View Full Version : Help!! having a shoe squabble with my 16 yr DD

03-18-2004, 04:03 PM
Hoping you guys can shed some insight on my "stubborn" 16 "DD" regarding her selection of footwear that she's bringing.
Flip Flops, Flip Flops and more Flip Flops...:rolleyes: Mind you, some of them are alittle dressier than the others.... anyway, are those appropriate for dinner:confused: and also I'm trying to get through her "thick" head that these won't be the best for the parks, we're spending 5 days there after the cruise. I'm sure there are rides and attractions that she might have the problem of these falling off her feet....This is our 1st cruise, and 1st trip to the parks, so I'm alittle confused about this....Any suggestions, and I will make sure to sit her little butt down at this PC to read replies...
Again, thanks:Pinkbounc :bounce: :Pinkbounc :bounce:

03-18-2004, 04:11 PM
Just mandate what you want.

1 pair of sneakers
1 pair of mary janes or other dinner appropriate sandals

or, if you want to be the hero, pack her sneakers on your own, and when she complains about her sore, tired feet, pull them out and do the "I told you so" dance. :teeth:

See you in 2 weeks!

03-18-2004, 04:12 PM
Well i'm 14 so this may help. For the boat the flipflops will be fine. But for dinner that may not work. Try those shoes with the heels at the back (think they're called stiletoes sor something). Then for a the parks flipflops will work but just 1 nice pair of sneakers make walking more comfortable. That way if it is the the sun isn't beating down on your feet the whole time.

03-18-2004, 04:18 PM
I have a 12 yr.old DD who just looooves shoes- and often wants to wear shoes that I deem unacceptable- like another poster said, I think on the ship, flip flops would be fine, but for dinner she'll need something nicer-How if you allowed her to get a new pair of shoes just for the occasion? - I'm thinking a trip to Walmart or Payless for a cheepie pair- but a pair that you both could agree on?

In the parks I would bet she's gonna get tired feet-MAKE her pack her sneakers or some other pair of comfortable shoes/sandals that will be good walking shoes-


03-18-2004, 04:27 PM
Flip flops for the ship are great. A cute pair of sandals..yes, from payless or something like that would be great to go with her dinner outfits on the ship.

For the parks...ugh...I can't imagine walking all day in flip flops...very hard on your feet. If she doesn't want comfy sneakers..why not check out a pair of teva sandals for her..now, she would walk all day in them..with no problem..great arch support and they look cool. I have found them at sports authority and our local dillards department store.

03-18-2004, 04:29 PM
I have posted this pic before about our teens and their friends...but for those of you who have not seen it before...this is what a cabin with 4 teenage girls looks like regarding shoes!!!!

There are even more that are not in the shot...they are lined all the way across the back of the sofa....they each have their own suitcase and we told them whatever you pack, you carry!!!



03-18-2004, 05:22 PM
This is why god gave me only DSs!:D

03-18-2004, 05:31 PM
You NEED a good pair of tennis shoes (I love my Reeboks) for the parks.

Flip-flops are great for days at sea on the cruise and the beach, but you'll be so glad you have walking shoes if you take them.:D

(BTW, I love flip-flops, have numerous pairs, but they just are not comfy enough for five days at the parks.)

Hope this helps.:tongue:

Have a great time!

03-18-2004, 05:36 PM
Old Navy has flip flop high heels right now, and they're pretty nice looking. Check here (http://www.oldnavy.com/asp/Product.asp?wdid=200&wpid=240927) for a picture (and they're not expensive).

I think wearing flip flops at the parks is fine. I go almost every weekend and wear flip flops everytime (except when it's cold out). They prevent my feet from getting blisters.

Remember, this is a vacation...have fun!! :)

03-18-2004, 05:51 PM
:faint: I'm just sitting her with my mouth open. Speechless.
I agree. Glad I only have my DS. (My only problem with him would of course be convincing him that underwear and sox need to be changed on a semi-regular basis:rolleyes: )

03-18-2004, 05:59 PM
OK Chris- I can't believe I'm going to say this- but let her wear what she wants to as far as shoes are concerned. Just make sure she understands that you will NOT hear her complaints about her discomfort (whether it is physical or psychological discomfort- because she's embarrassed because she only has flip flops for formal night) If she wants new shoes because she is uncomfortable- she needs to make sure she has some money to buy them with- because your money is all accounted for. I've fought the battle before- it's not worth the fight as long as she understands the rules.... It's a relatively harmless way for her to learn what may be a hard lesson, on her own- let her do it.

(BUT, you can still be THE MOM and have a pair of her tennies packed just in case- and save her butt from what we all know is inevitable!)

03-18-2004, 06:53 PM
Originally posted by mmouse37
I have posted this pic before about our teens and their friends...but for those of you who have not seen it before...this is what a cabin with 4 teenage girls looks like regarding shoes!!!!

LOL! Too funny, mmouse!!! I hope this was for a 7 day cruise and not a 3 or 4 day!!!

03-18-2004, 07:49 PM
thankyou, thankyou and thankyou all again!!!I will make sure she reads all your posts....I'm still laughing over all of them:) and the picture of all the shoes in the teenagers room had me rolling, I just hope my guys are as neat as that!!

03-18-2004, 09:22 PM
OMG -- I could never imagine wearing flip-flops through the parks over 5 days!

I pack at least one good pair of running shoes but a pair of Tevas might be an acceptable compromise for park walking. I live and die in my Tevas on camping trips when I am walking all over the Catskills.

Dinner on the ship -- she's going to need some sort of shoe -- I would bet she could find some really cute shoes that are flip-floppyish strappy sandals but dressy at DSW Shoe Warehouse (there are several on LI)

Enjoy the trip :wave2:

03-18-2004, 10:08 PM
Originally posted by mmouse37
I have posted this pic before about our teens and their friends...but for those of you who have not seen it before...this is what a cabin with 4 teenage girls looks like regarding shoes!!!!

There are even more that are not in the shot...they are lined all the way across the back of the sofa....they each have their own suitcase and we told them whatever you pack, you carry!!!



I counted 22 pairs in that picture. The most I've ever brought on a cruise was 3 (sneaks, dress, and flip flops)

03-18-2004, 10:14 PM
I think you have to do some bargining. Let her bring an assortment of flip flops for the ship/ports/beach, etc. BUT, "real" shoes should be worn to dinner. Give her the option of wearing them to the parks, but tell her she must pack her tennies as a back up and NOT complain to anyone about hot/tired/sore feet.

I personally would find some TEVA sandals for the parks...VERY comfortable sandals.


03-18-2004, 11:45 PM
I personally couldn't handle wearing running shoes in the parks. Too hot on my feet but I wouldn't dare wear flip flops! If she has a good pair of sandals that would be better and wouldn't be as bad as full out shoes. My Nike sandals for 7 days straight even in the bad weather last time I was down. I love them!

03-19-2004, 07:52 AM
I teach high school -- trust me, flip-flops are ALL the teens are wearing these days. The cheerleaders even wear them with their uniforms, and it looks . . . odd. I was just thinking about it yesterday. When I was in high school, NO ONE would have worn those dollar-store plastic type flip-flops to school. We loved the Bass leather version of flip-flops, but plastic was very much OUT! How things change. Let's just be glad that the jelly-shoe thing is gone too.

I'd tell her that she MUST pack a pair of good tennis shoes along with all those flip-flops. Tell her she might not end up wearing them, but she would have them if she chooses. Don't harp on it too much -- she'll know they're there.

On the boat, flip-flops are acceptable during the day. I wouldn't suggest them for excursions because there's going to be more walking than she expects. As for evening, what do her dresses look like? If they're long (and with prom season coming up I know that long dresses are in style, so I'm guessing that your teen likes long), I wouldn't worry about the shoes. On the other hand, if her dresses are short, she needs something more appropriate. I would put my foot down about dinner; she can choose all day long, but for dinner it will be this pair.

03-19-2004, 09:10 AM
FWIW, I'm 35, and I wear my Old Navy flip-flops (although the thong part is nylon, not plastic) everytime we go to WDW (usually once a month.) I wear them all day, every day, and I'm usually carrying my 20+ pound DD in a sling most of the day, too. I have very wide feet, and sneakers are just too hot and confining for me.

I wore them the entire time on our cruise last summer, except for dinner, when I wore nicer shoes/sandals. I did see plenty of women and girls wearing fancier flip-flop type shoes with casual skirts at dinner, and it didn't seem that out of place to me, but we were on a 3-night cruise, which I believe is less formal.

03-19-2004, 09:17 AM
Just wait until she gets sunburnt on top of her foot wearing flip flops. My DD16 did and was misarable! If you wear flip flops don't forget to use sunscreen!!!

eye R.N.
03-19-2004, 09:43 AM
How did you get them to line them all up?:D We had the nightly shoe scramble in our room.

I think for folks who are A) do it regularly or B) walk long distances in flip flops or C) have a really good tan to the tops of their feet flip flops in the park are fine. Since no one in my family fits those catagories they need to take sneakers.

Only exception, if it looks like it's going to rain while we are in the parks than sandals are it. Love my Teva's. Nothing is makes my family grumpier than walking around in squissy water soaked sneakers.

03-19-2004, 09:51 AM
I have two teenage and one 9 yr old girl. I told them to bring whatever they wanted in shoes but they had to carry them. Okay so we have a formal shot with my two oldest in their Adidas soccer sandals, the gown covered their toes and no one was the wiser, except for my two that giggled through everything! My nine year old had a nice pair of higher heeled flip flops, and I have to admit that I had a pair of Candies flip flops with beads on them! Pack a pair of sneakers for the parks and then let her toes run wild in whatever she wants. They are only young once!
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03-19-2004, 09:52 AM
Oh yeah, I always coat myself head to toe with SPF 45. I have a very fair complexion. I live in FL, so it's an everyday thing for me. :sunny:

03-19-2004, 09:55 AM
I just had to laugh reading all the posts. I am a mother of 3 who has two pair of shoes she wears--flip flops and sneakers. Haven't worn heals since I stopped working 10 years go. I get very upset when my flip flops break. If they are the right kind of flip flops, they are the most comfortable shoes I think one could wear to walk around in. Your feet don't get sweaty, I can slip my feet out when I'm standing in line, and they get a nice tan. LOL!!! They have to be the really good, cloth straps kind of flip flops. Or leather sandal kind. The plastic will leave blisters. I was always the barefoot kind of person anyway. Plus if you have evern noticed, most flip flops mold quite nicely to the owner's feet.

The only problem I see is that some rides may not let her on with flip flops. I haven't been to Disney Parks since I was young, but I have been to many others such as Busch Gardens. I thought they always either stated a warning about loose garments or something.

Anyway, you may not be comfortable in flip flops---but she may.
I vote to let her wear what she wants. If it makes you more comfortable, ask her to just back a back-up pair of sneakers in case she needs them but you won't make her wear them. That way if they break or get lost, you won't waste time trying to buy a new pair.


03-19-2004, 10:13 AM
Now the million dollar question.....

Did the girls wear all those shoes???:teeth:

03-19-2004, 07:52 PM
Mom of four daughters here....DD #2 (16yr old) wore flip flops to every park last month! I warned her that I didn't want to hear it if her feet hurt, and she didn't complain at all and said she was comfortable! So if your daughter is used to flip flops, I vote to have peace & let her wear them!

However, she wore her dressy shoes on Triton's night, but she loves shoes, especially her "BCBG shoes" The last night, we ate at Animator's. She went in jean capri's & flip flops. I almost made her change but then thought I'd let it go. Our table was in the corner, by the kitchen so it wasn't very visable anyway.

I LOVED the photo of the shoes! But those must be the neatest 4 teenagers ever! Our cabin was embarrassingly messy at all times! And we had handicap rooms with plenty of space!

Now I HAVE wondered how in the world people dare dress themselves in the morning without daughters who say "MOTHER, You're NOT wearing THAT, are you?" My DH & I are so pathetic that we now have a hard time buying clothes without them...we've lost all sense of fashion, it seems!

Allie in Wonderland
03-20-2004, 07:58 AM
For the park I would bring 2 pairs of sneakers and 1 pair of sporty sandles (for the pool or to wear to the park if u have tough feet).

For the cruise I would bring a pair of good shoes for dinner (u can get right out of them when you leave the restaurant), some casual sandles for walking around the ship, and since you are a teen make sure you bring sneakers for the sporty activities like the Wild side (includes biking), Glow Jam, and 2 on 2.

03-20-2004, 09:30 AM
As far as lining up the shoes in the pic....the four teens girls had their own cabin and realized early on unless they were organized they would never find anything. They kept their shoes lines up nicely the whole week.

And for that million dollar question....yes...they did wear all of them and they even borrowed each others!!!!

Their room steward was funny....he could not believe how many pair of shoes the 4 of them had....he thought they were storing all the shoes for our group of 16!!!!


03-20-2004, 11:52 AM
OMG...this is too funny....

I, too, have a little "Imelda"...and little "Imelda" is brining another little "Imelda" with her on our next cruise.....I'm sure there won't be room for ANYTHING DH and I might bring....guess we'll have to go "clothesless and shoeless" to make room for their clothes and shoes....

Maybe DCL should think about renting storage space on the ships for pre-teens and teens clothes and shoes...................

::MinnieMo ::MickeyMo ::MinnieMo ::MinnieMo

03-20-2004, 12:45 PM
Hey all you female baby boomers...I can remember wearing platform shoes ALL the time in the 70's! That's all we wore and no tennis shoes. I grew up w/ 3 sisters but now have only 3 boys and they also like the shoes....the expensive boy tennis shoes! Anyway, I am the only female in my house and still have lots of shoes...BUT they are now comfortable (but fashionable)..I have learned over the years and they will too....when they're older and have corns or bunions from years of abuse....Age = Wisdom, right?

03-20-2004, 05:27 PM
Chris......my 14 yo DD id in this "flip flop" mode also. 35 degrees out and she has to wear them to school?!?!?!?!? My DD (11) took 11 pair of shoes for our 3 night land and 7 night Eastern sailing Last Nov. A little hint.......we packed ALL the shoes in a seperate suitcase. Me, I took a pair of nikes, a pair of deck shoes and my aqua socks....nothing else needed for me.