What's the worst thing someone has said, and you can't wait to remind them of?

[Camping Griswalds]

Here's mine...

There is picture of a young woman on my refrigerator. She's just sitting in a chair with a short blue dress on, legs crossed and looking directly at the camera. A small party of friends were over and one guy friend pulled the picture off of the refrigerator, whistled and said, " Who is this hottie?"

It was me.

He didn't believe it.


He will.

[PAdisMOM]

My step mother saw my senior class picture on the wall at my grandmother's house and asked "Who is that?" I said "It's me!". I was only 25 at the time so it wasn't age. I couldn't believe that I was unrecognizable.

[CamColt]

Well, I cant remind this person of it now, and I have changed a lot since then, but a couple days after my 2nd DS was born, I was in CVS and the cashier asked me if I was expecting. I left the store in tears. :rolleyes:

[nativetxn]

Awww, CamColt. {{{HUGS}}}

I don't have any real comments I would like to make someone eat but if I had a nickle for everytime I've been told, "but you have such a pretty face." Yes, I do. Thank you very much. Fat or thin, I have a pretty face, so there!

[nativetxn]

Okay, that sounded conceited, didn't it? I'm not going to edit, though. I'm <b>not</b> ;)

[WebmasterKathy]

I'm glad you didn't edit, Kath. Yes, you do indeed have a pretty face.

And it goes quite well with the rest of you. :D

[Camping Griswalds]

I get the pretty face comment too. You don't sound concieted at all...after all pretty is as pretty does right?!?! I still think the face is prettier with out the double chin. I once over heard someone say, "So she's another fat chick with a pretty face so what?" He was talking about my mom at the time, but boy have I remembered that. Lots of us just never felt pretty. At least that's how I felt anyway. Now though I look in the mirror and see good things...face and all.

[JustMe28]

Nativetxn, LOL, I love yours, excellent!

It's so hurtful when people are so mindless. I can't get back at the person, but one time while I walked back to my vehicle, these 2 teenage-looking boys were sitting at theirs and they actually "moo'd" at me. At the time, I didn't want to cry, I wanted to go slap the crap out of them. But, as I drove home, it did hurt me badly & I guess it has stuck with me because I am typing it now.

[disykat]

An aquaintance was at my home looking at a wedding photo (on my mantle) with a bride and a man in a tux who was obviously my husband standing with their arms around each other. She said "Is this your sister?"

[marydmjj]

CamColt: I had the same thing happen to me except it was 10 months after my ds was born...and it was at my dear mil's wake.

[kestral]

A lot of these stories sure ring true, don't they?

But they seem to be the kind of things when the person saying it was not talking out if spite. So I don't know if y'all want to remind them of what they said.

My case I don't even know the person. It was years ago. I had actually lost quite a bit of weight, but it was starting to creep back on. The person was new to me - did not know me heavier or skinnier. It was one of those "when are you expecting" comments. It was particularly painful because DH and were dealing with fertility issues at the time (we're at the point now where we are loving our nieces and and our cat)

Funny thing, it did not motivate me to lose - rather to keep eating.

Now I am motivated for me!
::yes::

Kes

[nativetxn]

Now I am motivated for me!

<b>Excellent!</b> That attitude is going to see you through to goal, too.

[disnygoof]

In middle school, a nasty kid on my bus (who was VERY overweight himself, even more than I was) had a name for me. Instead of calling me Christiana he nicknamed me "Porkiana" It made me cry when I got home every day. Kids are cruel.

But when I get to goal, I'm going to visit him and kick the crap out of him using my new Tae Bo moves!!

Christiana

[rbuzzotta]

One Christmas my MIL bought a sweatshirt for both me and her daughter. She gave me the large and her DD the small. I weighed (and still do) about 40 lbs. less then her DD!!!!

I asked if it was a mistake and she replied No, that I was a large and her DD a small!!! (I could wear the large now though!!!)LOL!!

[wiskband]

FOr me.........I will never forget.It was my best frined who has never had weight issues. We went to a water park and I didnt bring a bathing suit cause I didnt plan on putting it on. I figured Id wing it all day. Anyway when i got there I realized that my shirt and shorts wasnt working and I wanted to join in the fun with the kids. I bought a tank top (which I never ever wear, even when I was thin) so I was feeling funny as it was. So my best frineds makes a comment along the lines of me looking like a truck driver!!!!!! PLease know that her and I have been frineds for so long....I know this comment wasnt her way of being mean. We just have this relationship where anything goes and just to get a laugh we say it! Anyway she prob. forgot she said this but I sure haven't, and I plan on reminding her of it 50 pounds from now!:tongue:

[JenEeyore]

It is funny because I've had plenty of off handed comments in life since I have been heavy for most of it, but what I find interesting is the comments you get once you get down toward goal. When I lost 50 lbs a few years ago, I heard all about how pretty I had gotten to be and nice I looked, but in my head it made me wonder what they thought of me before I lost the weight. Kind of a double-edged compliment...

I am working on getting back to that state after being PG (and hugely PG at that) and trying to get the "baby weight" off now that DS is 19 mo old. I try not to hold grudges though, I don't think people really think about what they say before they say it, they don't mean to sound so malicious. I've had people comment on my old pictures of thinness and tell me how good I looked then too.

Take everything with a grain of salt and don't take things personally is how I try to look at it. Even if people are mean on purpose, those are the ones that don't know you for you - the whole person, and they don't matter anyway.

[Camping Griswalds]

I started this post thinking it might be a bonding experience to hear what others had to say. I agree that most of us might never have the chance or guts or brashness to remind people of what they said that was hurtful, but its kind of cool to air out those hurtful statements.

I have started getting some comments on my weight loss which are nice, but have definately gotton ones like today, "maureen your butt dosen't look so big anymore."' Gee..thanks.

My other favorite comment people seem to give but is not related to weight is, "Your hair looks good today, what did you do different?"

I tell you I might have offended someone by accident in my life time, but I know I make a real effort not to give backwards compliments. (where really all you end up thinking and hearing is the negative point) If your butt looks small just say that, if your hair looks good just say that!!

By the way all of you I'm sure have small butts and nice hair:tongue: :rotfl: :p

[CDoobee]

I've gotten the "when are you due?" question a few times in the past from strangers. :rolleyes: I acted like I didn't realize it was because I had a big belly and turned it into a compliment by answering something like, "Wow, thanks! I can't believe I look young enough for someone to think I could be pregnant!":rotfl: :rotfl:

Debbie

[geetey]

Originally posted by Camping Griswalds
My other favorite comment people seem to give but is not related to weight is, "Your hair looks good today, what did you do different?"

Oh dear! I have gotten that one before!! I always say... Oh thanks! I washed it. http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/family/devila.gif :p

[Dimplenose]

I've had weight problems for years. When I was about 18 I was cycling near home when two boys yelled at me "You need two saddles with a bum that size!" I could have died and cycled off as fast as I could.

The sad thing is that all of us have remembered these comments, some like me for years. The people who made them won't even remember making them.

Libby