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[C.Ann]

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[bfeller]

I hope that your evening will be uneventful. Just relax and take it one minute at a time. My prayers are with you and your husband.

[debster812]

Prayers for a peaceful and quiet evening and tomorrow morning is OK too.

[PamOKW]

A very rough few days. Yes, watch over your hubby but then you have got to get some rest.


If you have a doctor outside of the VA, I would contact him/her and see if they can get you set up with some assistance (visiting nurse, etc.) or at least explain what is going on. I'm glad the oxygen man was helpful.

Prayers that this will all work out and that you will be able to relax soon.

[Deb in IA]

C. Ann, I'm glad he's alert and most of all, HAPPY to be home.

I agree with you totally. His "discharge planning" was disgraceful. The hospital should be ashamed of itself.

Best of luck to you and your husband . . .

[Serena]

I'm speechless.:mad:

[Catzeyes]

I am just glad he's home and I know you will do a fine job taking care of him, you seem like such a loving person. I hope and pray things get better for you both real soon. I will keep you in my prayers! Hugs C.Ann

[KimRaye]

Originally posted by Deb in IA
disgraceful.. . . I sooo agree!!

If the VA shows no respect for their patients, WHO WILL?!

{{HUGS}} and continued prayers for you & DH, C.Ann. Please get your rest. And, if that becomes a problem, you may need to seek out a visiting nurse that can stay with DH while you DO sleep.

[SeaSpray]

You know, C.Ann, I have a feeling you DEFINITELY did the right thing. *HUGS* How happy your DH must be, to be home again, especially considering the way they practically threw him out of the hospital! Sending you good thoughts and prayers, for the coming days.

[newmousecateer]

C.Ann

He is alert and happy to be home...sometimes one of the best medicines someone can have is being home with someone they love.

Can you handle it? I think so. It will be rough, I know. But your love for DH will get you through it. And all of us on the DIS will be here for you every single day.

Just remember to have others in the family come over and help. Get your rest. Eat. And when you feel overwhelmed, just call on us.

Prayers and PD.

[TinkerPixie]

My Dad uses the VA, so I know how quick they are to turn you out! Get some help, dont try to do it all by yourself. We're here when you need a shoulder! Sounds like he will be better off at home...thats a crummy way to treat a veteran. :(

[Rajah]

IMHO, you're right -- he can get better care at home with you than he's been getting there. Unfortunately that's frequently the situation any more at hospitals. :( Overworked, under-staffed, under-trained (compared to the "good old days") staff makes for less than fantastic care in many hospitals. :(

You can do this, but don't be afraid to ask for help from someone if you need it. See if you can get someone to help you care for him so you can get some rest, too.

You continue to be in my prayers.

[Beanie]

Hugs to you, C. Ann...I do hope you are having an uneventful night there...Prayers for you and your DH...

[KaraKW]

Yes. The VA Hospitals do indeed need an overhaul!! Sadly, the situation you encountered today does not surprise me. :( But I applaud the way you handled everything that came you way.

Hang in there, C. Ann! We're all here for you! That's the great thing about the DIS -- there are so many shoulders to lean on! :)
Try to get some rest tonight! {{{HUGS}}}
Kara

[B3LM]

It sounds like you definitely did the right thing by wheeling him out of there! I pray that you're able to get some much needed rest. Continued prayers for you and DH!

Beth

[Pin Wizard]

((((((((((((C.Ann)))))))))))))

I'm hoping it's a quiet evening for you and your husband. Keeping you both in prayers.

[WDWfanatic288]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}

prayers are still being sent your way

[Dizzy-Disney4]

C. Ann, I hope the night was peaceful and uneventful for both you and DH. What a strong woman you are. I hope if I ever need the strength to handle the things that you have been, that I can do even half as good as you. Like everyone said though, get some help so you don't have to do it alone.{{{HUGS}}}

[mickey65]

Continued prayers and good thoughts going your way. I hope you both had a restful night.

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[Poohbear123]

You will do JUST FINE!:) I have all the confidence you need, that you will do everything you are suppose too. {{{Hugs}}} You did the RIGHT thing, by just wheeling him out!:o You brought him home, thats all that counts. Faith.

[Mamu]

CAnn I know first hand how fatigue you are going to be. Make sure you take some time for yourself, this is very important. When your dealing with 24 hour care it doesn't take long before you are so overtired you become sick too.

This kind of care can be very stressful, hopefully there are people to help.

So happy to hear DH is doing better. You are still in my prayers. This is not an easy situation I know, I'm praying you find the strength.

Remember DH comes first, but there will be times you need to put yourself first, and you should not feel guilty and do not let anyone else make you feel guilty. If you are to endure 24 hour care 7 days a week, you need to find time for CAnn.

[Ranatra]

C.Ann,
I will be keeping you both in prayer. (((((((((( Hugs )))))))))))
Please keep us updated.

[Kermit]

I agree that they handled that completely wrong. When a patient is being discharged, the person who will be left in charge should become the patient so that they can make sure that you understand everything you need to.

Make a doctor's appointment for Monday. I'd tell them on the phone that it's going to take a while. Then take all of his meds and a list of any question you may have and make sure you understand everything before you leave. Write down the answers. That won't just help you remember the answers; it will ensure that each question is answered.

{{{Hugs}}} I think that you can handle this. It will be a challenge, but you're up to it. Continued prayers for you and your family.

[amid chaos]

More {{{{hugs}}}}for you and prayers.

[snuggles]

I am so sorry the VA gave you such awful treatment. Sometimes I questioned the care my daddy got too. Thank goodness there was one wonderful doctor who was always there for him. I hope you can find one of those to be his advocate. We used the VA in Gainesville, Fl. I hope you and your dh got some sleep last night and that being at home will help him feel better. Call and bug them to death about that bed and any other equipment you need. He deserves the best and they can make that happen. HUGS!

[meeshi]

C. Ann, I am so glad to hear that dh is home! :) I am disgusted with the way he was discharged :mad: I believe you did the right thing by wheeling him out of there. I agree with others that said make an appointment with his doctor to go over everything with you. And keep bugging them about that bed! You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

[Serena]

C. Ann, how are you this morning? How is your hubby?

I think you did great all around.

[faith]

Good Morning C. Ann. I just read your post and hoping you and your Dh had a restful night. Just being home for both of you should be great medicine!
Please insist on the hospital bed and I hope you can get a visiting nurse. They are such physical and moral support. Do you have a close friend or family that could help out?
Hugs and prayers for you and your DH.

[fkj2]

C. Ann, what you posted about the discharge plan (and I use that phrase loosely) wasn't any different than that of Medicare for our elders from our local hospital.

He (and you) will be better at home. It's a difficult reality to grasp that NOT having the suppport of hospital technology/staff isn't necessarily a bad thing. The one disadvantage you have is that you don't evidently have any medical background so try to get every service you can find; home health, and check with your Area Agency on Aging. Even though your DH may not be an elder, they may have advice to offer.

Try to organize family/friends/neighbors/churches to help you with meals. That makes such a difference.

[Spinning]

Hugs to you and your husband. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

[The Mystery Machine]

From your post it sounds like you are gaining control and are empowered. Prayers sent to you for continued strength!

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

You are very brave and strong, good for you:) ! Continued prayers for all of you.

[ripleysmom]

I'm so sorry that you both have been treated so badly C. Ann. At least you know now that you will DH will be getting loving treatment if nothing else.

{{{HUGS}}}

[Boots]

Praying for his recovery and for you to have strength. {{{{HUGS}}}}

[minniecarousel]

Hang in there C.Ann! It sounds like you ARE strong enough to handle the situation. Sometimes, just knowing that you can do better than the "professionals" can give you a big boost! Do try and get some in-home help....and take care of YOU!

[nativetxn]

C. Ann, I hope you and dh had a restful night. I'm keeping both of you in my thoughts today.

Katholyn

[Kitty 34]

C.Ann, I hope you had a restful night!!!

I will be heading Up North with my family for a few days but I will be thinking of you and sending lots of prayers for your DH while I'm gone!!


{{{{{HUGS}}}}

[Denine]

Oh My! :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
I can't believe they sent him home that quickly! That is just about the poorest discharge planning I have ever heard of. I used to work in a non VA hopsital. We never sent anyone home in that kind of a rush.

He probably is better off at home now! Take it one day at a time. I 'll keep you both in my prayers.

[Dan Murphy]

Continued good wishes for your hubby and you both, C.Ann. Hope today was a bit better than yesterday. :sunny:

[helenabear]

C.Ann, I could have sworn I replied to this yesterday but noticed I did not. I am so sorry you went through this all and I am keeping you and your DH in my thoughts and prayers. I do hope you get a decent night's sleep tonight as well because I think you need it {{{hugs}}}