Kids birthday money

[wvjules]

My DD was at her dad's for her birthday and got some money. I also sent her money when she was there, but her leaving suddenly and unexpectedly, she forgot her money. It's been a few weeks and they haven't sent it back to her. Do you think its tacky for a parent to spend a child's birthday money on something other than the child?

[nativetxn]

Yes I do. I sure hope they send your dd her money, she will be very disappointed if the don't :(

[caitycaity]

ew!!! i sure do think that's tacky.

actually, beyond tacky -- it's stealing! that money is your dd's!

[wvjules]

Ya know what's sad...she's more upset about them not sending her birthday money than she is about them not calling her. She hasn't heard from them since the day she left.

[A kid at heart]

Has she contacted him and asked him to send her money to her?

[wvjules]

I talked to him right after he met my grandparents and did the handoff and he said he forgot her money and would send it.

[His_Lordship]

Maybe a gentle reminder is necessary. A call to say school is starting soon and she wants to buy a special outfit?

If they actually spent the money, then I feel sorry for your daughter. If you are in dire financial staights and need to invade a child's funds to keep a roof over their head or food in their mouths, then okay. But to keep a child's birthday money just because they are smaller than you and you can take advantage of them stinks to high heavens!

Let's hope your ex is just forgetful, not tacky!

[wvjules]

I'm going with tacky on this one. :D