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Katie
10-30-2002, 05:34 PM
My mother and father in- law called and invited my husband out for dinner for his birthday to Red Lobster. I was NOT invited. The more I think about it..the madder I get.
I asked everybody at work..and they said that was terribly rude and a few even said my husband should have refused to go without me...
What do you guys think????
Beauty
10-30-2002, 05:35 PM
I agree I think it was very rude! What does your DH think?
Serena
10-30-2002, 05:36 PM
Hold on. Was it actually said that you weren't invited that they didn't want you to be there?
Originally posted by Katie
I asked everybody at work..and they said that was terribly rude and a few even said my husband should have refused to go without me...
I completely agree with them. He SHOULD know better:( :(
catsrule
10-30-2002, 05:37 PM
yes, very not nice.:(
SonjaB
10-30-2002, 05:38 PM
If you were deliberately excluded, yes it was terribly rude and your DH should have known better than to accept.
The Mystery Machine
10-30-2002, 05:38 PM
Were you not available to go out for dinner with them?
Katie
10-30-2002, 05:39 PM
They called and asked him. She came and picked him up....Nobody said I wasn't invited..but it was just implied.
She came in the house and waited for him to change.
Trust me...NOT invited
Katie
10-30-2002, 05:41 PM
They called and asked him. She came and picked him up....Nobody said I wasn't invited..but it was just implied.
She came in the house and waited for him to change.
Trust me...NOT invited
When she got to the house, my oldest (16) was going out..she saw that I had supper for me and the younger kids...she said..
Well, Katie..you could have gone too......(trust me..she had ample time to ask before then....)
Beauty
10-30-2002, 05:42 PM
I think that was just wrong Katie! DH went? I would be very hurt and angry with all of them.
Katie
10-30-2002, 05:43 PM
oh yea..I was available. This was planned last week. Had I been invited..i could have made arrangements or not let my 16 yr old go out that night.....I wasn't availabe when she asked..and she knew it...that is why said what she said..she didn't even really ask...she just tokenly said...you could have gone too....
Serena
10-30-2002, 05:44 PM
I would be royally ticked off at my husband. And at them. It was bad enough not being invited, but for him to go without you, IN FRONT OF YOU!!!
:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
That's really horrible Katie.
luv2nascar
10-30-2002, 05:45 PM
My DH would not have gone
But I don't think his parents would exclude me either
He should have thought better of this
How would he feel if you didn't spend your birthday with him???
I'd ask him
Katie
10-30-2002, 05:48 PM
well..it wasn't really his real birthday. It was just an early birthday dinner( his birthday is in a few days).
So, his birthday will be spent with me...I am sorry if this mislead anybody.
The dinner was for his birthday...early.
The Mystery Machine
10-30-2002, 05:50 PM
Well Katie "mad" would be an understatement for me. I think I would be very hurt by all of their actions.
{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}}
Serena
10-30-2002, 05:50 PM
Katie, it doesn't matter the reason. It was wrong.
I'm so sorry.
ncligs
10-30-2002, 05:54 PM
No class what so ever!!!http://www.wdwinfo.com/sites/family/angryfire.gif
Buckalew
10-30-2002, 06:27 PM
Yes, I think it was wrong and rude. I'd be getting the message loud and clear if I were you. :mad: :( I'd have a talk with my DH also. I don't think he should have gone w/o you.
Winka
10-30-2002, 07:54 PM
This is terrible. Have you spoken with your husband about how you feel? Do you think he's fully aware?
I'm so sorry.
caitycaity
10-30-2002, 07:57 PM
holy moley! it was rude of your parents and rude of your dh to go.
i'm sorry. :(
PRINCESS Ariel34
10-30-2002, 08:19 PM
Sorry your feelings were hurt:( You should definitely let your husband know how you feel. My father and mother in law tried the same thing with my husband. He turned them down flat. :bounce:
BTW, let your MIL know how you feel. Let her know what you think about her rudeness. When she realize your onto her, she will think twice before disrespecting you like that again.
Good luck :D
Lady M
10-30-2002, 08:25 PM
It sounds pretty rude to me!!! I think you have every right to be upset, Katie.
Marie
helenabear
10-30-2002, 08:30 PM
I'd be upset if I were you! That was just plain rude of them to do that! Sorry they did such a thoughtless thing :(
missymouse3367
10-30-2002, 08:50 PM
I also would have been very upset. I first would make sure dH knows this. I also would let him know that MIL needs to know that she did wrong. {{hugs}}
Tell your DH and MIL to take a loooooooooooooooooooong walk off a short pier :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: .....
browneyes
10-30-2002, 09:01 PM
I would be livid. But I have a tiny bit of a temper.;)
Do they do this frequently? If my SO had gone after I was excluded, he would be in a LOT of hot water too.
that's mean..
my parents and dw's parents KNOW BETTER than to do something like that..
Sorry they treated you like that.. :(
Rajah
10-31-2002, 12:07 AM
Yup, I'd be mad.
Tink13
10-31-2002, 12:31 AM
My MIL tried this once (WAYYYYYYYYY back when we were first married) Of course my sweet DH not wanting to hurt me or HER, didnt know which way to turn,,,I told him HE would have to make up his mind on his own,,,,he DID NOT GO,,and I took that as my GREEN light to tell the old battle axe (OOPS MIL) that she would be better off not trying to exclude me again, cause he would not go without me,,,thing is up to this point I never knew there was a problem with me being there,, lol,,,,I know this feeling so I am sure you are hurt,,and have every reason to be MAD!!! Why do people go out of their way to try and make someone feel bad (YOUR MIL that is??) Can you ask her why you werent invited???
Tink13
disykat
10-31-2002, 12:50 AM
Yep - mad! In my situation though my inlaws have treated me badly for so many years that I gladly send him off to visit them without me. However, now all visits are initiated by us on our timetable - not by them. If they were to invite - I think they know they would need to invite us both.
Is this new or an on going problem? Does dh have a clue how you feel about this?
#1 Disney Fan
10-31-2002, 01:51 AM
Wow. :(
{{{{Hugs}}}} Katie.
WillyJ
10-31-2002, 02:14 AM
I think it was unquestionably rude of your inlaws to invite your husband to dinner like that and not you. . . :(
But I also personally feel that it was even worse for your husband to go along with it. Maybe there is some history or details you haven't mentioned, but if it's pretty much like you describe it, then he made it possible for them to hurt and humiliate you by going, and my main beef would be with him. He should have protected you from that by giving his parents an emphatic "no" if they even hinted at inviting him and excluding you.
I hope you can talk to him Katie, and that it was just a case of him not thinking in this one instance. . . and I'm sorry this happened to you. It doesn't sound fair or right under any circumstances. . . :(
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