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Mom of Sleepy, Bashful and BabyDoc
03-04-2004, 06:33 PM
....just got off the phone with my twin sister who lives in Atlanta, Ga.. For background: She is a size 8, blonde, green eyed, simply adorable woman. She didn't really bloom until college (her own words). She always thought I was the pretty one and watched me go on date after date while she was at home(or the dorm room). But we were never jealous or anything of each other. We are VERY close and I call her my "womb"-mate!:) I have watched her grow into an incredible woman, and very attractive. Every time I see her, she looks like she just stepped out of a magazine (my and my mother's words :) ). I COULDN'T be more proud of her.

Anyway, she calls on the phone today, and we're talking and talking, updating each other on our lives this week, and toward the end of the conversation she says, "Pammy, I have to tell you. I'm so glad you are doing well on your weight loss, because (and then she starts to sob:( ) at Christmas when I saw you...Pammy, it scared me. We've already lost Daddy ( he died 4 years ago this May) and I don't want to be on this earth without you, too (crying harder). I will do anything for you that you want. I want to help you in any way I can. I pray for you all of the time and I just want you to be healthy again."

Well, you can just imagine how hard I was crying also! I told her that I know it must be frustrating for people who love us to see us struggling with our weight (my BIL has a weight problem also). But that praying for me was the best thing she could do for me, along with her encouragement. I was so touched, I can't even tell you.

It made me think. Our husbands, our mothers, sisters, brothers, close friends.......they might not say it a lot (probably because they are afraid to bring up "that subject" for fear of embarrassing us or making us feel bad), but THEY ARE REALLY PULLING FOR US! They really want us to succeed. And I don't think it is all about our looks, either. I think that when we are severely overweight (which I am), they are genuinely concerned about our lives.....our health........and if we will be here in a couple of years!

Sorry for being so gabby, but I just got a glimpse of how much my DSis loves me and how much she wants me to succeed.

I know in today's psychology, it is common to hear,"Do it for you, do it for yourself". And to a certain extent, that is true. I want to be thin and healthy more than ANYONE! BUT, I know that I am doing this for my twin, my husband, my children, my mother because let me tell you.... when I am at a healthy weight again, THEY ARE GOING TO BE THE FIRST ONES TO CELEBRATE WITH ME.....and I CAN'T WAIT!::yes::

WebmasterKathy
03-04-2004, 07:57 PM
oh, great...

Your sister made me cry, too!!!

That is the sweetest thing. She loves you so much. And you're so right- I think our loved ones are often very reluctant to bring up the subject of our weight or health for fear of hurting or embarrassing us.

But it sounds like now she sees how successful and strong you are, and knows that she can share her feelings with you without fear! That's a tremendous compliment to the strength of your relationship, and her love for you.

Robinrs
03-04-2004, 08:03 PM
Believe me, I know where she is.

When I lost my Dad last year, the new matriarch of the family was my Aunt Jeannette. She is our queen, the strongest member of the family.

She also has cancer and diabetes...

She went on the South Beach diet and reduced her sugar to the point that she is now off her medication. She finished chemo last year and is now cancer free.

I know how important diet is to our health and your sister, knowing how painful it is to walk away from the grave of someone you love, wants whatever it takes to keep you HERE.

God bless you, honey. That is LOVE.

Robinrs

ohMom
03-05-2004, 07:47 AM
oh my gracious -- you are have brought tears to my eyes

you are so right, we are blessed immensely with family and friends who love us, and in some ways its our responsibility to be as healthy as possible to honor that love and be able to give it back.

helenk
03-05-2004, 08:16 AM
I am sitting here at my desk at work with tears running down my face...my co-workers must think I've lost it.
But I know what you mean, out of 5 children I am the only one with a weight problem, all my siblings are taller than me and they are thin. My mother has weighed 108 all her life, so it gets hard sometimes. I am glad that they were not critical of me when I was at my highest weight, and have been supportive of my weight loss.

Cheryl N. WI
03-05-2004, 12:18 PM
Oh Pam here a great big:hug: ! You brought tears to my eyes and you are so right! We do need to do this for ourselves but also so that we can live long healthy lies with our loved ones. I lost both my parents to cancer and both DH's parents have died also so our DD has no grandparents and she sometimes out of the blue will say, "Please don't die before I'm grown Mom!" and I tell her that's why I'm trying to eat better and to exercise. I want to be here to not only see her grow up but also to watch her children grow up, and be healthy at that.

Cheryl:hug:

Beth E. (NJ)
03-05-2004, 01:29 PM
How wonderful to have such support. Your sister sounds like a sweetie!

Keep up the good work! {{{{hugs}}}} to you.

perfectmatch300
03-05-2004, 03:54 PM
:grouphug:

OK, tears in my eyes, too! I think it's great that your DS was able to share that way with you. I also agree that while I'm losing weight for myself, it is partly because of my wonderful DH as well. We have a great life together & I want to be healthy enough to be a good wife to him.
Thank you so much for sharing your conversation with your DS with us.

luvmy2sams
03-05-2004, 07:22 PM
:grouphug: Amen, sister! You hit the nail right on the head with this post. Thanks for helping me wash my eyes out!

nativetxn
03-06-2004, 02:22 PM
I'm all "puddled up" now. What a loving and caring sister you have.

Excellent reminder. Thanks for posting this :)

AKASnowWhite
03-06-2004, 02:30 PM
I am totally teary right now! That is such a beautiful thing! Thanks for reminding us of all just how important our good health is!

JulieK
03-06-2004, 03:02 PM
Awww, that was so sweet!! Thank you so much for sharing that precious moment with us.:hug: