View Full Version : Really nervous, please help me. :(
Alright, now I know disney has a huge thing with the gay community (my brother freaks out whenever we used to go to it a few years back, he's gay)
But i've never really thought about it untill now... do you guys/gals get awkward looks and or annoying comments if you go to the theme parks with your lovers/friends who are gay as well?
I'm asking this because well, I am a young adult, i'm Bi-Sexual (I guess i'm still in the "closet", haven't told my parents at all) and will be going to DLR/DCA with my boyfriend for his birthday/our first date. I'm very shy about these things and tend to get a bit annoyed over the smallest things about people being rude. I just want him to be happy (he's more a girly type) and try to be as romantic/a gentleman as I can be. So if you any advice/tips about what to do/what not to do when at a park, please help.
Many thanks! :love:
mikelan6
09-19-2009, 06:39 AM
Just have fun. Don't worry about what other people will think.
TuckandStuiesMom
09-19-2009, 10:47 AM
Just have fun. Don't worry about what other people will think.
Yeah! What he said!
You'll have a GREAT time.:thumbsup2
maleficent's goon
09-19-2009, 03:48 PM
If it helps---I've noticed a significant increase of gay couples in Disneyland these last few years who aren't afraid of showing it. Hand holding, cuddling, a gentle peck here and there. The point being that I think people feel "safe" there. There will always be ignorant jerks wherever you go but like others have said don't worry about them and have a great time!:thumbsup2
mickeyfan1
09-19-2009, 04:12 PM
I think that you should remember that outlandish behaviour, no matter who is doing it, is unacceptable. If you and your boyfriend want to hold hands, I doubt you will get more than a glance., If you want to play tonsil hockey, you make get some rude stares. Not because you are 2 males, but because it is not what people want to see, at DL or pretty much anywhere. I think you will be very comfortable in the parks, most people are too wrapped up in having their own fun to notice much around them anyway. Go and have fun. As a pp said, you will always find some jerk who takes exception pretty much everywhere. Don't let their small mindedness spoil your day.
Thanks alot guys, and no i'm not really gonna be doing some "tonsil hockey" maybe one little peck here and there, but the most will be hand holding/that holding them from behind that most couples do.
So thanks once again, now i'm getting less and less nervous from reading your replies. :D
DVC~OKW~96
09-19-2009, 07:35 PM
You'll be fine. :hug: Do however be a bit alert (not paranoid, just alert) and if you get any odd vibes, follow your gut.
Not to be overly dramatic, and I can't imagine anything really nasty happening on property, but you don't want to have any creeps acting stupid off property either.
Take care now and have a great time!
OrlandoMike
09-20-2009, 12:41 AM
I really dont think its been any sort of issue for at least the past 10 years at any Disney park!
Tonsil hockey is gross! No matter who is doing it!
A peck on the cheek and hand holding wont even get ya noticed anymore! :sad2:
And ya get some great service from the Cast Members if ya have one of those rainbow Mickey pins on! :thumbsup2
RENThead09
09-20-2009, 01:21 AM
What they all said!
Just have fun when you go and remember that you are sharing a special place with a special person.
Not sure when you are going, but Gay Days Anahem is the first weekend in October. If you want to make sure you are around people "in the same boat" then cruise on over for the weekend.
I would LOVE to go to DLR on those gay days, but he's a week or 2 after that, maybe we can plan something for next year... if it works out. :(
Also, where can we get those rainbow pins? Or was it some joke? o.o
I also would like to know if adding a "first visit pin" and a "birthday" pin on a 20 year old will get him special treatment as it does to the younger kids? I just want him to remember it and have a blast with all the characters he loves. :)
OrlandoMike
09-20-2009, 11:17 AM
The rainbow pin can be found at most of the larger pin stores.
http://i224.photobucket.com/albums/dd268/Orlandomike4/2741472329_23448f3688.jpg
The Happy Birthday button....you can get that at any guest relations, and that is fun also! :thumbsup2
RENThead09
09-20-2009, 12:35 PM
hey, I have both of those pins on my lanyard too. Great minds think alike!
Absolutely get both the birthday and first time buttons and have him wear them proudly. You never know what type of magic they will bring you :wizard: and at worse, he will have tons of people wishing him Happy Birthday!
Ah, i'm sure i'll be making my way to get him that puin and buttons on his magical day. :D
Thanks alot guys/gals, i'm getting more and more relaxed and comfortable with our trip. :)
Also, can we purchase those disney dollars at the park or somewhere, because we won't have money, mainly using a credit card. o.o
BarleyJack
09-20-2009, 05:06 PM
I really dont think its been any sort of issue for at least the past 10 years at any Disney park!
Tonsil hockey is gross! No matter who is doing it!
A peck on the cheek and hand holding wont even get ya noticed anymore! :sad2:
And ya get some great service from the Cast Members if ya have one of those rainbow Mickey pins on! :thumbsup2
I can vouch for this......
Now you guys are freaking me out with the "great services" thing when people wear that pin. What exactly do they do? o.o
OrlandoMike
09-20-2009, 06:13 PM
Now you guys are freaking me out with the "great services" thing when people wear that pin. What exactly do they do? o.o
Ever have the urge to see the back of a Disney dumpster? :confused3
:rotfl2:
chell
09-20-2009, 06:19 PM
There will probably be some goofy version of me there so if you see some woman holding her husband's hand smiling at the two of you don't freak out and think she is a total dork. I know that's how I always look. She is just trying to say good for you two! :thumbsup2 When we are in the parks and I see a gay or lesbian couple walking around holding hands I always try to smile at them and let them know I'm happy for them. It's sort of my proud moment I guess. When I go with my sisters I'm so glad they can walk around the parks holding hands so I'm happy to see other couples doing it too. It makes me happy to see other couples happy and to have the freedom to be expressive.
BarleyJack
09-20-2009, 06:20 PM
Now you guys are freaking me out with the "great services" thing when people wear that pin. What exactly do they do? o.o
You didn't get the memo? It came with the toaster oven. ;)
There will probably be some goofy version of me there so if you see some woman holding her husband's hand smiling at the two of you don't freak out and think she is a total dork. I know that's how I always look. She is just trying to say good for you two! :thumbsup2 When we are in the parks and I see a gay or lesbian couple walking around holding hands I always try to smile at them and let them know I'm happy for them. It's sort of my proud moment I guess. When I go with my sisters I'm so glad they can walk around the parks holding hands so I'm happy to see other couples doing it too. It makes me happy to see other couples happy and to have the freedom to be expressive.
So your gonna be there for the week we are there? Awesome! :D I'll be sure to wave back. I'm most likely going to be in pain from all the walking (I tend to give up on walking, legs just say "NO MORE!") So try to cheer me up. :)
And now i'm not getting that pin for me or him, thanks. :woohoo:
chell
09-20-2009, 07:22 PM
So your gonna be there for the week we are there? Awesome! :D I'll be sure to wave back. I'm most likely going to be in pain from all the walking (I tend to give up on walking, legs just say "NO MORE!") So try to cheer me up. :)
And now i'm not getting that pin for me or him, thanks. :woohoo:
No, I wish I was! I've never been to DL. But I'm certain there will be a woman like me there. Sorry to confuse you. There have to be other people out there like me who like to give those smiles.
Hope you have an AMAZING time!!!
When are you going? There is someone else on here who is going real soon.
Get the pins! You'll have tons of fun with them!!!
BarleyJack
09-20-2009, 07:30 PM
So your gonna be there for the week we are there? Awesome! :D I'll be sure to wave back. I'm most likely going to be in pain from all the walking (I tend to give up on walking, legs just say "NO MORE!") So try to cheer me up. :)
And now i'm not getting that pin for me or him, thanks. :woohoo:
The pins do not mean what you think they do.....just happens that a large percentage of CMs are family or very family friendly, and they will be sure to provide you with great service at restaurants, shows, that sort of thing. Don't take some of the risque comments on this thread seriously.....unless of course they come from Wally!
No, I wish I was! I've never been to DL. But I'm certain there will be a woman like me there. Sorry to confuse you. There have to be other people out there like me who like to give those smiles.
Hope you have an AMAZING time!!!
When are you going? There is someone else on here who is going real soon.
Get the pins! You'll have tons of fun with them!!!
Ah, you confused me! >.<''
I'm going on October 19th, that whole week. I called it a present for him, and I guess a date as well. Since well.. it's going to be the second week we've seen eachother (we met online o: )
But thanks for saying those words, made my day! :D
The pins do not mean what you think they do.....just happens that a large percentage of CMs are family or very family friendly, and they will be sure to provide you with great service at restaurants, shows, that sort of thing. Don't take some of the risque comments on this thread seriously.....unless of course they come from Wally!
I'm sorta not used to the jokes on forums, since people normally do /sarcasm or "just kidding" But thanks, I guess i'll be getting him the pin then, not sure if I can wear it since i'm bi. o.o
zeitzeuge
09-20-2009, 10:34 PM
I go to Disneyland/DCA frequently. For the most part I've felt very comfortable. Wearing the gay mickey icon pin does help other gay CM's recognize you (because I'm so butch looking and all *hush*) and give you special attention sometimes.
Although I do agree with, if your gut tells you to not show affection at a certain time or if you feel uncomfortable, just do what your gut tells you. Not everyone everywhere is accepting, so yes you could get a look or two or even a comment. Just do what makes you comfortable and you'll be just fine.
This coming from someone who's had to battle being comfortable showing public affection. Disneyland has helped me with that actually.
I go to Disneyland/DCA frequently. For the most part I've felt very comfortable. Wearing the gay mickey icon pin does help other gay CM's recognize you (because I'm so butch looking and all *hush*) and give you special attention sometimes.
Although I do agree with, if your gut tells you to not show affection at a certain time or if you feel uncomfortable, just do what your gut tells you. Not everyone everywhere is accepting, so yes you could get a look or two or even a comment. Just do what makes you comfortable and you'll be just fine.
This coming from someone who's had to battle being comfortable showing public affection. Disneyland has helped me with that actually.
Thank you very much for your post, I would say that out of the both of us being together... I would be the most straight looking of a bi/gay couple. (I don't do my eyebrows/do anything fancy, I just wear normal clothes and do normal things) As he is well... let's just say he's more a girly type and looks like it too, which I like. So the gay CM's just say hello and stuff? Or do they do odd things they wouldn't normally do?
And I was looking your pictures, you two sure look happy and have a blast when you go there. If you happen to go, i'll be sure to say hello. :)
soulmates
09-21-2009, 07:39 AM
I go to Disneyland/DCA frequently. For the most part I've felt very comfortable. Wearing the gay mickey icon pin does help other gay CM's recognize you (because I'm so butch looking and all *hush*) and give you special attention sometimes.
Although I do agree with, if your gut tells you to not show affection at a certain time or if you feel uncomfortable, just do what your gut tells you. Not everyone everywhere is accepting, so yes you could get a look or two or even a comment. Just do what makes you comfortable and you'll be just fine.
This coming from someone who's had to battle being comfortable showing public affection. Disneyland has helped me with that actually.
100% agree with this advice. We were in DW last month and there were several times we went with our "Gut" feeling and didn't show any PDA's. Most of the people were very nice and nobody cared, however, there were a few times we just KNEW, we were being watched and made to feel uncomfortable. We had an amazing trip, ALL the CM's were SO wonderful to us, nobody on staff ever made us feel like outsiders. Belive it or not, the few people who stared, were younger couples, not the older ones like we thought! Go figure! ;)
Redheaded Sunshine
09-21-2009, 02:35 PM
Ooh, I have the rainbow pin too :)
Like pretty much all the pps said, it's what you feel comfortable with and feel is kosher. I mean, when I go to Disney, I don't really expect to see people playing tonsil hockey, gay or straight.
When my DP and I go places, we hold hands, might have the occasional light peck, but we keep it PG. Sure you might get looks, but I think I'm somewhat oblivious to it now. If people really are that obvious, it makes me want to pull her into a big smooch and say "Build a bridge and get over it!" I don't...but I'd like to sometimes :rotfl:
juniper27
09-21-2009, 10:43 PM
But thanks, I guess i'll be getting him the pin then, not sure if I can wear it since i'm bi. o.o
You can absolutely wear it too! Yeah, there is a separate bi "flag"/colors, but it's not widely known outside the LGBT community like the rainbow is.
I wear a rainbow bracelet pretty much everyday as a way to not be assumed to be straight, since I'm bi and het-partnered. Seems to be working since every time he and I go out to eat, the server asks if our checks are separate or together...:laughing:
Hawleys
09-22-2009, 12:02 AM
I really dont think its been any sort of issue for at least the past 10 years at any Disney park!
Tonsil hockey is gross! No matter who is doing it!
A peck on the cheek and hand holding wont even get ya noticed anymore! :sad2:
And ya get some great service from the Cast Members if ya have one of those rainbow Mickey pins on! :thumbsup2
Tonsil hockey is gross no matter who is doing it. To the OP: I've been to DL with my wife several times and never felt uncomfortable with holding hands and hugging. Security is excellent and you will not be bothered. If you want a place to smooch, just head to the Haunted Mansion. :goodvibes
Tell me more about the rainbow Mickey pins!?! Where do you get these?
Need to make a note of that... Best place to make out: Haunted Mansion. :D
Any other places? maybe dark areas/night time? :)
I would guess they would sell those pins at the pin stores in the park, no?
DVC~OKW~96
09-22-2009, 05:29 AM
Yes, the do sell them at the pin stations and shops in the park.
There are some really dark portions of Spaceship Earth too. :teeth:
You'll be surprised at just how many of the Disney attractions have very dark areas. :teeth:
Redheaded Sunshine
09-22-2009, 08:06 AM
Need to make a note of that... Best place to make out: Haunted Mansion. :D
Any other places? maybe dark areas/night time? :)
I would guess they would sell those pins at the pin stores in the park, no?
I bought my rainbow pin at DHS...I'm sure they sell them at any of the "bigger" pin stations.
LOL It might sound a little bit twisted, but Peter Pan and Snow White have good dark parts too. :lmao: PotC does, but you have to ride in that big boat with other people.
Making more notes now, it'll be funny to see him looking at me as I read the notes. LOL
And i'm sorry your got censored, I too have no idea how that happend. :(
A very big thanks for everybody, I really mean it but yeah... I guess the real life hits you pretty damn hard. Guess i'm no longer in a relationship, so no trip to disneyland next month for his b-day...
Someone can close this or something, but thank you all, it really made me understand how lucky people can be, and some can't.
glenpreece
09-22-2009, 10:05 PM
I really dont think its been any sort of issue for at least the past 10 years at any Disney park!
Tonsil hockey is gross! No matter who is doing it!
A peck on the cheek and hand holding wont even get ya noticed anymore! :sad2:
And ya get some great service from the Cast Members if ya have one of those rainbow Mickey pins on! :thumbsup2
ditto on the rainbow mickey head pin, you might even get felt up by tigger!!! LOL
Have fun!!!
mickeyfan1
09-22-2009, 10:45 PM
A very big thanks for everybody, I really mean it but yeah... I guess the real life hits you pretty damn hard. Guess i'm no longer in a relationship, so no trip to disneyland next month for his b-day...
Someone can close this or something, but thank you all, it really made me understand how lucky people can be, and some can't.
Well, life does that to you, BUT, please stay here and chat., This is the nicest group of people on the entire DIS.
Sigh, just when I thought I wouldn't hear from him again... I suddenly get a phone call hours later. And after hours of talking, we're still on for the trip. It's the typical "so madly in love, you'll go at eachother with guns when your both made as heck and yet still have a few seconds to kiss and make up." -.-
Thanks again guys. I have a few more questions though.
1. About the Buttons, I heard there was this "Honorary Visitor" or something like that, can anybody explain to me how you get it (If there is a way you have to get it)
2. What are some great places to eat for dinner? Since we're spending a full 5 days (I guess we can call it a week) over there, I would like to know which resturants on the park/on the hotels is good?
3. Since i've never eaten in the park (7+Visits to DLR, and not a single thing eaten besides ice cream LOL) what are some good places? I'm more of a simple eater, fries/chicken and possibly I heard they have bread bowls too?
That's it, TIA for people who answer my questions!
(PS, I know you thought I would leave this place, but after fixing things with him, I feel like I can just stay and have fun with you guys. :D )
kingLouiethe1
09-23-2009, 03:20 PM
Sigh, just when I thought I wouldn't hear from him again... I suddenly get a phone call hours later. And after hours of talking, we're still on for the trip. It's the typical "so madly in love, you'll go at eachother with guns when your both made as heck and yet still have a few seconds to kiss and make up." -.-
Thanks again guys. I have a few more questions though.
1. About the Buttons, I heard there was this "Honorary Visitor" or something like that, can anybody explain to me how you get it (If there is a way you have to get it)
2. What are some great places to eat for dinner? Since we're spending a full 5 days (I guess we can call it a week) over there, I would like to know which resturants on the park/on the hotels is good?
3. Since i've never eaten in the park (7+Visits to DLR, and not a single thing eaten besides ice cream LOL) what are some good places? I'm more of a simple eater, fries/chicken and possibly I heard they have bread bowls too?
That's it, TIA for people who answer my questions!
(PS, I know you thought I would leave this place, but after fixing things with him, I feel like I can just stay and have fun with you guys. :D )
Well, when it comes to Disneyland advice the best place to get it is definitely on the Disneyland boards, those people know a lot of stuff, but I know a little.
1. Go to City Hall its on the left right at the beginning of Main Street and there you can ask for different buttons for free, they have happy birthday, happy anniversary, just engaged, 1st visit, and I'm celebrating.
2. I love me some Napa Rose, if you don't mind paying a bit more for a very nice meal, might not be the best for you though if like you say you're a more simple food kind of guy. Check out the storyteller's cafe inside the grand californian, they have a great selection and a buffet so you can try lots of different things. If you want to have a fun time check out Goofy's Kitchen in the Disneyland Hotel, it's a buffet and a character meal, but it's a lot of fun to have the characters come around and take their photos with you, also a bit on the pricey side though.
You'll have a great time at DL. This is So Cal, so pretty progressive, and such a huge number of the cast members are gay that no one really notices anymore. I know we walk around Disneyland all the time holding hands and no one's ever said anything. My friends have mentioned people giving us looks, but I am so oblivious to other people most of the time anyway.
RENThead09
09-24-2009, 02:20 AM
OK, a few thoughts on your posts...
1. No matter what happens, you are always welcome to stay around here and have fun. I have just started posting over here after spending most of my time on the Disneyland boards. The people on here are one of the nicest and most supportive groups you will every meet. They are welcoming of everyone regardless of any labels that society chooses to use. I have also found the boards to be entertaining, educational, and at times a little steamy. :eek: Just enjoy the ride, join in the dicussions, and don't take any candy that Wallyb offers you!
2. There are some great options to eating in Disneyland. I am in the same boat as you. I usually don't eat in the parks except for a few special occasions...And of course the corn on the cob!!!! MMMmmmmmm! KingLouie is right on point with his suggesitons. Napa Rose is great. And goofy's kitchen is fun. I liked the rice bowls in DCA at Lucky Fortune Cookery. I believe there are bread bowl items in both parks. Plaza Inn seems to be the place for chicken, but I have never tried it. There is a thread on the DL boards that has pictures of the places and the food. Check it out.
3. Keep it clean in the Haunted Mansion. :rolleyes1 I was riding with a friend of mine and half way through the ride an announcement came on that said "this ride is being monitored. Please use appropriate behavior" or something to that effect. It was great and we couldn't stop laughing trying to figure out what was doing what (or who) in their Doom Buggy!
4. Have fun! Not matter who you are going with, Disneyland is a special place. just take a deep breath and relax and let it soak it in.
wallyb
09-24-2009, 04:47 AM
:eek: Just enjoy the ride, join in the dicussions, and don't take any candy that Wallyb offers you!
I guess I am just the public whipping boy around here! :headache:
Thanks everybody! Talked to him more about the places we should be eating, and he's kinda picky like me, so I guess we'll enjoy the Monte Cristo and that Pommes Frites (Or however it's spelt, sorry! T_T)
I guess for our dinners, we'll be eating at the hotel resturant or somewhere else, not really positive.
One more thing, I don't know if they are still showing Fantasmic, but I heard it's a great thing to see (Along with the fireworks show of course) so can anybody tell me if they will have it and if we can get seatings for it too? :D
npmommie
09-24-2009, 10:24 AM
Just have fun. Don't worry about what other people will think.
perfect advice!
Tonsil hockey is gross! No matter who is doing it!
And ya get some great service from the Cast Members if ya have one of those rainbow Mickey pins on! :thumbsup2
exactly!
and hey, can I wear one of those pins???
even though I always thought we got great service!
wallyb
09-24-2009, 10:37 AM
I second the "Just Chill" advise. :thumbsup2
Let some of this stuff just happen...
allow "the Happy" to just wash over you.
Surprise magic can be the most fun. :cloud9:
Now breathe.
BarleyJack
09-24-2009, 11:24 AM
I guess I am just the public whipping boy around here! :headache:
If the pump fits.....:rolleyes:
wallyb
09-24-2009, 11:28 AM
If the pump fits.....:rolleyes:
Pump?
Hummmmmmm?
What's this Game?
:confused3
RENThead09
09-24-2009, 11:30 PM
I thought he said "if the pumps fit". I hadn't realized there was fashion advise available on the boards as well. :goodvibes
OrlandoMike
09-25-2009, 12:53 AM
I hadn't realized there was fashion advise available on the boards as well. :goodvibes
You have to be a silver member or above on the boards to ask for fashion advise! :thumbsup2
npmommie
09-25-2009, 11:10 AM
I thought he said "if the pumps fit". I hadn't realized there was fashion advise available on the boards as well. :goodvibes
LOL, he said "pump" and he set himself up for that one hehe!
wallyb
09-25-2009, 12:31 PM
Could I just go full out Franknfurter?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/franknfurter3.jpg
kingLouiethe1
09-25-2009, 01:24 PM
Could I just go full out Franknfurter?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/franknfurter3.jpg
I think we would have to see the legs before we can make that call, so we can't give you an answer until after the swimsuit portion of the pageant.
wallyb
09-25-2009, 01:44 PM
I've got great legs.
And I can get then way over my head. :cloud9:
Oooooo Bendy!
I didn't know my thread was for fashion lovers, I guess we should change the title. o.o
OrlandoMike
09-26-2009, 12:58 AM
I didn't know my thread was for fashion lovers, I guess we should change the title. o.o
Over here we give ya three pages on honest answers, after that, it's Hijack time! :lmao:
Well I still need an answer, then you all can have your fun. :(
stemikger
09-26-2009, 04:32 AM
I didn't read all the replies, but here is my advice.
I'm a 45 year old straight guy who has one child a 15 year old daughter who is gay. I am going to tell you what I told my daughter.
Be proud of who you are and don't worry about people being prejudiced about who you are and how you choose to love. I personally am not a big fan of public displays of affection, whether it be gay or straight, be somewhat discreet in public, but don't hold back if you want to hold hands or be who you are.
Gay people should have all right rights and respect that straight people do. Most of all don't let others make you feel less of a person because you are gay.
I'm very proud to be the father of a gay teen and let her know that every day. Go to Disney and enjoy!!!
UKMark
09-26-2009, 05:55 AM
Could I just go full out Franknfurter?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/franknfurter3.jpg
I'm wearing this outfit when we get married :banana::lmao:
TuckandStuiesMom
09-26-2009, 08:26 AM
I didn't read all the replies, but here is my advice.
I'm a 45 year old straight guy who has one child a 15 year old daughter who is gay. I am going to tell you what I told my daughter.
Be proud of who you are and don't worry about people being prejudiced about who you are and how you choose to love. I personally am not a big fan of public displays of affection, whether it be gay or straight, be somewhat discreet in public, but don't hold back if you want to hold hands or be who you are.
Gay people should have all right rights and respect that straight people do. Most of all don't let others make you feel less of a person because you are gay.
I'm very proud to be the father of a gay teen and let her know that every day. Go to Disney and enjoy!!!
:thumbsup2:thumbsup2:thumbsup2 What a GREAT DAD!!!!:thumbsup2:thumbsup2:thumbsup2
TuckandStuiesMom
09-26-2009, 08:33 AM
I'm wearing this outfit when we get married :banana::lmao:
Well, it's a daring fashion statement -- but garter-belts can be a tad unpredictable in public. (pantyhose are nowhere near as fashion-forward but then again, they never come loose, fly up, and snap you in the butt either) :rotfl2:
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