents and a great-grandmother. DD's teacher even said that they may learn more from their great-grandmother than anyplace else (she's 92).

Time to start packing!!!!! Up until high school, I felt what the kids learned on our trips where they missed school was far more helpful in the long run than being in school would have been. Trips like 2 weeks to HI with the museums, Pearl Harbor and the like. Williamsburg for the historical district. DC with the Smithsonian. And SF with all the crazies and history. Though one trip to Waikiki did force me to explain to my then 9 y/o son about hookers where he could state later when we went out "daddy there's a hooker and there's another hooker" and so on far louder than I would have wanted him to do so.

jbwolffiv
11-13-2004, 07:08 AM
I teach 5th grade and feel the same way. Most children come back from a vacation and just pick up where we are and adjust very fast. More importantly, family together time is at a premium these days with many families having both parents working, a week of school is insignificant when it comes to family time!

rocketriter
11-13-2004, 08:43 AM
We pulled DD 8 and DS 11 out of school for a week at BCV in October. We explained to the teachers that a family reunion was involved, asked for (and got) homework assignments, and nobody criticized us. I think that at that age WDW is still moderately educational, and I agree with Dean that trips to historic sites and natural wonders out-value a week of school until high school.

SueOKW
11-13-2004, 08:47 AM
Dean:
Though one trip to Waikiki did force me to explain to my then 9 y/o son about hookers where he could state later when we went out "daddy there's a hooker and there's another hooker" and so on far louder than I would have wanted him to do so.

ha ha!!! they do that, don't they?

We are kid puller-outers too....

Sue

WDWJWEB1
11-13-2004, 08:56 AM
Good Morning Duchie

I was very surprised so far at the first 4 post that agreed with you taking the children out of school to go to "Disney". I'm sure you realize that this is another very hot topic on these boards, that being said let me say that myself and my DW have zero problems pulling our children out of school for vacations, maybe in a few years this may or may not be a problem? Time will tell but for now it's not even an issue! As a matter of fact we will be pulling them out for 7 days in Nov-Dec for our upcoming trip and then 1 more day in April-05

DS-9
DD-8

3DisneyNUTS
11-13-2004, 09:10 AM
Well everyone already knows my life's too short theory. So have fun and it is awesome that your children's teachers share your views :)

tinkgrl
11-13-2004, 09:32 AM
Hi,

I say have a good time with your family!!! Be sure to report back!

Allison

Duchie
11-13-2004, 10:17 AM
Thanks everyone! I know this is a hot topic and one I struggle with myself.

We've pulled the kids out before but it was never an issue. DS was so far ahead in 1st grade, and DD was just in Kindergarten. But this year, DD is doing WAAAAAY more than DS did in 1st grade (which is a vent for another thread.....) and I didn't want her to miss anything. It turns out the week we're going is the week the teacher is doing profile testing, so she will not be introducing anything new! And DS is still doing extremely well but has some areas he needs to work on. His teacher was great at brainstorming ideas of things he can do both before he goes and while he is there.

I was excited before about this trip, but now....
:jumping1:

laceemouse
11-13-2004, 10:31 AM
Duchie, go and enjoy your trip. I think it is okay when the kids are so young, doing well in school, and the teachers are so understanding. As our kids got older, like Jr. High, things changed. The workload, and competition in our school district is unbelievable. That is why I am usually anti- take the kids out of school. Ours did miss one day in October, but next year DD13 will be in High School and we won't even do that. We also have 4 kids to do make up work with, that's a lot of work. Keeping up when we are here is no small task. I agree with you about the increase in work. I thought when my oldest started kindergarten they were expecting a lot, now with my 4th in first grade I can see the requirements going higher and higher every year. Of course, when many of her classmates are reading Harry Potter, she is considered "behind" for just being a "normal" first grader! But I agree, that could be a whole other thread....Lacee

Doug7856
11-13-2004, 03:03 PM
We haven't yet had to pull our son out of school -- he's only two; but, my wife is a teacher and we haven't figured how to pull her out of school . . . yet :teeth:

::MickeyMo

Dean
11-13-2004, 03:20 PM
Originally posted by Doug7856
We haven't yet had to pull our son out of school -- he's only two; but, my wife is a teacher and we haven't figured how to pull her out of school . . . yet :teeth:

::MickeyMo That might be a little more difficult. Maybe you could write her a note.

loribell
11-13-2004, 03:23 PM
I wish I could pull my kids out of school and go when the weather is nicer and the crowds are lighter. Unfortunately the one time I did that it was to short of a trip for us, even the kids said it was to short. For some reason I don't seem to be able to get myself to go for less than 2 weeks. I'm afraid that would be a bit to much missed work.

That said, when I did pull DS out for 5 days he was able to do almost all of his work before we even left for our trip.

Have a great time. Wish we were going to be there too!


Lori

metus
11-13-2004, 03:49 PM
I am a teacher, and I have several students out this week because they are at Disney. My response is this....School is so important, but family memories are irreplacable! I gave the children all of their missed work, however I told them their major assignment was to get an autograph of Winnie the Pooh for me! LOL

Children can pick up things they missed with help of parents. But I think family time is so precious.

Alexander
11-13-2004, 04:54 PM
I agree with so much that has been said here!
"Life is too short" that is my philosophy on so many things.
We pull our kids out too, and I am a teacher.
I always have students leaving for vacation and the only work they have for me is to keep some type of a diary or journal to tell the class all about their trip. We even had our son do this for us last May, his teacher loved it.

To anyone pulling their kids....Have a great vacation! Don't look back, don't think twice, and don't sweat the small stuff, a couple of days out of school is the small stuff!

MichelleB
11-13-2004, 10:08 PM
We pull our kids out every year in Jan. They're currently in 1st and 3rd grade but we've been doing it since the oldest was in kindergarten. We pick a country each time we go and we all go and learn more about it and get pictures with a CM and my DD. Then when the girls go back to school they love to tell about the other country they "visited" and show the picture. We feel this way it's a learning experience too along with the fun. Surprisingly, they find the learning process at Epcot fun too! Just go, relax, and enjoy the trip. They grow up way too quickly.

mbb
11-14-2004, 05:56 AM
...and will continue as long as we can:)

:sunny:

Doug Wolfe
11-14-2004, 11:07 AM
School ends for us May 20, 2005. We will be on the plane at 5:30am May 21st heading to Disney's Hilton Head Island Resort.

The school district told me if we had a lot of days cancelled because of snow, they could be in for another week after May 20th. :eek:

That will be too bad, because my kids will be on the beach at Hilton Head while all of their friends are still sitting around in hot class rooms. :smooth: :p

MagikMom
11-14-2004, 05:27 PM
I also have pulled my kids out. Both times it was in october. The 1st time it was Oct. 2002 and both my kids were in Elementary school so it wasn't a big deal. Last month I took them both out for a week to go to SSR. No problems for my DS who is in 3rd grade, but DD is in middle school now, 7th grade. It was different for her this year. While most of her teachers were very understanding she did have trouble with 2 of her teachers, especially her Spanish teacher. My DD got her middle of the year progress report and right now she has a C for a grade in this class. This is her 1st C ever. Her teacher wrote in the comment section that she thought the decline was "due to her missing so many days of class". My DD was so upset. She completed all of the work that was required of her while on vacation. Because of this, I don't think we will be taking her out again :( . We are planning our next trip for June 23rd . School gets out on the 18th but I live in Massachusetts and have to account for any snow days that might occur!

Oct. 2004 SSR
Aug. 2003 BWV
Oct. 2002 All Star Sports/BCV
March 2001 All Star Sports

gracelrm
11-14-2004, 07:39 PM
Dh and I are both teachers and have two children in school and one in preschool. We usually don't take the kids out of school because we can't miss more than one day per year for "personal" reasons without taking deduct days (= no pay). However, this year we have a trip planned for Dec. and are leaving right after school on the last day before Christmas Break. We are thinking about blowing off the last day of school and heading up one day early in order to do MVMCP. The kids will miss their Christmas Parties - but hey - they'll be at WDW!!!! Sounds like a fair trade-off to me!

Goofyzgurl
11-14-2004, 08:19 PM
I have taken dd out of school just to go to disney also. We prepared ahead by taking assignments. We usually go right before dh gets deployed so that we can have some family time together. We have even gone when he hasn't been scheduled to leave. The school she goes to is a dod school and the teachers are wonderful and understand that with the military you just have to take trips make family time when you can.

DeeCee735
11-14-2004, 09:41 PM
We'd get more of a hard time from the coaches than any of the teachers, and that would be because we wait til school is closed to take vacation (kids in high school), but sports teams are still practicing, or in playoffs. Our coaches will not put a player in the game if they miss any practices due to a family vacation (again, taken during school vacation break). I actually had a coach tell me that if a player does NOT attend the softball TRIP TO WDW (which they are planning during the school's 05 spring break), then he would seriously consider CUTTING them from the team, because he has been planning this trip for almost two years. Not for nothing, but he's gotta be kidding. There's a whole bunch of reasons why parents may choose not to send their child on a sports trip with the team, and here he's telling me my kid's going to get cut.

I understand the importance of sports, team sportsmanship, practices, etc. What I don't understand is my entire family being told that we shouldn't be taking our children out of practices for family vacations during "legal" vacation time, and that the kids are actually penalized for going where their parents take them!

One of my top three priorities is to stress the necessity for a family vacation. My kids are getting older quickly, as they all do, and once they start college, DH and I will have to wait for them to fit us into their schedules. (Then we'll just have to take our DVC trips without the kiddies!) I want to enjoy them now, and our family "unit" as much as possible until that time comes, and I don't like being put in a situation where that is being discouraged, or there is a penalty, if we go away! Now my daughter is telling me that when she's varsity she won't want to go away because she doesn't want to be penalized and sports are important to her. I'm going to be in a pickle then! Oh boy! I think we all need a Disney trip!

erikthewise
11-15-2004, 12:45 PM
Our kids teachers have been great about it so far. One of them even said that SHE takes vacations during the school year because of her husband's work schedule and has colleagues cover for her. And she was the best teacher we've had so far.

deedle2
11-15-2004, 10:37 PM
we have taken our dd out of school every year since kidergarten, she is now in 8th grade. the teachers have always been understanding, and she has always adjusted well and never fell behind. this year we have already taken her out for a week in oct. and will be taken her out again for 6 days in march.(i know i better put the bullet proof vest on now) part of the trip in march is for her cheerleading competition which is in disney but we figured if we are already there we will have to extend it for a little family vacation. this is something we will probably continue to do even when she is in high school (not twice per year, this will prob. be a one time deal) as it is difficult for dh and i to get time off in the summer months, and family vacation is very important to us. i also have to agree that life is too short, you never know what tomorrow will bring and at least we have these memories to treasure. so go on vacation and have a wonderful time!!!