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jlima
06-22-2009, 08:14 PM
Let's discuss!

I believe some re-gifting is OK. For instance, one of the gifts DS9 received for his birthday was a boxed set of Captain Underpants books, and we already have every one of these books. I was going to return the set for store credit when we received a birthday party invitation; and when I asked the birthday child's mom for gift suggestions, she said, "Books, Legos, almost anything". So we re-gifted the Captain Underpants set, instead of buying something different. We never even took the shrink wrap off the set, so no chance of a greeting card stuck inside a book. I wrapped it in nice paper, with a nice card. It was an age-appropriate gift; and I felt like my time would be wasted returning the set for store credit & then purchasing something similar.

However, when I hear the tacky stories of torn wrapping paper left on a gift, cards left in a gift with someone else's name, name on a gift bag scratched out & new name written in, etc. . . . if you're going to re-gift something, don't make it so obvious!

C.Ann
06-22-2009, 08:19 PM
Done tastefully, I see no problem with it at all..:goodvibes

snarlingcoyote
06-22-2009, 08:47 PM
I have occasionally gotten presents and immediately thought "OMG! This would make Auntie Snarling such a perfect present!" If I was over enthusiastic with my thanking the person, it was only because their present made me so happy!:goodvibes They'd dumped the thing that makes me the happiest - a good present for someone else - right into my lap!

In those cases, it would be almost dis-tasteful NOT to regift the present on to a person who will truly enjoy and appreciate it.


Then too, there are those carefully chosen "generically neutral" gifts that you give people so you can make it through the holidays. I have no problems regifting those and I have no problems with the recipients of my "generically neutral" gifts regifting my gifts.

And if it's something I picked hoping I'd select something they liked and I missed? I'd rather they got rid of it and passed it on to someone who would enjoy it than have it cluttering up their house!

Vacation Lover
06-22-2009, 09:17 PM
I don't have a problem with regifting, but this thread is timely since I just heard a funny story about it. A friend told me that his sister gave him a camera for Christmas and he was so excited about it until he opened the box and it was bright pink! She had to fess up at the regift and they all had a good laugh over it. (Some people might not think it's so funny though!)

NYCDiane
06-22-2009, 09:30 PM
The books still in the shrink wrap would be fine to re-gift since it's brand new, age appropriate, and a great gift (per the other mom's list).

What I find horrible about re-gifting is when it's some crappy item that you can tell has been sitting in someone's closet for a year and they just tossed it in a bag and give it to you.

My daughter had a b'day party a couple of years ago. We had 2 're-gifting' issues... The first was from a family who has money. They gave her a shirt that stunk like "damp" (like it was sitting in a closet or basement) and a craft kit that had been opened, looked at and shoved back in the box. Both items went right to the thrift shop. The other family gave us a USED sweater. Granted, it was a nice sweater, but it was USED.

I would never do that to someone. I don't have a lot of money, but when I'm invited to a party, I buy a gift that I know the recipient will use and enjoy. I put thought into gifts because it's obviously a special occassion and, rather than mess it up for someone by giving them something I want to get rid of, I'd rather give them something they will love. I think the only time I would re-gift would be in the scenario the OP described.

SnowWhite2
06-22-2009, 09:43 PM
I have a good story for you.

My good friend gave me a Christmas gift this year...the same exact gift I gave her two years ago down to the matching gift bag and the little something extra (homemade soap) thown in that I thought she would like. Guess she didn't like it so much....

Now I'll be second guessing what to get her this year. :confused3

surfergirl602
06-22-2009, 10:25 PM
I have a good story for you.

My good friend gave me a Christmas gift this year...the same exact gift I gave her two years ago down to the matching gift bag and the little something extra (homemade soap) thown in that I thought she would like. Guess she didn't like it so much....

Now I'll be second guessing what to get her this year. :confused3

OUCH.:eek:

The evil part of me would ask her, "hey, remember that (blank) I got your for Christmas a few years ago? I am doing (blank) and I was wondering if I could borrow it?

And when she replies that she doesn't know where it is, or it broke, or so and so has it right now, I would smile, and show her it, and say gotcha!

That's what the evil part of me would do, but the sensible part would growl under my breath and take ip up the you know what.

Nicsnick
06-22-2009, 10:29 PM
I have a good story for you.

My good friend gave me a Christmas gift this year...the same exact gift I gave her two years ago down to the matching gift bag and the little something extra (homemade soap) thown in that I thought she would like. Guess she didn't like it so much....

Now I'll be second guessing what to get her this year. :confused3

Wait a couple of years and give it back to her!!!!

jlima
06-22-2009, 10:51 PM
Wait a couple of years and give it back to her!!!!
:thumbsup2

NYCDiane
06-22-2009, 10:53 PM
Wait a couple of years and give it back to her!!!!

That's a great idea!!! It can be a kind of joke after that because her friend could give it back to her and then she back to the friend, etc....

I sort of thought like the other poster, though. The evil part of me would have been like "wow, you must have really enjoyed this so much that you went out and got me one, too!" When the friend said "huh", I would have said "don't you remember? I got you this exact item for Christmas 2 years ago, right down to the handmade soap and matching gift bag! How cool!"
:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

QVCshopper
06-22-2009, 10:55 PM
Think of it as "going green"--buying less is good for the environment, and it's good for your wallet. I see no reason why I should keep something that I don't have a use for, when maybe someone else will.

Of course, for sentamental reasons, I have kept some things. And I agree about not being tacky about regifting.

sissypie
06-22-2009, 10:59 PM
Wait a couple of years and give it back to her!!!!

I think that is a great idea. I agree that re-gifting is appropriate when you think someone will enjoy it more and you have the item or can't use it; but, of course, it has to be new and never used. It would be a shame to just let anything sit in a closet or drawer never to be used in this day and age when economics are so tight.

Grumpy's Gal
06-22-2009, 11:00 PM
if YOU buy a wedding gift at a department store and it's something that comes in the box and the box opens........PLEASE before you give it to someone, open the box and take everything out. Make sure there's not a wedding card inside and it's been returned to the store with the card in there.

Several gifts we got had cards inside the boxes -- and the cards were not to us!

NYCDiane
06-22-2009, 11:06 PM
Think of it as "going green"--buying less is good for the environment, and it's good for your wallet. I see no reason why I should keep something that I don't have a use for, when maybe someone else will.

Of course, for sentamental reasons, I have kept some things. And I agree about not being tacky about regifting.



The problem is the "maybe" part. When I am getting a gift for someone, it has to be for THAT person and not just a generic item that I think they might like.

I've received gifts that I didn't care for and, as stated above, my daughter received some re-gifted stuff. I will take these items and either donate them directly to the thrift shop or I will Freecycle them.

I've never re-gifted in my life but, if I did, it would have to be a brand new/sealed item that I KNOW the recipient will love. Other than that, no way.

yooperfamily
06-22-2009, 11:09 PM
At my bridal shower (over 10 years ago) my great aunt had given me a USED 9x13 dish that goes inside of this thing that either keeps things cold or hot. By used, I mean the box was very old and there was FOOD stuck on the dish, LOLOLOL.... my hubby, mom, sister, etc all had a good laugh! Now that she's gone, it's still something I giggle about and think of her every time I use it. And it's one of the most used items I got for my wedding, lol - I love it! Even if it was used :)

QVCshopper
06-22-2009, 11:59 PM
The problem is the "maybe" part. When I am getting a gift for someone, it has to be for THAT person and not just a generic item that I think they might like.

I've received gifts that I didn't care for and, as stated above, my daughter received some re-gifted stuff. I will take these items and either donate them directly to the thrift shop or I will Freecycle them.

I've never re-gifted in my life but, if I did, it would have to be a brand new/sealed item that I KNOW the recipient will love. Other than that, no way.

To each his own. I feel that our society consumes too much and I'm trying to change. Overall people seem to like what I regift, but no, I didn’t intend it just for them. I usually have a stock pile of regifts, but it's empty now. And I buy items when I find them on sale, and stockpile them--maybe that's why your shirt smelled (it was a stock pile gift and not a regift?).

When I buy gifts, I do put a lot of thought into them, especially for family members close to me.

And talk about tacky: I don't buy cards very often--I usually take ones I've received and rip off the fronts, backs, etc. and write my message on that. No one seems to care, and I've been doing it for a year.

Really, do these things matter? Coming from someone who broke her elbow and had knee surgery all while raising a 1 and 2 year old . . . not so much.

WeLoveLilo05
06-23-2009, 12:44 AM
My thoughts on regifting- ok if done tastefully, as OP said about the Captain Underpants books (which is a great series BTW :thumbsup2).

BUT, I get so annoyed because every year around christmas time I cringe over having to buy fiance's cousins gifts. And I know it sounds mean b/c they are only kids and it is not their fault, but EVERY YEAR his aunt gives DD a regifted item and how do I know? His cousin is 2 years older than DD and is a little overweight for her age (again, not saying it to be rude or harsh). So this christmas my DD got a High School Musical Zip-up hoodie in a size 14...my daughter is only 4 and wears a size 4/5. Last year she got a ton of clothing in sizes 10/12. Fiance and I don't have much money, I am still in college, we are trying to save up for a house and a wedding, and they are established and my DD gets something that she won't wear til she's 12 and by then no one will know what HS Musical is. Just annoys me.

Anyway I could end the christmas exchange w/o being rude and a Scrooge?

dreamin_disney
06-23-2009, 01:52 AM
I have a good story for you.

My good friend gave me a Christmas gift this year...the same exact gift I gave her two years ago down to the matching gift bag and the little something extra (homemade soap) thown in that I thought she would like. Guess she didn't like it so much....

Now I'll be second guessing what to get her this year. :confused3

uuh regift it back to her-lol! JK

mmouse1239
06-23-2009, 06:15 AM
My daughter's father and stepmother are king and queen of the "regiftgers". For Christmas they gave my daughter a used George Foreman grill....knew it was used because there was grease in the grease catching cup...yuk. And they gave her a pair of tights/stretchy pants (the kind used for exercising) that had holes in them and were worn through in the thighs....How gross! I have no problem with giving things again that are new and can't be used...that's just being smart. However, when you give something that is used and dirty, well that's just nasty.

wall*e2008
06-23-2009, 07:10 AM
If the gift is still unused, unopened and is something the person would enjoy then I think it is fine but if it was used as an after thought, like the toaster oven I just read about, then it is wrong.

carj
06-23-2009, 08:48 AM
I have found a fun way to "regift" and hopefully not get caught! We have a large extended family and we do stocking stuffer gifts for the adults. Usually these are small items, less than $5 for the adults. The kids still get a ton of toys, many that they will never use.

For the things that my husband and I get that we will never use, I put them into a box and then I take them to school and share with some of my other teacher friends. Often, some other people will do the same. Then we get to pass along the gifts without fear of the giver finding out!

By the way, I have NO problem with used gifts. My mom frequently gives us things that she finds in garage sales. They are always in great condition, often new items. I guess it might seem weird if it came from someone that I didn't know well.

As for greeting cards...we have several family members and friends who work in the greeting card, wrapping paper industry. I still re-use gift bags though. To me, that is more eco-friendly and not as wasteful. I hardly ever have to buy cards, bags or paper unless it is something unusual.

I buy my nieces clothes that I find on clearance all the time. Sometimes, they are out of season or too large when I give them to them. I do always get them a "real" present too. I give them the clothes right away because I am afraid that I might forget to give them to them when they actually fit.

maggiew
06-23-2009, 09:17 AM
I have a good story for you.

My good friend gave me a Christmas gift this year...the same exact gift I gave her two years ago down to the matching gift bag and the little something extra (homemade soap) thown in that I thought she would like. Guess she didn't like it so much....

Now I'll be second guessing what to get her this year. :confused3

Maybe get her something that YOU would like!! :rotfl2:

Maggie

ceecee
06-23-2009, 09:48 AM
Done tastefully, I see no problem with it at all..:goodvibes

I agree! That being said, I have gotten gift sets with expired food and once a piece was even missing!

C.Ann
06-23-2009, 09:51 AM
I agree! That being said, I have gotten gift sets with expired food and once a piece was even missing!

That would be a definite "no-no" - along with "used" gifts - unless it was an antique or something of very sentimental value that someone in your immediate family has been wanting forever..;)

Boston Tea Party
06-23-2009, 11:33 AM
Think of it as "going green"--buying less is good for the environment, and it's good for your wallet. I see no reason why I should keep something that I don't have a use for, when maybe someone else will.

Of course, for sentamental reasons, I have kept some things. And I agree about not being tacky about regifting.

There's "going green" and then there is "forcing green."

If you think someone might use something, then give it to them at that time. Don't use a gift giving occasion as an excuse to downsize. ;)

kaytieeldr
06-23-2009, 02:02 PM
I have a good story for you.

My good friend gave me a Christmas gift this year...the same exact gift I gave her two years ago down to the matching gift bag and the little something extra (homemade soap) thown in that I thought she would like. Guess she didn't like it so much....

Now I'll be second guessing what to get her this year. :confused3
Easy. Just give her something YOU want. Odds are, she'll regift it to you sooner or later ;).

Jsme
06-23-2009, 03:50 PM
I can not help but tell a story of re-gifting.

I use to work for this lady. She had everything. Very nice and never expected anything as a gift. Well, her old employee gave her a gift the first year I worked for her. It was one of those Hickory Farms sets. Well she opened it to find out a crock of the cheese had been opened and used already. I still think of this when I am tempted to re-gift something.

I do not see anything wrong with re-gifting. I just think it should not be something already used. New is fine. I also agree that you need to make sure there are not cards included from the previous giver in the box or package.

I reuse gift bags all the time. My mom saves her Christmas cards and uses them as gift tags the next Christmas. She always wraps a beauitful gift and it has the top of a Christmas Card she received the year before and she writes To: and From: on it. It is always tasteful.

Ava
06-23-2009, 04:31 PM
I think re-gifting is fine as long as the item is new and appropriate for the person you're giving it to.

That said, my old boss used to re-gift food baskets she received from vendors she did business with. We were supposed to just share them with the office, since legally we weren't allowed to accept personal gifts from vendors, but she would keep any with alcohol in them for herself and take the others home to give to her doorman, cleaning lady, etc. I'm sure she gave these people cash gifts as well, but it always just seemed tacky to me.

brooklynheights
06-23-2009, 11:22 PM
My DN went to her cousins babyshower later her cousin came to her babyshower and gave her a bouncy seat and other gifts she had got at her shower the bouncy seat was nothing like the one she wanted so I will be regifting it the third time to a coworker who has it on their list.I did buy a new bouncy seat for my niece that she wanted ,but to give all the gifts you didn't want to someone who was at your shower tacky! A funny not regifting story a kid who was working with us last summer told us his rich aunt and uncle gave him a bag of snack candy bars for high school graduation and his parents gave him a 20oz soda and a bag of chips parents were not bad off ,we felt kind of bad for the kid but he just kind of went with the flow (maybe they had no gifts to regift)

NYCDiane
06-24-2009, 06:32 AM
If you think someone might use something, then give it to them at that time. Don't use a gift giving occasion as an excuse to downsize. ;)

I agree and that's what I would do, too. If I got a gift I know I won't use or just don't want, I would pass it along to someone right away rather than let it sit in my closet collecting dust.

Kim68
06-24-2009, 11:05 AM
I have re-gifted many times. My 2 sons receive way too many toys for birthdays and Christms and often they receive duplicate items. I stash those away in a closet for future presents. I have also re-gifted some generic items - candles, frames, etc.

I feel it's completely fine, but make sure you pay attention to what you are giving (make sure it is new, that the receiver was not the one who gave it to you in the first place, etc).

luvmy3
06-24-2009, 11:30 AM
The problem is the "maybe" part. When I am getting a gift for someone, it has to be for THAT person and not just a generic item that I think they might like.

I've received gifts that I didn't care for and, as stated above, my daughter received some re-gifted stuff. I will take these items and either donate them directly to the thrift shop or I will Freecycle them.

I've never re-gifted in my life but, if I did, it would have to be a brand new/sealed item that I KNOW the recipient will love. Other than that, no way.

I agree with the bolded. I wouldn't re-gift just to get rid of something I didn't like or wouldn't use and maybe Aunt Shirley might. If I knew she would love it then I would give it to her, if not then it would go to Goodwill.
In cases like the OP I don't see anything wrong with it though. Between my 3kids we have been to a ton of birthday parties and some we knew the kid very well and others we didn't. If I (or my kids, really) had recieved something that they had a duplicate of I see no problem giving it to another kid in the same age group who might be interested in it.

stitchlovestink
06-24-2009, 12:47 PM
I agree! That being said, I have gotten gift sets with expired food and once a piece was even missing!
One word.... GROSS! :scared1:

Not a regifting story, but...
We have a family tradition on my side of the family. My mom/dad give everyone cash for Cmas but mom likes to have something for everyone to open. So the tradition is everyone gets a white elephant gift from mom/dad. It doesn't have to be used, but it must be previously owned. She finds some of the coolest things for us at yard sales, flea markets, etc...
My DH says that's one of his fav things on my side. We have such a fun time w/ it. Sometimes she'll get a great gag gift for somebody in the family. The other year, when Mom was battling cancer, she skipped doing this and everybody was so disappointed. but we understood why. She started it back up Cmas of '08 and has already done quite a bit of her shopping for Cmas '09. :rolleyes1

krcit
06-24-2009, 02:38 PM
I have the best regifting story. I can laugh about it now but at the time....actually I was laughing at the time too!


When I was pg with my oldest dd 15 years ago, my friends threw me a nice shower. I received 2 diaper 'genies'. I was going to return it but my SIL convinced me to regift it at another friends shower 2 weeks later. I felt kind of funny about it but I did it. Well, we're at the shower and my friend 'Carol' opens the diaper genie and is so excited and proceeds to open the box. A card flutters out and I yell "OMG, I can explain...yada, yada yada" She is laughing and then opens the card and it is addressed to Yolanda, love from Mary and Diana. My name is Karen.:lmao: We just about wet our pants laughing. It was a double regift!!!

QVCshopper
06-24-2009, 05:24 PM
I have re-gifted many times. My 2 sons receive way too many toys for birthdays and Christms and often they receive duplicate items. I stash those away in a closet for future presents. I have also re-gifted some generic items - candles, frames, etc.

I feel it's completely fine, but make sure you pay attention to what you are giving (make sure it is new, that the receiver was not the one who gave it to you in the first place, etc).

That's exactly what I do... Here are my recent regifts. My son got a Batman car for XMas. He's not into that--didn't even open it, so I saved it for a cousin's b-day gift in Feb. The little boy was playing with the car as soon as he opened it. He really likes superheroes and I knew that.

Another recent case, my DD got clothes were too small to fit her & she doesn't like jeans anyway. I regifted those to a friend's DD for her b-day--it was just the right size for her. I've seen the girl in the outfit quite a bit since.

I don't see the point to giving it away right away when I can save myself money later on. But I wouldn't regift used items, expired food, etc. I always give to Goodwill, Purple Heart, and FreeCycle.