kids can be so mean.....

[Kteacher]

i found out that my DD age 10 is being ostracized and called some really nasty names at school for choosing to sit with the latino kids at lunch. We live in a town that is supposed to be really liberal and supposedly embraces multiculturalism, but when I hear things like this it really gets me because these kids have to be learning bigotry somewhere. I've been very proud of the way DD is handling this-not sure if I could keep it together as well as she is after being called the "B" word by so many girls. i talked to the asst. principal and the guidance counseler, and they are planning on bringing an outside mediator in to talk to the girls-evidently it is a problem in 6th grade as well. It's so sad to think that in 2002 we really haven't come as far as we think we have:(

[doxdogy]

I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is being ostracized at school by the other kids. Obviously, your daughter is a kind and giving person and can look past a person's ethnic background. Give your daughter a big attagirl from me for sticking to her principle's and not allowing the so-called "in" crowd sway her in her feelings. It is obvious she is not being taught bigotry at home.

[helenabear]

That makes me so very sad to hear that the kids still act that way. I am glad that your DD is able to look beyond anything that is only skin deep. Such a shame others can't :(

[WillyJ]

All I can say is that your daughter has obviously been taught right, and just as obviously those other kids haven't. . .

You should be very proud of your daughter for not letting the hatred and prejudice of the other kids stop her from treating everyone the same no matter what their ethnic origin. . .and you should be commended for instilling that in her.

It's sad that it takes that kind of courage just to be a decent human some times, but unfortunately it does.

Please let us know how it goes with the school officials; and give your daughter a big hug from me. . :)

[Dan Murphy]

A sad commentary indeed, Kteacher. Your daughter sounds as if she is above the cutting remarks and has been instilled with good principles. A big {hug} for both of you. :sunny:

[Bob O]

Maybe you are finding out that liberals arent the open minded people that the press and their pr would lead one too beleive!!!! Actions speak much louder than words!!

[SonjaB]

Bob? Why do you think those kids parents are liberals????

[browneyes]

I'm sorry things are rough on your dd, Kteacher.:( I hope the mediator and the counselor help those girls to realize they're not being funny or nice. I bet you're very proud of your dd's ability to not pay much attention to the name callers.

[catsrule]

So sorry about your DD. Unfortunately, this stuff has always gone on in schools. I think they need to teach about tolerance and bullying in all schools.

[JohnTBap]

I am glad to see that they are taking this seriously at her school. Bullying is an awful problem that must be dealt with. {{{HUGS}}}

[Patricia]

I am amazed at how much of this goes on despite the years of teaching about tolerance and bigotry. I really believe that although most "say" they are accepting of all, when push comes to shove, their actions speak louder. This is certainly true of your daughter. She is setting the example and you should be proud. I was amazed recently at people's response to hearing that my daughter was considering a college that had a 15% minority poplulation. I didn't give it a thought, in fact, I didn't even know to look for this number... People were telling me that she wasn't going to like it there and their reasons were all about the # of minorities. I was so sad to hear their responses. I, too, thought we had come farther. Best of luck to you.

[paras4ri]

Originally posted by WillyJ
All I can say is that your daughter has obviously been taught right, and just as obviously those other kids haven't. . .

Well put...and my feelings exactly!!!

[Bob O]

The poster mentioned living in a 'supposedly liberal town" and if the state of the poster is correct that is a liberal area of the country where they expect that type of behavior in the so called "red neck south" but not in the "enlightened" area they live in.

[Kteacher]

BobO you are correct. unfortunately this isn't the first time I've encountered bigotry where I live. Makes me angry and sad at the same time.

[ByTheSea]

That is sad. Kids can be so mean and hurtful. You just want to raise them right, teach them to be respectful of others, and try your best to protect them from any type of hurt or insults, but there's really not a whole lot you can do sometimes, and it makes one feel so helpless... and sad.

and they are planning on bringing an outside mediator in to talk to the girls-evidently it is a problem in 6th grade as well


Hopefully some intervention will help so they don't grow up into mean and hurtful adults.... at what point is it too late? I have seen this type of behavior in 2nd and 3rd graders even, very sad.

[Saffron]

I'm so sorry your daughter is going through this. I agree with WillyJ. I've studied in a class were the bullying was so bad, they had to have the couselor from the school intervene with a mandatory crisis workshop for the kids every Friday. (6th grade)

I hope things workout quickly for your daughter. You are right. Kids can be so cruel. :(

[Maleficent2]

I really hate that this is happening to your DD and that you are stressed by this. You are one of the nicest people I know and I'm sure you daughter is the same.

oh and Bob there are RED NECKS all over this big country of ours not just here in the South. There are also elightened liberals that live down in Dixie.


Hope this situation is resolved ASAP.



Loads of Pixie dust to your family....

Mal

[Kteacher]

Thanks for all the kind words everyone-it really means a lot!

[Bob O]

Malificent2-I didnt mean to disrespect the people of the south!!! I was just using the liberal media who likes to downgrade the south and thinks everybody is a hick if not part of the beltway of Wash. D.C.

[kylara]

Kteacher,

Sounds like your daughter is very brave for her age. So glad that she feels comfortable enough to stand up to the bullies and go with what she thinks it right. I hope that things work out and that the mediators are able to help. And let your daughter know that there are a lot of us here that are glad to see that she just sees friendship not skin color or ethnicity.

[JulesMom]

It is very sad:(

But, be proud that you taught your daughter right!

[Boots]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you and to your DD

[Kitty 34]

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}} to your DD. {{{{HUGS}}} to you, too, Mom.:D

[jldriscoll]

Your daughter is quite a girl!!!

We live in a school district that has 0 tolerants for bullying or bigotry. From the start of Kind. they have assmblys and lessons on tollerance and acceptance. THe program covers all grades, and the teachers are trained to handle diffences with facts and respect.