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New England Eeyore
05-11-2010, 09:33 PM
Some of you know about this already, but I wanted to share my story and the 2 big takeaway lessons I learned from it with you kind of as a friendly reminder.

We were on day 3 of our 10 day California vacation when we got the call that our house had been broken into and had to fly home. I don’t want to go into details here, but the short story is that we (and the police) know exactly who did it, but because there isn’t enough evidence to hold up in court, he is likely going to get away with it. :mad:

As far as break-ins go, it definitely could have been worse. Everything that was stolen is replaceable - nothing sentimental - and the damage to the house was fixable too. Honestly, the hardest piece to deal with is the loss of the vacation. That is something we’re not going to get back. This was DH’s only vacation time for the year. We had 2 wonderful days in DL/DCA, but we had to leave early on our 3rd day there and we missed so much. We didn’t even get a picture in front of the castle. :(

So anyway - my takeaway lessons.

#1 - Back up your Computer!!

So the main thing that was stolen was my computer. Thankfully, I didn’t lose any of my files. I used to think about backups strictly from a computer failure standpoint. Before a few months ago, my back up was on an external hard drive. Not especially useful if that’s stolen along with your computer. Recently, I subscribed to an online back up service - I use Carbonite but there are several out there. Thank God I did that when I did, because I got *everything* back - all my photos, music, documents - EVERYTHING. It took 4 days to restore everything to the new computer but it’s all there. The backups are automatic - after the initial setup you can just forget all about it but it’s there in the background doing it’s thing. Best money I ever spent.

#2 - Create a Home Inventory list for theft or fire and keep good records (including a copy OUTSIDE the house.)

Home insurance was one of those folders in my file cabinet that I never really thought that much about. In dealing with the paperwork for this theft, I realized how unprepared I would be if we were to ever face a more serious loss. Everything that was stolen was a big-ticket item or a recent purchase and I still had the original receipts, but I can’t say that for most other things in my home. The home insurance would accept the following as proof of ownership: receipts (and they want the *originals*), proof of purchase (cancelled checks, credit card statements), owner’s manuals, warranty cards, product packaging, or photos. Thank goodness for that last one. I now plan to go through and create a detailed home inventory list and photograph everything. And of course burn those photos to a CD and put it in a fire-proof box or keep it outside the house. I found this website especially helpful for making the room by room lists: http://whathappensnow.com/

It was 2 weeks ago today that the break-in happened. We both went back to work this weekend so we’re getting back into the normal routine, although it’ll be awhile before things feel “normal” again. While I hope none of you ever have to experience anything like this, I thought I’d share what I learned from it.

irishbosoxfan
05-11-2010, 10:24 PM
So sorry that happened to you! Karma has a way of catching up to people like that.

Thank you for the good advice--I'm going to look into the online back up tomorrow.

LindaBabe
05-12-2010, 04:33 AM
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SO sorry this happened to you!! Thank you for the reminder/

I agree with the previous poster - what goes around comes around and he'll get his. the unfortunate thing is, you probably won't get to see it. :(

StitchIsOurHero
05-12-2010, 04:52 AM
Suzanne, I didn't know this happened. I'm so, so sorry!!! I'm glad you were able to retrieve your computer stuff (and thanks for the reminder)! I hope karma kicks his heinie!!

DisneyIsTerrific
05-12-2010, 05:12 AM
I'm sorry about the break-in and the loss of your vacation. I hope the person who did this will get caught. :hug:

AlexWyattMommy
05-12-2010, 05:44 AM
:hug: I didn't know.

I am so sorry you lost your vacation and that the memories you do have are now tainted.

I hope you will be able recreate your vacation next year without this violation. :hug:

party of 3
05-12-2010, 06:14 AM
Oh goodness. I'm so sorry to read this. I think this just stinks.
Thanks for sharing your story with us. And I also think it stinks that you know who it is and he will get away with it. And that just makes it all the more harder. Hugs to you and your family.

ZeroToHero
05-12-2010, 06:17 AM
:hug:

I'm glad you were able to get everything from your computer back, and you were able to get the home insurance on things - especially your new computer. :/

I can't believe he's going to get away with it though - that's awful. I hope that more evidence comes out.. ugh.

I know what would make you feel better though. You & me - Behind the Scenes at Disneyland and in Hollywood by ABD. ;)

PrincessNancy96
05-12-2010, 06:18 AM
I didn't know this either and am so sorry to hear this... However, on such good advice from a close friend, you, I will be doing the inventory list this weekend..and I will be discussing with DH about the external backup situation. If I lose my photos..not only would the robber be in for it..so would my DH....

Lots of love and hugs to you and your family... again I am so sorry to hear about this...and the loss of your vacation.... :hug:

PinballFamily
05-12-2010, 06:37 AM
Oh, NEE! :grouphug: You know we all love you and even more so now for taking the time and energy to share this info with us. What a miserable life this creep/these creeps must live - how sad that this is how they treat others.

rlovew
05-12-2010, 06:57 AM
I am so sorry that this happened to you NEE! I do keep an updated inventory list- I send a copy of it to my mom (who lives out of state whenever I update it as well as copies elesewhere around here).

Rebecca

morgansmom2000
05-12-2010, 07:14 AM
Oh Suzanne! I'm so sorry to hear this. Our house was broken into a few years ago. Nothing major was stolen, and I don't think they even got upstairs (we had a dog at the time), but the feeling of violation takes a long long time to get over.

I've been thinking about Carbonite, thanks for the gentle push.
:hug:

BernardandMissBianca
05-12-2010, 08:26 AM
Hugs NEE!! I'm so sorry this happened to you. And it ticks me off that it's someone you know. Unbelievable!
I'm glad you, DH and the girls are ok though. Nothing can replace any of you.

Our house was broken into when we lived in GA. We think it was kids because they didn't get any farther then the door, the dog scared them away. I hated that feeling!

Have the police dusted for prints? checked local pawn shops for your things? Etc??

I've been diligent about backing up my computer every week, but my HD is next to my computer. I need to find a separate place to put it.

I don't however keep info on my other electronics. I guess I need to do a search for papers.

New England Eeyore
05-12-2010, 09:34 AM
Thanks guys. Right now the hope is to do a re-do vacation next year - we'll see how things work out.

(But I am so down with the ABD trip anytime. ;))

RE: fingerprints - Wouldn't help because this person had been in our home in the past. :mad: Our detective is checking pawn shops, etc but it's actually pretty hard to find a pawn shop that accepts desktop computers so it's unlikely it would show up. I am looking into getting a "lojack" type thing for the new computer so it would be traceable.

My Dad always says the best revenge is to live a good life, and I do know that we will continue to do just that while this person will always have a miserable existence.

BernardandMissBianca
05-12-2010, 09:41 AM
Your Dad is right.
It still sucks that someone betrayed your trust though.

We used our car break in as a valuable lesson to the boys. I asked them about how they felt having things stolen and our property damaged. It made them sad and angry. I then talked about how stealing affects people and that I hoped they would never steal from other people since they knew how it felt to be violated like that. Now they are little thief police! LOL

Again, I'm glad that you guys weren't hurt physically. How are the girls handling it?

LindaBabe
05-12-2010, 12:41 PM
RE: fingerprints - Wouldn't help because this person had been in our home in the past. :mad: . . . . My Dad always says the best revenge is to live a good life, and I do know that we will continue to do just that while this person will always have a miserable existence.


OH, and I WOULD SO make sure this person Knows you live your best life. Hmm. maybe a few of your fellow "mafiosa" (Mafistas?) could give him a 'blanket party'? :lmao:

calanniebu
05-12-2010, 01:51 PM
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

joyah
05-12-2010, 02:18 PM
NEE that is just awful hugs and paryers to you all. I heard this at CKC and just couldn't imagine. I also passed on at that time that NO ONE is immune to this happening. My cousin is a Police Officer in a town just south of Boston they live a bit futher south and their house was broken into while they were away. that person was never caught either.

I agree with linda blanket party or even a nice new pair of "boots"

Lisa
05-12-2010, 06:31 PM
What a rat fink. Some day the thief will get his. What goes around comes around. And Your Dad is a very wise man, he has good words to live by.

Thanks for taking the time to share what we can do to make it easier should such a horrible event ever happen to us.

fireplug
05-12-2010, 10:05 PM
I hope they figure out how to catch and charge the person! Glad you were able to get your files !

Squid

DisneyBarlans
05-13-2010, 07:49 AM
NEE-so sorry to hear about this! I know how much you were looking forward to this DL trip and then to have this happen.:sad2: Hopefully they will catch and prosecute the theif.:hug: