View Full Version : That horrible QUESTION...

06-26-2001, 11:06 AM
Don't you solo and couples out there hate the question that many people ask when you mention your upcoming trip to WDW------" Why are you going? You won't have fun without kids? Arn't you a little old to go to Disney? You are going to blow money on WDW again, don't you have something better to spend your money on???----

Insert your horrible question here...

How do you respond...

We just say we didn't have kids so we wouldn't have to compete with them for Mickey's affection...That usually does the trick LOL

:bounce: How about you? Are people jealous or just don't understand?

06-26-2001, 12:43 PM
Well, by now most of my friends are used to me....they just roll their eyes, but are nice about it. I don't ask how they can go to CanCun again and they don't ask me about WDW, it's sort of an agreement we've reached ;)


06-26-2001, 01:04 PM
With family, I'm lucky; although not Disney, they have their own place that they go back to over and over. They understand the attraction of finding someplace that you love enough to keep going back vacation after vacation.

With other friends and co-workers there are also a few that understand. The others, in the past, I've just given them so much information that they don't even go there with the questions anymore. They are too afraid that my answer will take an hour or two out of their day. Now they just ask where I'm going, I tell them WDW and they tell me to have a good time. End of conversation.

PhotobearSam, I like the answer about not having to compete for Mickey's affections. Mind if I use that sometime?

06-26-2001, 01:30 PM
We just laugh and say "Well, it's obvious you've never been there or you'd know!". We can tell by the puzzled looks that they just "don't get it". What amazes me is how many of our friends have families and don't go on any vacations at all. I think that's sad. It doesn't have to take a lot of money to get away and have fun for a few days. Some of my best memories are of going on vacation every year with my parents, yet all we did was rent a cabin at a state park and ate most of our meals there.

06-26-2001, 03:04 PM
Our grown sons think my husband and I are crazy for going to WDW in November! They've both just recently moved out (ages 23 & 27). They quit wanting to go to WDW with us as soon as they reached those teen years. They preferred going with church youth and school groups than going with their parents. It's been 20+ yrs. since our last "family" trip. My husband and I are so excited about this trip. We plan on going on every single roller coaster, ride, and seeing all the shows. We are staying onsite at the Polynesian and have asked for a lagoon view for those romantic evenings after the park. The boys think we have lost our minds. All we can think about is being able to do it all, eating some great food, and "getting to know each other" all over again with some help from Mickey and the gang! We'll add other trips in the future to Europe, the Caribbean, etc., but we wanted to start our new adverture with Walt and friends. :p :pinkbounc :bounce: ;)

06-26-2001, 04:23 PM
Nobody has really given DH and me any guff about it. We have a balance, I guess. We married in Vegas and then honeymooned at Disneyland. Then again, I have a reputation for doing my own thing and casting conventionality to the wind. If it's fun to me, I'm there. People will think what they want and life's too short to worry about that. And besides, People who ask those kinds of questions just don't know how much fun WDW can be. We take our time and worry about nothing when we're there. Having no kids along can make it soooo much more relaxing. I'm sure we'll love to take our children when we have them, but for now we enjoy making it a cozy twosome.

06-26-2001, 06:26 PM
My coworkers/friends just ignore it and chalk it up to my being a big fan of Disney. A couple did "question" my DVC purchase, but backed off after I explained it. Actually, the most "uncomfortable" question I ever got was at WDW itself. I was riding the bus from All Star Sports to MK for opening and there was this little child sitting across from me who saw I was alone. Being concerned, he asked where my family was, which I explained that I come to WDW by myself. He then asked a few follow up questions (like why I didn't bring my kids, etc) until his mother stepped in. It didn't really bother me, as he was just curious like most little kids, although it did make that bus ride a little weird.

06-27-2001, 11:42 AM
People always ask that question on any trip we decide to go on. But it's mainly comments like "it must be nice to go where ever you want" or "i wish I had enough $$ to go on vacations like you, It must be nice" Real sarcastic like.
I tell them if they save thier $$ instead of going to a bar every Wed, fri, and Sat night they could afford it. They don't like to hear it. IMHO I really don't think it's anyones business where i decide to go on vacation and how much it costs and saying I won't have fun there (WDW) because I don't have kids. If they would actually try to save $$ and go on vacation the would probably see why I go to WDW or on a Cruise. But sometimes I get a thrill out of them being jelous. Oh well, think smart and play hard, that's what I always say. LOL
BTW this was not directed to anyone here at the DIS. Just some of my "friends" here in MS.
Rant over


06-27-2001, 01:32 PM
I get one of the following questions:

1. Won't you be lonely going alone?
2. What fun will you have going solo?
3. Isn't there anywhere else you'd want to go?
4. Going solo sounds selfish.

Love these questions and this is what I answer.

1. Nope
2. Lots
3. Nope
4. Maybe a little.

This is a chance for me to become a great, big kid again. To leave all my stresses at the door. As much fun as I have going with family, I have just as much, if not a little more, going solo. I get to go where I want, when I want. See what I want and skip what I don't. Dine where I want (especially nice sit-down restaurants -- try that with a 6 1/2, 3 1/2 & 1 1/2-year-old nephews). I love doing EE and jus strolling quietly down Main Street. I love doing EE @ EPCOT and sitting at one of the tables facing the fountains, grab a quick breakfast and just soak everything in. To be honest, I really don't care what others think. A couple of years ago I decided to get my picture taken with as many characters as I could and you know what???? I had a BLAST!!!! I stood patiently in line with all the little kids and waited my turn and got some great shots!! I take one real vacation a year and for the past 5 years, it's been to WDW.

06-28-2001, 02:15 PM
I've been Disney Crazy ever since the first time my parents took me to WDW in 1975, so my family all understand! Hey..it's their fault anyway :) They started it :)

My hubby is now also Disney Crazy like me...his family doesn't quite get it, not having been to WDW before, but someday, they will. We've been working on them for a few years now :)

The others who think we're crazy just don't get it, but again, they have THEIR thing. We don't drink, smoke or have any other expensive hobbies, so we vacation :)

We don't have mini-vacations, we like to save up for a nice big Disney trip, with our dollar so bad, we have to save for awhile.

We also married in Vegas and honeymooned in DL....we just say that we're enjoying it for ourselves now...and when we have kids, we will enjoy it through them :)

06-28-2001, 02:41 PM
Cool, Timon! We had a blast at my wedding....:) The night before, my dad, fiance and I played black jack til 4am. We were trying to get our wedding comped!

Just kidding....:) We did get a few free meals out of that night though....:)

06-28-2001, 02:42 PM
When I mention to my friends who are parents that I'm going to WDW solo, they are usually envious that I can get away without the kids!

06-28-2001, 04:02 PM
With the Canadian dollar the way it is, I know that we will need a few years of saving to go again...:bounce:

06-29-2001, 08:03 AM
I usually say that my inner child has kidnapped and I have to go where she drags me!!! No, I say it's the most magickal place in the world and need my dose of magick once a year.

06-30-2001, 09:32 AM
My husband and I have gone every year since we met... that's about 5 years now. My dad "gets it" althought when
I told him about this years trip he thought I was getting a bit obsessive. My DH's parents think I am a wacko and have
turned their son into one too.... <JK>

I love going to Disney World... its the only place around that I can literally forget I am an adult and play for a solid period of time. I would go more often if I could afford it, in fact its probably one of the few reason I go to work each day.

Sad? Nope.... I'm ecstatic!

07-01-2001, 10:42 PM
Only you guys understand! :wave: Not many do! Most people don't feel the magic like true Disney Afficionados. How can you NOT want to go back? Going solo or with just one is great. And you are right, people understand renting a beach cottage every year, but not a Disney trip every year.

I used to go for long weekends to Vermont a couple times a year. No one thought that was strange. But when I tell them I am going to WDW for the second time in a year, they don't get it. So, I just come here and read and post with people who DO u nderstand.

Generally when people ask me that, I usually counter with - Didn't you feel the magic while you were there? That usually makes them wander off wondering... How come I don't feel the magic?

(Also, they usually have kids and their WDW trip was not especially great, so let's just decide to pity them, they don't feel the magic.:earsboy:

Simba's Mom
07-01-2001, 11:14 PM
The one I thought was really funny was when another teacher asked me, like I was being totally wierd, "What are you going to do there by yourself-Ride the rides?" to which I responded "Oh, yes! And I can't wait to ride Dumbo!" Boy, did that shut her up!
Sometimes my students will say, "What's with you and Disney? It's like you're addicted or something." And I always tell them "Some people smoke, drink, gamble, do drugs, watch pornography, etc. Since I don't do any of those things, I think my addiction is OK. " Since I deal with teenagers, a lot of whom are struggling with some of those less suitable addictions, it's a good opportunity.

07-02-2001, 02:46 PM
I finally told my MOm I was going to WDW alone...her response.."don't you want to share it with someone you love (meaning DH)" I told her No I want to explore WDW for the first time on my own..at my own pace....I still don't think she get's it.:rolleyes:

07-04-2001, 01:32 AM
i'm all ranted out on this topic, so short reply.

basically, i don't bother telling anti-Disney people (very common in the unforgiving city of NY) where i'm going. it's none of their business, esp if they're gonna give me crap about where i choose to vacation.
:p sometimes i mention i'm going to florida. i saw someone (a fellow NYer) post that they tell people they're going to Reedy Creek, a small town in central florida with only one "main street". hehe. silly.

anyway, yeah Disney is my addiction, and yeah hey it sure is a lot better than drugs or alcohol, etc. ;)

07-04-2001, 07:42 AM
I think most of my co-workers just don't get it. My DH and I have our routines that make us happy. That includes going to a couple of Nascar races a year, going to Irish Fest in Milwaukee and doing something Disney every year. Since we bought into DVC this is even easier. This year we did the 7 day Disney cruise, a long weekend at Disneyland, and we'll be doing a long weekend at WDW.

My co-workers think I'm nuts, but as stated in a previous post, I don't question them about their lifestyle (going out to lunch every day, going out drinking 3-4 times a week, doing golf every weekend). They do what they want to have fun and so do we.

We aren't blessed with children but that doesn't mean we can't be kids ourselves and enjoy Disney! In fact there are times I wish they would make a child-free day at one of the parks. No I know it isn't going to happen but it sure would be nice!

07-04-2001, 02:03 PM
Everyone who knows me knows that I am a Disney nut! So they don't even ask me anymore!!!!

07-05-2001, 09:32 PM
My response is when they have to take the Mickey Mouse ears off my head and loosen my autograph book out of my cold, dead hands I will be too old.

They hardly ever ask again - I don't know why? lol

07-05-2001, 10:48 PM
ROTFLMAO!!! BetsyAnn, may I use that? That is one of the best that I've heard, and the best laugh I've had in a while. Thanks

07-06-2001, 11:54 AM
Of course you may use it Bob and anyone else! Just think humor works well!

07-06-2001, 10:23 PM
My fiance and I are planning our 2nd trip to wdw for this september for our honeymoon. When we went the first time in 1999 many people thought we were nuts because we dont' have kids....

And now many people are baffled why we are going to WDW for our honeymoon, they've asked me why dont' we just wait until we have kids to go to WDW and go somewhere "romantic" like Mexico or Jamaca for our honeymoon.

I told them you dont' have to have kids or be a kid to enjoy WDW. And that we had such a great time last time we cant' think of anywhere better to go for our honeymoon.

Unfortunately people will always be nosy and there's not much you can do abotu it!

07-07-2001, 06:58 PM
When People say: Again? I say YES! Why? My answer: Why do the stars go on shining......!

Disney Doll
07-10-2001, 10:42 PM
I just tell people that the reason I continue to go back is because they do whatever they have to do to make me happy, and I don't get any attitude. I get enough attitude living my daily life, and don't want it on vacation!!!!!!!

07-13-2001, 11:26 AM
I live in Orlando so I can visit Disney anytime to see my three favorite mountains...Space Mountain, Splash Mountain, & Thunder Mountain!JohnCombsWebPage (http://www.geocities.com/johncombs2000/mypage.html) :pinkbounc :pinkbounc

07-13-2001, 11:26 AM
I live in Orlando so I can visit Disney anytime to see my three favorite mountains...Space Mountain, Splash Mountain, & Thunder Mountain!JohnCombsWebPage (http://www.geocities.com/johncombs2000/mypage.html) :pinkbounc

07-13-2001, 04:22 PM
Yes, I'm sorta sick of people asking me why I continue to go to WDW year after year. Example: "You're going to Disney AGAIN???? Haven't you had enough of that place yet??"

I really hate the fact that we (Disney fanatics) seem to have to explain why we enjoy Disney so much. There have probably been times when I've sounded almost apologetic :(

But, now that I'm planning my 14th trip, I just tell people that "I've been everywhere from Puerto Rico to Cancun. There's not a place in the world I'd rather go to more than Disney!"

Most people just roll their eyes :rolleyes:

I couldn't care less....I'm a Disney Fanatic and PROUD OF IT :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :) :) :)

Uncle Mikey
07-15-2001, 01:10 PM
I've gone to Disneyland annually with a group of friends and family every year since 1989. I've also gone with friends and family to WDW 3 times over the last decade. Inevitably I will get a question from a friend or co-worker of aren't you tired of going there? Now mind you these are the same people who will go to the same campground for a week every year. They just don't get it. I've given up trying to explain it. I've only gone to Disneyland solo one time (had an extra day after a conference) and never solo to WDW. After reading some of these posts, I'm motivated to try it sometime soon. Next year is the big 50 for me. I will definitely be going to WDW with friends and family. Now I might splurge and schedule a solo trip as well. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

08-08-2001, 07:35 PM
My family, friends and co-workers are so used to me being a total Disney Nut that they do not even think twice about me going to WDW 3-4 times a year. Matter of fact I was just at WDW from 7/22-7/30 with my family & friends and now I am going back solo TOMORROW for 6 days to attend the big pin event. No one was even surprised that I was returning to WDW again only 9 days after I had just come home!! LOL!!!

08-09-2001, 12:16 AM
My standard response is: I've been to a bunch of different places on vacation (and continue to visit other locations), but every time I've gone to Disney World I've had a GREAT vacation -- from the moment I pull up at my resort to the moment I check out. I've never been to any other resort area where the vast majority of the employees are not only nice, but are some of the nicest people I've ever met. Why wouldn't I go back?

You think explaining your love for Disney is hard? Try having to constantly explain why you're a vegitarian:rolleyes:

08-10-2001, 12:09 AM
I choose my friends and acquaintances carefully, so I've rarely been asked to explain my love for WDW; it's not an issue in my social circle.

However, I am cognizant of the fact that there are millions of fools whose idea of a great vacation is lying on a beach drunk for a week, with plenty of "clubbing" (LOL) after sundown. The concept of a Disney vacation- or any other edifying activity- is beyond the ken of morons like this, and we should be glad of it. I'd hate to see them infect a place I love so much anyway.

Another faction deplores Disney's "hype" and "commercialism," decrying it as an "escapist vision" of a utopian world that never was and never will be.

I suppose they'd be more inclined to visit WDW if it was replete with drive-by shootings, crack houses and a nice red light district. ;)

In short, there are plenty of people out there who are either too stupid or too cynical (or, perhaps, both) to "get" Disney. That's great; it just leaves more room there for the rest of us!!

08-12-2001, 07:50 AM
I guess that I've been lucky and no one has really asked me face to face, why I go to WDW. I just like everything about Disney. Being at WDW makes me smile and I feel like a kid. WDW still has a "WOW" facter for me. I really don't know why. It just does.

Ray :)

TDC Nala
08-13-2001, 09:10 PM
My friends and my colleagues are all monstrously jealous and want to go along. I use my office computer's screensaver to count down the days...lately many people have been stopping by my desk to ask how many days are left before my trip.

The answer for today is 13 days left!

08-13-2001, 09:54 PM
I'm "visiting" over here trying to find pointers for when I do a quick weekend at US/IOA without DH and the kids. I think no matter what you situation is in going to WDW you will get those who question why you would go...again..with kids that age (too young too old). I have a dear friend that is convinced that any amusement park is not for kids. She had a fit when her ex took their son to SixFlags when he was about 7 or 8 ...."they just went for the adults, there is nothing for kids to do there". She has family that camps at FW for 2 weeks a yr and has offered to take her DS free of charge, or let her and her DS go with them and stay in their camper. She will not do it and has no interest in it. We on the otherhand love WDW and US/IOA. Its only been 4 months since we went to US/IOA and I am having major withdrawl.

08-15-2001, 10:37 PM
Our entire family makes fun of us every time we go - they can't understand that there's nowhere else we want to go. But it's true - we're not big beach people, so I can't imagine going to an island. We're not into history or sightseeing (gosh - I realize how shallow I sound) so WDW is the perfect place. And now that we have a new baby in the family, we're so excited to have him experience the magic with us!

08-16-2001, 09:13 AM
WE went to a lodge in the muskokas of ontario can. 3 nights cost us 1500.00 can with 2 meals . I will not do that again. We went to wdw in Jan ffor 9 nights and our son joined us for 4 nights and it cost us 4100. including flights. go figure.

08-19-2001, 11:28 PM
DH and I went for our 12th anniv. (we don't have kids) My family thought it was cute and fun. Now that we are planning a 2002 and 2003 trip, they think we are nuts!

When I first found these boards and showed them to DH, we had a BIG laugh over people who just go the WDW year after year..... What a difference one trip makes. I cannot think of a more romantic, fun place. We truely had the vacation of a lifetime.... I am almost afraid to go back.... I am afraid it won't be as FANTABLOUS as I remember.

Dreaming of Disney

Oct 2000
Nov 2002
Oct 2003

TDC Nala
08-20-2001, 01:59 PM
I like beaches for a weekend, but I get bored if I stay for a week. I love history and education, but I work in Washington DC, am there every weekday, and always get to take relatives around on the tour circuit. I am not married but all my friends are, so I need opportunities to travel alone. I also have a thing about Disney films and characters that goes back to when I was very small and my uncle gave my brother and I a full set of Disney soundtrack albums. (Now, my nephews get to see the films whenever they want...how times change.) WDW is a great place for me to get away from it all! It's large, interesting, varied and safe. It also doesn't cost huge amounts of money if you know how to budget and don't have to pay for a family. I am very lucky that I can now go as often as I want, and that I spent some time living in southern California and could visit Disneyland often. I would have LOVED to be able to do all that as a child, but better late than never, I always say. And I hardly ever end up going alone, because there's always a friend/family member or 2 who wants to come along and is thrilled to split the cost.