Why do we always notify hotels and restaurants about anniversaries and birthdays???

[Ned Land]

WDW gets a million calls every year from families allerting the staff that their trip is in celebration of a special event. They get to their room and if they don't get a card or a fruit basket they are mad. But...is this a special action on Disney's part or just part of the normal routine. I mean... is it really special to receive a card or something if you have to call up and ask for it? And if people don't get it they are furious.

I place much more value on the spur of the moment stuff that the Cast Members do on our trips. Am I wrong?

[Rebeltinkle]

:Pinkbounc I agee with you that when you have to request a card or such that it's not the same as just receiving one unasked for but I think a lot of people know that it is a really nice souvenir of an occasion to get one from Disney. I think of it this way, if I didn't ask for the little recognition of a special occasion, there would be no way anyone other than our group would know about it.It's just another fun little addition to the trip. :Pinkbounc

[skiwee1]

I agree Ned land. I think it is just another way of someone trying to get something for nothing. I don't want a card or gift if I have to ask for it! LOL! My husband is even good at gift giving and I never have to throw a hint. :D In my opinion I think it is tacky for anyone to tell the CM that they are celebrating an anniversary, birthday, etc. because we all know they are just looking for a handout. I can see if they tell the CM only because they themselves want to pay balloons waiting in the room when they get there or something like that. That doesn't happen too much, I'm sure. If someone needs an acknowledgment that badly then have a loved one get them something as a surprise. After all, if it doesn't come from the heart, who wants it?:confused:

[MJames41]

I let Disney know about my son's birthday on our next trip, but I don't expect anything for it. I just let them know in the hope that they might do something like they did on our last trip on his birthday (balloon, authographed photo, coloring book). My son will be 16 and I will be doing my best to make it a great trip - if we don't have a good time, it won't be because they didn't surprise him with something. I agree with Rebeltinkle, I'm just letting them know to give them the opportunity to surprise him. And if they can't, well we'll still be at Disney World.

[CamColt]

I agree! As an adult, I would feel quite silly checking in and saying its my birthday or anniversary(especailly if it werent, like a lot of people do). I can see doing it for a kid, if the birthday really is during that trip, but not when it was 6 months ago and you are just "celebrating" the occasion. Im not saying its wrong to do it, I just think its silly for adults.

[Brian430]

I think is testimony to how special people Disney's makes its guests feel when they are on property that people hold WDW to such absurd expectations.

Given the fact that 160,000 people visit the four WDW parks every day there are nearly 440 people who are celebrating a birthday on any given day. The reality is Disney can ill afford to be presenting handouts for every celebrating a special occassion.

Factor in anniversaries, promotions, graduations, chearleading competitions family reunions, corporate outings, school field trips, church socials and you'll quickly come to the conclusion that a good percentage of the guests are celebrating something special in their lives.

Should a bottle of bubbly be waiting in everyone's room with a free pass that ushers them to the front of every line?

I'm not blindly loyal to Disney, but it seems to me that half the gripes on this site stem from a childlike need to feel special and that Disney should serve at the paternal figure to meet that need.

[Disneydenise]

Does anyone know who you should call to get a cake delivered to your room? I expect to pay for it but DS is celebrating his 17th Bday while we are there and I wanted to have something to surprise him when we check in and I wanted to make sure it was there not just hope.

[peachgirl]

Finally! I absolutely agree it seems awfully silly to be announcing your special occasion in hopes of getting something for it. I, like others, just don't get it. If you do tell them of the occasion it's because you have an expectation that they might do something for you. I just don't see where the surprise comes from or how it makes you feel special. Now if in just talking with a cm, it naturally came up...as in they asked ME if there was some special reason for the trip (and yes, I've had them do that) then I'd say so. But I'd be truly surprised if they did anything special (which btw, they did). Otherwise you'd just have to beat me with a stick to get me to do that. I'd rather let the magic happen instead of trying to orchestrate it.

[melomouse]

Originally posted by Brian430
I'm not blindly loyal to Disney, but it seems to me that half the gripes on this site stem from a childlike need to feel special and that Disney should serve at the paternal figure to meet that need. [/B]

WOW, Brian! Well said and I agree completely!

[cinmell]

I agree ;) ;) ;) ;)

[Ned Land]

Are these the same people who go to Whispering Canyon and are ticked off because they asked for "ketchup" and their server did not act weird or get loud?

[Disneylvr]

5 years ago my wonderful husband had a private discussion with guest services at the Polynesian. We were staying there to celebrate my 30th birthday. He wasn't requesting that THEY personally do something special for my birthday, but he himself wanted to do something special and was willing to pay for it and wanted to know what was available (a cake or something) Guest services told him not to worry that THEY would take care of it. We were not staying in concierge either. He thanked the very kind CM's and went on his way.

On my birthday the Polynesian Resort had a small cake, a birthday card, noise makers and balloons delivered to our room. The cake was served on real china! My husband swears that he did not have to pay for this that it was compliments of the resort but he did not EXPECT them to automatically acknowledge my birthday, free of charge. They just did it. I thanked them at check out and in a letter written after our trip.

What is wrong with wanting to feel special once in awhile!!!??? I myself didn't personally announce that it was my birthday (my husband privately told CM's at the restaurants) and nor would it be special if I had to say it myself. My 30th birthday, which I had been dreading, turned into one of the best days of my life because my husband wanted it to be special for me and Disney World helped him out. My birthday was acknowleged at a character breakfast that morning (free photograph) and at dinner that evening (at Bonfamille's) with another birthday cake and the entire restaurant singing "Happy Birthday" to me. I think this is a common occurance as I see it happen all the time in WDW and in the local restaurants here in my home town.

The errors come when guests EXPECT special things to happen just because it is their birthday, anniversary etc. and then are very dissapointed or even angry when it doesn't. Obviously WDW can't acknowledge every special event But it doesn't hurt to make requests or let cast members know that someone in your party is celebrating a birthday. Myabe they will do something special and maybe they won't. I have even had CM's ask if someone in my party was celebrating their birthday. I certainly consider myself lucky to have my 30th birthday turn out like it did but I do not expect to ever have it happen again.

[Bob NC]

I have seen people mention that if you are on your honeymoon, or, it's your birthday, you should tell the operator that takes your PS, host/hostess at every restaurant, every waiter/waitress, front desk personnel, etc, etc, etc. That just, TO ME, seems very odd...Almost like you're begging for something. Sure, we all like special attention sometimes, but is the attention really special if you have to ask for it? I think if it were my kids birthday THE DAY we are at a particular WDW restaurant, I might mention it to the waitperson. But, if it were my birthday would I mention it? No way. LOL.....I just can't picture how that would sound. WAITER: "Hello, my name is Juan, how may I help you"? ME: "Hi, today's my birthday". WAITER: "Oh.....well....um....that's just...um.....great...uh.... Happy Birthday".

[Hollymom1229]

This upcoming trip my fiancee and I are celebrating an anniversary. The only place I told was V&A's, but when CBR closed the CM that switched us to AKL asked and so I told him. If some extra Pixie Dust is scattered our way great, if not I'll be with the man I love in the happiest place on earth, what could be more perfect?

[Disneylvr]

I didn't have to ask for myself, nor would I ever do that. My husband did the inquiring at the Polynesian expecting to pay for a cake or balloons. The Poly offered to do something, free of charge, and that did make it very special for the both of us. My husband also told our servers at the restaurants (not to my knowledge at all) we dined in that that day that is was my 30th birthday. He didn't expect(but did hope for) them to do anything, they just did. I was both thrilled and embarrassed! But definately a day I will never forget. :D We do not make a habit of making special requests for every birthday or anniversary. But my DH did think my 30th was considered extra special.

[SamanthaL]

My grandmother is having her 85 b-day on our trip and I let the hotel know. We have an Illumination Cruise planned and a cake will be served then, but if there is anything the hotel will do to make her feel special what is the harm?
I would never go around telling everyone it is my birthday but at 85 doesn't everyone deserve special attention. If they don't do anything that is fine, as I said we have our celebration planned. But I am in agreement with Disneylvr.

[Tinkbell]

Samantha, I totally agree that at 85 your grandma deserves special attention. I hope she has a great trip.


I don't see anything wrong with mentioning a birthday--IF it is really your birthday. I was at WDW in July and we were constantly running into a family where the mother was wearing a birthday badge everyday. We ate at Cindy's on our first day, we had to sing to her. We saw them at Epcot the next day and she still had that button on. Walking down Main Street the following afternoon we heard the Barbershop Quartet singing "Happy Birthday". Yep, they were singing to her.:rolleyes: I saw them on the AKL bus the next day and she was proudly wearing her button again. I just couldn't believe it. Talk about a need for attention. I don't get why people want to celebrate their birthday EVERY DAY of thier entire vacation.:)

[Dopey Sharon]

I just booked our trip, to the Bahamas, today with my travel agent. When I was telling her our preferences...king bed, non-smoking room, she added, your 25th anniversary. I had mentioned that this trip was for our anniversary, on Friday when I last talked to her. Hey, if the resort wants to upgrade us to a nicer room because it's our anniversary, I'll take it, but I'm not going to be upset if they don't.

[year2late]

I also think it bogs down the staff to inform the hotel in advance.
The one exception is if you were ordering something from the hotel to be in your room on check in.

Otherwise it is asking for special privelige. How is a couple celebrating their anniversery any more important than a family who had 3 garage sales and scrimped and saved for 2 years to go on the trip? We all have our stories.

If you want special privelige for a special occasion, pay for it. Get the Deluxe. Get the room with a view. Get Concierge.

[GEM]

I don't think there is anything at all wrong with mentioning that it is your birthday, that you are on your honeymoon, that you're celebrating your anniversary, etc.

I do think there is something wrong with getting upset, dissapointed, or angry if nothing comes of mentioning it.

[skiwee1]

While I do believe that an 85th birthday deserves special attention I see no reason why it should come from Disney. Why can't it come from her family? Have a fruit basket waiting in the room for grandmom. Can't cost that much and what a small price to pay for an 85th birthday. As for parents wanting a kid's birthday special, order some balloons and have them waiting in the room. If the kid is that special then the parent should be falling all over themselves to make the day special. For my little girl I wanted to surprise her with a gift left from Minnie Mouse. I placed it in the room when she wasn't around. She got her gift and I didn't have to ask anyone for it. It was extra special because it came from someone who loves her. I still think it is tacky to mention it while making reservations, PSs or anything else. If the occasion is so special then by all means buy something for the person. :D

[shmoogrrrl]

Originally posted by CamColt
I agree! As an adult, I would feel quite silly checking in and saying its my birthday or anniversary(especailly if it werent, like a lot of people do).

People LIE? Now that is lame!

We might mention it if we were actually celebrating the occasion on that specific day, but not the whole trip! How strange! Then again, we went to Disney World on our honeymoon and didn't tell anyone. We did get some recognition though since we'd booked the Honeymoon package, but nothing we mentioned! My husband wouldn't even wear the bride and groom Mickey and Minnie hats around!

Ahh well! To each his own! We are doing Disney World and the DCL in March. It will be the week AFTER my Birthday and the week BEFORE our 3 year anniversary. Guess no cake for me. :) I'll have to hold out for some nice Jewelry at one of the ports from my hubby!

Kathy

[moosebug]

We will be on our honeymoon and I will be celebrating ym birthday at disney in dec. I expect a little something extra so i emailed pixie gifts and ordered a basket of toasting flutes, and bubbly and truffles etc. If it is that important I order it myself. Now if Disney just happens to give me a card, cake or even an acknowledgement that's cool too---but I don't expect it.

[CuteKatCar]

I'd rather have my room requests met.......:smooth: :smooth: :cool: :cool:


Anna

[aahmom1]

I just think it's so annoying when people expect something for free, don't get it then proceed to complain about it.

I can't BELIEVE the number of people who complain that they didn't get stupid towel animals on their trips!! It is simply amazing to me that peope have come to expect it. I have been to WDW 9 times and I have yet to SEE a towel animal. I guess I just don't know what I'm missing, maybe I'll shoot off a letter to Michael Eisner now. :rolleyes:

As for people pretending it's their birthday or their kids birthdays to get extra attention, how pathetic, get a life.

[hallie]

We've never mentioned an event when we've gone and we've been on our honeymoon, anniversary, 3-4 b-days etc... I've never even thought to tell them and even if I did I wouldn 't expect anything for free-lol.
:p

[aahmom1]

BTW, we were there on our honeymoon and 2 anniversaries since, and I haven't ever brought attention to it.

[dandave]

I only brought attention to the fact that we were celebrating our 10th anniversary at AKL to the concierge staff, because it was supposed to be a surprise for DH that we were staying concierge. They called me at home to ask if I wanted to do the Sunrise Safari, and I explained this asking that we continue future correspondence via email. That way, DH would not accidentally intercept a phone call.
We did receive fantastic anniversary gifts from the lodge and the concierge staff, but being able to stay there on the concierge level would have made us happy in and of itself. These gifts were surprises, and I never asked for or expected them. We loved them, but we treated them as "gifts". We made sure that the concierge staff knew that we were thankful and delighted to have received them.

[ceecee]

I always bring my daughter some surprises from Mickey and the gang...then put them on her bed when she's not in the room. It makes it special. I agree YOU need to make your own child feel special.
Too many people do expect freebies.......I know of someone who always says it's her b-day at this one place to get a free cake. Kind of like the lady celebrating all week...too funny!

[gepetto]

Originally posted by Brian430


Given the fact that 160,000 people visit the four WDW parks every day there are nearly 440 people who are celebrating a birthday on any given day. The reality is Disney can ill afford to be presenting handouts for every celebrating a special occassion.

Factor in anniversaries, promotions, graduations, chearleading competitions family reunions, corporate outings, school field trips, church socials and you'll quickly come to the conclusion that a good percentage of the guests are celebrating something special in their lives.

BINGO Also factor in the people that are "celebrating" birthdays/anniversaries or whatever that happened a month or two ago.

Towel animals? I've never seen one.

[WDW2002]

IMO, people mention it to get something out of it. Yeah I know people are going to say, I don't expect it but it is nice when they do. Bull Pucky, it is mentioned because you want something and more often then not disapointed if you dont get it.

My mom, has the habit of telling restaurants when we are celebrating a birthday. Usually they will bring out a slice of cake or dish of ice cream with a candle, they sing and bascially embarasses everyone. Well she forgot to mention it when making the reservation for my Dad's birthday dinner, so she tells the waiter IN FRONT OF MY DAD, that it is his birthday. The waiter kinda say "oh okay." We finish eating, get the check and my mom is still sitting there EXPECTING them to bring out the ice cream, they never do. She was disapointed becasue she expected them to do it.

[SamanthaL]

skiwee1- as I said in my post we have booked an Illumination Cruise and ordered a cake, so we ARE making a celebration out of the whole trip on our own.
Maybe I should have been more specific. I was hoping to get a room with a view of Illuminations for my grandmother so she could sit and hear the music and see some fireworks from the balcony.
As another poster mentioned, all I hope for is our room requests. That would be special enough. BCV doesn't send anything to the room so I am not "expecting" a freebie.:rolleyes:

[Mackey Mouse]

I never notify them... our birthdays and anniversaries are just that.. they are ours...and private and we will celebrate them as such... JMO

[PamNC]

I'm glad someone finally said this. I don't find it magical to get a special gift from Disney if I had to go out of my way to orchestrate it. That takes away the magic for me. Magic just happens. I will say that several years ago I had no idea that Disney did these little special "things" and we were there on our anniversary. We stayed at Coronado and we innocently mentioned that it was our anniversary.

The CM that was checking us in went in the back and came back with a two cards...one for a champagne toast at the lounge and a free dessert at Maya Grille. We were blown away.

PamNC

[Figaro]

We took my parents on a suprise trip to WDW to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary. And my spouse and I told everyone that we ran into to please wish them a happy anniversary.

My parents are very outgoing, and loved to have cast members and anyone else talk to them about this. I also made it very clear that we would be uncomfortable with any kind of "extras" other than congratulations/well wishes.

My parents were thrilled with the well-wishes and really appreciated them. I would do exactly the same thing all over again(smile). They still have the card that was signed by the staff at Akershus.

[Disneylvr]

I don't see what the harm is in stating to a Cast Member that someone in your party is celebrating a birthday, anniversary or other special event. The harm comes from EXPECTING extras NOT from wanting or hoping. I feel the same way about faxing room requests 4 days prior to arrival. We HOPE that they are honored, are briefly disappointed if they aren't but we have a WONDERFUL vacation anyway. It certainly doesn't warrant an angry letter to the resort, a complaint at the front desk or a ruined vacation. One thing I would never do is tell a resort or restaurant that it was my own birthday but I would certainly do it for someone else. I would also pay for extras (like a gift basket for our friends celebrating their honeymoon) as a backup.

[DisLUV]

I am a very outgoing person but when it comes to my family they are just that MY FAMILY. I am the husband and the Father it is my job to make my DW and DD feel special. I have been to disney for my honeymoon and i am again going for our 3 year anniversary. I have never volunteered that is was a HM or an Ann. But when I made the reservations the CRO CM asked was I celebrating anything and I told her. But I didnot expect anythng and really only got a few things and those where because I went out of my way to make my wife feel special.. EXAMPLE - I scheduled a photo shoot in the MK for her and while there our Photographer told the Dapper Dans it was our HM and they sang to my wife(No card No upgrade just unexpected MAGIC and had we not gotten it we would have never known.

Example from our Dec 2002 trip.... My Dw has always wanted to stay in concierge at WDW. So i just called CRO and reserved a honeymoon suite with concierge. I didnt call CRO and reserve a standard view room overlooking the dumpsters and tell the CM it was our Anniversary and expect and upgrade to the Yellowstone Suite at the WL.....

Sorry for the long post but that is it IMHO

[Anne2]

If you never mention it is a family member's birthday, how will they ever know?

Now that we all know that something special could happen, there is no way to mention it by accident.

I don't see the problem of casually mentioning it. I can see a problem with overstating it, or being dissappointed if nothing special happens.

[bellsonmytoes]

I am going next week with my DD who will turn 17 during our trip, the trip is a birthday present for her. I have ordered flowers and balloons to be delivered to our room, and I've bought lots of little Disney things to surprise her every day of the trip, on her birthday I have an " It's my Birthday" pin for her to wear.... and I will notify the restaurants we will be eating at that day that it is her birthday.... I do not expect anything for free, but I hope the CM's will acknowledge her birthday with a little extra attention... (how much could that cost them???? ) Just to make it alittle more special. I would never tell anyone that it was my birthday, but for my kids.... well anything that will help make it more special for them... that I will do...


I"m going to DISNEY WORLD reallllllyyyy soooon...:bounce: :Pinkbounc :bounce: :Pinkbounc :bounce: :Pinkbounc

[aahmom1]

Just for the record, I see nothing wrong with saying it's a childs birthday, as long as it is actually the childs birthday.

[melomouse]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by DisLUV
.... So i just called CRO and reserved a honeymoon suite with concierge. I didnt call CRO and reserve a standard view room overlooking the dumpsters and tell the CM it was our Anniversary and expect and upgrade to the Yellowstone Suite at the WL.....


ROFLMAO, Jeremy!!!!!


This has me wondering - or is this another thread or for DB????

Are these expectations about everything people have read on the DIS about what other people "got" or is it just different types of folks needing different things?

And....when do we STOP telling or offering the info that DD or DS has a Birthday ( and hope Disney "does" something?)

I'm more inclined to want to make a fuss - my own and whomever else, if the child is younger or the adult is way up there( the 85 y/o) JMHO. We should all feel special - but it certainly isn't Disney's job!

[GEM]

I can't see anything at all wrong with mentioning a birthday at a restaurant. It is pretty much standard practice at lots of restaurants (not just at WDW) to do something to celebrate a birthday - a cupcake, a silly song, whatever. Obviously, they expect people to let them know when they are celebrating a birthday - no matter what age the person is. When I took my sister to Cindy's for lunch on her 22nd birthday, they decorated our table with confetti, gave her a dessert with a candle in it, sang to her, and gave her a nice certificate. When I celebrated my 29th birthday last year at the San Angel Inn they gave me a little cake and a card signed by Mickey and the waiters. Obviously they wouldn't have had all that cool stuff back there if they didn't expect to be celebrating lots of birthdays. Pretty much every sit-down restaurant I've been to (Chille's, Abblebee's, Olive Garden, Red Lobster) does something for a birthday. Would I expect a free meal or a huge cake or flowers or anything elaborate? No. Would I share that is was a birthday, anniversary, etc. in hopes of getting a free room upgrade, flowers, a champagne basket, etc. No. But I think a free cupcake and a Happy Birthday song is different. I wouldn't be upset if nothing at all happened, but since it is so common for restaurants to do something, I wouldn't see any harm in mentioning it. I think the restaurants expect and want people to mention it.

[Pugsley]

I agree that it’s lame to call them to announce a special event in the hope that you’ll get something for free, and to complain about it when you don’t. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with mentioning a birthday (especially for a child). As GEM said, doing some kind of birthday celebration is pretty standard practice for restaurants. They want to make the person feel special because that encourages repeat customers. The fact that Disney CMs often ask if there is a special occasion shows that they WANT to acknowledge it.

[WDWalways]

I celebrate my birthday every year at WDW but never mention it to anyone because I do not like to be the center of attention -- last year was my 35th and I read on this board about the Birthday pins available at MK -- I never heard of them before and thought it would be cute and wanted to see what all the CM's did because those who posted about the pin said the CM's were really great to the person wearing it and I figured it might be a really fun experience. My husband and I had dinner at the Crystal Palace and it was late in the day and I honestly forgot I had the pin on -- my waiter never once asked me anything regarding my birthday (age, is it actually today etc) but at the end of our meal along with the check I got an adorable card signed by all the POOH characters and a cupcake with a candle. I was happy to be acknowledged but honestly didn't expect anything more than a verbal "Happy Birthday" from the waiter since I was not a child. I don't see anything wrong with mentioning it but I would never for myself but if someone in your party does I see nothing wrong with that. If something does come out of it no matter how small it's nice -- if you only get a verbal acknowledgement that's nice too! :D

[rhodgkie]

My DW's birthday is during our upcoming trip. I plan to stop by and get her a "It's my birthday" button for her on her birthday and look forward to some extra comments and attention that might be paid to her. I think Disney must want to be able to do those little things for people celebrating birthdays or they wouldn't have "It's my birthday" buttons, right? I agree that it is unrealistic to have specific expectations, but I do not think that it is unrealistic to hope for a little magic at Walt Disney World (or at least it didn't use to be unrealistic!).

Just another opinion in the fray!

Randall

[Bob NC]

I don't see anything wrong with telling the folks at a restaurant that it's your childs birthday, or something similar. Heck, you might do that anywhere, not just WDW. The place I mentioned where it looks tacky is when a couple tells everyone, "It's OUR anniversary"....Or an adult feels the need to tell everyone they see, "It's MY birthday". LOL, and I've seen lots of posts saying you should do exactly that.

[Kimkimba]

On the concierge mail-out they ask if you are celebrating any special occasions. My dh and I are celebrating our anniversary the day we arrive. My dd (13, almost 14) will be celebrating her birthday there and is very excited about it. I mentioned both. For our anniversary, it's not a big deal but it would make my dh think extra special things about Mickey and Disney. For my dd, I will go all out anyway. Anything extra is magical.......not expected, but definitely appreciated. I have no problem sharing my family's milestones.....it's been a tough year for us and .......we're going to DISNEY!

[nwdisgal]

Here's my opinion - empower the consumer. Post price lists and advertise for services for that special occasion (cakes, gifts, party favors, etc) for all that want to have that special Mickey cake for their anniversary or birthday. If you want it special - pay for it. Then Disney needs to set up a reservation system like Starwood, Marriott, etc., that allows you to reserve the type and number of beds Iyou sleep in and choose whether or not you wish to be in a NS or S room. After all, if you are spending your second honeymoon on a milestone wedding anniversary with your sweetie at AKl, or WL you should at least be able to reserve a King Bed ahead of time, if you so desire, on a first come first serve basis, rather than arriving to find a Queen and two bunks as your romantic room assignment.

[CrzyforPiglet]

When we stayed at the Polynesian 3 years ago we got a questionnaire in the mail a couple weeks prior that specifically asked if we were celebrating anything special - which we were (my b-day) so I noted it and didn't think of it again. I was lucky to have the hotel deliver on our first night a cake, balloons, card, and candle. I was so surprised and felt so special but the unexpectedness of it was what made it special and exciting.

We're going again this December for 2 birthdays (not mine). I made a V&A reservation and again, was asked, if we were celebrating anything and I mentioned my husband's birthday. If we get anything great if not I'm not going to WDW for freebies - we're going b/c we love WDW.

So I say go ahead and mention events if you feel like it (or if asked) - just don't expect to get anything and that way you won't be disappointed.

[tripben]

I agree that some people expect and some don't. Most people are honest and do like some unexpected attention, etc......

But what about the joy that people get when they are able to give someone a little unexpected surprise. I have always been the sort of person that tried not to get any attention and wanted to be private. I found it hard to receive gifts and congratualtions of any kind, I loved to give, but not receive. One day my mother told me that I just needed to stop being a killjoy and allow others to share the same joy I did when I gave a gift.

I never thought of it that way before. Surely there are a great many people at Disney celebrating special events and it is an everyday occasion and all that, but I am sure many CM's like to be able to give a small gift or surprise to an unsuspecting guest. But how would they know there is an occasion if someone did not share the info?

I still couldn't and wouldn't tell someone if it were my personal occasion, but I will be there in two weeks with 15 family members, 8 of which are all celebrating birthdays within the same month. The oldest will be 85 and the youngest will be 2. I have planned many special things for the birthday crowd, but did not hesitate to mention it when making the PS for dinner. If something happens, great. If not, I have already taken care of the extras.

That said, there are all types of people out there, and some are more want for attention than others. I wouldn't think it is my place to tell them to get a life though. That is rather harsh.

Sam

[Pete's Mom]

We celebrated my son's 5th birthday at MK last December and will be celebrating his 6th at WDW this December. Being that it was just the two us and we were far from home and his friends, it was wonderful to have so many CM's wish him a Happy Birthday. When we returned to our room at ASMo, there was a birthday card for him on his bed from Woody. My son shook like a leaf with joy and looked at it in awe just speechless! He even fell asleep with that card in his hand. I remember thinking that this is a magical moment that he will remember when he grows up and becomes an adult with bills to pay, job stress, and life's little and big heartaches. Would that we could all have such a wonderful moment to look back upon! :teeth:

While I do think it is cheesy to expect the red carpet treatment or even a "freebie", I see no reason (especially with children) to NOT let someone know about a birthday. Sometimes the sweetest gift of all can be a simple smile and a "Happy Birthday! :D

[Figaro]

"Sometimes the sweetest gift of all can be a simple smile and a "Happy Birthday!"

Exactly! My parents were so thrilled when the airline pilot announced before landing that it was their 50th wedding anniversary and everyone in the plane applauded them.

I guess I look at the sharing of special events with other people as being a way to share joy with everyone. No expectations except other people being happy for other people. I always try to congratulate people when I know that they are celebrating a birthday, anniversary or wedding.

[DisLUV]

I am sitting at my desk in my class room looking at a picture of my little Abby Mouse (my darling daughter) and I agree when it is your childs birthday you are proud and I know that on my DD first trip to Disney, if it is on her birthday, her daddy may just walk down main street with a bull horn ... not because I want the be first on all the rides and ride everyone with Mickey, but because I am proud of my DD. Now if I were to go down main street with a bull horn saying "IT IS MY 26TH BIRTHDAY NOTICE ME NOTICE ME " AND wore 26 birthday buttons with a hat that looked like a cake with 26 candles on it then I might be a little needy.

**Bottom line you make the event special by just being in WDW everything else is just gravy....***

[mrsapalm]

Okay... I just got back from our 6-day trip to WDW. While there, we celebrated my birthday and our wedding anniversary. When we checked in (CBR), I politely asked the CM if there are any special events on those two specific days. She directed me to the show guides in the park literature - which was more than okay with me. Not once did I ever expect anything special to be added to our room for these events, so there was no disappointment.
On my birthday, I proudly wore my birthday button. I got special treatment on a number of occasions that day, and a few CMs shone brightly in my eyes without me ever having to say a word about it being my birthday. The treatment I received was much more than I ever thought to expect, so I was pleasantly surprised with each magical moment. Again, not once did I ever expect any special treatment. I was not disappointed if I didn't receive any from any CMs, either. After all, WDW is a business.
On our anniversary (the two are just 2 days apart), we told the CMs who booked our lunch and dinner PSs that we were celebrating our anniversary in hopes of securing a table in a romantic (i.e. quiet) setting. Our server at the Coral Reef went above and beyond the call of duty when she read on our seating card that it was our anniversary. Her tip, in return, more than reflected the special treatment we received (i.e. compensated for our free desserts plus awarded her for her attention and well wishes). We received no special "treatment" for our dinner at another restaurant, but did get seated at a table in an area we had hoped for. We were not disappointed at all, and were very thankful that we got the seating that we had wanted.
I think it's when you least expect it, that you receive the best treatment. I wouldn't have dreamed of wearing my birthday button any other day besides my actual birthday. I'm not a dishonest kind of person. Not once did I expect free things or royal treatment.... if it happened, it happened... simple as that. Nobody is entitled to anything more than what they pay for... a trip is what you make of it, not what you expect people to do for you for nothing in return. Isn't that part of "special moments" being so special?
-MrsAPalm

[Eeyore1954]

Originally posted by Figaro
I guess I look at the sharing of special events with other people as being a way to share joy with everyone. No expectations except other people being happy for other people. I always try to congratulate people when I know that they are celebrating a birthday, anniversary or wedding.
I agree totally! I love being at Disney and having the opportunity to sing "Happy Birthday" or applaud someone who's celebrating a special event -- whatever it is. To me that adds a little magic to my trip, too. The joy of a celebration is always a little sweeter when it is shared with others.

[gaegrand]

Where do you get those birthday pins?

I will be there with my daughter, her husband, three children, and her sister-in-law. We will be celebrating my daughter's birthday.

She is doing a wonderful but difficult job rearing her triplets, now four years old. I think it would be great if people told her "Happy Birthday."

[epcotfan]

Originally posted by Ned Land
WDW gets a million calls every year from families allerting the staff that their trip is in celebration of a special event. They get to their room and if they don't get a card or a fruit basket they are mad. But...is this a special action on Disney's part or just part of the normal routine. I mean... is it really special to receive a card or something if you have to call up and ask for it? And if people don't get it they are furious.

I place much more value on the spur of the moment stuff that the Cast Members do on our trips. Am I wrong?

I agree with you wholeheartedly! It means much more to me when a cast member does something unexpected. I don't get why people get their undies in a knot when they don't get a card or freebie. Wouldn't it be better if you went without any expectations and then if something nice happened it would be icing on the cake?

If you really need something special in the room for a loved one then why not use a gift service or the WDW Florist? Gifts Of A Lifetime along with other services can provide special occasion momentos.

[MiaSRN62]

I guess I look at the sharing of special events with other people as being a way to share joy with everyone. No expectations except other people being happy for other people. I always try to congratulate people when I know that they are celebrating a birthday, anniversary or wedding.
I totally agree also. Many times, we specifically go to WDW to celebrate these occasions. The memories I have of Minne Mouse dancing around our table at Chef Mickey's on my daughters' birthdays will stay with me forever. My girls still look back at the pictures and video of all the guests waving their napkins in the air while the "Celebrate" song played overhead. I didn't look for any handouts---just trying to add a little "sparkle" to the occassion. On another occassion, my son chose to celebrate his 12th birthday at the Whispering Canyon Cafe--he's a big meat-eater. I had called the day prior to order (and pay for) a special birthday cake to be brought out after dinner as a suprise to him. I expected nothing for free. What we got ? The whole restaurant sang "happy birthday" to him. It made for a memorable day. Heck.....we've done these things at the local Olive Garden restaurant to celebrate a special occassion. It's fun. I don't see what's wrong with it at all. We would never think of complaining though.
Also, once I had faxed the Contemporary to let them know my husband and I were flying in to celebrate our anniversary. All I requested was a "lake" view vs a "parking lot" view from our Garden Wing room. I wasn't looking for anything free. Instead, when we checked in, we found we had been upgraded to 14th floor concierge ! We were ecstatic to say the least. Would we have complained had we not gotten our request filled ? No way. Would I bring a birthday or anniversary to the attention of the resort again ? You betchya : ) I think it's fun also to be able to celebrate in these small ways with others. Our kids get a kick out of singing "happy birthday" to someone else while in a restaurant or wherever.

[marty]

I am so glad I read all four pages of this post. My husband and I are taking our granddaughter to Disneyworld for her birthday. She will be 6 on January 16. We have planned to take her to Chef Mickey's for dinner to celebrate. All she (or we) would really like is for people to sing "Happy Birthday" to her. Would it be better for us to tell them about the birthday when we make our Priority Seating or when we arrive?

[Mackey Mouse]

Why not when you make your reservation and follow it up when you get there with just a reminder.. That way you have covered it and if they do not anything for her.. you at least made the effort.

[ZPT1022]

Does anyone know who you should call to get a cake delivered to your room? I expect to pay for it but DS is celebrating his 17th Bday while we are there and I wanted to have something to surprise him when we check in and I wanted to make sure it was there not just hope.

I believe you can call the Grand Floridian bakery and order a cake to be delivered to your room. I've heard they're very good too!:)

Now about telling people at WDW that it is your special event, I don't see too much of a problem with it. I am going this Sunday for my honeymoon and my TA noted that on our reservation, she thinks this may help us to get a King Bed room instead of the room with two queen beds. Why is that such a big deal?:confused: :confused: :confused:

[Disneylvr]

Originally posted by ZPT1022
Now about telling people at WDW that it is your special event, I don't see too much of a problem with it. I am going this Sunday for my honeymoon and my TA noted that on our reservation, she thinks this may help us to get a King Bed room instead of the room with two queen beds. Why is that such a big deal?:confused: :confused: :confused:

I agree with you! What is the big deal? It seems that some people believe spending big $$$ is the only way to show someone that they are special.

[MiaSRN62]

I believe you can call the Grand Floridian bakery and order a cake to be delivered to your room. I've heard they're very good too!
You can also call the Guest Services desk at your resort or room service if you hotel has that. Hope your son has a great time celebrating his birthday in WDW.
:D

[skiwee1]

Originally posted by Disneylvr
I agree with you! What is the big deal? It seems that some people believe spending big $$$ is the only way to show someone that they are special. \

I don't think that is the case. I feel that getting something from a loved one is special even if it cost nothing. I still think it tacky to tell everyone under the sun that it is your B-Day, anniversary, and on. Does everyone really think they are doing CMs, desk clerks, waiters, a favor by letting them know it is their special day? Sure there are some that might get a kick out if a first birthday or honeymoon couple but I can't imagine by the 1ooth "It's my birthday" of the week that they are really experiencing great joy! :rolleyes: I still say that those occasions are private and should be celebrated within the group. I can't understand the need of having strangers get involved in a personal matter simply to feel special. Got my flameproof suit on.:earseek:

[Bob NC]

Sure there are some that might get a kick out if a first birthday or honeymoon couple but I can't imagine by the 1ooth "It's my birthday" of the week that they are really experiencing great joy! I still say that those occasions are private and should be celebrated within the group. I can't understand the need of having strangers get involved in a personal matter simply to feel special. Got my flameproof suit on.

I don't think anyone is suggesting that the CM is getting any joy from the situation, rather, the CM is the one that is expected to supply the joy...In the form of some type of freebie, or well wishes.

[skiwee1]

Originally posted by Bob NC
I don't think anyone is suggesting that the CM is getting any joy from the situation, rather, the CM is the one that is expected to supply the joy...In the form of some type of freebie, or well wishes.

I've read some say that the CM or waiter has seemed really happy for them and happy to be a part and so on. If you go back and look it really makes it sound like these CMs really get off on celebrating others special occasions! LOL!

[CamColt]

I just remembered something from our trip last month. While eating at Mama Melrose a waiter made a BIG announcement that a couple there were returning honeymooners to the restaurant. :rolleyes: I had to laugh. We ate there on our honeymoon in 95 and again in 98, 00, 01, and then 02. I didnt expect any big announcement or round of applause for us(or anything free). I just liked the restaurant(well, before the menu change, I did).

[MiaSRN62]

. I still think it tacky to tell everyone under the sun that it is your B-Day, anniversary, and on. Does everyone really think they are doing CMs, desk clerks, waiters, a favor
I've never considered what I did over the years as tacky. It's just fun and adds a little more sparkle to the occassion. No harm in it. Seems like most people are split 50/50 on this whole issue which is fine. :cool:

[Pete's Mom]

Originally posted by gaegrand
Where do you get those birthday pins?


We got ours at City Hall in the Magic Kingdom! ;)

[Sharper]

I searched for "birthday" and "husband" to get some ideas for making his birthday (our arrival day) extra special and ran across this thread. I didn't even bother reading all the posts but was actually stunned at the venom and "sour grapes" type comments. [I'm not referencing folks who lie about it, or EXPECT freebies for their entire visit because that is NOT what most of us are talking about] If you don't want a special event celebrated, FINE, but the insinuation that anyone else who chooses to mention it to staff or to try to make an extra special occasion is mooching or trying to be the center of attention or just somehow inappropriate is ridiculous. Birthdays and anniversaries ARE special and being at Disney when they occur is particularly magical. Some people have issues about those events, but the rest of us who want to have fun on a special event at Disney plan to do so whether the grumps think it is okay or not! :teeth:

[Gabrielle]

Sharper

I agree with you.

-Gabrielle

[Bob NC]

Originally posted by Sharper
.......but the insinuation that anyone else who chooses to mention it to staff or to try to make an extra special occasion is mooching or trying to be the center of attention or just somehow inappropriate is ridiculous.

If not mooching....then why mention to the staff that YOU and YOUR family are celebrating an occasion? I don't understand why you would mention your occasion to the staff if you DIDN'T want to be the "center of attention".

As I've said all along, mentioning it when you make a PS, or, when you make your resort reservations would be fine for ME....It's just that "I" would find it tacky for "MYSELF", to mention it to everyone I met.

LOL, I think the original poster was kinda fishing for OPINIONS, and nobodys is better than anyone else's...right?

[Sharper]

You seem to have completely missed my point. Opinions are fine, but for some unknown reason there are a few here who seem to resent other's birthdays and special events being recognized. I don't understand why, but particularly considering the location (hello, it is Disneyworld!) then the "oh, it should be privately and I would never do such a thing and you are tacky for making a production" seems a bit out of place. If you choose to celebrate privately, then wonderful for you, but why the anger at others who choose another way? :confused:

[Bob NC]

Sharper, I agree with you, mostly. If it were my kids birthday while we were at WDW, I would probably mention it to the person at the desk upon checking in for a PS. (Though, I wouldn't mention that it's MY birthday).

I don't think it's sour grapes, or not wanting others to get their little celebrations....I think the mindset of a LOT of DIS readers is that they are very tired of reading post after post of people complaining that they didn't get their special attention after asking for it. I don't care who gets what or how and why they got it. I come here to read uplifting stuff though and the constant whining of the folks that didn't get their freebie grates on me a little.

This, again, is just my opinion.

[Sharper]

Originally posted by Bob NC
If not mooching....then why mention to the staff that YOU and YOUR family are celebrating an occasion? I don't understand why you would mention your occasion to the staff if you DIDN'T want to be the "center of attention".


Ummm, perhaps because DH would be very pleasantly surprised if CM told him "Happy Birthday" at check-in? Tells him that other human beings made the effort to give him a positive stroke on a special day? It has zero to do with me and doesn't involve expectations of material freebies. Again, don't understand the extreme negativity unless there is some jealousy issues??? I mean, if someone is that ticked off at other's birthday being recognized perhaps it is because no one told them happy birthday?? I just don't get it.

[Sharper]

Originally posted by Bob NC
... I come here to read uplifting stuff though and the constant whining of the folks that didn't get their freebie grates on me a little.


Okay, now I think we're on the same page. Yes, don't expect to be treated like a superstar every day of your trip and don't whine about not getting ANYTHING. (It's the rules for birthdays period!) Those type of folks are very annoying but I think most of us just think that any extra recognition is fun, but don't get ticked if that doesn't come.

[skiwee1]

Originally posted by Sharper
You seem to have completely missed my point. Opinions are fine, but for some unknown reason there are a few here who seem to resent other's birthdays and special events being recognized. I don't understand why, but particularly considering the location (hello, it is Disneyworld!) then the "oh, it should be privately and I would never do such a thing and you are tacky for making a production" seems a bit out of place. If you choose to celebrate privately, then wonderful for you, but why the anger at others who choose another way? :confused:

I see nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate a special occasion at WDW or anywhere else. I just see no reason to tell the world about it unless you are trying to mooch, your word-not mine but it fits. a freebie out of the deal. By all means, make your loved one feel special. BUY them a cake, card, balloons. What a wonderful thoughtful gesture instead of trying to lay it on some stranger to do for you. But by all means if someone has a need to be the center of of attention please don't let me stop you! LOL! :Pinkbounc Now if someone really just wants someone to say Happy Birthday to them that is totally different. But if the motive is to get a card, free cake, balloons, or other tangible then that is plain tacky. Calling it like it is.

[MiaSRN62]

I just see no reason to tell the world about it unless you are trying to mooch, your word-not mine but it fits. a freebie out of the deal. By all means, make your loved one feel special. BUY them a cake, card, balloons. What a wonderful thoughtful gesture instead of trying to lay it on some stranger to do for you.
Well, here's my opinion again, but I agree with Sharper. So what's the big deal to anyone else if you mention your birthday and you get a free balloon or card (as long as noone gripes about not getting this or that)?
It's fun. Disney is not going broke and it's not the material balloon or card that makes it special anyway, but rather the gesture. If there's a small little token that comes along with it, well, just chalk that up to some "pixie dust". As I said in an earlier post, if we're not in WDW, we sometimes go to the Red Lobster or Olive Garden or whatever to celebrate someone's b-day or anniversary. They'll bring out a cake or cupcake and all the servers will sing a happy 'lil tune in the restaurant. I don't think this is tacky at all. With all the worry and stress in the world, what's wrong with doing something fun like this ? Many of us go to WDW to be little kids for a week or so anyway, right ? I honestly never even considered that this topic would be fodder for debate. I'm pretty suprised at the viewpoints that are against the idea of mentioning a b-day to a CM ? I would think WDW would be one of the best places for this sort of thing ? I understand everyone has their opinions (and I respect them all), but, like Sharper, I just don't understand why some seem to have such an issue with it ? I honestly never thought it bothered anyone--at least I never picked up on this from a CM or other guests. This topic sure has been an eye-opener for me. It's interesting to hear all the different viewpoints. But, once again, I'm with Sharper. I would never complain or diss Disney if there was no recognition to the special event made.
I say, bring on those balloons, buttons and birthday songs. I love it and think it's fun whether it's a celebration of mine or someone else's ! :bounce:

[Sharper]

Originally posted by skiwee1
By all means, make your loved one feel special. BUY them a cake, card, balloons. What a wonderful thoughtful gesture instead of trying to lay it on some stranger to do for you. But by all means if someone has a need to be the center of of attention please don't let me stop you!

Your mean-spirited characterization of what we are talking about is simply wrong. I specifically said that it would make someone I love happy to be told happy birthday upon check-in. Your comments giving me permission to be the center of attention and laying the burden of making my love one feel special on a stranger are uncalled for, and clearly contradict what I said. Sorry you can't appreciate this little bit of pixie dust and want to try to twist it into something "tacky" And if you think about the initial question of this thread, I think it is interesting that travel agents, CM's, reservationists, etc. more often than not ASK if it is a special occasion. Would seem to me that they, too, think it is pertinent to your visit to Disney.

[skiwee1]

Originally posted by MiaSRN62
Well, here's my opinion again, but I agree with Sharper. So what's the big deal to anyone else if you mention your birthday and you get a free balloon or card (as long as noone gripes about not getting this or that)?


That is my point. Some people are not just asking for good wishes. You just said it. "What is wrong with getting a balloon or something?" So are we talking about getting a freebie or just a little pixie dust in the form of Happy Birthday wishes? There is big difference to me in telling everyone in the world it is special occasion if you are out to get a free balloon. If it is just for the good wishes, that is one thing. If the intent is to get something for nothing than that is mooching. So which it? Good wishes or a free what ever it is you can get? This is just my opinion also and I'm not trying to debate anything. Jus trying to understand how getting something for a birthday when it pretty much had to be announced it was a birthday for the sole purpose of hopefully getting something out of it would be special? I'd prefer a loved one do it because they wanted to and not because I nagged them to do it or expected it. Hey, if it makes you feel more special to get something from a stranger simply because it was announced, go for it. LOL! To each his own.

[Bob NC]

Well, actually, Sharper...On another thread you question what extras you could get at the HDD Revue on your husbands birthday.

On THIS thread you say you just want a "Happy Birthday" wish upon check in.

Which is it?

[Pumbaa_]

We are going to Disney in 15 days to celebrate my parents 40th anniversary. Big deal? You bet! It is a big deal to us. We hve been planning this family trip (there are 8 of us all together) for 2 years. It is the first family vacation we have taken in almost 25 years. You bet I am mentioning it while we are there. My parents would be absolutley THRILLED to be wished a happy anniversary while they are there.

Would I like it to be acknowledged by a token along the way. Of course I would! Do I expect it, no! If a cm sent my parents a card it would make their day. They love Disney and go every year. They love how the CM make people feel, like they are special whether they are celebrating an event or not.

It is also my DB birthday while we are there. I would love for him to get a card. (He is grumpy by nature and it would give him a thrill to be singled out for attention. He would never dream of asking) Will I mention it is his 39th b-day? I sure will! I want people to wish him a Happy Birthday.

We go to Disney because it makes us happy. Why? Because of all the little things. And the little things include the special touches Disney does.

We have scheduled many special events while we are there. Illuminations cruise, the re-hitching' ceremony, breakfast at the castle, etc. I have been planning and coordinating this for months. Any special wishes by CM would only be pixie dust on top. We will be where we want to be to celebrate such milestones of life.

[Sharper]

that are material???? Why in the world are you searching my posts in a very pathetic attempt to show that I am a bad person for wanting my husband's birthday made more special?? Good luck and get a life. I am talking about the exact same sort of thing, getting a happy birthday recognition via a server's comment, a song or, heaven forbid, once my daughter got a cupcake with a candle at a restaurant. I am not going to try to "debate" with meanness -- there is no sense. I am just very, very glad that you can't regulate my experiences with my family's special occasions, at Disney and other places which commonly observe them in a fun way -- let's see, there is a Mexican place which puts a sombrero on the birthday person and takes their picture as a momento, which I expect you think scandalous! And what is with all the ugly comments combined with "LOL" ?? That is too, too sad. I'm gonna go plan some more of our trip and not worry about the grumps.

[Tiffany]

I have read through most of this thread and I guess what I do not understand is why people get excited by strangers saying Happy Brithday or whatever it is you are celerbrating after you told them it was your birthday or whatever.

We were just at WDW for our 9th Wedding Ann. and we did not tell anyone. What was important to us is that we were together in a place that we love to vacation just enjoying being with one another. If a CM said Happy Ann to us or if we got a card or a balloon would not have made our Ann any more special. What made it special was that we were together.

Maybe it is just me.

[Pumbaa_]

Sorry you are experiencing such a meanie Sharper. Please know that most threads don;t turn into personal bashing. Most people on the DIS are super nice and helpful
{{{hugs}}}

[Trekker]

This has run it's course and now turned nasty - I just do not understand why so many threads lately end up this way!

Can we all please remeber this is a place to come and enjoy discussing WDW resorts!

We should act as if we were in the same room with our best friends.

Say goodbye to this thread - it is closed.