PDA

View Full Version : Hitched on the Monorail...a mobile matrimonial


trisana21
08-02-2011, 04:23 PM
We did it! My new husband and I got tired of the wedding planning, said "Let's just do it!" and eloped to the very most wonderfulest place on earth. We are still planning the big wedding, complete with a Disney honeymoon at the end of it, but we just wanted to get the job done and so embarked on the most beautiful, exciting, special weekend of our lives. We decided on this course of action, planned it for six weeks out, and started sneakily counting down on our Facebook pages. Hardly anyone knew and we surprised all our friends with our updated FB statuses right after the ceremony.

I wrote up the full story here (http://pointsforcreativity.wordpress.com/2011/07/31/point-44-a-match-made-in-disney/). Lots of pictures can be found here (http://www.mixbook.com/photo-books/wedding/our-monorail-wedding-at-disney-5273539).

I have talked to a ton of cast members (my husband calls me the Mayor Of Disney World because I talk to EVERYONE) and looked online everywhere, and while I have seen some crazy Disney weddings, both sanctioned and unsanctioned, I can't find any evidence of any other reported monorail weddings. Could we have been the first? LOL

trisana21
08-02-2011, 10:33 PM
Has anyone else done a sneaky get away wedding?

kipperoo
08-08-2011, 12:59 AM
We're doing an escape wedding but I love the idea of a Ninja Disney Wedding! Awesome!

trisana21
08-11-2011, 02:18 AM
We probably wouldn't have ended up doing it anywhere where you would pay to have it done, though we initially entertained the idea of the beach at the Poly. The monorail is a completely weird idea, so it wasn't as though we took the place of a "real" Disney bride. Every CM we talked to after thought it was the coolest thing they had heard at least that day. LOL

tinkerbell 766
08-11-2011, 04:11 PM
I would be very careful about what you say on here!!! There are many 'legitimate' Disney brides who have paid a lot of money to get married at WDW and will not take kindly to somebody who has clearly got away with breaking the rules, bragging about it on the boards!!
I bare you no ill will - just warning you that you are likely to stir up a hornets nest. Maybe, though, that's what you want to do!!

trisana21
08-12-2011, 04:57 PM
Wow, way to make ridiculous assumptions about my motivations. Perhaps I am simply wanting to share a happy occasion. I am far from "bragging". If you think I didn't wish I had the money to splash out on a spectacular wedding or even a wonderful intimate one with characters and the photographer, etc. I could say all of the large, obviously expensive weddings are a ridiculous waste of money and the brides are "bragging" that they have the wealth to carry if off, but not only is that mean spirited, I do not truly believe they are "bragging" either.

I would like to point out that one of the most popular threads on this entire site is one where the poster committed a CRIME, accessing Disney property illegally to take pictures of a closed off defunct park. Where is the nasty hate there?

The wedding I had was FAR from even the least expensive of the weddings Disney provides, so there is no comparison to a "legitimate" bride (and please do not cast aspersions on the "legitimacy" of my marriage, please). You are being nasty and mean spirited, much as you may not "bare" (sic) me ill will. I might have taken this a lot better if you clearly weren't the morals police assuming wrongly that I was bragging and "attempting to stir up a hornet's nest".

And for the record, I asked several CMs after the fact if what we had done was an issue, and they even said that we had done it somewhere where they don't ever hold weddings, didn't attempt to take "wedding photos" in the parks or environs, and were unobtrusive and respectful. Respectful. Which is a word I can't use to apply to someone who clearly lives to make other people feel bad.

To other "legitimate" Disney brides: I truly apologise to you if you feel I am bragging or somehow lessening your beautiful weddings with small secret one. I had recently lost a job, am facing the possible return of my cancer, and could not even begin to afford much more than a trip to the courthouse. I wanted something that would make me happy, and thought that on a board about such wonderful occasions, people could see past their own baggage to be happy for someone else. I genuinely enjoy reading the lovely reports of people whose fortunes are greater than mine, and rejoice in their luck and happiness.

Edited to remove the more colourful things I initially said in anger. Though you are still wrong.

trisana21
08-12-2011, 05:06 PM
And further, ftr, there is a lovely write up on Offbeat Bride about a couple who sneaked INTO Disneyland proper to get married. A character handler caught sight of them and they thought, "Oh no, jig is up." Instead, the handler brought over Alice and the Mad Hatter to stand in as maid of honour and best man. Afterwards, they were treated to some pictures and a treat.

tinkerbell 766
08-12-2011, 07:17 PM
Wow, way to make ridiculous assumptions about my motivations. Perhaps I am simply wanting to share a happy occasion. I am far from "bragging". If you think I didn't wish I had the money to splash out on a spectacular wedding or even a wonderful intimate one with characters and the photographer, etc. I could say all of the large, obviously expensive weddings are a ridiculous waste of money and the brides are "bragging" that they have the wealth to carry if off, but not only is that mean spirited, I do not truly believe they are "bragging" either.

I would like to point out that one of the most popular threads on this entire site is one where the poster committed a CRIME, accessing Disney property illegally to take pictures of a closed off defunct park. Where is the nasty hate there?

The wedding I had was FAR from even the least expensive of the weddings Disney provides, so there is no comparison to a "legitimate" bride (and please do not cast aspersions on the "legitimacy" of my marriage, please). You are being nasty and mean spirited, much as you may not "bare" (sic) me ill will. I might have taken this a lot better if you clearly weren't the morals police assuming wrongly that I was bragging and "attempting to stir up a hornet's nest".

And for the record, I asked several CMs after the fact if what we had done was an issue, and they even said that we had done it somewhere where they don't ever hold weddings, didn't attempt to take "wedding photos" in the parks or environs, and were unobtrusive and respectful. Respectful. Which is a word I can't use to apply to someone who clearly lives to make other people feel bad.

To other "legitimate" Disney brides: I truly apologise to you if you feel I am bragging or somehow lessening your beautiful weddings with small secret one. I had recently lost a job, am facing the possible return of my cancer, and could not even begin to afford much more than a trip to the courthouse. I wanted something that would make me happy, and thought that on a board about such wonderful occasions, people could see past their own baggage to be happy for someone else. I genuinely enjoy reading the lovely reports of people whose fortunes are greater than mine, and rejoice in their luck and happiness.

Edited to remove the more colourful things I initially said in anger. Though you are still wrong.

And further, ftr, there is a lovely write up on Offbeat Bride about a couple who sneaked INTO Disneyland proper to get married. A character handler caught sight of them and they thought, "Oh no, jig is up." Instead, the handler brought over Alice and the Mad Hatter to stand in as maid of honour and best man. Afterwards, they were treated to some pictures and a treat.

I am sorry that you feel that I am hateful and mean spiited and I am so sorry to show my ignorance by writing bare instead of bear!!!(who was being hateful and sarcastic there!!)
You have jumped to conclusions about my intentions. I was merely trying to warn you that your post about your wedding may not be well received. I certainly wasn't challenging the legitamacy of your marriage and not once did I say anything about your marriage not being legitimate!!!
The thing that made me uncomfortable about your post in the first place, was the fact that you were asking other people to post of their 'sneaky, get away weddings'. It sounded to me that you were proud that you had been sneaky. You wouldn't have invited others to share their rule-breaking adventures if you weren't. You must have realized that encouraging others to post about 'sneaky, get away with it weddings, might stir up that hornet's nest or at the very least, cause some ill-feeling!!! You know what you did was against the rules (or else you wouldn't be calling your wedding 'sneaky'), if you are happy with that then that's fine.
I am sorry I upset you, but I stand by what I say. What you did was against the rules, whether or not CMs said it was an issue or not
It doesn't matter to me how many other brides have broken the rules or how many other threads there are on 'rule-breaking', on this site, several wrongs do not make a right
I am genuinely sorry for your recent misfortunes and health worries, and I do not, as you suggest live to make others feel bad (if that isn't an assumption, I don't know what is!!). I am fairly confident that the many friends I have on these boards will testify that I am not as you seem to percieve me.
I will not post on this thread again, as you will probably never see my point of view and I will probably never see yours, but, like you I stand by what I say.
I hope your health worries go away and you have a long and happy marriage.

trisana21
08-12-2011, 09:41 PM
Re-read what I wrote, dear, I wrote "sneaky, GET-AWAY wedding", as in "a getaway weekend". Sneaky as in "eloped", as in "our friends don't know about it", not as in "sneaking into Disney World". See also where I wrote that my then fiance and I "sneakily" counted down our wedding on Facebook, rather than arranging a guest list and planning a destination wedding. While I see your point, what you interpreted is NOT what I said, and therefore you were out of line. Anyone can see you added two words to YOUR interpretation that utterly change the meaning of what I said. Therefore I welcome your apology, but having taken your measure, I will not hold my breath for it.

trisana21
08-12-2011, 09:47 PM
And also for the record, my dear friend's godfather is an executive in the security division at Disney. His opinion of our plans was that we chose not to have the wedding where paying brides would do so. "Would your people be obliged to stop us if we were seen?" "Not at all." I am going to trust his views of the rules over yours, no offense meant. In addition, my "bridesmaid" is herself a CM.

lt90
08-13-2011, 02:09 AM
I agree wholeheartedley with Joanne. You did imply you had a sneaky wedding i.e. something you knew you shouldnt have! I am sorry for all your health/money troubles but plenty of brides have these troubles and wait until they are in a position to have a disney wedding instead of breaking rules and undermining all those brides who pay thousands to have a proper disney wedding.
BTW I would not be bragging about a CM bridesmaid - in case you were not aware the wedding where the CM brought over Alice - I am led to understand the CM has been fired and I believe the couple have had some restrictions placed on them about visiting disney so if what I heard is correct boasting about your CM bridesmaid may not be good for her future job and posting about your wedding which clearly flaunts disney rules may not stand you in very good stead for returning to disney at a later stage!
These boards are for disney brides supporting other disney brides and most will not appreciate you posting about your 'sneaky' wedding while others saving hard for many years to pay for their dream wedding many with health or family problems so you justifying your wedding on health and money issues isnt going to fly for most people on these boards!!!!!!!
Also there was no need to be rude to Joanne for having a different opinion from you - she is entitled to her opinion and obviously you posted on here to attract trouble/stir things up because you suggested you only posted for popularity reasons which again suggests you knew you were breaking rules and instead of just begin happy and quiet with your wedding you wanted to flaunt your obvious disregard for rules!!!
I will not be posting again nor am i interested in any reply you might have - you were wrong, you know it, stop trying to upset proper disney brides and despite everything I do wish you a happy marriage!!

tinkerbell 766
08-13-2011, 02:36 AM
I agree wholeheartedley with Joanne. You did imply you had a sneaky wedding i.e. something you knew you shouldnt have! I am sorry for all your health/money troubles but plenty of brides have these troubles and wait until they are in a position to have a disney wedding instead of breaking rules and undermining all those brides who pay thousands to have a proper disney wedding.
BTW I would not be bragging about a CM bridesmaid - in case you were not aware the wedding where the CM brought over Alice - I am led to understand the CM has been fired and I believe the couple have had some restrictions placed on them about visiting disney so if what I heard is correct boasting about your CM bridesmaid may not be good for her future job and posting about your wedding which clearly flaunts disney rules may not stand you in very good stead for returning to disney at a later stage!
These boards are for disney brides supporting other disney brides and most will not appreciate you posting about your 'sneaky' wedding while others saving hard for many years to pay for their dream wedding many with health or family problems so you justifying your wedding on health and money issues isnt going to fly for most people on these boards!!!!!!!
Also there was no need to be rude to Joanne for having a different opinion from you - she is entitled to her opinion and obviously you posted on here to attract trouble/stir things up because you suggested you only posted for popularity reasons which again suggests you knew you were breaking rules and instead of just begin happy and quiet with your wedding you wanted to flaunt your obvious disregard for rules!!!
I will not be posting again nor am i interested in any reply you might have - you were wrong, you know it, stop trying to upset proper disney brides and despite everything I do wish you a happy marriage!!

Thank you so much for your support sweetie!!!

trisana21
08-13-2011, 02:47 AM
Jeebus, do you people even read???? I did not post about a "sneaky" wedding with regard to Disney. I was posting about the "sneakiness" of my elopment and anyone with a degree of comprehension can see that. Where on EARTH did I post about "popularity" reasons??? I am dumbfounded by the sheer stupidity of your remarks, seriously.

I have been told that there are many members of the DIS Boards that are just plain nasty and that is why they favour the Passporter forums. I can see what they are talking about.

Again, this is a matter of popularity on YOUR parts, because whether "two wrongs make a right", there is no problem with an established poster or three posting about committing crimes on Disney property and being congratulated for it. Joanne misquoted me stem to stern, and I don't believe that you did anymore than read what she said. I can see that the cliques are rife here, given how she hastened to tell me how many friends she had (but *I* am concerned about popularity)

Honestly, I should have realised on a board where women spend tens of thousands on huge elaborate weddings that perhaps they had a level of snobbery that matched. I honest to Christ wasn't trying to brag or rub anything in. My life is pretty much crap, and the only thing that has made me happy for the past six months was my tiny, cheap, stupid little wedding. i hope it made you feel bigger to take that away from me too.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 02:56 AM
Ugh, rereading your post, you are truly coming across as an appalling person. Where on earth did I indicate I was trying to stir up trouble? Where did I say that I was posting for popularity reasons?

Why are you just being plain mean? You have me in tears now over soomething THAT WOMAN misread???? She completely misread what I said and rather than saying, ok, well I disagree but yes, this one factor was incorrect because misread, you both are just pushing forward as though insisting on it can make it so. It doesn't change that she was WRONG. You are so concerned about me being rude...what about her rudeness.

This is why people lurk and are afraid to post. Perhaps the exclusivity is just how you like it.

tinkerbell 766
08-13-2011, 03:00 AM
I said that I wasn't going to post anymore, and, frankly, I am disappointed with myself for rising to this, but here goes!!
I will apologize, but only for upsetting you. Despite your having 'taken my measure', I do not like to upset anyone. I am truly sorry if I caused you upset.
I do not, however, apologize for, or take back anything I said. You broke the rules - that is fact, and what is more you knew you were doing it. You were then very overt about it all, posting on a thread on which you knew, Disney brides, who have taken the regular route to their Disney weddings, were posting. Surely you realized that you were coming across with a bit of a 'look what I got away with' attitude and would attract negative comments!!
It is irrelevant that you have got the blessing of a member of the higher Disney management, or how many relatives or friends you have among the cast members at WDW, (and it seems it is alright for you to say all about you connections and friends at WDW, but not alright for me to say that I have many friends on the boards!!) you still did something which you knew was against Disney policies and rules and were happy to advertise the fact.
I am sorry that your circumstances prevented you from having a Disney wedding. So did mine. I had to settle for a wedding which, for me, was less than my dream, but I did not resort to breaking rules to get my own way!! I waited until I could afford to do a vow renewal and have my dream day then!! Even then, I could not afford to go down the DFTW route, and found other ways around it (not that I regret having a S/D VR, because I don't - it was perfect for us). I certainly wouldn't have contemplated flouting the rules to get it!!!
If you are fine with what you did, that's great - just don't expect to come on these boards and have other Disney brides, who have minded the rules, applaud you.
You have made many assumptions about my personality (mean-spirited, lives to make people feel bad, THAT WOMAN etc etc.). Not once have I called into question your character or personality, merely your actions. Am I to expect an apology???

trisana21
08-13-2011, 03:12 AM
NO. I. DID NOT. POST. FOR. THAT. REASON. I posted because this was the *wedding* thread and whether you like it or not, I got married at Disney. I was, like every other bride on this board, excited and happy and wanting to share with other women who also were excited and happy. You have yet t acknowledge how wrong you were in misreading what I wrote which entirely changes how it comes across. You don't know me, but I would be the first to be distressed at someone essentially saying "nanny nanny boo boo" at other women. Do you not see that by your logic, all of you throwing your wealth out there could be construed as bragging. I don't have money, I have creative ideas. That's all this was.

I fail to see your logic with regards to getting the blessing of a higher up vs official Disney policy. There IS no official stated policy advertised, which is why we asked a security executive to begin with. That is the only reason we proceeded. Should I, perhaps, have asked YOUR permission?

And yes, actually, dear, everything about these comments of yours have called my character and personality into question. You made assumptions that I was a pot stirrer instead of maybe, just maybe, thinking that I was excited about getting married. So no, you will not get an apology from me, because you obviously wanted to stir the pot yourself as the morality police. Like I said originally, I would have accepted your comments with far better grace, and perhaps we could have had a better dialogue, had you not added your very rude and unnecessary last line to your original comment. It was assumption of my character right off the bat, and that it no better than what you accuse me of.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 03:22 AM
And I am fully aware that you will be surrounded by support by all of your "friends" and by virtue of your long term presence on the boards. I would offer, however, that you are speaking with a Florida resident who has probably been to Disney more often in a month than most people do in a lifetime. I know the place, I wouldn't do anything to upset either CMs or management, and I don't do things to be grandstanding or get attention.

tinkerbell 766
08-13-2011, 03:29 AM
As I said earlier, if you are happy with the way you went about things that's fine!!! I work hard to earn my money in a very stressful job and I will not justify to you how I spend it!! Not once did I brag to you about my VR!! It is alright though, it seems for you to mention that you have been to WDW so many times (but, of course, that's not bragging!!!) I was not trying to 'pot stir', merely warning you that your post may not be popular, and by posting about blatant rule transgressions, I am sorry, but you come across as trying to stir up trouble, whether you see that or choose not to.

You say on your blog that the smallest Disney wedding is a thousand dollars per guest. Not so, it costs $1991.00 and can take in up to 6 people.

You know what, I give up!!! I will not become involved in this anymore!! You clearly think you are totally right here and I am nothing but a mean old witch!! I am done!! I concede that you have got the point across that I am a nasty person . I hope that makes you happy.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 03:55 AM
But that is exactly my point. I DON'T see those elaborate celebrations as bragging. I am saying by your logic, they are. They cost money. Mine cost creativity. No, I did not blatantly break rules. I did not have a wedding I could have purchased. And it is a bit pedantic to say that they do not cost thousands when you quote a price just short of two thousand. Two. Hence, plurals. Hence, thousands.

And still, you have yet to even acknowledge that you grossly misread and misquoted me initially. You don't come across as foolish or stupid, in spite of my vehemently disagreeing with you, so you must realise you got it wrong. You keep telling me what I did wrong and how I "know it!" Well, it's your turn. You were wrong and you know it. Bottom line.

My mention of my many visits to Disney is not bragging (you are REALLY hung up on that) but illustrative of the fact that I would not take risks without information. I live an hour away and enjoy being there often and want to continue going. That is all.

Basically this come down to, you didn't have to post at all. Was it necessary or helpful or valuable? You seem to be one who enjoys mother henning the boards...is it self importance? I hope not. That is such a waste of time and energy. Here's a thought. Why not just be happy for people and not worry about what they are "getting away with"? It's a hall monitor or should I say prefect? view that comes across as unnecessarily pedantic and grim. I have seen your other posts and I would not have thought that was the case.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 04:00 AM
Here's the insane thing, too. You realise I literally stood next to another human on the monorail, and a friend said about fifty or hundred words at us, right? There were no photos, no procession, no hubub of ANY kind. We could have been having a conversation where two people happened to be standing in front of four others. Seriously, maybe you have some idea that we created a big to-do of some kind. We could have been walking through the park, talking to each other and then signed a piece of paper when we sat down to lunch. It was THAT basic and simple. All this over that. Ridiculous. And if *I* misrepresented it as mo9re impressive or elaborate, THAT I apologise for.

Ember
08-13-2011, 04:46 AM
Dear Joanne, I wouldn't have bothered to post, but I wanted to show my public support for you. :hug:

The OP broke the rules and expected everyone to be all happy for her that she got away with it. When no one jumped up and down shouting praise and compliments, she felt the need to attack you and try to make you feel bad. Then she felt the need to inform us that she has no money (but apparently enough to go to Disney "more often in a month than most people do in a lifetime") and health issues in an attempt to have everyone say, "Oh, well, in your case, that's okay then!" But no one did that either. Her tone has been condescending and her reactions way off base.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 05:03 AM
Jesus, you people can't read.

My husband and I were given APs as wedding gifts. That's how I am able to attend often. As for the rest of it, I have NO dea where you all are getting that I am looking for people to be happy for me that I "got away" with anything. There was nothing to get away with and I NEVER presented it as such.

Mention of that and my health issues were simply illustrating why I got married in as fun and lighthearted a way as possible in the first place.

Snobs, the whole bloody lot of you. So easy to sit atop a high horse from behind a computer.

lt90
08-13-2011, 05:09 AM
OP you are now being just plain rude - its disgusting behaviour and you cannot attack someone personally for having a different opinion to yourself.
You come across as an attention seeker and for that reason I suggest all 'proper' disney (and of course Joanne our lovely S/D brides :) ) now ignore your rude posts and no longer waste our time posting about this 'sneaky' wedding. I hope disney doesnt read- like I said before Ive been led to believe they monitor these boards.
I say no more.
Good day.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 05:15 AM
Excellent. Please say no more. If I am rude it is because I have spent all night reading allegedly quotes from me that have no resemblance to anything I have actually said. You call me attention seeking, but I never asked any of you to comment on my post. Perhaps it is you who seeks attention. It would have been so simple for Joanne to approach me more positively to start; she instigated this. In addition, it would likewise have been easy to acknowledge her wrong in this, and she has remained too stubborn to do so. That is fine. Please. Do as you promise and say no more.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 05:49 AM
You know, after the wedding, I turned to my husband and said, "I can't wait to share this with other people who are so excited about Disney, that they will understand." Our friends and family sort of looked resigned whenever we talked about possibly getting married at Disney. They aren't Disney people. They didn't get it.

I'm not a mean person. And you all don't know me, I know. But I don't EVER rub things in other people's faces. I have always hated that. I hate seeing someone in pain, and I certainly never want to be the cause of it.

I posted here for one reason. It was the Disney wedding thread and I got married at Disney. I wasn't trying to show anyone up or make anyone feel bad.

I researched beforehand and all I saw was that the parks were strictly forbidden. I asked my friend's godfather (security exec) and he was for the idea. We picked a place where we wouldn't bother anyone. We wanted to keep this lowkey, no fuss, no grandstanding.

I am so horrified that I am now being seen as some sort of horrible person because of this. I am still being told that I was trying to solicit popularity. I don't understand this. Aren't we all sharing our stories? I am being called bitter and a rule breaker. What rule? I didn't get married in the parks and didn't attempt to bring in outside vendors.

I know I have gotten rude, and although I suspect that I won't get any apologies in return, I am sorry for that because I am NOT a mean person. I have been looking at these weddings and thinking how amazing and beautiful they are, including Joanne's, and been genuinely happy and excited that folks had the means to do it right. I didn't, and that was ok, because got to use the only thing that doesn't cost any money, and that was my imagination. I would never have dreamed of making negative comments to anyone on their posts, and honestly, it never occured to me that anyone who could afford just beautiful weddings would ever have cause to be envious or angry at me with my cotton dress and paper flowers. Had I thought that was the case, I wouldn't have posted, or I would have put a disclaimer eight miles high that oh my GOD, my wedding isn't a patch on the gorgeous ones I saw here. And truly, had Joanne said what she did, without making the assumption that I was just trying to stir people up, I might have accepted it and at the very least clarified things.

I know that you all are all friends. I was hoping to make friends, too. I just wanted to be happy and share that happiness. I don't know why it had to be like this.

I *know* you all don't care, but maybe it will make you feel better to know that I have been crying my eyes out all night. (it's quarter to 7 here on the east coast of the US...or MST [mouse standard time :)]) and I have been too upset to sleep, thinking that people I thought I might have something wonderful in common with just see me as a rule breaker, a fraud, a pot stirrer, and frankly, a witch. That isn't me at all. I was looking forward to sharing with you all, but you decided who I was before I ever got that chance. All because Joanne read something wrong, that honestly, HAD I said, I would totally have seen her point. Because that would have been a jerk move. But I didn't say it, and no matter how I try to tell you that, you won't just, not even believe me, but read it. It's right there!

I have seen the friendships here and thought that the community was so cool. I didn't expect people to just hate me.

tinkerbell 766
08-13-2011, 06:59 AM
Dear Joanne, I wouldn't have bothered to post, but I wanted to show my public support for you. :hug:

The OP broke the rules and expected everyone to be all happy for her that she got away with it. When no one jumped up and down shouting praise and compliments, she felt the need to attack you and try to make you feel bad. Then she felt the need to inform us that she has no money (but apparently enough to go to Disney "more often in a month than most people do in a lifetime") and health issues in an attempt to have everyone say, "Oh, well, in your case, that's okay then!" But no one did that either. Her tone has been condescending and her reactions way off base.

OP you are now being just plain rude - its disgusting behaviour and you cannot attack someone personally for having a different opinion to yourself.
You come across as an attention seeker and for that reason I suggest all 'proper' disney (and of course Joanne our lovely S/D brides :) ) now ignore your rude posts and no longer waste our time posting about this 'sneaky' wedding. I hope disney doesnt read- like I said before Ive been led to believe they monitor these boards.
I say no more.
Good day.

Thank you so much sweet girls, for your love and support!!
Jessica (OP) and I have exchanged PMs in an attempt to bring this ugly matter to a close. I truly hope we can, because she isn't the only one who has been in tears over this matter!!

trisana21
08-13-2011, 07:02 AM
In the interests of full disclosure, and for all my bluster truly horrified that I may have broken a rule and been utterly out of line, I called Disney Guest Relations this morning and spent about an hour talking to her, as she also consulted a supervisor, essentially "turning myself in". I was told that as it was not in the parks, and not anywhere where Disney Fairy Tale Weddings take place, that there was nothing untoward in what my husband and I did, and in fact they thought it was an innovative and creative alternative to an option I could not afford. If there are further questions about the rules, I guess you would have to address them with Joyce, because she searched the rules, spoke with additional supervisors and determined that not only was there no chance I would be banned over such a thing, it was not in violation of their wedding policies, given the location.

As for any "bragging" on my part, I will reiterate to "legitimate" Disney brides that I am nothing but envious and admiring of your beautiful weddings and happy for you. I hope you can admire my creativity and be happy for me.

tinkerbell 766
08-13-2011, 07:12 AM
If this is the case, I humbly apologize for saying you were breaking the rules, if you weren't!!! We have always been led to believe (from DFTW themselves) that it was 'frowned upon', but maybe that is just it, it is frowned upon but not banned. I personally would not do it the way you did, but each to their own, and if you were genuinely not breaking rules, then I am happy to acknowledge that.
We will maybe see a lot more brides choosing this way of doing things if it is found to be not against the rules!!

trisana21
08-13-2011, 07:38 AM
Thank you, Joanne. I really appreciate you saying this. I truly truly truly would not have gone ANYWHERE that would be a DFTW location, although I won't try to say we didn't consider the beach at the Poly for about ten minutes. When that seemed like not such a good idea, we even thought of just doing it in our (non-Disney) hotel room. Then my then fiance said "Monorail?" and the flurry of researching began. We were stymied as there isn't a straight set of published rules for such things, hence our going with my friend's godfather as the final authority. After all this kerfuffle, I began to have doubts again, so I called Disney and outright explained what happened and what we had been told and the CM laid it all out. I am glad I called, because I sincerely did not want to have unwittingly done wrong and was willing to throw myself on my sword. I was relieved to be told my original information was correct.

I am sorry things got out of hand and hope we can simply enjoy continuing to share stories. I am not happy that anyone shed tears over all this!

trisana21
08-13-2011, 07:41 AM
And I hope no one ever has to do it as I did because everyone deserves a fine wedding!

tinkerbell 766
08-13-2011, 07:44 AM
I too, am glad that this whole sorry episode is over!!
I do hope that you now see that I am not the dreadful person you thought I was. I am sorry if I come over as a 'mother hen', but that is just my personality. Maybe I should try to keep that side of me in check - though I think it will be hard being anything other than myself!! :hug:
I also hope you will change your view on the girls on this board!! They are the loveliest, sweetest girls and are always so very supportive of one another. They were showing support of me and I am grateful to them and cannot see their love and support as a bad thing. They were also registering disapproval of something which they saw as wrong. Perhaps they now see things differently, but that is for them to decide. They really are the best of girls!!!

cam&phoebsmom
08-13-2011, 07:53 AM
I have no dog in this fight as I was married almost 17 years ago in a courthouse in Annapolis;)

I did want to say I think your wedding was very creative and fun, and I hope you can focus on the joy of the two of you being married. When we got married my DH was in boot camp and we decided on his break to go and get married. We were engaged for 4 days and told our family that we were getting married, "on Thursday," and we would love to have them join us. We also surprised folks since by the time the new year came around he was back in MO and I was a Mrs.:thumbsup2

I hope you continue to have fun with your DH!

trisana21
08-13-2011, 08:38 AM
I am feeling nothing but love right now. :)

Nothing like those short engagements, huh? When you know, you know!!!

RubySlippers
08-13-2011, 09:12 AM
I think your wedding was a fun idea! I have seen weddings at Port Orleans Riverside, on a boat during Illuminations and even one at Blizzard Beach:lmao:. I love the creativity some people have! Congrats!!

leonix8238
08-13-2011, 12:31 PM
Hi trisana21,

First of all congratulations on your marriage. I wish you both good health and happiness!

Secondly, thank you for clarifying what Disney feel are the 'rules' when it comes to weddings on property not taken care of by DFTW. Though your discourse with Tinkerbell 766 has been somewhat unpleasant and upsetting for you both, it seems some good may have come out of it. It could mean more people like yourself may choose to do as you have done, now that it has been confirmed that you were not in violation of any rules.

Let us hope this may lead to more Disney wedding dreams coming true! :woohoo:

trisana21
08-13-2011, 01:16 PM
Oh, I bet that a Blizzard beach wedding is super cute!

I am sure that Disney's preference is always to have folks go through DFTW, no doubt, but for weddings they don't provide, like a doofy monorail wedding, as the CM is spoke to said, "Disney is about fun and happiness and love, and everything you did was about that." As I told Joanne in a PM, I am actually an annoyingly strict rule abider, which is why I looked everywhere first. Things did get unpleasant and I am definitely sorry for my part of it and that other folks had to be involved or even see it, but happy that things got clarified and seem to be nice now. I don't like being at odds with people at all.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 01:21 PM
Now, my husband did say that it would be pretty funny if a year or so from now we could look at weddings done by DFTW on the monorail as "our fault". LOL...how cute would a Wedding Car look!? The CMs loved the idea and who knows, might share it as a suggestion somewhere. Disney is good about absorbing ideas like that. From all accounts, that's kinda how the more intimate weddings through DFTW got started, because people were doing them anyway! :)

In that case, all bets might be off. lol

connieq288
08-13-2011, 02:40 PM
I would love to be on a monorail watching someone getting married. I think it would be awesome to see. My DH and I pretty much eloped to. I ran away from home with him and moved to Maine from Florida. He had taken all his vacation time coming down to Florida to meet me. We met over the phone and would talk for hours. We started talking in the beginning of Feb. HE came down in APril and I moved with him and we got married May 2nd and will be married for 15 years in 2012. He was in the navy so we a Justice of the Peace come to the house and just had a big bonfire and party afterwards with all his navy buds. It was fun. We never had a honeymoon so we are going to WDW in May for our 15 year anniversary and leaving the kids behind. That is our honeymoon LOL.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 02:51 PM
Connie, that sounds like a true love story!!!

Mindyjoy
08-13-2011, 09:59 PM
.

trisana21
08-13-2011, 11:32 PM
Mindy, I didn't feel like a traditional veil this time around (I did the big poofy white dress with my first husband) so I tried to think of something that was a little different, and I wanted it to be a bit "fantasy". Thanks for the compliment!

trisana21
08-13-2011, 11:41 PM
Mindy, where are you having your wedding?

tinkerbell 766
08-14-2011, 12:56 AM
'I am led to understand the CM has been fired and I believe the couple have had some restrictions placed on them about visiting disney' (quote from a previous post - I seem to have mucked up quoting in the usual manner!!)

Mindy sweetie - It appeared that things didn't go so well for this couple with Disney after the event, so maybe it is still the case that in-park events such as this are still a big no-no.

trisana21
08-14-2011, 01:08 AM
Just curious, I have not heard any follow up on that couple but heard later about ramifications (exactly why I didn't dream of having my wedding in the parks). Where is the follow up story everyone has been talking about? I am a member of Offbeat Bride, too, and would be interested to see it.

Mindyjoy
08-14-2011, 01:09 AM
I'm so confused, where did that quote come from and how is it directed at me? :confused3

Mindyjoy
08-14-2011, 01:11 AM
Just curious, I have not heard any follow up on that couple but heard later about ramifications (exactly why I didn't dream of having my wedding in the parks). Where is the follow up story everyone has been talking about? I am a member of Offbeat Bride, too, and would be interested to see it.

Haven't heard of any follow up story but I talked to the bride (on here) several months after her wedding and she didn't mention anything? :confused3 I know weddings like these are against park rules but I don't see how this couple harmed anyone.

tinkerbell 766
08-14-2011, 01:18 AM
Oh no not again!!
Mindy I wasn't being mean and I shouldn't have maybe posted the whole quote, because most of it was absolutely nothing to do with you!!! It was just that part of the quote was referring to the exact wedding whose link you had posted, that was all. I apologize if I upset you. or if you thought I was implying the rest of the comments contained therein, to you. I will adjust the quote inserted in my post to include just the relevant part.
Maybe you are right and there were no repercussions, but one of our brides posted that there were on here, so I don't know who is right. I agree that the couple did nobody any harm, but (here we go again) they did break the rules did they not?
I think that maybe I should stop posting because all I seem to do lately is upset people unintentionally.:guilty:

trisana21
08-14-2011, 01:22 AM
*sigh* It's not...it was a quote from another user directed at me from when the debate was raging high earlier today. I am not sure why it was used again, but I am assuming it was in error. smh

I believe Joanne is referring to the n you posted to the couple who had the guerilla wedding. I referenced it early on in the madness as an example of Disney CMs essentially in some form endorsing such events (and honestly, I don't, which is why mine was on the monorail lol) and it was was stated in response that the CMs were fired and the couple has been banned for life. I am not saying that isn't true, but I am trying to figure out where people have found this out, just out of curiosity, since I followed this couple's story on Offbeat Bride loooong before I got married.

Mindyjoy
08-14-2011, 01:23 AM
Oh no not again!!
Mindy I wasn't being mean and I shouldn't have maybe posted the whole quote, because most of it was absolutely nothing to do with you!!! It was just that part of the quote was referring to the exact wedding whose link you had posted that was all. I apologize if I upset you or if you thought I was implying the rest of the comments contained therein, to you. I will adjust the quote inserted in my post to include just the relevant part.
I think that maybe I should stop posting because all I seem to do lately is upset people unintentionally.:guilty:

No! Joanne sweetie, I adore you! I'm just confused, because I don't see the quote you posted? And I don't understand the CM bridesmaid? I'm just really confused, sweetie! Too many glasses of wine tonight, perhaps??? :hug:

trisana21
08-14-2011, 01:24 AM
Joanne, I know I assumed it was an error, so I am sure Mindy is ok. I am beginning to think it is me and my da** thread that's cursed s pease dn't worry about it. :(

I already know people are still saying horrible things about me all over this board and I haven't answered them, because I DON'T want to perpetuate the crap and make things worse, but I wish they would realise I CAN read, and I actually have fairly sensitive feelings.

Mindyjoy
08-14-2011, 01:25 AM
*sigh* It's not...it was a quote from another user directed at me from when the debate was raging high earlier today. I am not sure why it was used again, but I am assuming it was in error. smh

I believe Joanne is referring to the n you posted to the couple who had the guerilla wedding. I referenced it early on in the madness as an example of Disney CMs essentially in some form endorsing such events (and honestly, I don't, which is why mine was on the monorail lol) and it was was stated in response that the CMs were fired and the couple has been banned for life. I am not saying that isn't true, but I am trying to figure out where people have found this out, just out of curiosity, since I followed this couple's story on Offbeat Bride loooong before I got married.

Oh, okay. I missed that as I was skimming the thread. Sorry to bring it up again.

Looks like I caused more trouble, typical! :laughing:

Mindyjoy
08-14-2011, 01:30 AM
Joanne, I know I assumed it was an error, so I am sure Mindy is ok. I am beginning to think it is me and my da** thread that's cursed s pease dn't worry about it. :(

I already know people are still saying horrible things about me all over this board and I haven't answered them, because I DON'T want to perpetuate the crap and make things worse, but I wish they would realise I CAN read, and I actually have fairly sensitive feelings.

Try not to put too much thought into it! People talk big when they are behind a computer monitor. We all have a common bond and we should all be supportive of each other.

BTW, I'm not trying to endorse "guerilla weddings" inside the parks, I know they are not allowed. I think it's very creative and, in the case of these examples, pretty harmless, but I know it is breaking the Disney rules.

trisana21
08-14-2011, 01:31 AM
No Mindy, it's not you. It's me, and I should probably just delete this post and stop being on these boards which is pretty much what people what me to do anyway.

I am sorry to sound self pitying, but this just isn't going away even after I thought it had calmed down and fences had been mended. My bridge here has clearly been burnt and no matter what I say or do, I doubt that is changing.

Mindyjoy
08-14-2011, 01:34 AM
No Mindy, it's not you. It's me, and I should probably just delete this post and stop being on these boards which is pretty much what people what me to do anyway.

I am sorry to sound self pitying, but this just isn't going away even after I thought it had calmed down and fences had been mended. My bridge here has clearly been burnt and no matter what I say or do, I doubt that is changing.

I'm sorry I brought it back again, I didn't mean to! Delete if you want, but don't leave the boards! It's the internet, everything is forgotten in a couple days, anyway.

tinkerbell 766
08-14-2011, 01:37 AM
Jessica sweetie - please don't feel like that!!! It was all a storm in a teacup and I have tried my best to calm it all down, but I think it will just take a little time. As soon as the next big debate arrives, this one will be totally forgotten. That is just human nature.
I, for one, would hate to see you disappear from the boards over this!! Now, that one would really be my fault, and I would be truly sorry for it. Please stay!!

Ember
08-14-2011, 05:23 AM
Well I'm glad that seems to be over. OP, I'm sorry for posting "against" you, your hurt feelings were coming across as an attack towards someone I hold in esteem on these boards. I am delighted that the issue has been resolved, and my respect has only increased, for both of you, in how you handled the situation.

OP, I apologise for putting you in a position where you felt you had to justify how were able to go so often to Disney. :flower3: I hope you'll stick around and see how great the boards can be. :thumbsup2

tinkerbell 766
08-14-2011, 05:56 AM
What a lovely post Ember - let's hope that Jessica takes note!! Thank you for what you say about me I am truly honoured by your comments!!!

Tinker74
08-14-2011, 08:38 AM
Jessica..I LOVED your monorail wedding!!....What a lovely idea..a very cool wedding indeed. And what could be better than cake on the boardwalk afterwards...:thumbsup2

Thanks for telling us your wedding story...:)

DoomBuggy0922
08-14-2011, 09:21 AM
I'm glad everything has calmed down!

And Jessica, I just wanted to say you were a very lovely bride. :) I love your stockings! Best wishes to you and your husband!

trisana21
08-14-2011, 10:10 AM
Thank you, everyone, especially Joanne and Ember. I appreciate you being so welcoming after everything that happened. I have been having some scary pain the past day or two and I daresay that has contributed to my grumpitude, though I try not to use that as an excuse.

Dr.Girlfriend
08-21-2011, 10:00 AM
And further, ftr, there is a lovely write up on Offbeat Bride about a couple who sneaked INTO Disneyland proper to get married. A character handler caught sight of them and they thought, "Oh no, jig is up." Instead, the handler brought over Alice and the Mad Hatter to stand in as maid of honour and best man. Afterwards, they were treated to some pictures and a treat.

I would LOVE to read that story! Can you link it? :)

sweetpee_1993
08-21-2011, 10:49 PM
Hi Jessica! I loved your creative Monorail wedding! That was just awesome! So inspired. I love that you tried to keep it as discreet and unobtrusive to other guests as possible. That alone speaks volumes about you. And honestly, if you weren't thinking thru the best options to be unobtrusive would you ever have landed on the Monorail idea? And oh how romantic to be a passenger in your monorail car! Talk about sprinkling Pixie Dust on someone else's day!

I'm with you. I would love more than anything to have my real wedding in the form a vow renewal with DFTW's. My hubby & I were 19 & 21 when we met. We knew each other a total of 2 months when we got engaged. Initially we were planning for a big wedding but then our families were having financial troubles and weren't going to be able to pay our tuition for fall quarter much less afford us the luxury of our dream wedding. Our solution? Go ahead and get married. Once we were married we didn't have to claim our families' incomes and qualified for grants. So after having known each other just 4 months we stood in my in-law's living room while my best friend's dad married us. Our honeymoon was 1 night at the beach because we had to get back to start classes Monday morning. And that will have been 18 years ago next month. :lovestruc

Nowadays I look at the cost of the DFTW events even the least expensive ones and just can't bring myself to do it. I see that $2k and think, "That's the food budget for our family for 10 days at WDW" or "That would buy the boys' curriculum for the school year" (we homeschool). There's always things that seem more important than another ceremony just to indulge the little girl in me that yearns to be a real princess if only for a day.

So I'm happy with my sweet husband who tells me everyday that I'm his princess now and always. I'm good with that. How could I not be, right?

I feel ya, girl. Of course we'd rather have the grand event but not everyone can. I also enjoy living vicariously thru all these other beautiful, blessed brides on their own adventures. At the end of the day I think it's wonderful that we all have our own, very different fairytales to tell. If we all did the same thing that sure wouldn't be any fun. The contrast of stories and experiences is what makes us all more interesting and colorful.

Again, loved reading about your super-cool wedding! So awesome! Thanks for sharing. :hug:


Oh! And BTW, I have never heard of a bouquet of paper flowers but I think that idea is really cool! One of my favorite things is to see ordinary things repurposed into something far from what it originally was. Did you make them? They looked great! Who knew? Paper can be a pretty flower!

AbbyPan
08-23-2011, 03:16 PM
First off, congrats to you for finally getting married!

I haven't posted in so long but the fact that you were able to get married on the monorail called out to me.
I am so jealous! I love the monorail and although we were only able to get a photo on it:

http://i197.photobucket.com/albums/aa46/abbybaker_2007/pic7-3.jpg

...i would have loved to spend more time on it (I wished that it could be our transportation for the wedding...I know silly)

pretty cool and gutsy. i would have been too shy to pull it off, lol

Again, congrats to you & thanks for sharing!!:hug:

trisana21
08-29-2011, 11:27 AM
Thank you, sweetpee and AbbyPan for your comments. :) Sweetpee, I did make the bouquet. I found some lovely tutorials on how to make paper roses, and then adapted them a little bit. I used sheet music, and I have seen book pages used to nice effect as well. Once I finished the roses, I painted them with peach and copper paints in slightly different shades, wired them together, and finished it off with ribbon. I wanted something small and meaningful, and my husband and I both love music and are singers, so it fit. Thank you for the compliments!

Racey
10-06-2011, 06:36 AM
OH Dear - this all go in such pickle did it! ... but hopefully forgotten now .... however, I have to say that I don't think anyone would read this as bragging.... you didnt have the big wow decorated venue to say your vows, you didnt have a mass of friends and family around you, you didnt have the meal adorned with glitz and glamour and private rooms with your own private waiters to have that meal, as well as all the other glitz and glamour that disney overcharges newlyweds-to-be for. Instead you had something that was just fun and within your means at that time.

I for one congratulate and "virtually" shake your hand for doing it, and a special well done goes to doing it discreety.

I also agree with you that some brides do come onto websites/boards and like to "brag" about there new well overpriced find that they will use for an hour on their special day (I would hope most arent doing it for that reason, myself included), but I did not read your thread with that thought at all, and from the look of things many brides on here did not either.

Good Luck for your future

Tracey x

jlovesee
10-10-2011, 10:48 PM
Congratulations to the OP! It sickens me to read all this hate, for what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of one's life in supposedly the happiest place in the world. I am so sick of people on this board sometimes. Whatever happened to being happy for one another? The OP didn't break any "sacred" rules, but probably was more creative then most posters on here, and I give her cuddo's.

To the OP, I bet they are just jealous they didn't think of getting married on a monorail FIRST.

BTW I paid the "big bucks" for a Disney wedding almost 10 years ago, and I don't seem to remember anyone appointing me judge and jury over other Disney guests... Maybe things have changed in the last decade?


Jennifer

tinkerbell 766
10-11-2011, 04:38 PM
Since most of the above post was pointed at me, I would like to say that it was all finished, forgotten and forgiven. Both Jessica and I have admitted it got out of hand and sorted it out a long time ago. Why do you feel the need to bring it all up again?
I am not jealous of Jessica or her wedding and I am absolutely sure she is not jealous of me or mine. Incidentally, I did not pay big bucks for a DFTW - I didn't even have one, and I do not hold myself up as judge and jury over 'other guests'. Although this is over, and I now have the upmost respect for the Jessica, you cannot say that what she did was not against the rules. It was. Yes it was imaginative, yes it was beautiful and yes it was unique etc etc, but it was also against the rules. Try as you might, you cannot deny that (even Jessica does not deny that).
I am sorry I 'sicken' you, and whilst I will not use such colourful language, I will say that it disappoints me how some people on these boards can bring up things which have long since been settled amicably. I can't imagine what your intention was in doing it.

sockmonkey
01-12-2012, 08:21 PM
To other "legitimate" Disney brides: ....

As a 'legitimate' Disney bride (whatever that means...), I have just two words for you and your wedding:

Awe. Some.

trisana21
01-13-2012, 03:55 PM
Thank you for the support, everyone! At the risk of bringing it all up again, I must clarify something, Joanne mentioned again that "even (I) admitted it was against the rules". Um, no. I did not, and it is not. Please know that I have thoroughly explored the situation with Guest Relations (which has outright said that DISBoards and its posters have no authority for determining rules or how they are enforced) and because I had my ceremony where a Disney wedding is not offered, no rule was broken or even really bent.

Again, rules not broken. This from Disney's guest relations, and a supervisor to boot. I need that clarified, just because saying it repeatedly does not make it so. :) Mickey makes it so!!! LOL

Miffy
01-13-2012, 04:32 PM
I just now saw this thread for the first time and wanted to wish the bride and groom every happiness! What an awesome wedding! I totally loved the photos and think it's so cool that you were on the monorail. Congratulations.

tinkerbell 766
01-14-2012, 12:39 PM
Okay, I am clearly in the wrong again, and I apologize!!
It is obviously within the rules to have your wedding on Disney property as long as it isn't in a location used by DFTW.
We have always been led to believe otherwise. We have always been told that it is not allowed, and if you are caught doing this you would be asked to stop.
Jessica sweetie, we have obviously been fed the wrong information. You have found out from a reliable source that it is permitted, and so I concede that you were within your rights to have your wedding on the monorail.
I think we may see more of these ceremonies around the property now this is known.
I really don't wish for all this to start up again, and I am sorry that I said it was against the rules when it is apparently not.

DFTWbride2013
04-09-2012, 04:27 PM
On the monorail? That is hilarious and amazing! I would have never thought of that. Even on the off-chance that I had, I would have assumed it was against the rules and wouldn't have the guts to do it anyway. I couldn't risk getting banned from the Happiest Place on Earth! LOL. :littleangel:

I also wonder if you started a trend. How many people saw this thread and decided to copycat? I wonder if Disney will one day offer it as a special ceremony venue! :laughing:

Either way, congrats! That's definitely one way to make an event memorable.