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[kjg5]

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Yea! Glad you started a PJ. I need all the details as your wedding is 4 months before mine.

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[Scrappy_Tink]

Oh Kimmy, it's going to be a lovely wedding!! :goodvibes I love your dress and flowers! You're going to love having an intimate wedding like that, it's so much more personal and relaxed. When me & DH got married, it was just me, him, and my two teenaged sons...I wouldn't trade our small intimate wedding for a huge wedding any day!

Can't wait to meet you and future DH on the cruise!! I cracked up when I saw your DF's t-shirt...my son is the biggest bacon-lover I've ever seen, I need to get him that t-shirt. :laughing:

Looking forward to seeing more in your PJ!

Kel

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Thank you! I agree- small, intimate weddings are more personal relaxed and that's just what we wanted. We want everyone to be comfortable and just have fun! I'm looking forward to meeting you too! We'll have to get together and finish off all the extra wedding cake!

I looked at you wedding pics on the cruise meet thread- absolutely beautiful! Such a pretty setting, your dress is adorable, and that cake is just awesome! I must say- your wedding certainly doesn't look inexpensive- you did a great job and what a deal! I got that t-shirt for Ryand for valentines day- I decided to give him a mans version of a v-day gift: that shirt, 6 types of bacon flavored seasonings, bacon flavored chapstick, a bacon scented air freshener, and 6 bacon wrapped Omaha steaks- I call in a heart attack in a box, lol. Here's a link to the site where I got the shirt, the rest came from amazon:
http://www.baconfreak.com/

Thanks Kimmy!! It was such a wonderful day, as I know yours is going to be! :goodvibes What are you going to do after the wedding? You mentioned wearing your bikini & flip-flops (too cute!) on Castaway Cay...are you going to change clothes and enjoy the beach for a while? I think I read somewhere you are going to wear your wedding dress to the Pirate's Party that night...that will be so much fun, and a festive end to your wedding day! I saw today on Etsy these leather belt things from "Pirate days", that have rings on them that lift up the dress, that might be a fun Pirate touch for your wedding dress during the party? Maybe they could "pretty it up" to go with your wedding dress. Here's a link to it... http://www.etsy.com/listing/45540200/silver-steampunk-renaissance-medieval?ref=sr_gallery_39&ga_search_query=wench+pirate+costumes&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_page=5&order=&includes[]=tags&includes[]=title

Don't you just love Etsy?

Love your jewelry too, your DF is so sweet!

[Goofy4Ever]

Thanks for starting a PJ. There are not enough DCL reports. I am looking forward to more as I am getting married on the Dream on Oct. 2011.

Thanks for posting the flower information. I am going to check it out.

Congrats!!

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[CinderelliT]

Just want to say welcome and congratulations! How excited to get engaged in front of the castle!

Everything you have done so far is awesome. You can have an incredible wedding without spending a fortune. It's just what you put into it. Put in a lotta love, and it will be perfect. I know all about the starving student bit. I just finished my bachelor's and started my masters while doing the whole VR thing. I'm going to finish my master's in a few months and then may go back for a 2nd bachelor's!! :scared1: Crazy. I started off as a music ed major and then finished in business, and now kicking myself for not finishing music.

Anyway, on the cruise, it was just me, DH, and our kids, and it was amazing. I wouldn't trade it for the world. So happy that we were able to have it like that.

Good luck on your planning! LOVE the shirt you got for DF!! Great pick.

[Scrappy_Tink]

Hey Kimmy, I meant to tell you, we're going to WDW in October. Please let me know if there's something you need for your wedding or cruise! Do you want me to look for some Just Married/Happily Ever After buttons for you? Do you have any wedding pins (if you do the lanyards)

[Disney9.9.10]

Congratulations on your engagement and starting a pj! DCL weddings are so beautiful and there aren't many on here, so I am excited to read about another one! You guys seem like a wonderful couple and I cannot wait to read more!

[Goofy4Ever]

Your're welcome and happy to help! Congrats on you upcoming wedding! Do you have a PJ?

I have not started a PJ. I just do not think I would have enough time due to work, school and having teenagers.

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Kimmy -

I am really sorry to hear how your mom is acting. I think it is foolish to think that you should have to have separate shower/receptions, especially if your mom has no reason not to like you future family!! Sometimes in the midst of planning a wedding, people forget whose wedding it really is!!!

Hang in and maybe your mom will see how foolish she is being and change her mind. :hug:

[Scrappy_Tink]

Oh Kimmy, I'm so sorry that your family is giving you a hard time...this isn't something you need, on top of all the other stress you have with classes, planning for a wedding, etc.

I believe the bottom line (regarding the reception) is that you're an adult, who will be married to the love-of-your life soon, which makes his family, your family. If your mom cannot accept that they need to be invited too, then you might consider having your own open house/reception at you and your husbands house, or the local park like you suggested. If you throw it yourself, YOU can decide who to invite. That is what me and DH had decided to do when we got married....but unfortunately, we got caught up in new jobs and moved before we got to carry out our plans.

Why, oh why, do parents have to be difficult at the worse times?! :headache:

As to the showers...since you have everything you need already, I think I'd just say something like "I'm sorry Mom, but this is the man I love, and his family is my family too. You are putting me in an incredibly awkward position, by alienating my future family, I'd rather not have a shower at all than hurt people I love". She really needs to realize that leaving them out now will set the tone for the rest of the marriage by spliting up between the two families. I'd still go ahead and let DF's family throw a shower for you, and let them invite your family...most people (especially moms), don't like to be "outdone", and maybe then your mom would change her mind about the whole "we aren't going to invite them" attitude. Plus it would give them a chance to meet and get to know each other.

Those are just some ideas anyway...it's so hard giving advise when you're not aware of all the family dynamics.

Anyway, about the buttons, I'll be more than happy to try to get you some, it's no problem!! I'll also keep my eye out for the cake serving sets!

You take care, and try not to stress too much. If all else fails, leave them ALL behind and just elope on the Disney Dream!! :goodvibes

[Goldeelox9]

You will have PLENTY of time on Castaway Cay!!

Also how can your mom act like that??? I am so sorry!!! I agree have an open house and if your mom doesn't come then her loss. Also I would see if your sister or someone can host your shower and invite everyone you want!

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Yeaaaaaaah... You started a PJ. I'm happy to see more DCL PJs here.
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this drama with your mom though.

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[QUOTE=kjg5;37616602]
I found this adorable flower wand for for my sis/MOH on Etsy, but I want it in yellow and orange:
http://i959.photobucket.com/albums/ae71/kjg56/MOHpossibleflower.jpg


I love these wands too. I am actually going to try and make them for the DD. I just bought the flowers and the ribbon. We'll see how they come out?! :goodvibes

[DisneyDiva84]

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just joining in, love your PJ so far. So sorry to hear about the shower situation, families can be reallly stressful sometimes :headache:

Hopefully everything turns out okay until then keep smiling

[Goofy4Ever]

Thanks for the advice and well wishes everyone! Scrappy_Tink- thank you so much for helping me out while you're on your trip!

So the drama continues, lol. We can't have any sort of gathering at our place because we live in a small apartment in a HUGE student housing complex. My sister still lives at home with our parents so that isn't an option either. My dad and Ryans' parents are all for having both sides of the family at the home reception and having it at a park but my mom won't even talk to me about the subject. So, for now, we aren't even going to think about a shower or home reception. TBH, I don't really care whether or not I have a shower (it was mom's request) and the home reception was something our extended families requested, since they aren't coming to the wedding, so it doesn't really matter to me if we have one or not. My mom is like this with everything, for example she didn't talk to me for months after I moved out because she was against it. She was against our engagement and wedding from the beginning, so I'm not surprised. She doesn't have anything against Ryan- she just doesn't want me getting married- EVER. When I told her Ryan proposed, she took a long pause, asked me if I said yes, and when I replied that I did, she paused again, and so 'oh,... ok then, if that's what you want'- no congratulations or excitement- NOTHING. Again, it was about what I expected. :sad2: Ryan and I are going to have dinner with his parents next weekend and see what they want to do about the home reception and I'm leaving my parents out of it. My mom always ruins a happy occasion- she even complained when I got into grad school as apparently I'm wasting my time and money. She's always a bring-down, so I'm not surprised nor upset at the situation anymore- unfortunately it's just to be expected. I think she's just unhappy with how her own life turned out and she takes it out on everyone else.

On a brighter note, Ryan's wedding shirt came in and it fits! It's a little big for him, but that's better than being too small! I wanted a pic of him in the whole outfit, but he has so far refused, lol- he hates trying on clothes.

We also bought luggage the other day. Kohl's was having a killer sale and I got a 7 piece set for 65% off! I never bought luggage before- we had always borrowed it from our parents, and it was really exciting buying our own!

Ryan's working 17 hours today, so I'm gunna look online for inspiration hair styles. My sister will be doing my hair for the wedding. She worked at Super Cuts for a few years and loves to do hair. She's an RN now, but she wants to quit, go to beauty school, and open her own shop. She's very talented and I think she should go for it, but she doesn't want to go against our mom, who of course is against the idea. Regardless, I know she'll do a great job. I want to keep the hairstyle very relaxed and simple so we can fix it relatively quickly for our Palo dinner and the Pirate Party.

I really want to do some Trash the Dress photos in the ocean after the wedding and I'm hoping Disney will allow it. I asked the DCL wedding thread if Disney photogs will do this and it seems that they will. I'll have to check with Shanda just to be sure, but I'm not going to bother her with that kind of stuff so soon. We have plenty of time to figure it out. Depending on how trashed the dress gets, I may have to come up with something else to wear to Palo and the Pirate party. Or I'll just whip out the hairdryer to dry the dress, lol.

Thanks for reading along so far!!:goodvibes

Kimmy,
I feel for you...my mom is not happy about us getting married either. Without taking over you PJ, my mom called me "nuts" and the words "congrats" have yet to come out her mouth! It hurts, but I have to move on. I filled my parents in on the plans, and all I can say is that I felt like it was a waste of time!! My mom wasn't happy with this, or that. TOO BAD!! Last time I checked it was our day, not yours.

Hopefully, we both will have them come around sooner, rather than later, so we can experience the most happiest time with our love ones!

Keep your head up :hug:

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I found this adorable flower wand for for my sis/MOH on Etsy, but I want it in yellow and orange:
http://i959.photobucket.com/albums/ae71/kjg56/MOHpossibleflower.jpg


I love these wands too. I am actually going to try and make them for the DD. I just bought the flowers and the ribbon. We'll see how they come out?! :goodvibes


Me too! I heard Michael's will make things like this, so I am going to see how much they will charge, or attempt them at myself. Either way, I see it being cheaper than the flowers you can get from Disney and the willl have a keepsake from the wedding :)

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[CinderelliT]

I love his shirt! Great job on the wedding outfits. :thumbsup2

And as far as the mom drama, :hug:!

Are you sure you didn't kidnap my mom???? :laughing: I didn't want to get into all the ranting and raving in my pj, b/c I had so few followers, but this is the exact sort of crap she pulled at my 1st wedding (Which was a disaster) and my at home reception. I tried to cater to her needs to make her happy, but it just makes everyone else miserable.

She is also sooo not supportive of anything I do. I finally graduate college and got nothing out of her, except for "Well, it's about time. I hope that you are able to find a job that pays better so that you aren't living like trash." What?? No congratulations or anything.

Anyway...I think that you are doing the right thing. Just let it go at the moment. It's your day and your wedding! You should be able to do what makes you happy. And it is about unifying 2 families. Maybe you could try to remind your mom of that. Hopefully it won't fall on deaf ears.

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[Goofy4Ever]

Can't wait to see your flowers. I am still torn between trying to make them or buying them?? But I know they MOH & wedding flowers will not be from Disney...I heard they are pretty pricey. I too am trying to save for the MK photo shoot ;)

I love the red dress. Maybe you can see if someone can make it for you?

[Scrappy_Tink]

Hi Kimmy, I love your updates...that nitro icecream sounds so cool! (Pardon the pun!) You know Kimmy, I thought long and hard about your shower delimna and I think I came to this conclusion (please remember, this is just my opinion :flower3: , everyone is entitled to their own! :goodvibes ) I think you and DH are being incredibly generous wanting to have donations instead of shower gifts, that is such an unselfish thing to do. I understand about being more mature and lived alone enough to have almost everything you need, I was in the same boat when I married my DH. Okay, the thing is, we are talking about a shower, which is traditionally to "shower" the bride with gifts...not necessarily for the couple or house, it could be something personal (I had a lingerie shower once, it was awesome!) I can see your mom's point too that she is doing this for you, something that gives her pleasure to make you happy, but wants you to get something out of it personally too. I think, personally, I would compromise on this one....shower (gifts), reception (donations in lieu of gifts).

No matter what, it's "All about the Bride"! :bride: :banana: Just wanted to give you another thought! Also, something your mom might be more open to, is registering on the Disney Honeymoon site. That way, the shower gifts can be something you could really use (like going towards your Magic Kingdom shoot).

Love your new flower chose from Etsy...I just LOVE that place! Cool PotC costume too, you'd make a pretty Red Lady! :goodvibes

We are less than 9 months now!! :cheer2:

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[Goofy4Ever]

The flowers I ordered off Etsy have arrived! Here's a pic of the whole group:
http://i959.photobucket.com/albums/ae71/kjg56/FinishedEtsyWeddingflowers011.jpg
A closeup of one of the corsages:
http://i959.photobucket.com/albums/ae71/kjg56/FinishedEtsyWeddingflowers012.jpg
My MOH's wand:
http://i959.photobucket.com/albums/ae71/kjg56/FinishedEtsyWeddingflowers008.jpg
Close-up of a boutonniere:
http://i959.photobucket.com/albums/ae71/kjg56/FinishedEtsyWeddingflowers014.jpg
I'm very happy with them! If we do the MK shoot, I'm going to see if she can make me a silk bouquet similar to the one Disney will give me as it will be cheaper than paying Disney to refresh the original bouquet.

That's all for now, have a good one everybody!

Those turned out great!! Thanks for sharing :)

[Scrappy_Tink]

Beautiful Kimmy!! You're flowers will look so pretty with the white sands and turquoise sea!! Don't forget a hidden Mickey!! ;)

[Scrappy_Tink]

You give the best advice! Really- thank you for being the voice of reason! I never actually wanted a shower to begin with- my mom really wants it, so I'm just going to let her have it the way she wants to as it isn't worth the fight. She's also completely against donations in lieu of favors at the home reception, so I think we're going to compromise by giving guests some sort of candy to go with. I would really like to do Mickey rice crispy treats for each guest, but we'll have to see what mom says about that lol. I know she means well, so I'm trying not to let it get to me. She's also completely against the Honeymoon registry- she said it's 'silly' so we're just doing it anyway lol. We'll probably register at Target or something as well to make her happy.

Glad you like the red lady idea and thank you for the compliment! I think it would be so much fun to see how many people 'get it', you know? I just need to find someone to make the dress! Etsy- here I come! I completely agree- Etsy is amazing! The flowers I ordered off there came in the other day and they're perfect and you can't beat the price! Thanks for everything!


It's quite all right Kimmy, that's what friends are for!! I just didn't want you to think I was alienating you and going onto your mom's side!! :goodvibes

Everything is pulling together and looking so lovely! I love the colors that you've put together! It'll be wedding time before you know it! :bride:

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Thank you so much everyone, and I forgot about the hidden mickey- thanks!

Ryan bought me a new dress for the civil ceremony. It's very light and breezy white cotton with orange and blue flowers. I just got a new computer, so once I get it set up I'll post pics. Thanks everyone!

Kimmy! I didn't know you were having a civil ceremony too, when is the big day? Sounds like a lovely dress!

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[Goofy4Ever]

The civil ceremony takes place on embarkation day in frot of theatre, or so it has on the Magic and Wonder. All DCL brides have a civil ceremony before the 'real' one, although I don't really know why since I still have to get a Bahamian marriage license.

Edit: After writing this I realized it sounds a little snotty- my bad! Certainly not intended!! I apologize

I don't think you sounded snotty..just my 2 cents ;)

I think you have to get a Bahamian license because you are getting married on Castaway Cay. Weird thing is I am having my ceremony on the ship while we are in the Bahamas and I don't need one??? :confused3 Maybe it is because we are not actually stepping foot on Bahamian soil???

[schallerb]

Hi, I just found your PJ and wanted to comment that we were engaged on the same day! My fiance proposed in the rose garden in front of the castle, so we were in the ark at the same time! Thought that was cool. My fiance also tricked me by saying there was no way he was going to propose on the trip, he told me this so that I wouldn't be expecting anything and get dissapointed, but he was lying! haha. I wanted a DCL wedding to begin with, but it was a no go with all my fam, so we are going on a disney cruise for our honeymoon!

Also, about your mom, my family tends to stress me out about everything and so I decided my mentality for my wedding who be to do what I want and screw everyone else, it just makes it easier than to stress about everything. Do what you want and in the end you'll be happy you did bc the day is really only about you and your fiance! Good luck with everything!! :goodvibes

[Scrappy_Tink]

The civil ceremony takes place on embarkation day in frot of theatre, or so it has on the Magic and Wonder. All DCL brides have a civil ceremony before the 'real' one, although I don't really know why since I still have to get a Bahamian marriage license.

Edit: After writing this I realized it sounds a little snotty- my bad! Certainly not intended!! I apologize

Oh-Pashaw!! Didn't sound snotty at all!! :goodvibes It's strange all the hoops you have to jump through...hey, now you can celebrate twice every year!! :banana::banana::banana:

[PixieDust1969]

Flowers look great! Your wedding will be here before you know it! I look forward to reading along as you plan! :cheer2:

[Goldeelox9]

The flowers look great! ALso I am sooo excited you are doing the Magic Kingdom pictures! They were my favorite part of my wedding hands down!

[MomsOf2boys]

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Bad time to sub I suppose :lmao:

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bad time to sub i suppose :lmao:

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