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snowball22
10-13-2002, 08:19 PM
I have a family member who keeps files on everyone in the family. This family member also keeps copies of all e-mails. They also keep a talley of everytime you have turned down an invitation to visit this family member. This person has even made triplicates of all the files and even brought the files with them when they recently had a short stay in a nursing home. This family member also checks to see if other family members are online via instant message. If this person knows you are online and you don't bother to send an e-mail when they are online this person gets mad. Is this normal??? Anyone else have a person like this in their family???
Serena
10-13-2002, 08:20 PM
I sure hope I don't.
jldriscoll
10-13-2002, 08:22 PM
No I don't and no it's NOT normal.
Sounds like you are though :)
Dan Murphy
10-13-2002, 08:23 PM
Sounds quite obsessed to me. Not normal.
Krisu
10-13-2002, 08:25 PM
Don't think this is normal:eek:
BethR
10-13-2002, 08:31 PM
Oh MY! That is NUTS!!!
I thought that you meant health records, etc for each family member (which I also don't have on my computer). :rolleyes:
Kermit
10-13-2002, 08:39 PM
I would not like that. I'd try to find a hobby for that person.
Krisu
10-13-2002, 08:42 PM
How old is this person?
DocRafiki
10-13-2002, 08:52 PM
Sounds like she might have OCD, like my great aunt before she died. She kept all kinds of notes. She had a legal pad filled with times when the refrigerator fan (or whatever that is) would come on and go off.
Hmm... I keep e-mails, too. I used to keep all my letters, kind of like keeping a journal. Now no one writes, so I keep e-mails (only ones with any substance, and I have actually slacked off a bit). But, I never claimed to be normal.
nativetxn
10-13-2002, 08:54 PM
LOL, Doc! I'm no psychiatrist, I don't think I can say if this is normal or not, but this behavior would make me nervous if it was someone in my family.
Oh, this is strange. It's hard to deal with these kind of people, especially if they are family and you don't want to hurt their feelings. I feel for you.
Buckalew
10-13-2002, 09:26 PM
I don't think this is normal behavior. That being said, my grandmother keeps tracks of visits and can tell us the date we last appeared!:eek: I hate that! It makes me feel sad, guilty and mad.
bfeller
10-13-2002, 09:27 PM
Fortunately it doesn't sound like anyone in my family.
Jeff in BigD
10-14-2002, 02:06 AM
Does this person also record phone calls & get upset when you're on the phone & they don't recieve a call? I would confront them & let them know that you think it's a little excessive. If they aren't receptive, then I would probably get a different IM application or use a different name or go into invisibilty mode.
tiggerlover
10-14-2002, 02:19 AM
It sounds like this person needs to get a life, very strange behavior indeed.
:bounce::wave::bounce:
captin fink
10-14-2002, 06:14 AM
this person sound twisted:(
We have some strange birds in our family, but nothing like this.
captin fink
10-14-2002, 06:22 AM
You could always get them a filing cabinet for Christmas
snowball22 - maybe you and I are related!! My BIL is just like that; kind of destroyed any relationship we had with him and his family. Sad. :(
snowball22
10-14-2002, 08:33 AM
Thanks for all your insight. This person is in their 70's. They have been this way for quite a while. This person also thinks people are always stealing items from them. This past Christmas this person went on a rant saying that they had sent me all their family pictures and wanted them back. I said that I never received any pictures but if I had that I would gladly give them back. This person called me a liar and continued to harass me through the holidays. Luckily my father remembered that this person had put these pictures in a special location in their apartment. Sure enough they were located and I still to this day have never received an apology.
newmousecateer
10-14-2002, 08:42 AM
Very unusual behavior indeed. Definately not normal in my book!
Serena
10-14-2002, 08:44 AM
snowball, it sounds like a person to avoid if at all possible.
browneyes
10-14-2002, 08:44 AM
Why is this family member so controlling and so paranoid?
No, I don't have a family member like that, or a friend for that matter. It would drive me crazy to know someone is so intrusive!
The Mystery Machine
10-14-2002, 08:47 AM
Sounds like this person may have a mental disability of some kind.
My own father does things that are odd. I used to get mad but now I realize I should just set it aside because his thought processes are just not normal. I just enjoy the positive points.
It does put the person it a new light and takes a great weight off your shoulders.
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