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stitchlovestink
10-19-2012, 06:07 PM
and quite frankly I don't feel like going on this vacation at all right now....
I just had to put our dog down earlier today. We have had her for over 12 years, she was our only pet and our house is SO empty now...
My heart is so broken, I just don't feel like travelling or doing anything...
Frankly, I'd give up Disney & DCL to have my dog back as a healthy puppy again...
I'm afraid I'm going to ruin this cruise for the rest of my family because I just don't want to go anymore...I'm too sad. :sad1:

iloverags2
10-19-2012, 06:26 PM
I'm so sorry...it's so hard to lose a family member. Please know you are in my thoughts.

EDelashmit
10-19-2012, 06:28 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug:
I've been there and it hurts so bad. It's like losing a family member. It will get easier, I promise. It may not seem like it now, but each day it gets better. This poem made me cry a lot, but eventually it made me smile. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

http://rainbowsbridge.com/poem.htm

CowboyPrincess
10-19-2012, 06:29 PM
I went on my honeymoon two weeks after losing my grandfather and my cat, whom i loved as you did you dog. It was so very very hard to not think about them constantly, but in some ways it was also therapeutic to be away.

I am so very sorry for your lose and truly understand your pain. Only you know what is best for you... Sleep on it a few
Nights before making a decision.

Hugs to you and your family.

kcashner
10-19-2012, 10:44 PM
Sorry for your loss. It will get better with time, but it's hard to see that now.

OK, reality, there is no way you could ever have your pet back as a puppy. Nice thought, but it won't happen no matter how much you wish it.

You are so far into the penalty period that if you were to cancel now, you wouldn't get much back, and I don't think this is a situation that would be covered by travel insurance. Cry for now....but then enjoy the cruise. No, you won't be "up" all the time, but sometimes getting away is a good thing. I don't know who is included in your group, but if there are kids involved they will take their cues from you.

sgc1107
10-19-2012, 11:13 PM
Sorry for your loss!!

I lost me cat (she was like a dog, yep did it all but bark! lol) in may and I still have bad days but I keep reminding myself of the rainbow bridge! I won't promise it won't be on your mind but know you dog is playing happily waiting at that rainbow bridge for you!

I think you need the cruise! The more you sit around and think about it the sadder you will be. You need to get away and enjoy yourself. In a few weeks your feelings will gets easier to deal with and it will be a healthy time for you to get away. Good luck, ill be thinking of you!

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momof2minnies
10-20-2012, 05:29 AM
I am so sorry to hear about your dog- 12 years is a long time. Hugs to you and your family.


Linda

MickeyEarrings
10-20-2012, 05:36 AM
I totally understand how you feel; my 11 year old golden retriever is nearing the end of his journey as well.

And I know I'll be a mess for a while after I lose him, but mourning to the point that I can't find some joy in special activities isn't healthy, and I don't think he wants me to be that way.

No one else can tell you what to do, but maybe you should consider what your dog would do: they usually carry on. And they have fun doing it.

Good luck to you.

Ptwolfman
10-20-2012, 05:55 AM
So sorry for your great loss.

We lost our dachshund almost a year and a half ago. I'm still terribly heartbroken! He was 16 and we had him from the day he turned 6 weeks old. People say it gets easier with time but I still miss him so much!

We took a trip shortly after his passing and I cried every night. It definitely colored the trip. Everyone is different but I say if you decide to go, give yourself some alone time to grieve your loss. Your dog may want you to go on and be happy but understands that you are hurting

Hugs!!

magrudersmakes3
10-20-2012, 07:30 AM
I am so sorry for your loss and understand how you are feeling. There are no words of comfort right now that I can say, but please know that she has made her journey to the rainbow bridge and knew how much you loved her.

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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mdvlprof
10-20-2012, 09:29 AM
Sorry for your loss.

I think that you need this vacation. Being immersed in Disney might brighten your spirits a bit. You also need :grouphug:.

Momma2Jax
10-20-2012, 10:52 AM
I'm sorry :( I know that is very, very hard.


I have to agree with other posts, though. I think you will enjoy having a distraction (rather than sitting in the empty house) with lots of disney distractions. Plus I hate to think you would regret not going down the road. :(

stitchlovestink
10-20-2012, 02:10 PM
Thank you All very much for your kind words. Right now the pain is still so fresh I just can't think/deal with all of the things that need to be done to prepare for this vacation. Maybe in a week, I'll feel a bit differently. The issue is it takes me so much longer to prepare to travel because of my own health issues.
I just fear that I will be sad or teary and people will ask me what's wrong and then I will start crying! I am not one to cry in public. And I feel fairly confident I will be asked based on previous cruise experience...the staff is very attentive that way. Plus my Amber was a buff English Cocker Spaniel just like Lady. Isn't there a picture of Lady & Tramp in Animator's? I'd just DIE if my table was close to that picture and I had to sit there the whole meal!
I guess I'm going to have to go and try to make the best of it. But honestly I don't care about the money. It didn't even cost $1K for all three of us, so it's not like its a huge amount....I guess I can hide out in my cabin. I know it's bad because I love Palo and pin trading and I could care less about either one right now...
DD will be 17 at cruise time and she loves VIBE so she can go and enjoy that...
I don't sleep well so I can deliver my FE gifts in the middle of the night to avoid people....
Hopefully I won't turn this trip into a total disaster.


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carmie3377
10-20-2012, 04:28 PM
I am so very sorry about your loss :hug: I know how hard it is to lose a dog. We lost our beloved dachshund at the age of 10 and we had had him since the day he was born. His first night alive I slept next to him and his momma in our guest room. I was devastated when he died and couldn't keep myself from crying. But we adopted a new dog, another dachshund. It's been 4 years since we rescued each other and we have such a special relationship. I saved her and she saved me! We needed each other and that bond that we formed is so strong. I know it's not for everyone to get another pet. My sister's dog died about 8 years ago and she still can not get another dog. But for me, it is what I needed and in turn, I saved a life by adopting. I will NEVER forget my Roscoe. I still look at his pictures and tear up. But then I look at Cinder and think of all the love and joy she's brought to me and how she was a scared abandoned doggy before I came along. Perhaps rescuing a new dog when you return will help with the pain???

Again, I'm so sorry :-( It's never easy losing a furbaby.

EeyoreIsMyName
10-20-2012, 04:55 PM
I would like to express my sympathy on the passing of your family member. I felt the same way when I had to put my dog down 21 years ago. It is difficult to be excited or happy when you lose a loved one.:sad1::sad1::sad1:

Niebz
10-20-2012, 05:20 PM
First, I'm so very sorry for your loss. There's nothing worse than losing a family member. I went on a disney cruise a month after I lost my cat, my grandpa and my unborn baby (had a miscarriage) all within a week's time. It was the worst week of my life. I was so deep in my grief that I didn't know how to get out of bed in the morning but I forced myself to go on that vacation. I thought it would be terrible but it turned out to be everything I needed at the time. I wasn't happy the entire trip but I was able to smile and laugh again for the first time since my losses. It was so healing to be able to see the joy in life again. Don't put pressure on yourself to be happy the whole time but go with an open mind. It might be just what you need to smile and start feeling like yourself again. I truly hope you have an amazing trip and start feeling better soon.

pjstevens
10-20-2012, 07:51 PM
I so understand your pain. It was two months on the 6th for us and I still cry. There are some who just don't understand. Please know that when you get preoccupied with something else (the cruise in general) you will have moments when you aren't consumed with grief and pain. If you get seated at that table and it's too much to handle, I would just excuse yourself and get a bit to eat at Cabanas or room service. Hugs and prayers for you. Our 'furbabies' are our children, now that our children are grown. It's a real void when they are gone.

stitchlovestink
10-22-2012, 12:16 AM
First, I'm so very sorry for your loss. There's nothing worse than losing a family member. I went on a disney cruise a month after I lost my cat, my grandpa and my unborn baby (had a miscarriage) all within a week's time. It was the worst week of my life. I was so deep in my grief that I didn't know how to get out of bed in the morning but I forced myself to go on that vacation. I thought it would be terrible but it turned out to be everything I needed at the time. I wasn't happy the entire trip but I was able to smile and laugh again for the first time since my losses. It was so healing to be able to see the joy in life again. Don't put pressure on yourself to be happy the whole time but go with an open mind. It might be just what you need to smile and start feeling like yourself again. I truly hope you have an amazing trip and start feeling better soon.
Wow!! My delayed condolences to you! My loss seems so insignificant to what you went through!! I do realize that Amber was a dog and not a human being and that there is a difference. As much as I want to think of her as a 'person', she truly isn't. She was a member of our family, yes, but she wasn't a child. It still hurts deeply as she kept me company during the day when everyone else was gone. She loved me unconditionally. As hard as it has been to lose her I can't imagine what it will be like to lose a family member that I am close to. All the ones that have passed, I haven't been close to. I can't imagine what that is going to be like??? :(

I so understand your pain. It was two months on the 6th for us and I still cry. There are some who just don't understand. Please know that when you get preoccupied with something else (the cruise in general) you will have moments when you aren't consumed with grief and pain. If you get seated at that table and it's too much to handle, I would just excuse yourself and get a bit to eat at Cabanas or room service. Hugs and prayers for you. Our 'furbabies' are our children, now that our children are grown. It's a real void when they are gone.
I know, some people are very unsympathetic...they are like really?? It was just a dog. It's not like it was a person. And while I realize that, she was special to me (us). She was a part of our family for 12+ years. She was very therapeutic for me and for my health.

I am so very sorry about your loss :hug: I know how hard it is to lose a dog. We lost our beloved dachshund at the age of 10 and we had had him since the day he was born. His first night alive I slept next to him and his momma in our guest room. I was devastated when he died and couldn't keep myself from crying. But we adopted a new dog, another dachshund. It's been 4 years since we rescued each other and we have such a special relationship. I saved her and she saved me! We needed each other and that bond that we formed is so strong. I know it's not for everyone to get another pet. My sister's dog died about 8 years ago and she still can not get another dog. But for me, it is what I needed and in turn, I saved a life by adopting. I will NEVER forget my Roscoe. I still look at his pictures and tear up. But then I look at Cinder and think of all the love and joy she's brought to me and how she was a scared abandoned doggy before I came along. Perhaps rescuing a new dog when you return will help with the pain???

Again, I'm so sorry :-( It's never easy losing a furbaby.

DH and I have already been discussing this. I told him I can't be without a dog. My heart is too empty. Amber was adopted and it truly was a match made in Heaven...I found her in the paper FREE to a Good Home. How ironic that her original owner only lived one street over! We lived in the same community!! Other neighbors that I knew knew her original owners and told me all about her 'history' after they moved (across the US...that is why they were supposedly getting rid of her because they were moving into an apt and the husband said she couldn't go but I heard stories of alleged abuse by him)
But I really think this time around we might get a puppy. DD is begging for a puppy we have never had one and I do need to have a hypoallergenic one this time around as that was a bit of a problem with Amber but I dealt with it. And I want as long as possible with the next one too! ;) Amber was only 13 months old when we got her so she was still pretty young. DD wants to be able to raise this one and since she's old enough, I think it's a fair request. Now the issue is timing...

I'm trying to get myself in the frame of mind for this vacation. We leave for WDW in 9 days. I haven't done anything to get ready yet... Not even get the suitcases out. This is not good... I'm trying to change my frame of mind, but it's SO hard!!! :sad1:

Our Baby....Always in Our Hearts!!!
http://i256.photobucket.com/albums/hh172/stitchlovestink/th_Amberwearingmouseears_zps10031637.jpg

Niebz
10-22-2012, 12:52 AM
Wow!! My delayed condolences to you! My loss seems so insignificant to what you went through!! I do realize that Amber was a dog and not a human being and that there is a difference. As much as I want to think of her as a 'person', she truly isn't. She was a member of our family, yes, but she wasn't a child. It still hurts deeply as she kept me company during the day when everyone else was gone. She loved me unconditionally. As hard as it has been to lose her I can't imagine what it will be like to lose a family member that I am close to. All the ones that have passed, I haven't been close to. I can't imagine what that is going to be like??? :(

Thank-you so much for the condolences. It's been three years now so I've healed a lot since it happened. Also wanted to say that there's nothing insignificant about losing a family member - even a furry one. That unconditional love they give is unmatched. I still have very fond memories of the cruise I took and I hope yours will be equally healing. :hug: