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karice2
04-01-2011, 05:44 AM
I am a very casual user of swagbucks but find it really useful for Amazon gift cards. I have a kindle and like to use the Amazon gift cards to purchase books for my Kindle. I am really trying to ramp up my gift cards because I have a trip scheduled to Disney and like to load up before I head down. Flying this time but still like to have books while doing the hurry up and wait.

Well, I am one of the last holdouts and don't have a facebook account. I know some people swear by it as a communication tool and a way to reach out to old friends. My motto is "If I lost contact with you, I did it on purpose.". Not only that I am kind of private unless I want to reach out,like to my Disboard friends. There are other reasons that I won't go into but I am just not a facebook user.

Lately all the deals that are fairly simple ways to earn swagbucks require some sort of like on facebook or linking through facebook, which I don't have. I don't want to spend my precious time doing some stuff to earn points only to be stopped because of my not having a facebook account.

I don't ever plan on getting an account, don't want a dummy account, don't want to join under false pretenses. I just don't want to play with facebook but swagbucks just won't stop throwing it in my face. It really stings when I am only 28 points away from my next Amazon gift card.

Ok. Vent over.

pigletto
04-01-2011, 05:54 AM
As the second last facebook holdout I will just say.. I hear you:rotfl::rotfl:

The only thing that makes me want a facebook account less than I already do is the people who will eventually say "I don't see why you're making a big deal of this."
I'm not. I just don't want one. :rolleyes:

My motto is "If I lost contact with you, I did it on purpose."

Pretty much:rotfl:

scrapquitler
04-01-2011, 06:18 AM
I am a very casual user of swagbucks but find it really useful for Amazon gift cards. I have a kindle and like to use the Amazon gift cards to purchase books for my Kindle. I am really trying to ramp up my gift cards because I have a trip scheduled to Disney and like to load up before I head down. Flying this time but still like to have books while doing the hurry up and wait.

Well, I am one of the last holdouts and don't have a facebook account. I know some people swear by it as a communication tool and a way to reach out to old friends. My motto is "If I lost contact with you, I did it on purpose.". Not only that I am kind of private unless I want to reach out,like to my Disboard friends. There are other reasons that I won't go into but I am just not a facebook user.

Lately all the deals that are fairly simple ways to earn swagbucks require some sort of like on facebook or linking through facebook, which I don't have. I don't want to spend my precious time doing some stuff to earn points only to be stopped because of my not having a facebook account.

I don't ever plan on getting an account, don't want a dummy account, don't want to join under false pretenses. I just don't want to play with facebook but swagbucks just won't stop throwing it in my face. It really stings when I am only 28 points away from my next Amazon gift card.

Ok. Vent over.

You can join facebook and set up an account, and make it completely private so that nobody can search for you (you will be invisible, even if someone searches for you by your email address). There's no false pretenses there and it's not a dummy account.

karice2
04-01-2011, 06:28 AM
I don't want to do anything on facebook. Not make it private,not block people, not anything, . I am just annoyed that so many things are requiring some sort of facebook interface to be active in it.

I know it makes me sound old and I really am not but I just don't want to add another thing to my digital life. Not only that, it is a security nightmare and for the work that I do, it is just not worth it.

There are a lot of people in my world who do not have facebook so I know I am not the only one but anything that has that many people touting how great it is can't be good for society as a whole.

The good is that people can reach out and find information about you. The bad is that people can reach out and find information about you. All my friends know don't put pictures of me on facebook and don't reference any event and me in facebook.

GinnyEmma
04-01-2011, 06:41 AM
eh, if you don't want to do it, then don't. They are using it for their purposes. I find it puzzling that people are so uppity about not participating in something.

Darn those people in your life that want to communicate or be involved with you. Whatever.

lol, so you post your picture on a very nonprivate message board? That is a hoot!

Swimalie
04-01-2011, 06:50 AM
I love facebook but only for keeping in contact. I can tell you that I will not "like" something just to get something for free or discount. When you do you are sharing your information and all the information of your friends and I don't share my information to people I don't know on there. Plus, I don't want to share my friend's information unless they give me permission (and getting permission from 290 friends wouldn't be easy). So I'm right there with you in not wanting to like something just for a discount but I do love my facebook.

imthatgirl
04-01-2011, 06:51 AM
Seems simple...if you don't want to use facebook then don't...but then don't be upset when people who do choose to use it get more opportunities then you.

Facebook is a great way for these companies to network, if that doesn't work for you, move on. It seems silly to get mad at them for using the best marketing tools out there.

shortbun
04-01-2011, 07:22 AM
eh, if you don't want to do it, then don't. They are using it for their purposes. I find it puzzling that people are so uppity about not participating in something.

Darn those people in your life that want to communicate or be involved with you. Whatever.

lol, so you post your picture on a very nonprivate message board? That is a hoot!

I'm one of the non Facebook 'uppity' ones. I am pretty offended by your remarks. I don't post pics of myself or anyone I know. Waaay too many people have sacrificed their privacy to Facebook-people like you who mock those of us who prefer NOT to get on board with something that allows anyone to track you down and know everything you want known and things others want known about you. Block away, hackers can get into anything.
My brother actually had his girlfriend's stalker from 20years ago show up on HIS front porch looking for her last year. The crazy guy-stalker-said he found him on Facebook through links from people who had friended my brother because they knew his girlfriend...the man had a gun and luckily no one was hurt when the police approached with their weapons drawn...no Facebook for me, thanks. Have at it and I hope you're happy. :cloud9:

singleinthe city
04-01-2011, 07:33 AM
lol, so you post your picture on a very nonprivate message board? That is a hoot!I was thinking the same thing!:rotfl: She is using her real first name and uses her picture as her avatar.

GinnyEmma
04-01-2011, 07:33 AM
lol, enjoy the attitude I guess. Some people get off on looking down on others. Lol, I know people who won't use the internet at all. So there!

As far as the picture comment, that was directed to the op, lol. Not every person who has ever posted on the internet.

imthatgirl
04-01-2011, 07:35 AM
I'm one of the non Facebook 'uppity' ones. I am pretty offended by your remarks. I don't post pics of myself or anyone I know. Waaay too many people have sacrificed their privacy to Facebook-people like you who mock those of us who prefer NOT to get on board with something that allows anyone to track you down and know everything you want known and things others want known about you. Block away, hackers can get into anything.
My brother actually had his girlfriend's stalker from 20years ago show up on HIS front porch looking for her last year. The crazy guy-stalker-said he found him on Facebook through links from people who had friended my brother because they knew his girlfriend...the man had a gun and luckily no one was hurt when the police approached with their weapons drawn...no Facebook for me, thanks. Have at it and I hope you're happy. :cloud9:

Wait...so you judge your opinion on facebook based on your brothers stupidity? I mean no one has to put personal info on facebook. you don;t even have to use your real name. If your brother knew there was some guy out there looking to kill his girlfriend, he should have been more careful. This was certainly not a facebook problem.

GinnyEmma
04-01-2011, 07:38 AM
aside from the fact it is incredibly easy to find someone anymore using the net. Add a little cash to the plan and you have an address in no time at all.

cam&phoebsmom
04-01-2011, 07:58 AM
I love Swagbucks ($150 in my Amazon account so far since Jan. :cool1: ) but I did set up a fake "swagbucks" facebook account because I did not want to lose out on the SB offers, but I did not want that accessing my personal account. I also have 3 email addresses (one personal, one business, and one for spam when companies want your e-mail addy).

I get that you would not want to get on FB (my DH is not on either) but I think there are a lot of things that are available on FB. We have a new Chick-fil-a opening near us and I won free meals for being the 2000th fan to like them on facebook, plus I won a toy of the year prize from Family Fun. So to me it is not a bad thing ;), but each person should do what is right for them.;)

tlbwriter
04-01-2011, 08:52 AM
lol, enjoy the attitude I guess. Some people get off on looking down on others.

Wait... so choosing not to use Facebook is "looking down on others?" Somebody's feeling a little defensive today! :rotfl:

mrsklamc
04-01-2011, 02:27 PM
You can join facebook and set up an account, and make it completely private so that nobody can search for you (you will be invisible, even if someone searches for you by your email address). There's no false pretenses there and it's not a dummy account.

No, unfortunately, you cannot.

hoosiergirl7
04-01-2011, 02:54 PM
Seems simple...if you don't want to use facebook then don't...but then don't be upset when people who do choose to use it get more opportunities then you.

Facebook is a great way for these companies to network, if that doesn't work for you, move on. It seems silly to get mad at them for using the best marketing tools out there.

Kind of have to agree with this poster. I'm not looking down on you for your choice. I've had several friends and family unplug from Facebook. But, you can't be mad at a company that chooses to use FB to promote itself and give their members the chance to earn more swagbucks by being on FB.

I have "liked" companies and products to be able to get things that others can't. I love free stuff.

crazelion
04-01-2011, 05:32 PM
I am a very casual user of swagbucks but find it really useful for Amazon gift cards. I have a kindle and like to use the Amazon gift cards to purchase books for my Kindle. I am really trying to ramp up my gift cards because I have a trip scheduled to Disney and like to load up before I head down. Flying this time but still like to have books while doing the hurry up and wait.

Well, I am one of the last holdouts and don't have a facebook account. I know some people swear by it as a communication tool and a way to reach out to old friends. My motto is "If I lost contact with you, I did it on purpose.". Not only that I am kind of private unless I want to reach out,like to my Disboard friends. There are other reasons that I won't go into but I am just not a facebook user.

Lately all the deals that are fairly simple ways to earn swagbucks require some sort of like on facebook or linking through facebook, which I don't have. I don't want to spend my precious time doing some stuff to earn points only to be stopped because of my not having a facebook account.

I don't ever plan on getting an account, don't want a dummy account, don't want to join under false pretenses. I just don't want to play with facebook but swagbucks just won't stop throwing it in my face. It really stings when I am only 28 points away from my next Amazon gift card.

Ok. Vent over.

You do know that get points for games, and videos right. If just go to the trusted surveys you will get a point. The polls sections gets points. NOSO is just bunch skips and automatically get two points. Swagtv you get up to 75 points just watching tv.

I don't bother with special offers anymore. I average up to a 5 dollar amazon card a week or more. That depends on how time that I have.

I love swagbucks. It so easy to do.

crazelion
04-01-2011, 05:36 PM
I only have facebook account get free stuff. I don't even bother checking half the time.

Regal cinamas give facebook coupons for concession stand. I love those freebies. Pair with movie gift card makes going to the movies free. LOL

karice2
04-01-2011, 06:26 PM
OP here. I want to clarify one thing. Having a pic up is not the same as posting my entire personal life on a website that collects valuable information about me and is available to people that can and would do harm to individuals.

My perspective about not wanting to join Facebook comes from an entirely different place than the average person and I was not being uppity about it. I readily admit that on a very good day, I can out uppity the best of them. My nose can point due north when I want it to. I wouldn't expect anyone here to know that because my every waking thought is not available for the world to see along with my drunken night at the nightclub.

Being annoyed about a site wanting me to be a member of another site to reap the full benefits is just that, an annoyance. It was a vent because I am pretty casual about using swagbucks and just kind of noticed that all of those things were interrelated. I just wanted to Amazon cards to load books on my Kindle.

I make no judgement about anyone who chooses to us Facebook as a method for communicating with people. It is not for me and I said as much. I don't want people looking me up from my past. I don't want to check a website to find out what is going on with my friends and I don't want to randomly cruise sites looking for people that I used to know.

It isn't for me. Free gift cards are.

southern_redhead
04-01-2011, 08:12 PM
My motto is "If I lost contact with you, I did it on purpose."

:lmao: Yes! I had a FB account that I eventually deleted for this reason. People were getting on my nerves and, then, I realized "Hey, I didn't like you much in HS, either!" Duh! That was when I realized FB was not for me.

ETA: I don't look down on people who use FB. I have friends who are addicted to it, friends who use it and love it. I have family who has it but never uses it. It just didn't work for me and my personality. I tried never going on but then people would say "Did you see _______ on FB?" and I'd say I'm never on and they'd say "BUT, but, you HAVE FB?! You're my friend on there!!"...... it's a whole lot easier to say "No, I didn't, I deactivated my account." It also cut out people flat out asking me (in person) to either be their friend (Are you on FB? Can I send you a friend request?) or if I'd gotten their friend request (I sent you a request last night but this morning you still hadn't accepted me...have I done something?) It started out that I just had myself, my uncle and aunt, a few good friends. But then people found me, I felt rude ignoring them..... But, if it works for you, I say go for it!

disneydreamin247
04-01-2011, 08:20 PM
The thing you are forgetting is that those gift cards aren't free. You're exchanging your time and information for them.

richmond282
04-01-2011, 10:34 PM
No, unfortunately, you cannot.

Actually, yes you can.

To the OP, I realize you don't want a facebook account and there's nothing wrong with that, but companies are having to get creative with their advertising now that everybody fast forwards through commercials with Tivo or watches everything on Netflix. They are "paying" (with SBs) you to click on an advertisement. If you don't want to, then don't but you don't get "paid" either.

To earn swagbucks, just watch a few SBTV videos. For every 10 you watch, you get 3 SBs. You can win up to 75 SBs a day through video.

Every day you can get 2 SBs for visiting NOSO, 1 SB for having to toolbar, 1 SB for visiting the trusted survey page (you don't even have to do the surveys), and 1 SB for voting in the daily poll.

Play the games under the game tab. Play a game, then hit the "back to games" button. For every 2 games you play, you get 2 SBs for a total of 10 a day.

Check for videos under the special offers. Just let them run and get your points.

Check your swidget for swagcodes.

karice2
04-02-2011, 05:27 AM
To earn swagbucks, just watch a few SBTV videos. For every 10 you watch, you get 3 SBs. You can win up to 75 SBs a day through video.

Every day you can get 2 SBs for visiting NOSO, 1 SB for having to toolbar, 1 SB for visiting the trusted survey page (you don't even have to do the surveys), and 1 SB for voting in the daily poll.

Play the games under the game tab. Play a game, then hit the "back to games" button. For every 2 games you play, you get 2 SBs for a total of 10 a day.

Check for videos under the special offers. Just let them run and get your points.

Check your swidget for swagcodes.

I didn't know about the earning through games. I am a fan of the word swap and the snow day game.

I do the other things and I work the non facebook things as often as possible. I am also shipping them my books that I don't need anymore to earn additional bucks.

It was just a vent about the proliferation of facebook into the daily life of non facebook people. I understand the need for companies to stretch their advertising dollars as far as possible.

richmond282
04-02-2011, 09:25 AM
I didn't know about the earning through games. I am a fan of the word swap and the snow day game.

I do the other things and I work the non facebook things as often as possible. I am also shipping them my books that I don't need anymore to earn additional bucks.

It was just a vent about the proliferation of facebook into the daily life of non facebook people. I understand the need for companies to stretch their advertising dollars as far as possible.

I'm not a "hardcore" swagbucks user, but I usually get my 5 $5 amazon gift cards a month. You're welcome to message me if you have any other questions. Sorry so much of it is facebook. I usually do OK with filling out the surveys. I qualify for several a month. They are a bit time consuming though.

rubato
04-02-2011, 10:14 AM
I love facebook but only for keeping in contact. I can tell you that I will not "like" something just to get something for free or discount. When you do you are sharing your information and all the information of your friends and I don't share my information to people I don't know on there. Plus, I don't want to share my friend's information unless they give me permission (and getting permission from 290 friends wouldn't be easy). So I'm right there with you in not wanting to like something just for a discount but I do love my facebook.

This is why I am not on Facebook. It's not whether I will share my info randomly, because I won't. But, when you have 100s of "friends" with your info, they can share it anyway they chose. Everytime they do something stupid, you are linked to that.

I miss out on lots of info and deals not having Facebook, but I'm okay with that. :thumbsup2

MoonFaerie
04-02-2011, 10:24 AM
OP here. I want to clarify one thing. Having a pic up is not the same as posting my entire personal life on a website that collects valuable information about me and is available to people that can and would do harm to individuals.

My perspective about not wanting to join Facebook comes from an entirely different place than the average person and I was not being uppity about it. I readily admit that on a very good day, I can out uppity the best of them. My nose can point due north when I want it to. I wouldn't expect anyone here to know that because my every waking thought is not available for the world to see along with my drunken night at the nightclub.

Being annoyed about a site wanting me to be a member of another site to reap the full benefits is just that, an annoyance. It was a vent because I am pretty casual about using swagbucks and just kind of noticed that all of those things were interrelated. I just wanted to Amazon cards to load books on my Kindle.

I make no judgement about anyone who chooses to us Facebook as a method for communicating with people. It is not for me and I said as much. I don't want people looking me up from my past. I don't want to check a website to find out what is going on with my friends and I don't want to randomly cruise sites looking for people that I used to know.

It isn't for me. Free gift cards are.

So use a fake name and fake info. Then no one can look you up from your past and the info collected will be fake. Then you can get the free gift cards without worrying about people from your past or whatever.

I really can't hate on companies using social networking. It works. While I was still in business, at least 75% of my clients found me through facebook.

MoonFaerie
04-02-2011, 10:28 AM
You can join facebook and set up an account, and make it completely private so that nobody can search for you (you will be invisible, even if someone searches for you by your email address). There's no false pretenses there and it's not a dummy account.

That is true. My personal facebook account (rather than my fake account for games and stuff) was locked down so tight that when my lab partners couldn't find me, even with all my info. :rotfl:

delmar411
04-02-2011, 10:38 AM
No, unfortunately, you cannot.

Yes you can. You can lock down your account to where you are simply invisible to everyone. Just have to change your privacy settings.

Mom&RN
04-02-2011, 04:23 PM
What makes the world go 'round is that there are all sorts of different people that live on it. I am another anti-facebook person but I could care less who is or isn't on facebook. It doesn't interest me butnif it floats your boat go for it. Just a note though, for all of you that keep touting the fact that things you put on the internet can be private. In this day and age of advanced data collection by companies and hackers there is NO SUCH THING as internet privacy. :surfweb: Really. My hubby worked for the government for years and worked in the same department as the computer security guys and let me tell you - if someone wants your info. bad enough, they will get it. :sad2: This doesn't stop me from doing what I want to do on the internet, though, its just too convenient and fun. Life is short, do what makes you happy. If facebook is your thing - have at it! :thumbsup2

pintamino
04-02-2011, 05:42 PM
No, unfortunately, you cannot.

Yes, you can. I can't be found on Facebook, and if you find a friend's profile or something that I have posted on, my name isn't even a hyperlink that can be clicked on.

If the OP doesn't want to use Facebook, she doesn't have to. But begrudging companies the right to use a marketing tool is just ridiculous. You don't want to use Facebook -- fine. You miss that opportunity. I don't always call for the coupon on the bottom of my reciepts at stores because I think it's too inconvenient (or I don't have time -- or I don't want to give them my zip code -- or whatever reason). I miss that opportunity. Move on. It's not some grand issue of society and life and death and rights.

mrsklamc
04-02-2011, 06:40 PM
Yes, you can. I can't be found on Facebook, and if you find a friend's profile or something that I have posted on, my name isn't even a hyperlink that can be clicked on.


Maybe it has to do with when you made your account? I only made my account recently and the highest level of privacy available is 'visible to friends of friends."

delmar411
04-02-2011, 07:36 PM
Maybe it has to do with when you made your account? I only made my account recently and the highest level of privacy available is 'visible to friends of friends."

You need to click 'Custom' in the privacy settings and from there you can edit it right down to specific people if you want. I have custom settings because I was playing some FB games and I didn't want those people to be able to see anything on my wall or my info.

Swimalie
04-02-2011, 07:58 PM
This is why I am not on Facebook. It's not whether I will share my info randomly, because I won't. But, when you have 100s of "friends" with your info, they can share it anyway they chose. Everytime they do something stupid, you are linked to that.

I miss out on lots of info and deals not having Facebook, but I'm okay with that. :thumbsup2

I am completely invisible on facebook. Even my sister couldn't find me until I changed my setting for a few minutes, she found me and then I reset it back to invisible. I also don't put any personal info on there except my name. My email address is even one I only use for facebook. So I set mine as nothing to share if someone does.

jessica52877
04-02-2011, 08:03 PM
I love facebook but only for keeping in contact. I can tell you that I will not "like" something just to get something for free or discount. When you do you are sharing your information and all the information of your friends and I don't share my information to people I don't know on there. Plus, I don't want to share my friend's information unless they give me permission (and getting permission from 290 friends wouldn't be easy). So I'm right there with you in not wanting to like something just for a discount but I do love my facebook.

I agree with this! I hate how it shares all your friends info too, but I can see all my friends like this and that and more then likely my info has already been shared!! :confused3

tinkarooni
04-03-2011, 09:43 AM
I don't do the Facebook thing, so I don't really know the ins and outs. I did open an account with a variation of my name and my spam e- mail that I use. A couple of people still found me, I guess I don't know it enough to know how to be totally "invisible". But honestly I just use it for free stuff and I friend no-one. I have told all my friends I don't use Facebook, a few have still sent me Friend requests and tried to give me a hard time because I don't answer, I just say sorry, I just don't use it.

They have forgotten about it and moved on, and I get my free stuff, right now my only "friends" are companies who send me stuff.....:rotfl: I can be bought apparently. :lmao:

maggiew
04-03-2011, 11:36 AM
Personally I don't see the big deal. You can have a Facebook account and not use it except for your Swagbucks thing. You don't have to "friend" anybody. You don't have to post your personal info. So I am not sure how having the Facebook account will violate your privacy. You have to physically put your private information up there for it to be available. You don't even have to use your real name.

I think people who "refuse to be assimilated" are doing it for the standout factor. I just can't explain it any other way.

Maggie

MP2002
04-03-2011, 03:19 PM
I'm with you OP! I don't facebook, I won't facebook, and nobody can make me facebook! I just don't want to get involved with it but it doesn't bother me that others do. I am surprised by how much personal info. people do put out there, photos, etc. and then don't utilize the privacy settings like you all were talking about. But that is their business as long as I am not expected to participate in it. For personal reasons I don't want to go there and my friends and family all know this and agree that I shouldn't join so my younger cousins stop by and show me pics of their kids in front of the tree, halloween, etc. and same with my friends so I don't feel like I am missing anything. My hubby and I say all the time that we are in hiding so we can't join!

I do have a question for you facebook savvy people that I have always wondered about. I have never had a facebook account, real or fake so they should have no info. on me at all correct? However, I occasionally get an e-mail that says so and so wants you to join facebook and look at their photos. I just delete it without really looking at the entire e-mail. Well the last one that I got I actually scrolled to the bottom of the e-mail and it said something like "come on and join look at all these people who you might know and want to be friends with". Well there were around 10-12 names or so with their little profile picture and I either knew or knew of all but 2 of those people. How did they know that about me when I don't have an account? Some of the people I know well but others I just know by name. Like one was my cousin's ex sister-in-law who I have met maybe 3 times. Another was a co-worker of my sister about 20 years ago who I met a couple of times in the 80's.

So my question for anyone who might know is how do they know this about me who they should have no info. on other than my one friend who wanted me to look at her pics but this person did not know any of the other people listed? I don't like that they are somehow tracking me when I am not even a user of their site.

Purseval
04-03-2011, 04:38 PM
I don't have a Facebook account, not because I'm worried about my privacy but because I do enough boring and stupid things on my own without having to add another way to waste time. My wife has an account if we need to get anything for free. she used to play Farmville, Countrylife, Mafia Wars and a few others but it only took one WDW vacation away from it to see what a tremendous waste of time it was. Now she just posts pictures for her friends and looks for freebies.

cajunbaby1
04-03-2011, 05:02 PM
I think the whole facebook thing is out of control. If you post a comment on your friends comment, the next thing u know you get an email from facebook from everyone else who also commented. You get offers to locate people who are friends with your friends. I mean chances are if I hated back in high school; I'm pretty sure I coudl care less about you now!! Oh now it just seems like one be advertisement trying to get u to buy or sign up for something.

scrapquitler
04-04-2011, 06:01 AM
I do have a question for you facebook savvy people that I have always wondered about. I have never had a facebook account, real or fake so they should have no info. on me at all correct? However, I occasionally get an e-mail that says so and so wants you to join facebook and look at their photos. I just delete it without really looking at the entire e-mail. Well the last one that I got I actually scrolled to the bottom of the e-mail and it said something like "come on and join look at all these people who you might know and want to be friends with". Well there were around 10-12 names or so with their little profile picture and I either knew or knew of all but 2 of those people. How did they know that about me when I don't have an account? Some of the people I know well but others I just know by name. Like one was my cousin's ex sister-in-law who I have met maybe 3 times. Another was a co-worker of my sister about 20 years ago who I met a couple of times in the 80's.

So my question for anyone who might know is how do they know this about me who they should have no info. on other than my one friend who wanted me to look at her pics but this person did not know any of the other people listed? I don't like that they are somehow tracking me when I am not even a user of their site.

Because when someone joins facebook (Mary, for example), Facebook says to Mary "Do you want us to help you find your friends who are already on facebook?" If you choose YES to that option, Facebook scans Mary's contact lists in her email account, and searches Facebook for people in her contact list who are already on Facebook, and tells her "Your friend Susie is a Facebook member, click here to friend request her" If the people in her contacts list are NOT a Facebook member, she can have Facebook send them an email suggesting that they join facebook (which is likely why YOU got that email). The people who you saw the picturs of, are probably facebook friends with "Mary" already.

jacksmomma
04-04-2011, 09:00 AM
Because when someone joins facebook (Mary, for example), Facebook says to Mary "Do you want us to help you find your friends who are already on facebook?" If you choose YES to that option, Facebook scans Mary's contact lists in her email account, and searches Facebook for people in her contact list who are already on Facebook, and tells her "Your friend Susie is a Facebook member, click here to friend request her" If the people in her contacts list are NOT a Facebook member, she can have Facebook send them an email suggesting that they join facebook (which is likely why YOU got that email). The people who you saw the picturs of, are probably facebook friends with "Mary" already.

That is what creeps me out about facebook.

delmar411
04-04-2011, 09:16 AM
I think the whole facebook thing is out of control. If you post a comment on your friends comment, the next thing u know you get an email from facebook from everyone else who also commented. You get offers to locate people who are friends with your friends. I mean chances are if I hated back in high school; I'm pretty sure I coudl care less about you now!! Oh now it just seems like one be advertisement trying to get u to buy or sign up for something.

Again this goes back to adjusting your settings. I get no FB emails and no random junk suggested to me. I also use Ad Block Plus on firefox to block all ads so I didn't even realize FB had ads running down the side of pages until I logged into it at school.

Plannin'Shannon
04-04-2011, 11:58 AM
I don't have a Facebook account, not because I'm worried about my privacy but because I do enough boring and stupid things on my own without having to add another way to waste time.

This.

mom of princessx2
04-04-2011, 12:32 PM
This.

Agree as well. I spend enough time on the DIS to add anything else.

I can understand the frustration. It is getting to where everyone and everything thinks you should have to be on FB. I have friends and relatives on it that tell me "I wish you were on FB so we could talk" Really like I have no phone or email :confused3

SaraJayne
04-04-2011, 12:44 PM
Most of the things people are complaining about in this thread can easily be fixed by changing your security settings.

You are the one that controls how much information you share.

Maddle
04-04-2011, 01:36 PM
Sigh....I just don't see the big deal...and I know this thread has gone in another direction from the OP, so before I comment on Facebook, let me say - It's a marketing tool like so many other marketing tools. If you are not going to let them push their product/service in your face - and by extension all of your "friends'" faces - in whatever fashion they find has the best cost/benefit - that's okay. But don't be mad when they don't share their premium with you either. Facebook is big, like it or not, and for marketing it's ideal. I don't ever participate in any of the marketing stuff, ("'Like' us on Facebook.") No thanks - I don't need that free sample enough to have you into my and my friends' business, and selling my link to someone else, etc.



Facebook in general:....sure, you can try to keep yourself "pure" and "safe" by not joining....but like an earlier PP said, if someone wants to find you, they will. AND - it won't take an awful lot of effort or a pile of cash to do it. I've had a few people find me, but I don't WANT any more "friends" so I just don't respond, and I don't feel "rude." I don't accept, and I don't refuse. Heck - I haven't been in touch with those people in well over twenty-five years. I don't think their self esteem is so fragile.

On the other hand, I have a few close relatives that REFUSE to join. They have their reasons. (I think they are nutty reasons, but who cares?) I post stuff on Facebook. They KNOW I post stuff on Facebook. If they are interested, they can join, or they can log onto their kid's account to see stuff. I am NOT going to make a special effort to send separate stuff to them. If they don't want to see pictures of me and my grandchildren, it's their business.

Be there, or be square....that's my sentiment. :surfweb: BUT - don't tell me you are keeping yourself "safe." If you do ANYTHING online - you are out there. It's just a question of "how much" you are out there.

Maddle

MP2002
04-04-2011, 03:37 PM
Because when someone joins facebook (Mary, for example), Facebook says to Mary "Do you want us to help you find your friends who are already on facebook?" If you choose YES to that option, Facebook scans Mary's contact lists in her email account, and searches Facebook for people in her contact list who are already on Facebook, and tells her "Your friend Susie is a Facebook member, click here to friend request her" If the people in her contacts list are NOT a Facebook member, she can have Facebook send them an email suggesting that they join facebook (which is likely why YOU got that email). The people who you saw the picturs of, are probably facebook friends with "Mary" already.


Thanks for your explanation! That makes sense and it is what I thought at first but I know "Mary" doesn't know any of the people listed. As far as I know, no one I know has even talked to one of those people in at least 10 years. Oh well, I guess it will remain a mystery.

Sorry for highjacking the original post I just thought someone might be able to finally answer that question.

Ava
04-04-2011, 04:14 PM
Thanks for your explanation! That makes sense and it is what I thought at first but I know "Mary" doesn't know any of the people listed. As far as I know, no one I know has even talked to one of those people in at least 10 years. Oh well, I guess it will remain a mystery.

Sorry for highjacking the original post I just thought someone might be able to finally answer that question.
There is likely some connection between "Mary" and that person no one has spoken to in 10 years. FB works like "6 Degrees of Separation" - if your friend's friend's friend has that person listed as a friend (or even just has that person in their e-mail contacts), FB may suggest her to you. The "People You May Know" or "Friend Suggestions" or whatever they're called now kind of weird me out sometimes, but that's the whole concept of FB - connecting people.

P.S. - If you think Facebook is creepy, try Twitter. Twitter makes me feel like a stalker, but it's so addictive!

mom of princessx2
04-04-2011, 05:00 PM
On the other hand, I have a few close relatives that REFUSE to join. They have their reasons. (I think they are nutty reasons, but who cares?) I post stuff on Facebook. They KNOW I post stuff on Facebook. If they are interested, they can join, or they can log onto their kid's account to see stuff. I am NOT going to make a special effort to send separate stuff to them. If they don't want to see pictures of me and my grandchildren, it's their business.


Maddle


Wow. They can't be very close relatives if you would not make a special effort to send them anything just because they are not on Facebook.
This is one of the reasons I don't care to have an account. If my relatives would rather share their pictures with all of their "friends" instead of make any special effort to include those of us that choose to not have Facebook so be it but they can't be offended if I don't make any special efforts back.

hipchickie
04-04-2011, 07:45 PM
On the other hand, I have a few close relatives that REFUSE to join. They have their reasons. (I think they are nutty reasons, but who cares?) I post stuff on Facebook. They KNOW I post stuff on Facebook. If they are interested, they can join, or they can log onto their kid's account to see stuff. I am NOT going to make a special effort to send separate stuff to them. If they don't want to see pictures of me and my grandchildren, it's their business.

ITA...even though I don't have that issue. If you don't want to go on facebook, suit yourself, but don't expect everyone to make special accommodations for you.
Luckily everyone I want to be in contact with is pretty much on there, from cousins in Germany and Greece, to elderly relatives, to friends all over the world. This past week I was "reunited" with my 2nd cousins once removed from Argentina!

I am OK with the privacy levels I have set in order to find and keep connections like these

Maddle
04-04-2011, 08:37 PM
Wow. They can't be very close relatives if you would not make a special effort to send them anything just because they are not on Facebook.
This is one of the reasons I don't care to have an account. If my relatives would rather share their pictures with all of their "friends" instead of make any special effort to include those of us that choose to not have Facebook so be it but they can't be offended if I don't make any special efforts back.

They are close enough. (And honestly, if it's something really really special, I will forward it....but usually it's a cut and paste off of my DDIL's FB account - which they could see if they would join - and it's VERY rare that I do that.) But my "friends" are mostly relatives. The ones who aren't on are being stubborn or paranoid. (Yes, they are. I'm talking about my relatives here, not you guys. I'm sure you have your reasons, but they're not relevent to my situation.) We talk on the phone regularly, (and occasionally send clippings and pics to each other,) but I think they are missing out on a whole new dimension of our extended family life. It's just me and my siblings and our kids, some cousins and a couple old friends sharing the occasional comment on life and a few pics. It's very chummy and I live so far away from alll of them that it is a real connection for me.

I'm with Hipchickie - suit yourself, but don't expect special accomodations.

Maddle