Is a Disney wedding cheesy/tacky? [Archive] - The DIS Discussion Forums

srferson

02-15-2010, 01:24 PM

Considering it's DisBoards, I expect your poll responses will be slightly skewed. ;)

FWIW, we got married at Shades of Green resort and had our wedding lunch at the Wave. And we (and our guests) got to spend a lot of time playing in the parks. It was great. It was not truly a Disney wedding. It was a wedding at Disney.

Two reasons we didn't really consider a Disney wedding. Too much money and not our style. But I can totally see how it's perfect for some people.

And I'm sure you're about to hear this in a bunch of responses... You should not care what other people think. It is your wedding day. Of all the days in your life to do your own thing, this is it. Whatever makes you and your future spouse happy, is the way to go.

And Congratulations! Whatever you decide, just make sure you two have a wonderful day! :bride: :groom:

bunny_pop

02-15-2010, 01:44 PM

Honestly, my answer is no. However, in the end it is your call. The only opinion that matters is yours. When I was originally planning a DFTW, most of my family and friends were supportive. I think I had one or two friends that thought it was lame, but they weren't good friends really in the end. I only changed locations in the end due to cost.

*Pixiedust1438*

02-15-2010, 01:46 PM

As the above poster said, asking this question here you will get hardly any if any yes answers to your poll. We are all Dis Brides or Dis Addicts. I am having a Disney wedding, and deff. don't think it is cheesy or tacky... although some of my guests might, but again agreeing with what has already been said... I don't really care if anyone else thinks that. It is our day and this is what we want.

That being said... I do think going over the top Disney is a little cheesy... not really tacky though. This is just my opinion and I know some brides have had beautiful weddings that were VERY Disney. I personally am not a fan of the carriage, Major Domo carrying the rings down the aisle, dressing up like Cinderella and prince charming or bridal party dressing up like princesses... just a little too much for me personally.

We are getting married at the WP which is gorgeous and not "Disney" themed at all. Then we are having our cocktail hour at the GF again not your typical "Disney" theme, and our reception at ADH. We will have the characters and be adding a few Disney touches, but you don't have to do that. If you want a wedding at Disney but not a "Disney" wedding, there are a TON of choices. Swan and Dolphin also does weddings that are not "Disney" and are much cheaper, so you could look into that. There are so many choices, you could deff. do something in Disney without going over the top "Disney".

ColeV

02-15-2010, 02:51 PM

I think at some point everyone getting married at Disney gets some odd looks or comments about Mickey being the best man. I know I did! But as I went on to talk about the wedding, and now have the opportunity to show pictures of it, they are always shocked at how beautiful it is and how unlike what they pictured. You can go full out Disney themed, but most of us don't. I had a wedding there because I know how organized they are, the quality of food, the wedding planner they give you, the ease of finding a hotel and things to do for the guests, and everything else that goes with the experience of doing thousands of weddings a year. Because of all of that, I was able to have a beautiful 1930s themed wedding where I didn't have to worry about anything going wrong and where all of my guests left saying it was the best wedding they'd been to!

Thumper_Man's Wife

02-15-2010, 03:05 PM

Honestly, I don't think it's cheese or tacky in the least. I think every woman in some fashion when they were a little girl dreamed of having the classic Cinderella fairytale wedding. I know I did. But know that whereever you have your wedding, whether it be at WDW or in your own back yard, you can make it your own fairytale dream come true...(too sappy?:confused3...I mean every word of it. but I'm a hopeless romantic.) This will be something you remember so make sure that you do it because it's what you want, not because it's the "it" thing.

act1980

02-15-2010, 03:49 PM

PrincessShea

02-15-2010, 05:22 PM

I would love...but I'm worried people will think ...

Not a way to lead your life. Do what you want.

Pirate's Princess

02-15-2010, 05:36 PM

Considering all, if not most, of us either are having a disney wedding or at least a disney honeymoon, I doubt you'll get a yes response. If you want a disney wedding, then do for it. Check out Carly's blog or Carrie's book, or even the PJs/Trip Reports, to find out how your Disney wedding could be whatever you want it to be...either classy and elegant or cheesy or tacky (hey what's NOT tacky to you, may be to guests, and vice versa) or somewhere in between. Like many of the OPs stated, do what YOU want, it's YOUR wedding. Who cares what others think! Whatever you do I'm sure you'll find fans and those who scoff at it. But if you ever need support, you'll definitely find it here.

pink_tink8i8

02-15-2010, 06:59 PM

A lot of people are Disney haters but disney weddings are beautiful and classy. I don't think I have ever seen a tacky wedding here and I've been on the boards for 2 years now

disfan melissa

02-15-2010, 07:12 PM

I think that when planning a disney wedding we come across two types of people -- those that think everything disney is cheesy/childish/tacky and those that "get it." A lot of people hear a disney weddng and assume it is a cinderella/princess wedding. When I suspect I'm talking to those people, I just mention a Florida wedding because truthfully, I don't care what they think and don't want to bother being on the defensive about my wedding.

Between trolling these boards and the amazing assistance of Disney's wedding team, I can't imagine a better way to plan a wedding.

Back to the people that "get it" -- those are actually the people I want to be at my wedding anyway :)

bellebride116

02-15-2010, 07:37 PM

I think it depends... some Disney weddings are beautiful and I've seen some that are tacky... it's all a matter of opinion.

gemmybear83

02-16-2010, 01:17 AM

I agree with all the above posts, I'm not a fan of the whole princess thing, but each to their own. Have a look at tackyweddings.com if you want to see a tacky wedding!

I get all the jokes about mickey being your best man etc, were having a simple nondisney themed garden wedding with a private lunch and illuminations dessert party. If I am honest the dessert party is why we wanted to get married at wdw as it is such a unique event you can hold for your guests.

BecBennett

02-16-2010, 04:09 AM

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! :lmao:

Sorry, just couldn't believe you'd post that question here!

disneybex

02-16-2010, 04:19 AM

I think the only weddings that don't work are when they don't suit the couple, so if you love Disney, and want an amazing wedding with fabulous photos and by all accounts much less stress than having it anywhere else then a DFTW is for you, and it's certainly not cheesy or tacky!

PS
I am VERY surprised that your poll got even 1 in the yes category - bearing in mind this is a board about Disney weddings :confused3

BecBennett

02-16-2010, 05:24 AM

Thanks for your replies ladies! I feel better already! Disney weddings just look amazing. We would have our ceremony at the WP as I love the sand and palm trees.

Can anyone suggest private wedding reception venues?

And also, how much is the dessert party at Epcot? I can't get hold of Disney to ask.

there are heaps of places for a private reception. Depending on how many guests you're going to have.

Desert parties can cost different amounts, because different locations have different minimums, and it depends on how many people you have and what you serve and that sort of thing.

Most of us here would recommend you get Lurkyloo's passporter book. It's really helpful to get you started before you've been in touch with a coordinator or planner. I'm sure the link to it would be around here somewhere.

act1980

02-16-2010, 12:14 PM

there are heaps of places for a private reception. Depending on how many guests you're going to have.

Desert parties can cost different amounts, because different locations have different minimums, and it depends on how many people you have and what you serve and that sort of thing.

Most of us here would recommend you get Lurkyloo's passporter book. It's really helpful to get you started before you've been in touch with a coordinator or planner. I'm sure the link to it would be around here somewhere.

Hi

Sorry for all my questions. Disney won't help me at the moment as my wedding is a bit more than a year away. :)

How do I get hold of a passporter book?

Thanks!

momofsamandeden

02-16-2010, 12:27 PM

My sister did a wedding on the Disney Magic. It was beautiful and romantic. She originally planned to get married at Castaway Cay but due to a hurricane could not. Disney arranged for the Captain to do the vows on board and all the characters that she liked were in attendance and her photos are spectacular. There was nothing cheesy about it. You can have as much or as little Disney as you want.

TinkLoverSam

02-16-2010, 02:42 PM

How do I get hold of a passporter book?

go to www.passporter.com and then store across the top and find "Disney Weddings and Honeymoons"

luke

02-16-2010, 02:49 PM

Wow I'm not the only person who voted yes!!

:goodvibes

act1980

02-16-2010, 02:58 PM

go to www.passporter.com and then store across the top and find "Disney Weddings and Honeymoons"

Thanks!! Can I ask what PJ means?

gemmybear83

02-16-2010, 02:58 PM

Wow I'm not the only person who voted yes!!

:goodvibes

Why?

JennMouse32

02-16-2010, 03:01 PM

doesnt really matter what other people think.. it just matters what you think or want

luke

02-16-2010, 03:13 PM

Why?

Just seems tacky to me. Each to their own tho, i'd never judge anyones choice, just not for me :)

:goodvibes

TinkLoverSam

02-16-2010, 03:52 PM

Thanks!! Can I ask what PJ means?

Planning journal

act1980

02-16-2010, 04:58 PM

Planning journal

Thanks! :)

aduck126

02-16-2010, 07:02 PM

MainStMandy

02-16-2010, 07:23 PM

Just seems tacky to me. Each to their own tho, i'd never judge anyones choice, just not for me :)

:goodvibes

Well at least you have a good reason...

i really think there is nothing tackier than the local typical wedding. I went to a wedding right before ours that was at a hotel type facility that had like 7 seperate banquet rooms with weddings going on at teh same time. Walking around seriously every single wedding was exactly the same, bad lighting, atmosphere, music, food and tons of drunk people. That is tacky, not Disney.
I totally agree!!! I love that our wedding will be intimate and fun and not be like you described above!!:thumbsup2

bellebride116

02-16-2010, 08:02 PM

i really think there is nothing tackier than the local typical wedding. I went to a wedding right before ours that was at a hotel type facility that had like 7 seperate banquet rooms with weddings going on at teh same time. Walking around seriously every single wedding was exactly the same, bad lighting, atmosphere, music, food and tons of drunk people. That is tacky, not Disney.

Just curious, what do you think the Grand Floridian is? I do not think either are tacky if done elegantly {either local or Disney}, however, I've been to the wedding pavilion with multiple brides names on the board and the floridian's banquet rooms with multiple weddings going on at the same time... I'm just saying people can argue the same thing for Disney as they could a local wedding. Many brides get married at Disney, probably more so then a local venue per year, and Disney offers basic packages you can add {the light castle back splash, the characters, lit up ficus trees, etc, just as any 'tacky' local wedding venue would offer their packages}.

luke

02-17-2010, 02:32 AM

Well at least you have a good reason...

Wow I'm sorry I don't have a detailed PowerPoint presentation to show.

All I'm saying is it's not for me. But then I don't like staying onsite.

Scrap_Vamp

02-17-2010, 03:59 AM

I voted no - to be honest, if it hadn't been for Mickey and Minnie being there, you would never have known it was Disney for my wedding!

We liked the much increased chance of good weather, and the beautiful backdrops for our photos. Not to mention the fantastic customer service and almost zero stress. That is compared to my two brothers who got married at high end hotels in the UK. Their weddings weren't tacky, but they were certainly more stressful for everyone involved (and way more expensive).

torsie24

02-17-2010, 04:48 AM

LMAO - no one here is likely to say 'yes'.

Although in reality 'tackiness' is a personal thing, so a wedding anywhere can be tacky.

In my and my DF's opinion our DIsney wedding won't be tacky in the slightest. But I'm sure some guests may thing so, as we are having music from Enchanted and then Disney fireworks afterwards.

I have seen Disney weddings that I think are tacky, I've seen non-Disney weddings that I think are tacky. As long as the bride and groom love it than who cares?

Sweet Melissa

02-17-2010, 08:22 AM

A wedding in any location has the potential to be tacky. I don't think there's anything inherently cheesy about a Disney wedding, though.

Eeyore's Tailfinder

02-17-2010, 09:36 AM

I think a wedding is as tacky as you want to make it - and that goes for anywhere. Just having it in Disney doesn't automatically make it tacky - no one here is getting married on It's A Small World, getting Mickey to be the best man, or wearing Disney costumes... well, that I know of! Us for example, we're getting married in a Pavilion in the middle of a lake, having a 5-course dinner at a deluxe hotel with a great view, and ending the night with fireworks and a buffet - that doesn't sound tacky to me. We are getting Donald Duck at the reception for 30min but that's probably one of the only 'in your face Disney' moments we have.

Sorry but if you're going to come on a DISNEY weddings board and say Disney weddings are tacky, then you are going to get shot down a tad and people are going to get defensive as 90% of us are getting married in Disney.

MainStMandy

02-17-2010, 09:43 AM

Wow I'm sorry I don't have a detailed PowerPoint presentation to show.

All I'm saying is it's not for me. But then I don't like staying onsite.

No reason to get nasty...my point was you just admitted on a Disney Wedding forum that you think all of our weddings are tacky, but couldn't back up your reasoning.

Like other's have said, any wedding has the potential to be tacky but I don't think there is anything about a Disney wedding that would specifically make it so. Like Hayley said, we are having a gorgeous ceremony with a lack as a backdrop and a quiet, intimate dinner with fabulous food (and cake!). Just our opinions though...

torsie24

02-17-2010, 10:13 AM

From what I recall Luke, you really wanted a Disney wedding but decided it was too expensive.

OK ok, after our amazing trip to Orlando last month, i have somehow managed to persuade my fiancée that a having our wedding abroad will be the way to go (not to mention about 50% cheaper) and have also persuaded her that we should do it in Florida next October (08).

One of the Disney weddings would be my ideal (though more expensive) choice, however any other weddings are still in our thought, as long as we get to wear those bride and groom Mickey Ears on our honeymoon then i don't mind :hippie:

Luke :3dglasses

luke

02-17-2010, 10:45 AM

;) well dug up.

I think I've probably been a bit extreme, and on reflection, as others have said, and cam be said of any wedding, SOME can be tacky. I think that's what I had in mind.

Also I had such a great time at my Orlando non Disney wedding that maye I've evoke a bit of a 'fanboy' in some respect.

Hope I caused no offence, I didn't mean to anyway :)

:goodvibes

act1980

02-17-2010, 02:11 PM

Hi everyone.

Thanks for all the replies. I have convinced my Fiance to have the Disney wedding - YAY!!!!

Better start planning now :D

Elvis Presley

02-17-2010, 07:28 PM

No reason to get nasty...

You get nasty with the poster first, and then call them out when they respond in kind? Nice.:cloud9:

Dino*Lounge

02-17-2010, 11:30 PM

Longtime lurker posting, I think the poll should have had another option besides yes & no.

I follow many of the planning journals and there have been some beautiful weddings, lovely and classy... and then there has been some real hot messes.

thatdisneygirl

02-18-2010, 03:03 AM

I think the poll should have had another option besides yes & no. I follow many of the planning journals and there have been some beautiful weddings, lovely and classy... and then there has been some real hot messes.

This is a really good point. You all know that I'm a major fan of Disney weddings, but I have seen some that just made me cringe. Everybody has different things that they don't like in a wedding. For me, it's super-revealing dresses on brides and bridesmaids or the use and abuse of lipliner. For others, it's Disney in general.

If you try hard enough, you can be tacky anywhere.

disneybex

02-18-2010, 03:25 AM

Everybody has different things that they don't like in a wedding. For me, it's super-revealing dresses on brides and bridesmaids or the use and abuse of lipliner. For others, it's Disney in general.

If you try hard enough, you can be tacky anywhere.

:rotfl: LOL I totally agree!

I am currently trying to convince my sister that a dress below the knee is not frumpy!! It really is going to be an uphill battle :sad2:

act1980

02-21-2010, 08:22 AM

:rotfl: LOL I totally agree!

I am currently trying to convince my sister that a dress below the knee is not frumpy!! It really is going to be an uphill battle :sad2:

Good luck with that lol!!:lmao:

Pirate's Princess

02-21-2010, 09:12 AM

:rotfl: LOL I totally agree!

I am currently trying to convince my sister that a dress below the knee is not frumpy!! It really is going to be an uphill battle :sad2:

I really hope we're talking about a BM dress and not the wedding dress itself...:lmao:

Ann117

02-22-2010, 10:32 AM

I personally think a wedding is about two people who want to celebrate their love for each other. Its not about decorations or location or food. If it reflects who they are or is what they wanted that day to be then that is all that mattered. If its your wedding and you liked it who cares about judgmental people.