Another one day at a time.

[6_Time_Momma]

Yesterday, as you know, was Gabrielle's funeral. We just had some relatives and a couple of close friends there. The rain was good enough to hold off until it was over. It was so hard to see that little white box there knowing that she was inside.

Today, I actually feel worse than I have this whole time. I feel like everyone around me (with the exception of DH) feels like it is time for me to start feeling better and just the opposite-I feel worse.

My husband and my MIL are pestering me as I am not eating. Nothing sounds good at all. I am not hungry either. I do have to call the doctor sometime today or tomorrow to set up my follow-up appointment.

I recieved a beautiful arrangement of cut flowers yesterday from my friends on the DIS :) It was beautiful and so wonderful to know what good, good people are here. Even my DH was impressed :) . Thank you.

There are so many people's posts that I want to post on (for congrats or sympathy), but I just haven't been able to. To those people, I truly, truly apologize.

[Dan Murphy]

Just a {hug}, Kristy.

[Kallison]

Give yourself time to grieve, don't worry about what others believe you should be feeling.

[Liz]

Just sending a (((((HUG))))) Kristy. Of course you aren't going to start feeling better right away. You need to allow yourself this time to feel sad and mourn. Thinking of you lots hon.

[bfeller]

Kristy, you will handle your grief in your own way. Everyone goes through the process at their own speed. Take your time. From my experience I found that I had to feel the hurt before I could move on. I also feel that a person never gets over a death, they can only make adjustments in their life. At least that is how I feel about the deaths that have occurred my life. Hope this little insight is helpful. I know you are hurting more than anyone can imagine. Take it easy, take good care of yourself, and take good care of your family. You are in my thoughts.

Betty

[GEM]

Just wanted you to know I'm still thinking about you.

[supercarrie]

More {{{HUGS}}}

[Mermaid02]

Hey Kristy.... I was gone last week..... I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself as best you can...... (((((hugs)))))

[wdw4us]

I have read the many posts about your beautiful little angel. I am so sorry for what you have gone through. I’ll keep you in my prayers and ask my mom to look out for the newest angel in heaven. Take care of yourself.

denise

[yepod]

Take care Kristy, {{{{hugs}}}}

[Miss Jasmine]

Kristy, take the time to grieve the loss of your little girl, however long it takes, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

{{{Hugs}}} and continued prayers.

[Goofyposter]

Groosch...Kristy....

I feel like everyone around me (with the exception of DH) feels like it is time for me to start feeling better

Yer know it's gonna take time....try not to feel any extra pressures as to how others think you should feel. This will always be a part of you....and right now is when it will hurt the most.

Please make sure you eat and sleep as best you can too. This is very important...if you're not, it will make you feel even worse physically...which will not help you emotionally, mentally or spiritually.

I'd suggest you take a bit of your own wisdom...which can be found in the thread title you selected. "One day at a time: :)

I would think Gabrielle might have wanted you to grieve...but also to focus on the rest of your family and friends for support,love and strenght.

{{{Hugs}}}

[nativetxn]

Kristy you have to do your grieving in your own time. Try to disregard what others might say. My heart is broken for you and for your family's loss, but especially for you :( {{{HUGS}}} sweetie. Remember that we are always here if you need to talk and we care <b> a lot</b>.

Katholyn

[glo]

Kristy...I have a very good friend who has stood by me through some difficult times...The person always reminds me of what is important in life. Honey, you have gone through a very difficult thing. You will need time to grieve. You will also need the support and love of those around you. Take care of you and your loved ones, do not worry about anything else...take it slow and time will heal....my friend is a pretty smart cookie, and has given me this advice over and over...I think that he is right. I hope it works for you too.

[Rajah]

Give yourself time to grieve, Kristy. It will take time.

*hugs*

[Michelle]

More {{{HUGS}}} Kristy. One day at a time. :(

Please do try and eat a little each day, you need to keep your strength up and recover physically from the birth. I know, I'm pestering you too, but it's because we all care about you. :)

Grief takes as long as it takes, and your heart will always ache for Gabrielle. You take as long as you need, no one can chart that course for you.

We're here.

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

Grieve all you want:( . Also remember your body is going through hormonal changes, and the blues will make you bluer:( this time.
You have suffered a major loss. Praying for you all.

[JAP]

Hang in there Kristy. Only time will heal how you feel about your girl. Move at your own pace and do not let those around you upset you too much. Most people really do mean well. Take care and lots of {{HUGS}}!!!

Jen

[Boots]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} and love to you.

[Dream]

I've been thinking about you Kristy. You have gotten some good supportive advice. I can only add one more...when you see your doctor for your check up, ask about a local support group for folks who have lost children. You will find the "I have walked in your shoes" empathy there that I feel you seeking now. It helped me. My prayers are with you.

[bashful64]

Take the time that you need to grieve. {{{{HUGS}}}

[Pooh93]

Many {{{HUGS}}} and support for you and your family.

[newmousecateer]

Oh Kristy, I think of you often. Little Gabrielle will be with you every day of your life.

It's Ok, go ahead and grieve. Think of her every day if that is what you need (and I know that is what I would need), but you must find a ray of sunshine in every day if you can, for yourself, and for your family. Have faith in God that he is keeping her safe and happy.

Marilyn

[Disney Doll]

Feel what you need to feel and take your time. You have been through a major loss. Try and eat though...you need to keep up your strength.

God bless you!

[dizneenut]

More {{{hugs}}} for you, Kristy.

[helenabear]

No real advice here... just take all the time you need to greive {{{hugs}}}

[Serena]

{{{Hugs}}}

[Amy]

Oh Kristy, here are some more {{hugs}} for you! You just handle the grief at your own pace - you've been thru something horrible! Gabrielle is now your guardian angel in heaven, she'll always be with you and will always be a part of your family. I've been thinking about you a lot, and you're in my prayers. {{Hugs}}

[bananiem]

Don't worry about how others think you should feel. Take it minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. We're all here for you.

[mickey65]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[Kermit]

{{{Hugs}}}

You'll start to feel better when it's time, and not a minute before. It will happen, but it can't be rushed. You're in a natural part of the grieving process. If you try to rush it artificially, it <i>will</i> come back to haunt you later.

Do try to eat and take care of yourself. You do need to take it easy, since your body has been through a lot, but you need to nourish it so that you can heal physically. It will help your emotional healing as well. When we first found out that my pregnancy wasn't viable, I made DH take me home and told him I didn't ever want to eat. He told me he had to get something for himself, but he went out and got me a hamburger, fries, and a big iced tea (all the things I hadn't let myself have when I was pregnant), and I think it was the best meal I ever had.

[minnie56]

And I'm sure you will for such a long time.
It takes a time to go through the grieving process.........
We all feel for you and share your loss:(

[jldriscoll]

{{{hugs}}} take care of yourself.

[Jennyfyar]

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care of yourself.

[NurseKim]

Hi Kristy,
You should contact your hospital for a grief support group. I think you would benefit from it.
Hugs to you and try to take care of yourself.
Kim

[DopeyRN]

The only thing that concerns me is not eating. Sometimes we have to make ourselves eat...your other children need you healthy.

As far as when you should feel better, there is no right or wrong timetable. When someone first dies, there is so much to do and people are around. I personally find the hardest time is AFTER everything is over, with the worst being a week or so after the funeral.

Give yourself time. {{{hugs}}}

[Mickey's sunshine]

{{hugs}} Kristy. Take your time in healing, it has got to be hard and I am sure it will take a while for you to "get back to normal". We are all here for you.

[ryanpatricksmom]

Kristy,
I just wanted to let you know that we had a similar tragedy touch our family 2 years ago. My brother and SIL lost their child two weeks before his birth. It was one of the saddest things that I've ever been a part of, and my heart just broke for them and breaks now for you. I know that it must have been particularly hard waiting for the birth. The truth is though, as sad as we were for them, we did not know Marshall and really could not grieve him. Certainly, had he lived he would have been loved to pieces, just like the rest of the bunch (I have 15 nieces and nephews), but he was not real to us. You and DH have lost Gabrielle, whom you loved and will continue to love. She was your daughter, and you will grieve her as such. I think that people often forget that when the child is not real to them.
Try to take care of yourself...
Kelli

[CathyCanada]

Kristy, you said it yourself, one day at a time. I hope and pray it does get easier for you.
CC

[Sonya]

Take care of yourself. I'm sorry.

[Nikole]

OH Kristy!!!!!!!!! Big hugs! I haven't been on the CB for a while now and had no idea!

I'm SO SO SO very sorry for your loss! Please know that I, as are many others, am here for you if you need anything!!!!!

[janette]

{{{{HUGS}}}} for you. One day is all that you need to worry about right now.

[whosezMN]

Kristy,

More :::::hugs::::: for you. You've been in my prayers.

[Claudia1]

Hugs to you in your grief. Take all the time your need and come here often to share your feelings.

Wish I could give you a hug in person!

[snowwhitemom]

I do not know alot about everything that has happened , But I do know that when you lose a child that it goes against nature, we always think of burying our parents not the other way, I will pray for you and your family, I will also ask others too. You will never get over this as some put it, however you will learn from it and make changes from it whenever you are ready...not any sooner. Take care lots of love and hugs to you.:(

[ead79]

My prayers are still with you, Kristy. Take the time you need to grieve. {{{HUGS}}}

[KimRaye]

Take your time, take care of yourself and, more {{HUGS}}.

[sydally9367]

Sending more prayers to you and your family Kristy. My heart goes out to you all.......

[C.Ann]

Again, condolences to you and your family.. I will continue to pray for all of you..

Please do not allow anyone to railroad you into feeling - or grieving - in any particular way or time frame.. You have suffered a tremendous loss - please deal with it on your own terms and not on the terms that other people may try to impose on you..

Hugs to you..
C.Ann

[Planogirl]

Maybe some of it is because you're not as busy now? Which is a good thing because you definitely need the time to grieve and to take care of yourself IMO. {{{{Hugs}}}}

[cotye]

Good thoughts and a {HUG} for you. :(

[zurgswife]

{{{{HUGS}}}}}} and continued prayers....

[Luv2Roam]

{{{ }}}

[luv2nascar]

I don't know if this helps but I saw Dr. Phil on Oprah the other day & he told the wife of someone who was lost in WTC & 7 months pregnant when this happened to take it hour by hour
Be glad if you can get through a morning. one at a time.
a whole day may be too much to think about right now.
One foot in front of the other, deep breaths, & prayers

Hugs - may God bless you all.

[binny]

(((((Kristy))))))

You do what YOU need to do. Take care.

[DebD4T]

Just want you to know that you are still in my prayers.

[Kitty 34]

You take all the time you need, Kristy!!! {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[SilverLily]

I'm still thinking of you and your family. Take care of yourself and come here anytime to talk about how you feel.

[noel]

I've been off the DIS for the past 2 weeks or so and logged on and saw this. I am so sorry for your loss and don't even know what to say. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

[krazyboutWDW]

Kristy - You and your family are in my prayers. I wish there were something else I could do. Take each day as it comes. As someone else suggested, take it hour by hour and grieve as you feel you should not as others tell you to.

Please do take care of yourself and make sure you eat.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}