So much for a surprise trip

[a*lil*bit*goofy]

Planning a trip since January.

Ex knew, his family knew...noone told the kids. (we do not get along but they know that it is for the KIDS they didn't want to ruin it)

Ds speech therapist knew (she changed a speech therapy date to the last day of our trip, i had to tell sorry no can do...surprise trip. please do not tell ds. this was in writing in her communication book).

so what does the speech therapist do today (with the note in front of her REMINDING her that it is a 'surprise' ) ??

Tells DS "your mom is taking you to Disney World on Thursday so we will see you when you get back".

:mad:

So I am really really sad. I didn't even get to see his reaction to finding out. Three years of saving, all this time planning. Everyone excited to see the kids reactions...especially me.

Ruined.

He said to me on the phone tonight "MOM YOU ARE TAKING US TO DISNEY ON THURSDAY" he has already discussed it with his sister.

Anyway I lied and said "no" and "how would she know anyway, she isn't going"

anyway. I am just feeling really down. I am so annoyed. Sad. Disappointed.

[disneyshakeygirl]

That is so sad :( I am so, so sorry. I have a feeling you'll have a great time, but it doesn't make up for the fact that the surprise was ruined.

[miranda1979]

my father used to always spill the beans..LOL we would give him one drink and he would get excited and happy and spill! :0 and then there was no living with us for the next couple of months! Sorry you sad, but it will still be fun no matter what

[a*lil*bit*goofy]

my father used to always spill the beans..LOL we would give him one drink and he would get excited and happy and spill! :0 and then there was no living with us for the next couple of months! Sorry you sad, but it will still be fun no matter what

at least he got to tell. I didn't get to tell. I didn't get to see the reaction. only 5 days to go. yes we will still have fun. no doubt. i just am a little deflated.

[pickles]

well, a few solutions to do damage control.

keep to your story..disney, what disney?

now, to really correct the problem try and leave a day a later..maybe change things by one day..add it onto the end?


I had a similar problem our last trip. kids were suppose to have certain chores/schoolwork done and they kept loafing and lying about it(a chronic issue with the special needs of my kiddos). I had changed our dates by 2 weeks due to some unrelated unavoidable issues. so, kids thought they were going and on the day they thought we were going i did the "nope I lied..just like you do"

Got my point across..then 2 weeks later I got to do the "surprise you are going to disney"

so go a day sooner or a day later(being the better idea) he thinks he is going thursday, so surprise him friday and shoot or fire the therapist when you get back

that all fails..try to hold the story(not going) and then do your surprise you had originally planned. he doesnt "know" he is guessing he is going. tell him the therapist must have confused him with some other kid..after all therapists see so many people

i feel for you..especially on something so big

the good news is the therapist wont walk down main street with you the first time you go..so you will still get all those 'firsts"

[a*lil*bit*goofy]

yea, we are going to keep up with the "nope, must have you confused with another kid". can't change dates. won't pay the money to change dates

Grumble. I have already left her a not so nice message. I ended it with "at least I know that you confirm that you are aware that we will be absent, and he will see you at the ened of the month when we are back".

(calm voice the whole way, said that after a year of planning and 3 years of saving, I would have prefered to be the one to tell him that we were going to disney. not her. and that I respected her wishes by using her communication book, but she couldn't respect me to not say anything to my ds. And that we are hoping to at least save the situation and surprise my dd.)

[Neesy228]

That really stinks. I'm so sorry you weren't able to be the one to tell him...and to be so close too! :sad2::hug:

I am sure that your kids will still be surprised and excited when you actually confirm the "rumor" and I'm sure you will have a great trip. Enjoy and celebrate all of your hard work and huge efforts to do something so awesome for you children! That's so impressive. Heck with the stupid therapist!

[We_love_WDW]

That totally stinks! We are also surprising our kids with our trip in 4 days! We plan on doing a scavenger hunt the night before. I did not tell anyone at her school yet (parents, teachers, etc) because of that reason...I thought for sure they would say something..so I will tell them on Monday.

[kiwicassie]

Ack! How thoughtless. I am sure no matter what, it will be a great trip. Maybe you could make "fake plans" for that day?

[FigNewton]

I think I'd be finding a new therapist for my kid.

[Bearshouse]

That is why after 8 years of saving, a whole year of planning, no one knows we are going. Not the school, the therapists, grandparents, noone. I am calling the morning we leave with a nice message to all saying "since we know you can't keep a secret, we didnt tell you. See you when we get back." :lmao:

I am so sorry that it was spoiled for you. If you are driving is it possible to stop somewhere else along the way and say this is where we are going? Maybe have the pilot say that they landed somewhere else? (I haven't flown in years so not sure if that is possible).

Bearshouse

[DisneyLover75]

I think I'd be finding a new therapist for my kid.


Yep, me too! That's crap!

I'm sorry, I know this sounds petty of me, but I hope you told her what you told us. That you saved your money for three years to surprise your kids with a trip, just for her to spoil it, and you didn't even get to see the reaction! WTH!!!!

I'm so outraged on your behalf! I'm sorry.

But I hope you have a great time. You could always say something like, "No, your therapist must be mistaken. I'm not taking anybody to Disney on thursday afternoon." (Leaving the afternoon part in there deliberately) and then when thursday rolls around, wake them up and say, "I'm taking you thursday MORNING! Let's go!"

Although as you say, it's pretty much spoiled, surprise wise. But it'll be good no matter what. I'm sorry.

[floridascgirl]

Some people are just born with fat mouths! :eek: We've been keeping our upcoming trip a secret for 8 months now, and we've had 2 close calls. One with my father-in-law (I told my DH not to even tell him) and the other with my co-worker (she only knows b/c she heard me on the phone with dining reservations).

We are going to be revealing our trip next Saturday and I'll be amazed if we make it until then. It has been rather stressful keeping a secret this long.

So sorry that your surprise was ruined, but like the earlier poster said, you still get to go to DISNEY!!! :yay::woohoo::banana:

[ogreenlee]

You should leave a message with his speech therapist saying, "SURPRISE, WE'RE GETTING A NEW THERAPIST!"

I'd be livid.

What you should do is plan some fake stuff for him to do. Tell him that you're planning a playdate for that week. Tell him you're going to one of those inflatable places with so and so. Maybe someone is having a fake birthday party at the park.

Stinks to disappoint him while trying to keep the secret alive, though. So sorry.

I'm such a bigmouth that I could never keep it from my daughter. Stinks that you've been holding out for all this time. :(

[FinallyDisney]

That is a very sad thing that therapist did and she should be ashamed of herself :mad:BUT let it go as it can't be undone and you WILL get to see DS's reactions to so many wonderful things......like the 1st time he sees the castle, or Mickey, or a parade, or FWs or ENDLESS things in Disney. He will remember that his wonderful mom took him to Disney and NOT that the thoughtless therapist ruined the surprise. You will have the most wonderful time - good luck! pixiedust: A little pixie dust - can't hurt!

[RIDisneyFan]

We surprised our DDs last year. One of DD12's teachers almost spoiled the surprise, said something to DD about going on vacation the next day. Fortunately there is another girl in her class with the same first name, so she just thought he had her confused with that other girl. My DH forgot to tell DD9's school that we were going and she would be missing school for a week, so none of her teachers knew and couldn't spoil the surprise! :goodvibes
This was our 3rd trip to Disney; the first time we went we did not surprise them, they were with us at the travel show when we booked the trip. It was still wonderful seeing their reaction to actually being a Disney for the first time, even if it wasn't a surprise. If you like your therapist otherwise, I wouldn't be too hard on her or change therapists as others have suggested. Everyone slips sometimes - several people where I work were reading the last Harry Potter book when it came out; I was one of the first to finish and accidentally let slip something major that happened in the book to someone who hadn't finished it yet. :rolleyes1 Don't let it ruin your trip - just go and have a wonderful time! :goodvibes

[pickles]

You should leave a message with his speech therapist saying, "SURPRISE, WE'RE GETTING A NEW THERAPIST!"

:(

I love this one best!! this had me chuckling at my desk :rotfl:

[2Tiggies]

Hey a-lil-bit-goofy, I had a few tears in my eyes when I read your opening post and honestly shared that same feeling you probably had when you realised the secret was ruined. I learned the hard way for our April trip this year that people talk and even though it is innocent, they can ruin the surprise just by sharing the excitement, as in my case. I know it was different for you as I am sure a speech therapist is not someone close to your heart.

We are going again next October and I have had it booked for several months now, but this time, I have decided to tell no-one at all. The school will get a letter explaining her absence and that it is a surprise at the last reasonable moment to give them notice of this (she will be out for a week prior to the holidays). If they inadvertently mention the absence, I already have a plan to tell her we are going to see my friend in Spain since we have spoken about it anyway, so it won't seem too strange, but that is IF it comes to that. I have gotten to a point where I am not willing to keep a secret for a YEAR all on my own and have someone ruin it for me again. This time I am being selfish to be kind. ;)

[KellyNY]

That is terrible, really, I understand completely how you feel. Here is what I would do, tell your son you scheduled appointment to dentist for him on that day, it may make him believe all Disney staff was a mistake, then surprise him with driving to airport. That all you can do at this point. Anyway, you will have great time, I am sure.:)

[MinnieGirl33]

You should leave a message with his speech therapist saying, "SURPRISE, WE'RE GETTING A NEW THERAPIST!"

I'd be livid.



:thumbsup2::yes:::thumbsup2::yes::

I would have FLIPPED out!

[selina4disney]

I feel for you, my son in law spilled the beans on a surprise trip for my grandson once...

Grandson: "Dad, where are we going on vacation this year?"

Dad (Michael): "You means besides the trip to Disney World?"

Grandson: "We're going to Disney World?!?! WHEN??!?"

Daughter: "MICHAEL!"

[tyandbash]

LOVE the "suprise new therapist" comment.

But really, has she even called you to apologize? That is just awful.

[Planogirl]

I think that getting a new therapist because of this is a bit of overkill, that is if this is a good therapist. I'm sure that we've all accidently spilled the beans at one time or another.

However I am sorry that your surprise is ruined. I can definitely understand your disappointment.

[BLTtinkerbell]

You should leave a message with his speech therapist saying, "SURPRISE, WE'RE GETTING A NEW THERAPIST!"


Good one!

OP: I am so sorry that this happened. I don't know what to say but I know you will still have a great time. Think of all the fun things you will do while there & you will be able to see their faces for all of that. Have a great time!

[disneydreamgirl]

I think that getting a new therapist because of this is a bit of overkill, that is if this is a good therapist. I'm sure that we've all accidently spilled the beans at one time or another.

However I am sorry that your surprise is ruined. I can definitely understand your disappointment.

You have a point, but I think it would burn me every time I saw her...

OP...so sorry to hear about your surprise being taken from you. Once you are there this will be a faint memory because you will have such a terrific time!! Here's some pixie dust sent your way that no other glitches happen...pixiedust:

[auntsue]

That really is soooo bad!!! It really stinks after all the effort you've put into it.

Sending lots of pixie dust your way for a totally awesome trip. pixiedust: You deserve it after all that planning!

[Micca]

You should leave a message with his speech therapist saying, "SURPRISE, WE'RE GETTING A NEW THERAPIST!"

:(


:rotfl2: That is CLASSIC! :rotfl:

[CathrynRose]

:headache:

Sorry.

[TLinden16]

Sorry that the speech therapist ruined the surprise, but I'm sure you'll forget all about it after all the magical memories you'll make on the trip.

Have a great time.

I'm going to move this to the theme parks community board now.

[twokids0204]

WHAT?? we are going to DISNEY WORLD!!! And you kept telling me we were not...

Thanks, you are the BEST!!!

[southernbelle5672]

WHAT?? we are going to DISNEY WORLD!!! And you kept telling me we were not...

Thanks, you are the BEST!!!

............:confused3

[a*lil*bit*goofy]

That is terrible, really, I understand completely how you feel. Here is what I would do, tell your son you scheduled appointment to dentist for him on that day, it may make him believe all Disney staff was a mistake, then surprise him with driving to airport. That all you can do at this point. Anyway, you will have great time, I am sure.:)


You know, that may be a good idea actually. I think I will do that. Good suggestion!

to answer other questions:
a) Yes I did tell her . I had to leave her a voice mail (may not have been the best thing but really she won't want to talk with me) saying exactly that "I saved 3 years, and planned for 1, and I didn't even get to tell him. You took that away from me"

b) no no call from the therapist yet. She may call on monday. who knows. Honestly if she does, I will speak with her and tell her that my disappointment in her better not reflect on the therapy she provides to my child. And that I felt that I had to let her know how I was feeling, because it really isn't ok. If she apologizes I will accept it, and forgive. I will. I am worried that it will affect the therapy, but that i swhy i was very calm and reserved when i left the message, yet at the same time I got my point thru loud and clear.

c)...so no, i am not going to seek a new speech therapist at this point.

d) thanks everyone. I knew everyone here would understand. I appreciate your understanding and comments. We will still have a great time no doubt. :O)

[MrsSilvaStrat]

I agree with previous postings - "you're fired!"

[Rosanne]

This kind of thing has happened to me a lot. I have two exes... one is my first daughter's dad and the other is my second daughter's dad. They have both totally let surprises slip. Huge surprises like telling them what Santa is giving them for Christmas. Not as big as Disney, but....

Anyway, that is so upsetting, naturally. I am sure the therapist feels terrible and no doubt simply has so many kids she serves that she was thinking of the schedule and stuff and just forgot it was a secret. I'm a music teacher and teach over 600 kids a week. The kids and parents tell me stuff all the time about trips, pregnancies, new houses, etc.. Thankfully no one has asked me to keep something a secret because I probably wouldn't remember which one it was that wanted it kept a secret.

I would just stick with your plan and just (only if it came up) imply that the therapist must have gotten her students mixed up. I'd say something like, "Wow, that really would be fun. Let's plan that for next summer or fall." I have had to cover stuff like that plenty.

[a*lil*bit*goofy]

............:confused3
that person posts 'thanks for taking me to disney' anytime someone says "me and my two kids (check their handle) first time was funny.......but after that....

[disneydreamgirl]

She's a professional, so you shouldn't have to even consider that the level of care she will give your son going forward will drop. That said, if you do notice a change you can make a report with the association that she is licensed with...I'm sure she would not want that to happen never mind having her colleagues and other parents know there was a situation and one she chose to escalate. I'm sure she will be falling all over herself apologizing, though...

[Nancy for Disney]

This kind of thing has happened to me a lot. I have two exes... one is my first daughter's dad and the other is my second daughter's dad. They have both totally let surprises slip. Huge surprises like telling them what Santa is giving them for Christmas. Not as big as Disney, but....

Anyway, that is so upsetting, naturally. I am sure the therapist feels terrible and no doubt simply has so many kids she serves that she was thinking of the schedule and stuff and just forgot it was a secret. I'm a music teacher and teach over 600 kids a week. The kids and parents tell me stuff all the time about trips, pregnancies, new houses, etc.. Thankfully no one has asked me to keep something a secret because I probably wouldn't remember which one it was that wanted it kept a secret.

I would just stick with your plan and just (only if it came up) imply that the therapist must have gotten her students mixed up. I'd say something like, "Wow, that really would be fun. Let's plan that for next summer or fall." I have had to cover stuff like that plenty.

You sound very rational. I would feel the same way and would have handled it the same way. :thumbsup2

I am sure that the therapist will just feel awful about it. I think forgiveness is on order and you can't change what is done.

Have a wonderful trip. :goodvibes

[a*lil*bit*goofy]

I think forgiveness is on order and you can't change what is done.
Have a wonderful trip. :goodvibes

I agree...hence If she apologizes I will accept it, and forgive

and I mean it. I believe that it was not intentional. and if an apology is offered i will accept it.

she had their work book with her, he must have it at his sessions. Right there was where I had put in writing..."secret" etc. sigh. I did thinking it was better than verbal, where it would have been easier to forget or confuse...

sigh. what is done is done.

[southernbelle5672]

that person posts 'thanks for taking me to disney' anytime someone says "me and my two kids (check their handle) first time was funny.......but after that....

Oh!

Well, I really feel for you. I know I would really be heartbroken. All I can say is that your kids are very lucky for you to even try to keep this a secret and plan such a special trip for them. I wish my parents had done something like that! :goodvibes They will probably still be surprised when you really tell them "OK, we're leaving!" It's not what you wanted, but don't let others ruin things for you.