Dealing with The Loss of a Son

[goopysolelady]

Teresa, don't feel ashamed. We all are dealing with what life handed us. Please feel free if you would like to start a thread. The power of prayer, and caring here, is absolutely amazing. It was what helped me so much. :hug:



This is such a totally tragic story, from beginning to end. God bless each and every one of you.:grouphug:

Thank you. We've learned to "roll with the punches"; at times just being "numb" is all we can do. But then those DGD's come in the back door and yell, "Mimi!!!!!!!!" and no matter what my mood is, it turns to joy just looking at those smiling faces. When they're older I'll be able to tell them how much they helped ALL of us "live" again after the death of their uncle.

I signed in this morning to add one more thing about "our Marine". His actions were a shock to our entire small community. Many people, upon learning about that tragedy expressed their feelings in one word, "What???". If I were to have picked one person, among the probably 200+ young people I worked with during those years, he would have been in the "bottom 3" to have done such a horrible thing. He was/is a very caring, loving, God loving young man who, for a brief time, snapped. Those who were called to testify at his trial included my daughter, husband (who is an elected county official), high school teachers, high school principal, his 4-H leaders and both ministers from our church. They all did so willingly with many of them asking to testify to show their support. "War is hell"; while necessary at times, that statement is so true. My hope is for those of you reading this to reach out to veterans; love them, pray for them and let them know they have your support. It's been 18 months since I've seen him but we write each other regularly. He's doing well and is eager to hear about "life on the outside". He and my daughter supported one another via mail and visits and continue to do so. They were good friends in high school and remain so and his mother and I meet often for lunch and support. Friends:lovestruc...thank God! :tink:

[Jessica527]

We are here morning, noon, and night for support. This brought me to tears thinking about my mothers sudden passing as well when I was 11. I am not 21 and still think about it everyday. I learned that you need to celebrate their life. My wedding is coming up and we are going to just that, celebrate :)

[Disney-Chick]

I have been reading and cannot ever imagine the pain that everyone feels as I have not lost a loved one so quickly or so young. But my heart goes out to each and everyone of you.

The reason I am writing now is to bring everyone's attention to bullying. This past week 2 young kids who did not know of each other took their lives. One was a beautiful young girl at the age of 14 the other is of a 16 year old boy who hung himself. There are going to be 2 seperate funerals this coming Saturday for them both. I cried for them both even though I do not know either of them. I have a daughter who is going to be 14 next month and was bullied 2 years ago and I am so happy that she was able to tell me. After going to the school they could not do anything besides talk to the bullies. As a mother this was very frustrating. As I was bullied and beat up by 4 girls in grade 7 and then almost losing my cousin to a bully this hit home.

I am reaching out to you all that if you see/hear or know of bullying that you do not turn a blind eye. Children need our help and they are to young to know where to go for this.

As I write this I cry for the children that feel there is no way out and ending their lives is the only way to be free of this grief they are feeling.

My heart goes out to everyone who has lost a loved one by bullying, murder or accidental death. Life will go on and even though memories are all you may have, hold that close to your heart and charish all the times you spent with that special someone.

:hug: Shawna

[mommasita]

:grouphug: to everyone hurting.

[DisneyFairytale]

I simply can't imagine what it would be like to lose my son. He is 10 and is my entire world. Many can't understand how it is we have such a close relationship and the story behind it is actually long and painful to tell. Suffice to say that at times something incredibly good can come from something incredibly bad.

I know you miss your son, but if you believe in God know that he is in a better place and is looking down and watching over you every moment of your life. I am sure he would want you to move on with your life as hard as that is. Try to live your life and honor his memory in the things you do every day. I'm sure he would like that.

Take care.

God bless.

God Bless all of you. My dad just passed away from Cancer 3 months ago, and my mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor as well just 2 years earlier. She is doing well, but it really stirs up a lot of emotions to see how many caring people, are also going through the same thing.

So much love to you all. I am so thankful that we live in a day and age where distance is no problem to share love and compassion.

Love you all-god bless.

[GENE AUTRY KING]

I understand how you feel. I lost my daughter when she was only 14 and the pain seemed unbearable. She was every Dad's Dtr. It was so bad that I would pull off on the side of the road on my way to work and cry. For five years I visited her grave site every day and said a prayer. I am now starting to realize that she's O.K. and in a better place. When my time comes, She will be the first one to greet me. I pray that in time you will feel the same about your son. You will never be over the pain but be grateful you had him as long as you did and one day you will be to- gether.

[HeatherBrooke]

I too understand your loss. We lost our 25 month old son March 23, 2010. He was perfectly healthy and perfect in every way. I had gone in to his room during the night b/c he was crying and when my husband came in to tell us bye, Brandon was already gone. He had been gone a while. The autopsy said bronchitis but our ped. doesn't believe that is what happened. He thinks there was an electrical issue with his heart, something that couldn't have been predicted or prevented. I know how hard this is and I just try to remember that he is with Jesus and that we will see him again. I also believe God spared us a more horrific scenario because he looked peaceful and I never heard anything. I will pray for you and please hold on and know that you can see him again.

[sunshineNJ]

I am so very sorry for your terrible loss. I hope you will join support groups and find some comfort in them. I hope you will find the strength. :grouphug:

[alebisi]

Hi Stacy, I'm so sorry for your loss. I really don't know how I came across this thread but I'm glad I ended up here. Hope things are getting better. YOU DESERVE THE BEST FROM LIFE. Try doing things your son would love to do, that should keep his memory at best. I KNOW he's watching you up from heaven and smiling. Sending you lots of positive thoughts :goodvibes and :grouphug: hugs.

[shoes99]

Thinking of my nephew Damien and my niece Stacy on this day. Hugs to all the families who have lost a son or daughter. Damien we miss you.
Aunt Michele

[MEK]

I hope you are doing as well as you can be. Thinking about you on the anniversary of the loss of your son!

[weswife]

I came upon this site tonight. I read each post and now have tears rolling down my cheecks. I do not have any advice or wisdom to share. I just wanted to say my heart breaks for you and tonight I will say a prayer.

Last May the specialist told us our DD was coming to the end of her life. To make a long story short he "jumped the gun" so to speak and thought her brain was getting worse. After 2 weeks of testing we received the news it was not that at all. This all took place during Mothers day last year. The worst Mothers day ever.

:hug: