View Full Version : Remembering a dear friend, Sylvia..(sound) **Update 6/9 Pg 4**

Dan Murphy
06-07-2003, 03:57 AM
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<p><b>Another year has passed, two now, since our dear friend, Sylvia, went Home.&nbsp;&nbsp;</b></p>
<p><b>Many here on the DIS know of Sylvia, aka NicksMom, our DIS friend who passed
away 2 years ago.&nbsp; Sylvia died June 7th, 2001, from inflammatory breast cancer <a href="http://www.ibcresearch.org/"><i>(IBC)</i></a><i>,
(<a href="http://www.ibcmemorial.org/">and others</a>)</i> a very virulent form of this scourge of a disease.
Some of the newer members of the DIS/CB may not
recall Sylvia, having come to the DIS and/or the Community Board recently.<br>
Last year, at this time, I said.......</b>
<p><i><b>&quot;I personally never met Sylvia, or any of her family, but I did get to know her a
bit over the limited number of months she did share her glow, smiles, resolve
and hope with us all. She lived life to the fullest, she prayed for a miracle,
as we did with her, till her last breath. Sylvia was a daughter, a mom, a lover,
a fighter. She loved her son, Nick, her mom, Margarete, her partner, Dan, she
loved life.<br>
Sylvia is with us today, I firmly believe so. I miss you dearly, Sylvia, a true
friend you became over those months. I look forward to the day we meet in
person. Until then, care for Nick, your mom, us. We love you.&quot;&nbsp;</b></i>
<p><b>These first several pictures are from the time Sylvia was sick, but you can always see her
smile.&nbsp; She ALWAYS smiled, ALWAYS.&nbsp; Dan wanted these shared with all
of us.&nbsp; I have posted all these pictures before, and thought some of them
would be nice to share again.</b></p>
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/syl1.jpg" width="417" height="600">
<p><b>This was taken on Sylvia's last birthday, January, 2001, just 5 months prior to her death.</b></p>
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/syl2.jpg" width="650" height="449"></b></p>
<p><b> Christmas, 2000.&nbsp; Left to right, Dan's step
Marie, a friend from Hamilton, Dan's brother, Mark, his fiancée, Melody, Dan,<br>
Sylvia. (Sylvia was wearing a wig here)&nbsp;&nbsp;
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/syl3.jpg" width="650" height="448"></b></p>
<p><b>This was just shortly after Sylvia's first chemo treatments in '98 and the first time
of her hair loss.
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/syl4.jpg" width="414" height="600">
<p><b>Taken about 1 year after diagnosis with Dan.</b></p>
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/syl5.jpg" width="650" height="444"></b></p>
<b>Same as the above picture.&nbsp; When Sylvia was going to lose her hair,<br>
she had Dan 'buzz' it off ahead of time.&nbsp; She went out later that day, and<br>
when she returned, Dan had done the same to his hair, a symbol of his rock-solid<br>
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/syl6.jpg" width="441" height="600"></b></p>
<p><b>This is Christmas of '98, with Nick.&nbsp; Sylvia felt comfortable with<br>
her baldness, a necessary side effect of getting well she said.</b></p>
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/syl7.jpg" width="650" height="490"></b></p>
<p><b>The day Dan gave Sylvia her buzz, in anticipation of losing her hair.</b></p>
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/syl8.jpg" width="419" height="600"></b></p>
<p><b>And here with Nick and Dan.</b></p>
<p><b>What a strong lady!!!!&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Anyone see a frown?&nbsp; Always<br>
smiling, that was Sylvia.</b></p>

<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/2aa.jpg" width="590" height="487"></b></p>
<p><b>And here, these several pictures, in healthier days.&nbsp; This picture is of Sylvia, Nick and Dan's DD, Emma.</b></p>
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/2aaa.jpg" width="323" height="487"></b></p>
<p><b>What a great picture of a great lady!!!!&nbsp; This picture was taken
about 6 months before she was diagnosed with breast cancer.&nbsp;</b></p>
<p><b>Sylvia loved the outdoors and animals.&nbsp; She was especially fond of
<p><b><img src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/sylvia/2bb.jpg" width="650" height="480"></b></p>
<p><b>This one also was taken shortly before she was diagnosed, a great picture of Sylvia and little Nick.</b></p>
<p><b><img alt src="http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/disstuff3/nickdogs.jpg" border="0" width="209" height="288"></b></p>
<p><b>This one, taken when Nick was about 2 or 3, along with their Huskies.</b></p>
<p><b>And here, a current picture of Nick, one which Margarete shared with me to
post here on the DIS several months ago.</b></p>
<p><b><img src="http://www.dmurphydis.com/DISmisc/Nick2002.jpg" width="178" height="242"></b></p>
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<pre><b>If I should stay
I would only be in your way.
So I'll go but I know
I'll think of you
Every step of the way.

And I will always love you.
I will always love you.
You my darling you, mmm ...

Bittersweet memories,
That is all I'm taking with me.
So goodbye, please don't cry.
We both know I'm not what you, you need.

And I will always love you.
I will always love you.

I hope life treats you kind
And I hope you have
All you've dreamed of.
And I wish for you joy
And happiness.
But above all this, I wish you love.

And I will always love you.
I will always love you. (4x)
I, I will always love you.
You, darling I love you.
I'll always, I'll always love you.</b></pre>
<pre><b>Love you, Syl.</b></pre>
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06-07-2003, 04:11 AM
HUGE tissue alert!!!

06-07-2003, 04:26 AM
Thank you Dan, for this beautiful tribute for a beautiful person FROM another beautiful person.

I personally never met Sylvia, or any of her family, but I did get to know her a
bit over the limited number of months she did share her glow, smiles, resolve
and hope with us all. She lived life to the fullest, she prayed for a miracle,
as we did with her, till her last breath. Sylvia was a daughter, a mom, a lover,
a fighter. She loved her son, Nick, her mom, Margarete, her partner, Dan, she
loved life.

So eloquently put, Dan.

I am now fighting back sobs,but smiling with Sylvia and that great smile of hers. She was and is an Angel.

So glad to see a current picture of Nick.
My, He's grown,and with his Mom's great smile,too.
Thank you , Margarete for sharing it with us.

Dan, Sending ((((hugs))) to you my friend this early morn.

06-07-2003, 04:51 AM
Dan, you are the best. Thank you so much for that moving tribute to Sylvia. I remember so many of these pictures and it was nice to look back once again and remember this remarkable woman.

Disney Dee
06-07-2003, 07:22 AM
That was beautiful Dan, thanks!

06-07-2003, 08:04 AM
Amazing how someone most of us have never met keeps touching our lives and hearts. I will never forget Sylvia & the brief encounters I had with her trying to reach out & touch her as she touched me.
God Bless her son Nick.
Thanks Dan. You're the best.
HUGE tissue alert is right.

06-07-2003, 08:06 AM
Thank you Dan.

What a beautiful and moving tribute. My how Nick has grown!

That you so much for sharing this with us.


Kitty 34
06-07-2003, 08:11 AM
Beautiful but incredibly sad.:(

Thanks Dan

06-07-2003, 08:15 AM
Dan thank you so much for the beautiful tribute. It is so hard to believe that it has already been two years. I love the picture of Nick. He is becoming such a nice looking young man.

Dan thank you for helping us to remember such a wonderful woman.

06-07-2003, 08:28 AM
I still remember that sad day 2 years ago as if it were yesterday. One of those "you know it is coming but are never truly prepared". :(

Thank you Dan for sharing our Sylvia with those who were not as fortunate to know her as we were. And so nice to see Nick. What a good looking young man.

A beautiful tribute to a beautiful person.

06-07-2003, 08:36 AM
Wow Dan. That was truly beautiful.
It's hard to believe it's been 2 years already.
Sylvia will always be remembered here.

06-07-2003, 08:43 AM
What a wonderful tribute.

May God Bless her always and you for remembering so eloquently.

06-07-2003, 08:52 AM
Lovely tribute, Dan.

Such a beautiful person she was. May we always keep her memory alive.

06-07-2003, 08:57 AM
As I told her when all this was going on. I can only hope that I have 1/2 as much class and strength to deal with things the way she did.
thank you Dan, she was truly a wonderful person.

06-07-2003, 08:59 AM
Ahhh, Dan...... I knew that you would remember our girl!:D

That photo of Sylvia in the boat, doing what she loved, fishing, is my favorite (along with the one of her and Nick cuddling) - I have both of them on my computer.

Yes, I am sitting here typing with tears streaming down my face - but through the mist, I am also smiling and hearing Sylvia say,
"I'm an otter, Pam and you are a LOON!"

06-07-2003, 09:20 AM
An absolutely beautiful and moving tribute Dan.

06-07-2003, 09:22 AM
Thank you, Dan, for such a beautiful tribute to an incredible woman.

Patrick IL.
06-07-2003, 09:35 AM
I too rememeber Dan :( Thank you so much for again putting this together for all the Disers and Sylvia.

06-07-2003, 10:30 AM
What a beautiful tribute Dan.... thank you.

06-07-2003, 10:35 AM
Thank you Dan.

06-07-2003, 10:49 AM
I'm fighting back my tears since I only came onboard last Novemeber.Beatuiful tribute

06-07-2003, 10:49 AM
I wasn't when Sylvia was. She sounds like such a great lady. Thanks Dan for giving those that weren't here a chance to get to know her.

Now who has the tissue box?

06-07-2003, 10:51 AM
Well, I have so much to do today and I thought I would just log onto the DIS for a minute! Now I'm sitting here with tears! What a beautiful tribute to Sylvia, Dan!


06-07-2003, 11:05 AM
Thank you Dan, that was beautiful

06-07-2003, 11:13 AM
Thanks Dan...

I am now going to have to explain to my husband why I look like a puffy-eyed mess so early in the morning.

I remember the day I saw THE post, I was at work and tried to hide my face from my boss when he came in.

This just happened again three weeks ago. Not to hijack this thread but my friend and co-worker passed the same way. Sadly her little Miles is only seven months old.

I was only about an hour away from Sylvia and I thought about going to the hospital but I was afraid I would intrude on a very personal situation. I didn't go... I regret it to this day, very much on this day.

All I can say is if this happens to someone in your life GO GO GO!

My friends name was Susan Westmoreland. I am smiling now because through my association with them both I hope they can meet and hug and watch their little boys together.

06-07-2003, 11:22 AM
Thank you Dan. What a lovely tribute to Sylvia. I remember her well and think of her often.....

06-07-2003, 12:24 PM
A beautiful remembrance, Dan. So sad. :(

06-07-2003, 02:16 PM
Thank you for putting this tribute together Dan. I knew the anniversary of her death was approaching.

Let this be a gentle reminder to us all that life is so precious, and so fragile.

06-07-2003, 02:17 PM
Remembering.................with sadness, tears and a little joy for having 'known' Sylvia here on the DIS..................

06-07-2003, 03:06 PM
Thank you Dan for reminding us of what the DIS can do. Friendships found here are very special. I remember Sylvia and all her kindness.


Mary Jo
06-07-2003, 04:13 PM
<font color=navy>What a touching tribute.

I remember crying for days here on the DIS, and sharing our sadness together.

Thanks for sharing, Dan, and for the updated pic of Nick.

06-07-2003, 04:58 PM
A beautiful tribute Dan. Thanks for sharing the photos's. Nick is such a handsome boy with his Mom's great smile.

Big V
06-07-2003, 05:17 PM
A very moving tribute Dan. Thanks for posting. I'll always remember Sylvia.:(

06-07-2003, 05:27 PM
What a touching tribute!!!
Nick is such a good-looking boy. Thanks for sharing, Dan!!

06-07-2003, 05:33 PM
:( What a beautiful tribute to a beautful woman (inside and out). Thank you for posting this Dan. I hope Nick and family are doing well. God Bless them. :(

06-07-2003, 06:17 PM
Nice Dan...

06-07-2003, 07:17 PM
{{{Hugs}}} to you, and everyone else on this thread.......especially Dan. Faith.

06-07-2003, 07:54 PM
ThanK You Dan.......

wow......i'm just speechless right now........

06-07-2003, 08:02 PM
thank you Dan

06-07-2003, 09:01 PM
Thank you for being such a caring man, Dan. What a moving tribute.

06-08-2003, 11:52 AM

06-08-2003, 12:21 PM
i'm sorry to say that i didn't know Sylvia.... but through you, Dan, and CB'ers i have a little insight into the wonderful person she was.... thank you all, for sharing with me.

i gotta go find my hankie now....


06-08-2003, 07:07 PM
Thank you for this beautiful tribute, Dan. Sylvia's family remains in my prayers. I also pray for a cure for breast cancer, a terrible disease which robs us of so many dear people.

06-08-2003, 07:34 PM
Thank you Dan.

What a beautiful tribute.


06-08-2003, 09:34 PM
Thanks Dan.
It was really nice to also see an updated picture of Nick.. I hope he is doing well.

I too can't believe it's been 2 yrs and I see the date all the time as it's in my signature.
It's scary how fast time does pass..........


06-08-2003, 10:07 PM
I never had the opportunity to DIS with this truly remarkable lady but the flood of tears streaming down my face right now feels like I've just lost my best friend. Thank you for sharing her with me.

06-08-2003, 11:05 PM
:( Not much I can say, except I remember Sylvia too....

06-08-2003, 11:31 PM
I find myself just crying. I don't really know what to say.... just tears streaming down my face.:(

06-09-2003, 12:03 AM
Dan, you are such a good friend and so kind to keep this wonderful lady's memory so alive. As if we could ever really forget but now others know her too and that's a nice thing. Thanks so much. :)

#1 Disney Fan
06-09-2003, 12:40 AM
Thank you Dan for sharing this with us.

Sylvia is definitely remembered and thought of, as is her family, especially Nick.

06-09-2003, 10:13 AM
That is so nice Dan and thanks for going to all that work to post this. What a lovely rememberance of Sylvia.:D Nick looks like such a strong and handsome boy now. They grow up so fast don't they?

A very close friend of mine is going through her second bout with breast cancer (it's gone into her bones now)and it's so hard to see her suffer but she is one determined lady and I hope she'll keep up her inner strength the way Sylvia did.:sunny:

Thanks again Dan.:)

06-09-2003, 04:26 PM
Thanks Dan!!!! As I was beginning my day on Sat morning - around 4am - for the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer I said a small prayer and told Sylvia we needed a nice day (I told my mom that too) and they both produced an AWESOME day!!! The sun came out of the clouds just as they were getting ready to start Opening Ceremony at 6:30! It truly was great!!!!

06-09-2003, 06:48 PM
Thanks so much for that poignant tribute. Still remember Sylvia to this day.

Dan Murphy
06-09-2003, 10:20 PM
I tried to call Sylvia's mom, Margarete, on Saturday. I did get their answering machine. I recalled her earlier today (late afternoon) and was able to talk with both Margarete and her husband, Sylvia's stepdad, Larry. It was great to hear them both again. Margarete had been making a visit to the cemetary with grandson, Nick, when I called on Saturday.

She said Nick is doing well, doing great in school, living with his dad, Brad.

Some sad news to report however. Larry, Sylvia's stepdad, will be operated on this Friday for colorectal cancer. His doctors think it is in the early stages, hopefully not requiring chemo nor radiation followup, but a colostomy looks like it will be the result of this Friday's coming surgery. Larry seems to be accepting, knowing it could certainly be worse.

I told both him and Margarete, that he, along with her, would be in our collective DIS prayers and best wishes. Please keep them in your good thoughts and prayers.

And Cotye, so nice to see you here on this memorial thread for Sylvia. As far as I know, you were the only DIS'er who met Sylvia in person, in the hospital, not long before she passed. Thanks for stopping by to visit this great lady, both then, and now.


06-12-2003, 08:18 PM
Thank you Dan for keeping Sylvia's memory alive. I, like many other diser's, never had the opportunity to meet this wonderful person who touched so many of your lives. You have given us new guys the chance we never had in life to know Sylvia.

My prayers are with Larry for a successful sugury and a rapid recovery.