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wheatenwalker
08-20-2002, 06:11 PM
My brother is turning 50 in Sept and his wife, who doesnt like me anymore than I like her, is planning a HUGE surprise party for him and didnt invite me! They live out of town so I wouldnt have even known this neccesarily except she invited my other brother and his wife who, of course, called me to see if I wanted to fly down with them. I am sooooooooo angry and hurt that she didnt invite me since the party is SUPPOSED to be about my brother (not her )and we get along great. Thanks for listening :)
Jeafl
08-20-2002, 06:14 PM
How incredibly rude of her! I'm sorry your feelings were hurt.
dizneegirl
08-20-2002, 06:15 PM
Call your brother and tell him you're sorry you won't be able to attend... ;)
Saffron
08-20-2002, 06:18 PM
How rude!! LOL!!! Dizneegirl has a great idea there!! :teeth:
Sheree Bobbins
08-20-2002, 06:26 PM
How very sad for you and your brother that you don't get along. I would be very hurt by your SIL's behaviour.:( Actually, my brother was mean to me all my life, I never figured out what his problem was. And my oldest sister was mean to me. Only 1 sis is nice. Family...it's not always what it's cracked up to be, I guess.
Maybe you'll get a good solution from the DIS posters.:D
that really is sad :(
some people can be so vengeful.....I am sorry
jldriscoll
08-20-2002, 06:33 PM
:( and :mad:
bfeller
08-20-2002, 06:48 PM
So sorry that your feelings have been hurt. It is wrong of SIL to be so childish.
chelsea&austinsmom
08-20-2002, 06:52 PM
So sorry your feelings where hurt, mine would be to. It's very chilish of your SIL. Hope thing work out for you.
wheatenwalker
08-21-2002, 07:51 AM
Thanks for the replies, I did actually think of sending a card and say in it "sorry I wont be at your party" but I want him to have a nice bday (50 after all :) ). I will see them at my nephews wedding shortly and just hope we arent sitting at the same table. The sad thing is that my other brother and his wife arent going cause I'm not going. Noone in the family really likes her and this kind of confirms everyones opinion of her-- but I am still hurt.
DVC~OKW~96
08-21-2002, 07:58 AM
And how is your brother going to feel when he learns that his wife didn't invite his sister to his 50th birthday party? I'm sure that this will be revealed.
All the best to you and your brother. My family has some pretty dreadful members too!
SeaShelley
08-21-2002, 07:58 AM
I would go to the party with your other brother and if your SIL says anything just reply, "Oh, I just figured that my invitation got lost in the mail. I'm sure you wouldn't have wanted my to miss my brother's birthday...."
dianeschlicht
08-21-2002, 08:00 AM
I would take a different track. I WOULD GO!! Show up, even though you weren't invited. Arrive with your brother and his wife and say something to the effect of, " I guess my invitation got lost in the mail". ;)
dianeschlicht
08-21-2002, 08:01 AM
LOL, Seashelly! You and I posted the same thought at the same time!!!:p
KaraKW
08-21-2002, 08:05 AM
I would go, too. I think your brother would want you there and your presence would make HIS celebration all the merrier!
{{{HUGS}}}
wheatenwalker
08-21-2002, 08:07 AM
Now theres an idea!!! Great idea, I'm going to call my brother now!!! (non bday brother)
Mermaid02
08-21-2002, 08:07 AM
I'd go......dressed to kill......looking FABULOUS! Hug your brother- and then give her a big smooch and a grizzly bear hug and tell her how touched you were by the invitation and the follow up phone call to be sure you could attend- she's the most thoughtful and unselfish person you know...... how lucky she married into the family. She'll be too confused to enjoy the rest of the party!;)
Dan Murphy
08-21-2002, 08:09 AM
Soryy to hear that, wheatenwalker. {Hugs} I think I would just show up also. :sunny:
fireplug
08-21-2002, 09:05 AM
So many great ideas I just don't know where to start.
Have a party in your area and invite her. Then seat her with your obnoxius neighbors (if you have any)
Send a huge fruit and cheese basket to your brother and sign it " With Love from the Sister who wasn't invited to the party".
Make sure when Cruella the SIL turns 50 you make a really nice and big ad in a local newspaper.
Oh the list would go on and on.............
Steve
I like Fireplug's idea of the ad in the paper when your SIL turns 50. And it would be such a SHAME if it was a misprint and said 60 instead of 50!
Saffron
08-21-2002, 10:06 AM
I'm sorry you're hurt WheatenWalker, I know I would be crushed. My brother means the world to me. But, I love Liz's idea though!!! :teeth:
Oh WheatenWalker, that sounds like something MY in-laws would do to me! I know how hurt you must be. If you have the guts, I agree with some of the others - go to the party anyway!!!! THAT would show her! Or is she the type who make a big scene when an uninvited guest showed up? Keep us posted - this is something juicy!!
kinlaw6450
08-21-2002, 10:18 AM
I would go. Who cares what SIL thinks?? You get along with your brother and you should be at his party!
helenabear
08-21-2002, 10:45 AM
I so sorry that she did this to you :( {{hugs}} to you and I agree with the others, I think you ought to go anyway. I think that's something I'd do if I were you.
wheatenwalker
08-22-2002, 07:52 AM
When I talked with my brother who lives here and told him I thought I was going to go anyway, he thought that was a fabulous idea and proceeded to get our air tickets, he actually bought my plane ticket for me and said it would be worth the cost of the ticket to see SIL's face when she opens the door and sees all of us!!! He also called her and told her not to pick him and wife up at the airport, and that "they; (us) would stay at at hotel and rent a car so they could make a mini vacation out of the trip. Hehe :) Thanks for the idea everyone and the support!
and I'll let you know how it goes!
Good for you!! Can't wait to hear how it goes! Get a pic of SIL's face when she sees you and post it here.
DVC~OKW~96
08-22-2002, 08:57 AM
Good Luck to you! Try to have the best time you can and remember the day is about your brother and your love for him, not your SIL!
gemmie214
08-22-2002, 10:14 AM
Good Luck! I think it's great that you will be there for your brother:)
The Mystery Machine
08-22-2002, 10:26 AM
I guess evil doesn't have to win if we don't let it!!!:p
A kid at heart
08-22-2002, 11:06 AM
AAAAAAHHHHH the joys of in-laws.
shortbun
08-22-2002, 11:41 AM
Go, enjoy the party and be there for
your brother. If she says anything about
not inviting you..just say, oh that's all
right- "other brother" told me about it.
Say it calmly and with empathy. I bet
it is never mentioned. Don't
be a party pooper. Some other day you
can have it out with her. Enjoy the look
on her face when you walk in. I'm glad
you are not letting your DSIL ruin your
brother's birthday!!! You belong there.
mimi
I am sorry your SIL hurt you, but I am glad you aren't allowing her to win. Your brother will be so happy to see you, and she will just have to grin and bear it. Have fun in spite of her!
Serena
08-22-2002, 12:43 PM
I'm glad to hear you're going. I think it's the best thing, and frankly, I'd love to see her face too. :)
Dan Murphy
08-22-2002, 12:46 PM
What a great update!!!!!! Wonderful!!! :bounce:
Tartan Tigger
08-22-2002, 01:29 PM
Good for you:D I hope you have a great time. I would love to see your SIL's face.
Boots
08-22-2002, 02:42 PM
{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} go and enjoy!
Sheree Bobbins
08-22-2002, 03:45 PM
What a delightful solution, Wheatenwalker! Go and enjoy.:p :p
zurgswife
08-22-2002, 05:42 PM
sounds like a delightful solution that I'm sure your brother will enjoy......
Kitty 34
08-22-2002, 06:07 PM
I have an SIL that doesn't like me very well (I'm very close to that brother and I think she's always been jealous of that or whatever:rolleyes: )
A similar thing happened to me. She had a big picnic and invited the entire family over and left out mine. Well.......since we all live on the same block and I'm so daring (LOL!!!) I went anyway!!! I had a great time, the rest of the family loved me being there and the SIL said nothing!!!:jester:
Go and have a great time!!!!:bounce:
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