i am so lost

[LubsPoohBear]

i will give lil back ground, my DH have been married 5 years next month, i have known him for 10 years, i have twin daughters.

my DH has many heath problems, blind in one eye only 30% use in the other, high sugar and blood presser, the hardest is he gets very confused

my DH walked out the door yesterday morning and i havent seen him since....
i did call the police,was able to find out from them he got on a bus to boston, we do not have friends or family there .... no trace of him after that ... his family do not like me so will not return my calls:confused3:sad2::confused3:sad1:

[Suellen]

Will they do an Amber alert for a missing husband?

[LubsPoohBear]

Will they do an Amber alert for a missing husband?

i was told by the pd here eveything was ok becouse he got on the bus, however he is almost 50 and he needed help at the bus station

i was told a lady put him on the bus:scared1:

the state pd say its up to the city, and the city dont see theres a problem

even though 4 months ago he dialed 911 and old them he beat me, the pd ws here in a flash they had to wake me up was still in bed. they had o look for him then becouse he wasnt home when they got here i was very confused to find 2 cops when i opene my eyes :confused3

[Suellen]

I'm so sorry. I really hope he is okay! When he has been missing HOW long will they consider him a missing person?

I am in Maine too by the way.

[rie'smom]

OP I hope you hear good news soon. Did they call the Boston bus station? If he was disoriented on the bus they may have brought him to a hospital.

[LubsPoohBear]

im really not sure i just feel no one wants to bother .... an im going crazy here

i know if he did snap he could be tryin to get to him moms but thats in VA, an being we hardly speak to her/them :sad1: i just dont know, we have only been in maine for 10 months, so he really doesnt know anyone

[Brian_WDW74]

I've moved this thread to the Coping and Compassion board.

My best wishes go to you and your DH. I hope everything turns out well for you both.

[LubsPoohBear]

OP I hope you hear good news soon. Did they call the Boston bus station? If he was disoriented on the bus they may have brought him to a hospital.

thank you, i did call them and was told they do not keep list of in coming riders, so i called customer suport and got a really nice lady that said she has no record of im having had a ticket :scared1: even though the lay here in town said he got on the bus

i also called a ton of hospital between here and there

[disney david]

i was told by the pd here eveything was ok becouse he got on the bus, however he is almost 50 and he needed help at the bus station

i was told a lady put him on the bus:scared1:

the state pd say its up to the city, and the city dont see theres a problem

even though 4 months ago he dialed 911 and old them he beat me, the pd ws here in a flash they had to wake me up was still in bed. they had o look for him then becouse he wasnt home when they got here i was very confused to find 2 cops when i opene my eyes :confused3

This might sound stupid since you proberly tried calling him but new cell phones have gps mybe you can contact them and have them trace it. you live in ma right so your dealing with the state police for ma tell them the city wont do anything and you need help. I am sure if you call boston police and let them know he has health problem they will help i mean they show his picture at preshift meetings for patrol just in case they see him. But he is 50 and if he dosnt have a dissabilty they cant force him to go home they will try to get him to call you and let you know where he is. Well since he has helth problems if they find him they will make sure he is okay. The reason why boston pd might not help is because he 50 and they cant legally make him go home if he not doing anything wrong. I not saying give up if the state police are helping you stick with them get them to help they like to pass the buck to city cops in case of finding adults. It be different if he had a dissabilty they look for him because it will make him an at risk adult. It just how they see them they have to worry if they get hurt or taking advantage by shady people. But they see your husband as a able adult they made the choice to leave sorry. It sounds funny about who dropped him off mybe you can talk them into thinking he was forced and kid napped then they all will look for him. I am not saying anything bad about people with dissabilty i have one. If he was akid, senior citizen they be all over it. I live in new york and my county came out with braclet for sinoer citzen so if they walk out of the house and get lost the police have in their patrol cars tracking divce that will track them by the braclet. They did that because their was 5 cases in a month they had to look for someone. It free all they had to do was go to the county police and request one and why they need it. I hope you find him and everything works out.

I going to say it now sorry for the spelling and gramer i not good and i tried my best i know their spelling mistakes so hope you dont have a problem.

PS is he a veteran because you can contact the va and see if they can help if he goes for treatment they can call you plus they have fedral police that can make them help.

I see you dont live in ma sorry i guess i should read under your name i would of found out i made a mistake.

[LubsPoohBear]

My best wishes go to you and your DH. I hope everything turns out well for you both.

thank you

[disney david]

im really not sure i just feel no one wants to bother .... an im going crazy here

i know if he did snap he could be tryin to get to him moms but thats in VA, an being we hardly speak to her/them :sad1: i just dont know, we have only been in maine for 10 months, so he really doesnt know anyone

Mybe he got off at a stop some times they stop on the way and cought another bus plus he could of used a different name mybe that why they dont have a record of him.

[LubsPoohBear]

my Dh is a very simple man, does not at his age, he has a brain injury from when he was very young,he also has Turrets syndrome

if he left on his own free will, no heath problem mesing with him, then all is fine i pray he gets what ever hes looking for

but if its not that then i am scared he coud get very hurt

he gets lost in are house at times

[LubsPoohBear]

Mybe he got off at a stop some times they stop on the way and cought another bus plus he could of used a different name mybe that why they dont have a record of him.

so true, but he left his debit and credit cards here, so im not sure how he could have

we do not keep cash in the house

[disney david]

my Dh is a very simple man, does not at his age, he has a brain injury from when he was very young,he also has Turrets syndrome

if he left on his own free will, no heath problem mesing with him, then all is fine i pray he gets what ever hes looking for

but if its not that then i am scared he coud get very hurt

he gets lost in are house at times

Did you tell them thatthat changes everything they have to help they have no choice. call the state police in ma tell them to the info you have if they wont help call boston pd and let them know his health problems.

[disney david]

so true, but he left his debit and credit cards here, so im not sure how he could have

we do not keep cash in the house

You said a women help him on the bus mybe she bought the tickets for him or got money from someone else. I really hope you find him i feel so bad please let us know if you find him.

[LubsPoohBear]

state pdsays its for the city to handle, i didnt think about calling the police there thank you, i did call he state pd in va to try and reach his parents but no luck yet

[disney david]

state pdsays its for the city to handle, i didnt think about calling the police there thank you, i did call he state pd in va to try and reach his parents but no luck yet

Did your local police fill out a police report or you get name of the officers so when you get in contact with the other police you can sayi spoke you this cop and they can call and confirm not that it so important but it might help to let them know you follwed the proper steps which you have.

[LubsPoohBear]

You said a women help him on the bus mybe she bought the tickets for him or got money from someone else. I really hope you find him i feel so bad please let us know if you find him.

yes the lady at the grayhound station said a lady helpe him but wouldnt/coudnt describe her. becouse she was so bizshe wasnt sure what she looked like ... i then asked her if she was sure it was my DH an she just looked away

as soon as i know something i will let yall know

[LubsPoohBear]

Did your local police fill out a police report or you get name of the officers so when you get in contact with the other police you can sayi spoke you this cop and they can call and confirm not that it so important but it might help to let them know you follwed the proper steps which you have.

i filled out a missing persons report yesterday, had to give him a pic, hewas gone 15 mins when e returned my pic told me all was fine

i didnt think to get his name,but it has to be on the report right?

[disney david]

yes the lady at the grayhound station said a lady helpe him but wouldnt/coudnt describe her. becouse she was so bizshe wasnt sure what she looked like ... i then asked her if she was sure it was my DH an she just looked away

as soon as i know something i will let yall know

Yeah that sounds funny i am sure they have camreas i hate to say mybe she hiding something more then he got on the bus. I hate to say this but mybe he paid her to say he got on the bus to boston but really got on the bus to va or some where elese. If she cant look at you then she lying and if no one else can say they saw him.

[rie'smom]

Did he have any credit cards? Maybe they could trace him that way.

[LubsPoohBear]

Yeah that sounds funny i am sure they have camreas i hate to say mybe she hiding something more then he got on the bus. I hate to say this but mybe he paid her to say he got on the bus to boston but really got on the bus to va or some where elese. If she cant look at you then she lying and if no one else can say they saw him.

if hes in va with his family then all will b ok they will take care of him, even if thy will not let me speak to him, te last time this happend we were living in va he walked there almost 100 miles( he didget a ride from a trucker) no shoes or only in boxers an a t-shirt this was over 2 years ago

she also told the cop he was going to boston, i hope hes ot stupid enuff to lie to a cop:eek:

[disney david]

i filled out a missing persons report yesterday, had to give him a pic, hewas gone 15 mins when e returned my pic told me all was fine

i didnt think to get his name,but it has to be on the report right?

Yes and his badge number not that he did anything wrong if not just go down to the police station they should be able to give you the name of the responding officer. Because they have it in the system who respond what was the out come it still be open since he hasnt been found so if you find him just let them know if they dont already so they can close the case. The report the most important thing just saying some cops like to talk so if they know his name they can call and say what infothat they might not have put on the report and what was their gut feeling. And they dont always put every thing in the report like you might of told them something that could help and the cop didnt thing to put it in the report. Mybe check with your credit card or bank to see if he used his cards i know you said he didnt have but just incase he took one or used one in the past week that could give aclue where he is. He could of brouht the tickets two weeks ago and you might not gotten the bill yet.

[disney david]

if hes in va with his family then all will b ok they will take care of him, even if thy will not let me speak to him, te last time this happend we were living in va he walked there almost 100 miles( he didget a ride from a trucker) no shoes or only in boxers an a t-shirt this was over 2 years ago

she also told the cop he was going to boston, i hope hes ot stupid enuff to lie to a cop:eek:

I wouldnt put anything past someone all you know she could hate the police and not care and say yes so they leave her alone. She should still care about not lieing to you because your worried and just want to know he okay.

[LubsPoohBear]

Did he have any credit cards? Maybe they could trace him that way.

no credit card or debit cards with him, he didnt take his glasses, we dont keep cash in the house, so know he didnt have any, we keep 40 out for gas but that was still were we normaly keep it, no cell phones we ave a house phone and one cell that we use when walkng the dog or to the store just in case but thats still here as well

[disney david]

I hope this help googled missing person in va and got the number to the missing person hotline for kids and adults 1-757-253-1800 i know you called their police but mybe this will help to they can put his picture online and proberly put his info out.

[LubsPoohBear]

He could of brouht the tickets two weeks ago and you might not gotten the bill yet.

thank you, i will check thm soon as they open in the morning, we had just done are bills monday morning out of th checking and looked at are saving to see were we were that moring

all was normal with them

unless its the credit cards, im not sure where he would have gotten the money, we have been watching ever dime for some time now just oving to maine and te girls sweet 16 party in 3months with a trip to WDW

[LubsPoohBear]

I hope this help googled missing person in va and got the number to the missing person hotline for kids and adults 1-757-253-1800 i know you called their police but mybe this will help to they can put his picture online and proberly put his info out.

omg thank you so much, i was so hoping i would come on here and get new ideas on what to try, as long as hes safe that all that matters

[disney david]

omg thank you so much, i was so hoping i would come on here and get new ideas on what to try, as long as hes safe that all that matters

your welcome dont worry you will find him when i was looking i found out that arlington va that they are looking for a 31 year old so they will help you hopefully.

[LubsPoohBear]

thank you again i will let you know any updates my sisters on the phone with boston now then i will be calling them

[disney david]

checked gray hound to see what stops it make their one that make two other stops in me the last one in portland before going to boston ddirect then the other one make a stop in nh before going direct. and they coast no more then 41 one way. There an 8 am making four stop before boston then 1235 making 3 stops the a 242 making four stops before boston. i put in richmond va not sure if that where he going but that bus makes a stop in boston then goes to new york then he has to transfer onto a bus. they are the same time buses and all go to boston the 1235 he would have to transffer in boston to get to va so mybe that what he did. That why they didnt seee him in the boston bus stop mybe he stayed on that bus 245 bus and went to new york to transferr to another bus.

[disney david]

here the bus info


https://www.greyhound.com/farefinder/step2.aspx

[disney david]

they also have an 8 am south boston va bus that also goes through boston ma so mybe she saw south boston and thought it was the boston in ma.

[LubsPoohBear]

that is some good info, we didnt get anywhere last night with the phone calls, both said they would get back to me

my girls are going crazy, worried about me and him ... one of my girls keeps calling me if i leave the room for more then 5 mins:sad1:

today i will be going back down to the pd and see if they can make a call in to the other police departments

[disney david]

that is some good info, we didnt get anywhere last night with the phone calls, both said they would get back to me

my girls are going crazy, worried about me and him ... one of my girls keeps calling me if i leave the room for more then 5 mins:sad1:

today i will be going back down to the pd and see if they can make a call in to the other police departments

I hope they help or atleast give you more info it seems all buse to va stop at boston or transfer at boston. Mybe if he got on the va bus you atleast know he going toward his family so you can tell the kids he okay and they can stop worrying and you will atleast know he okay.

[LubsPoohBear]

no word yet, i have give all the infomation to everyone who will hear me out ... i am ow waiting :sad1:

[robinb]

I hope that your husband if found soon! You must be out of your mind with worry! :grouphug:

[LubsPoohBear]

I hope that your husband if found soon! You must be out of your mind with worry! :grouphug:

i am :sad1: and thank you


still waiting for info

[disney david]

Any new info or leads are the police helping you out.

[LubsPoohBear]

Any new info or leads are the police helping you out.

sorry had to go to work, i talk to a detective friend ( from my old life) and he promised to make some calls right after he gets out of court today

[robinb]

I'm glad that you have someone who can help you out. Please keep us posted. I am worried for you and your DH :hug:.

[disney david]

sorry had to go to work, i talk to a detective friend ( from my old life) and he promised to make some calls right after he gets out of court today

you dont have to say sorry or explain why you didnt post all that matter is you are getting help and that you find him. We are just worried for you and hope you have a happy ending. When you get time and you have new info please keep us inform us mybe we can help with any new leads.

[disney david]

Any updates?

[N&B'smom]

Nothing yet!?!?

[cm8]

wow, just read this and I hope that the OP finds her husband. Maybe his family paid someone to put him on the bus and have him sent back to VA? That is so sad, I am praying for you and that they find him safe.:hug:

[minniebeth]

Hoping all is well, OP!

[poohbear8]

Any updates, OP? I hope things are ok. I'm in Northern Va. Not sure if I can help, but feel free to PM if you need numbers or info from this area.

[N&B'smom]

Still no update???:confused3