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poohbear luvs grumpy
10-22-2012, 02:13 PM
I know that we are not the only couple that chose to not drink but how do you handle it? I get a little tired of constently being asked if I would like a drink. I am accustomed to the strange looks I get when the drink is free and I refuse it but I do get tired of it.

jjones144
10-22-2012, 02:16 PM
It didn't seem to be a problem for us. They didn't come around too much at the pool, except the first day. We said we didn't drink the first night at dinner, and it was never asked again.

over50visits
10-22-2012, 02:17 PM
I know that we are not the only couple that chose to not drink but how do you handle it? I get a little tired of constently being asked if I would like a drink. I am accustomed to the strange looks I get when the drink is free and I refuse it but I do get tired of it.

We're not drinkers, and in many cruises have never ever had a problem. We always genuinely thank the person who offered, tell them we aren't drinkers, and they have always responded nicely. As always, treat them with respect (don't be mad they asked, appreciate their being there if you needed them) and you'll get it back.

Never been the slightest problem at all.

lanejudy
10-22-2012, 02:18 PM
Guess I'm not sure where you are coming from. We don't drink much alcohol, but rarely felt out-of-place. At meals, we order our preferred non-alcoholic drink and/or water. In a bar or lounge, I have no problem ordering a soda or something to sip. Around the pool, just said "no thanks." I certainly didn't feel pressured in any way.

3Mickeys
10-22-2012, 02:24 PM
My husband doesn't drink, but I do occasionally. Never had a problem with someone trying to sell us wine or a drink that would "make a sale" and when we declined they would smile and find out what we did want. Our table servers quickly discovered what my hubby tended towards and would ask if he wanted his iced tea, or lemonade or whatever.

I don't remember anyone offering us *free* drinks like the original post stated... I was obviously in the wrong place! :rotfl2:
Maybe you mean the servers at the sail away party or the specialty drinks... those are all $$ drinks you pay for and not free.

poohbear luvs grumpy
10-22-2012, 02:26 PM
We were always kind. Politely said no thatnks we don't drink. I respect they were doing their job. We never had a problem at dinner but, any time we were at the pool or at any activity we were asked often if we wanted a drink. I know we were asked more often than others because we didn't already have a drink but I was to the point that I would have bought a button that said NON-Drinker because we were, albeit kindly, asked every five minutes. I don't expect them to remember everyone's face but I was asked multiple times by the same CM's.

mmouse37
10-22-2012, 02:27 PM
You will be asked, by many different servers around the pool, in lounges, in the theatre pre show, in the dining room, etc.

It is not forced upon you but there are many different servers that service the same area so you may be asked more than once by a different server. We just politely say no thanks when we do not want a drink.

MJ

poohbear luvs grumpy
10-22-2012, 02:29 PM
The free drinks I was referring to was minimal and that was at a DVC meeting but we were given very questioned looks when we said no thank you.

3Mickeys
10-22-2012, 02:30 PM
We were always kind. Politely said no thatnks we don't drink. I respect they were doing their job. We never had a problem at dinner but, any time we were at the pool or at any activity we were asked often if we wanted a drink. I know we were asked more often than others because we didn't already have a drink but I was to the point that I would have bought a button that said NON-Drinker because we were, albeit kindly, asked every five minutes. I don't expect them to remember everyone's face but I was asked multiple times by the same CM's.

You don't have to order alcohol from the walking servers... my husband was always ordering soda in cans from the servers as he preferred that over the fountain stuff. As soon as you did want a server to come by... I'm sure there wouldn't be any!
: )

maria-fan-22
10-22-2012, 02:33 PM
I'm not 21 yet, but when I am with my parents, plenty of people ask if they would like something to drink. The servers on DCL were never forceful, they would take the no thank you, and generally would say have a nice day and walk away. Never much of an issue. pirate:

sissy_ib
10-22-2012, 02:42 PM
The only time I recall the servers asking quite a bit was during bingo, which was held in a bar. We were drinking so they did seam to come by every few minutes too see if we wanted a re-fill.

lsenquiz
10-22-2012, 02:44 PM
Maybe you could just order a virgin cuba libre??:rotfl2: (only Big Bang Theory fans will get this)

Melissa S
10-22-2012, 02:56 PM
I am not a big drinker either. We bring our own wine and beer to enjoy in our stateroom after DD falls asleep for the night. We found that on DCL they are not pushy at all. I think it's because they are so family friendly and it wouldn't be responsible for them to get parents drunk when they are looking after their kids. That being said we really didn't go to the bars late at night. When we get asked I thought of it more as the crew trying to provide excellent service and making sure people are being offered a drink. I have never been pressured to purchase, they just simply move on to the next adult. Usually by a couple days they realize we aren't big drinkers and stop asking us lol.

Handbag Lady
10-22-2012, 03:17 PM
Thank you. I always forget that not everyone likes or chooses to drink alcohol. We often will buy a bottle of wine for the table at dinner and offer to everyone. I will pay more attention this coming trip and see if anyone is a non-drinker and have the staff bring something fun and non-alcoholic if appropriate.

And I second what the other person said. Just because you are asked if you want a drink, it doesn't immediately imply alcoholic. They can bring cokes and waters and non-alcoholic drinks to you poolside.

3Mickeys
10-22-2012, 03:24 PM
Thank you. I always forget that not everyone likes or chooses to drink alcohol. We often will buy a bottle of wine for the table at dinner and offer to everyone. I will pay more attention this coming trip and see if anyone is a non-drinker and have the staff bring something fun and non-alcoholic if appropriate.

And I second what the other person said. Just because you are asked if you want a drink, it doesn't immediately imply alcoholic. They can bring cokes and waters and non-alcoholic drinks to you poolside.

Can I request to be at your table??
:rotfl:

My DH doesn't drink because it has negative reaction to his medications. A couple we are good friends with don't drink because of their religion. And another set of very good friends don't drink because one has addiction issues... the reasons go on and on. A smile and a no thank you very much is all that is needed. Your offer of wine is lovely, and to follow up with an offer of a non-alcoholic drink would be extra kind. Everyone is on VACATION... it could be worse.

GrumpyBelle
10-22-2012, 03:26 PM
Maybe you could just order a virgin cuba libre??:rotfl2: (only Big Bang Theory fans will get this)

:rotfl2:We do not drink, but often go this route. Never felt uncomfortable around those who do. If offered, we politely say no thanks.

Handbag Lady
10-22-2012, 03:31 PM
Can I request to be at your table??
:rotfl:

Yes, we only allow fun people, drinkers or not!!!!!!

Tiger926
10-22-2012, 03:53 PM
We don't drink either, but we weren't offered drinks that often.

We told our servers on the first night that we don't drink, and were never offered any for the remainder of the week, and the few times we were asked out on deck or Castaway Cay, we just politely said we don't drink.

It really wasn't a problem at all.

Tiger

Justacruiser
10-22-2012, 03:59 PM
They hit pretty hard the first day for the packages and offers to get beverages. After that it tends to die down. At the theater, they ask the first couple of days and after that we are left alone. But, i don't make eye contact either. It would really be a ruff job pushing beverages like that. They are just doing what is required of them.

At the shows or games, they put a napkin upside down if you don't want served. Carry your own napkin and put it out if it bothers you.


Don't let it get you worked up.

sayhello
10-22-2012, 04:30 PM
I'm sure it gets annoying after a while, but my feeling is, if the worst thing that happened to me is that I'm sitting by a pool, on a beautiful cruiseship, and I'm being asked too often if I want a drink: I'm doing pretty well! :thumbsup2

Sayhello

Itinkso
10-22-2012, 04:30 PM
Maybe you could just order a virgin cuba libre??:rotfl2: (only Big Bang Theory fans will get this)

With umbrella, of course! Love Sheldon!!

DisSarahK
10-22-2012, 05:05 PM
I don't drink alcohol and didn't experience any issues at all on our recent cruise. I said "no thank you" a handful of times and that was about it. I did stop my husband mid-order one time when he was asking for a Sprite from one of the roving servers because he had no clue that you pay extra for that service (duh, when they are asking for your KTTW card, you are handing over *money*!!)...glad I got there in time for that one! LOL! That was about it though.

Our servers were great about it though and never once pushed alcohol. It was pretty clear that I drank only water and my husband drank only Sprite.

Teri1
10-22-2012, 05:33 PM
I suggest letting your server at Palo or Remy know you don't drink alcohol. That is what we do.

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Gigi22
10-22-2012, 06:13 PM
On the other hand, I have always found DCL to be fairly restrained in the matter of pushing drinks, especially when compared to HAL--a more adult-oriented cruise line. The one exception would be on embarkation day, when there seems to be a general push to sell the various drink packages.

kcashner
10-22-2012, 06:29 PM
Never had a problem. In a bar, they will place a napkin on your table to indicate that you have been asked. You won't be disturbed by another server all night unless you flag one down.

When the drinks are free, you are welcome to ask if they have a virgin variety. We often ask for a soda at the Platinum/Gold reception.

On the pool deck, the napkin trick doesn't work--they blow away! So yes, you will be asked there. Just say "no thanks."

Disneyholic
10-22-2012, 09:54 PM
I don't remember anyone offering us *free* drinks like the original post stated... I was obviously in the wrong place! :rotfl2:
Maybe you mean the servers at the sail away party or the specialty drinks... those are all $$ drinks you pay for and not free.

On 7 night & longer cruises there are free drinks being served in the Atrium for Captain's night (semi-formal night). Servers are walking around with drinks on trays. Wines & some mixed drinks. You can choose from what they have, but not request anything special.

newbydisney
10-22-2012, 11:39 PM
They hit pretty hard the first day for the packages and offers to get beverages. After that it tends to die down. At the theater, they ask the first couple of days and after that we are left alone. But, i don't make eye contact either. It would really be a ruff job pushing beverages like that. They are just doing what is required of them.

At the shows or games, they put a napkin upside down if you don't want served. Carry your own napkin and put it out if it bothers you.


Don't let it get you worked up.


WOW I never even noticed any offers of drinks at the Theaters...but I must put out strong I don't drink vibes....I rarely get asked and have a heck of a time flagging anyone down for my at least once a cruise virgin Pina Colada...soo good with extra lime please!! We have had two occasions where the servers did not seem to get it... once at Castaway Key. My husband went to the bar very early in the day (when perhaps it would not be too surprising that someone would not want a drink yet) and ordered a Soda and a Virgin Pina Colada...I did not hear exactly what the server said to my husband but some wisecrack. I heard my husband say it's for my wife and then the server again made some comment about not getting me drunk or something...it was very inappropriate and I really felt like that server had honestly never served a non alcoholic drink at the Adult Beach and/or maybe he was new??? I am confident that at some point that server will figure out that not everyone drinks. We had another rather odd thing happen at Palo when they brought the lemoncello at the end of the meal..or is it between courses?..in any event they were rather insistent that we drink it...again that was their error...but those are the only two strange things that have happened to us anywhere on Disney property and we are there alot. We have often been seated with people who do not drink or at least do not choose to drink on the cruise either for health or budget reasons..it's interesting when you don't drink you realize many many people do not drink...so the servers are for the most part very understanding.

momof2minnies
10-23-2012, 05:04 AM
I have been on 3 dcl cruises- a 3day,a 5 day and a 7 day. Without a doubt the 7 day on the Magic was the worst- we started to feel like we were being harrassed they asked us so many times on the pool deck and above.


We are very easy going but it was constant and one right after the other. We had young teens with us at the time too.


I like am umbrella drink every now and then but it was too much.


Linda

mmouse37
10-23-2012, 06:43 AM
WOW I never even noticed any offers of drinks at the Theaters...but I must put out strong I don't drink vibes....I rarely get asked and have a heck of a time flagging anyone down for my at least once a cruise virgin Pina Colada...soo good with extra lime please!! We have had two occasions where the servers did not seem to get it... once at Castaway Key. My husband went to the bar very early in the day (when perhaps it would not be too surprising that someone would not want a drink yet) and ordered a Soda and a Virgin Pina Colada...I did not hear exactly what the server said to my husband but some wisecrack. I heard my husband say it's for my wife and then the server again made some comment about not getting me drunk or something...it was very inappropriate and I really felt like that server had honestly never served a non alcoholic drink at the Adult Beach and/or maybe he was new??? I am confident that at some point that server will figure out that not everyone drinks. We had another rather odd thing happen at Palo when they brought the lemoncello at the end of the meal..or is it between courses?..in any event they were rather insistent that we drink it...again that was their error...but those are the only two strange things that have happened to us anywhere on Disney property and we are there alot. We have often been seated with people who do not drink or at least do not choose to drink on the cruise either for health or budget reasons..it's interesting when you don't drink you realize many many people do not drink...so the servers are for the most part very understanding.

Sounds like the server at CC was just being friendly and I doubt they meant anything inappropriate by their comment. They serve non alcoholic drinks all the time...as you said....many people don't drink.

Our Palo server was very insistent that we try everything but not in a pushy way, he truly wanted us to get the whole "experience" of Palo by trying each course.

MJ

cruisecrasher
10-23-2012, 06:46 AM
I know that we are not the only couple that chose to not drink but how do you handle it? I get a little tired of constently being asked if I would like a drink. I am accustomed to the strange looks I get when the drink is free and I refuse it but I do get tired of it.

We don't either.
Wasn't an issue. And the kind lady on CC got our diet coke and Shirley temple without batting an eye.

ckay87
10-24-2012, 06:59 AM
I'm the opposite, I only drink water, coffee or alcohol. So I am forever having to turn down sodas, juices, etc. It has never occurred to me that I should be bothered by the offers. :confused3

It'sWDW4me
10-24-2012, 07:08 AM
I very rarely have a drink. When offered, I usually just say "no, thanks" with a smile. I don't notice any questioning looks. :confused3

jbuckent
10-24-2012, 09:56 AM
I'm curious, where are you all when drinks are being offered? We always have to go get our own. Is it because we have two small kids with us? I don't think I have ever had someone offer me a drink while at the Mickey pool, is it different at the other pools? At the shows we have started to make a habit of grabbing a drink as we walk in. Dinner is the only place they come to us but they also ask my kids, the servers are the same whether I ask for wine or water.

MrsDuck
10-24-2012, 10:15 AM
We don't drink. When people ask, I just say "no thanks".. if they ask why (rude!), I tell them the truth: I don't like the taste and for the calories in most drinks, I'd rather eat an extra slice of cake!

Fire14
10-24-2012, 10:19 AM
I occasionally will get a foo foo drink but I'm one of those who will walk butt to bar so I get a "fresh" one. I've only been asked once and that was in pomerade lounge and I was looking at booze menu.