Single ... yet again ..

[Natalie_89]

... i realli fort he was a keeper ... :sad1:

[black562]

... i realli fort he was a keeper ... :sad1:

Aww, sorry to hear that. You're among friends here. I always believe things happen for a reason...your prince is out there somewhere waiting for you.

Cheers,:hug:

[Graeme]

:hug: You're a beautiful girl, you wont be single long. Keep your chin up. XX

[Floydian]

:hug: You're a beautiful girl, you wont be single long. Keep your chin up. XX

I was thinking the same thing! :cool2:

... i realli fort he was a keeper ... :sad1:

I'm familiar with the feeling (as are too many of us). Just know that there's a lot of life out there to be lived for you and your son. :goodvibes

[TortugaDave]

... i realli fort he was a keeper ... :sad1:
Yea, you have nothing to worry about. If only you where in the statespirate:

[Iluvjiminy]

You'll find the right one, just keep looking, my DH left me for someone else and my dumb butt married someone else on the rebound. Not smart at all.....not smart I tell you :sad1: this one keeps "running away from home" one minute he's here and I fall asleep only to wake up....alone,:confused3 he's gone...no note, no explanation.....nothing. He usually comes crawling back (how stupid am I) :mad: I'm just waiting for the day he runs away never to return. And I thought he was "different than the last one" LOL:lmao:

[mickeyfreak13]

stay strong....there is always diz in the meantime.:)

[Clifton]

I really can't help say you have a splitting image of Renee O'Conner (Gabriel from Xena: Warrior Princess). :)

[Go_Number_9]

I agree you're just down right georgous!!!! you wont be single for long:banana:

[lovemickeyshouse]

Try being 32 and single your in great shape sweetie.

[Floydian]

Try being 32 and single your in great shape sweetie.

lol...many of us got that beat mister! :lmao:

[lovemickeyshouse]

Never married and no kids 32 and single now do i got you beat?lol

[NH_Bubba]

Never married and no kids 32 and single now do i got you beat?lol

Not even close - :sad2:

[black562]

Well 35, married once, no kids...things could be worse, ALOT worse.

A friend of mine once told me, "There are worse things than being single".

I say, better to be alone and happy than with someone that makes you miserable.

[MarylandPirate]

Wise words from the West Virginian "I say, better to be alone and happy than with someone that makes you miserable. "





Love yourself first......that's the quickest way to happiness! pirate: Then come to WDW and drive all those young single guys crazy! :goodvibes

[MarylandPirate]

oops...double post!

[spidey_99]

Oh Lord! Enjoy being single! Who cares?!?! Are you healthy? Is your son? If so, count your blessings and go out and enjoy life. The idea that you need someone to fill you up is one of the few things Disney has added to our culture that I really hate and think is crazy damaging.

Here's to you finding a fun, great, rewarding life and- in turn- showing your son that- while companionship is great- the best company you can and should learn to covet is your own.

Spidey

[Natalie_89]

thanks everyone for your comments .. its early days im just hurting at the min it will get better xx

[Floydian]

Never married and no kids 32 and single now do i got you beat?lol

lol

40, married once, no kids, single, and as Joe said, I'm happier single than I would have been if I was still married. Sure, it's not what I "dreamed of" for my life at 40, and I've even been facing some health issues lately, but I still figure it could be worse.

[GrumpyOne]

Certainly a hard thing to go through but it doesn't devalue you as a person, no matter how many times we say "what's wrong with me?" :p You'll find someone again but until that happens, don't give up on life.

[CinRell]

Well 35, married once, no kids...things could be worse, ALOT worse.

A friend of mine once told me, "There are worse things than being single".

I say, better to be alone and happy than with someone that makes you miserable.

Amen, Joe! I purposely took the last year to be completely single.. no dating.. nothing.. nada... and I'm finding I kinda prefer the single life right now... and that doesn't mean bouncing around and juggling men.. that means really appreciating my time wtih my family, my friends.. and most importantly MYSELF.

I now know *if* I ever become attached to someone again, it will be for the right reasons.. not just to be with someone or in a desperate search to not be alone (like I was with my ex)

33 here, never married, no kids.... and I'm a chick. Beat THAT! lol! You boy scan have kids at the age of 60 if you wanted.

As for the OP... take your time! You're 20. I'm not even remotely the same person I was at 20 and I definitely do not have the same taste in men. Don't worry about finding "mr forever"... in fact, at your age? avoid it :rotfl:

[jadedbeauty14304]

Amen, Joe! I purposely took the last year to be completely single.. no dating.. nothing.. nada... and I'm finding I kinda prefer the single life right now... and that doesn't mean bouncing around and juggling men.. that means really appreciating my time wtih my family, my friends.. and most importantly MYSELF.

I now know *if* I ever become attached to someone again, it will be for the right reasons.. not just to be with someone or in a desperate search to not be alone (like I was with my ex)

33 here, never married, no kids.... and I'm a chick. Beat THAT! lol! You boy scan have kids at the age of 60 if you wanted.

As for the OP... take your time! You're 20. I'm not even remotely the same person I was at 20 and I definitely do not have the same taste in men. Don't worry about finding "mr forever"... in fact, at your age? avoid it :rotfl:


Hi Cin! :wave:
I just want to say that I agree 100% with everything you said!! very true words!!!!

And OP, you are so young. Have fun while you are!!!! I wish I would have!

[CinRell]

Hi Cin! :wave:
I just want to say that I agree 100% with everything you said!! very true words!!!!

And OP, you are so young. Have fun while you are!!!! I wish I would have!

Hey chicky! :yay:

[jewjubean]

:(

[jewjubean]

Natalie are you doing the College program at disney? Cause I thought i've seen you post on the college boards...

[Carol17]

Well, I guess it is good to read I am not the only single person in the world.Im 37, single,no kids...oh and I can't get a permanent teaching job either,so old car,still renting,bla bla bla. I have recently woken up and realized that I have let my life pass me by. I am my own worst enemy. What bothers me most, is how much it bothers everyone else. My biggest problem is I care too much about what other people think. I want to crawl under a rock sometimes. Hmm, guess that's why I'm single...I AM living under a rock.:sad2: Nonetheless, I am relatively healthy, able to walk upright, have a couple jobs while many people can't get any job at all. I have friends I care about. I have been to WDW 5 times. Things could be worse.

[GrumpyOne]

I have recently woken up and realized that I have let my life pass me by.

Statistically, you have more than 2/3 of your adult life left to live. As you say, you're healthy have a job and friends. Rather than regret what you can't change, look ahead. You can always add adventure to your life.

[Brocktoon]

Well, I guess it is good to read I am not the only single person in the world.Im 37, single,no kids...oh and I can't get a permanent teaching job either,so old car,still renting,bla bla bla. I have recently woken up and realized that I have let my life pass me by. I am my own worst enemy. What bothers me most, is how much it bothers everyone else. My biggest problem is I care too much about what other people think. I want to crawl under a rock sometimes. Hmm, guess that's why I'm single...I AM living under a rock.:sad2: Nonetheless, I am relatively healthy, able to walk upright, have a couple jobs while many people can't get any job at all. I have friends I care about. I have been to WDW 5 times. Things could be worse.

I think it's great that you do understand that there are many things to be greatful for ... you DO have a job, friends, your health etc ... more than many people out there.

Life isn't going to be storybook perfect for everyone, and even people who look like they have the perfect life have thier problems. It's much better to understand yourself and be happy, then be in a miserable relationship because freinds or society dictate that's the norm.

Hell, I have friends ask me all the time why I'm 32 and still single. Simple ... I'm a freakin' workaholic! My work ethic has done wonders for my career and allowed me a nice standard of living, but it's relationship suicide. I've been in relationships where I felt like I was doing what was expected, but I was burning the candle at both ends. While the gals stuck by me, it was completely unfair to them, as I was always too tired to go out and do anything with them. One day I may find the right girl to help me stop and smell the roses, but until then, I'm much happier being single than making two people miserable in a relationship.

Even if you're in a realtionship, you can still let life pass you by. I have a much more active life than other couples I know. You're 37, there's plenty of fulfilling years left. You can pick up some new hobbies, or get involved in volunteer work. Being a happy productive member of society is the most fulfilling activity aound :goodvibes

[black562]

Amen, Joe! I purposely took the last year to be completely single.. no dating.. nothing.. nada... and I'm finding I kinda prefer the single life right now... and that doesn't mean bouncing around and juggling men.. that means really appreciating my time wtih my family, my friends.. and most importantly MYSELF.

I now know *if* I ever become attached to someone again, it will be for the right reasons.. not just to be with someone or in a desperate search to not be alone (like I was with my ex)

33 here, never married, no kids.... and I'm a chick. Beat THAT! lol! You boy scan have kids at the age of 60 if you wanted.

As for the OP... take your time! You're 20. I'm not even remotely the same person I was at 20 and I definitely do not have the same taste in men. Don't worry about finding "mr forever"... in fact, at your age? avoid it :rotfl:

Thanks Cin...but it is true.

You have to be happy with yourself first, THEN you're in a good position to find someone else. You can't rely on someone else to provide your happiness, I made that mistake a time or two.

[lovemickeyshouse]

Well, I guess it is good to read I am not the only single person in the world.Im 37, single,no kids...oh and I can't get a permanent teaching job either,so old car,still renting,bla bla bla. I have recently woken up and realized that I have let my life pass me by. I am my own worst enemy. What bothers me most, is how much it bothers everyone else. My biggest problem is I care too much about what other people think. I want to crawl under a rock sometimes. Hmm, guess that's why I'm single...I AM living under a rock.:sad2: Nonetheless, I am relatively healthy, able to walk upright, have a couple jobs while many people can't get any job at all. I have friends I care about. I have been to WDW 5 times. Things could be worse.

Ur life has not past you by its not too late to change things take charge now and make goals you will go far trust me .

[jagfanjosh3252]

I know how you feel. I'm only a couple of years older than you (22), and I hate being single also. But as everybody says, you gotta keep trucking. Your are beautiful, and have a great son, both of you are healthy, and have a roof over your heads. As my friend says "You shouldn't define yourself by a relationship."
The guy who left you, and every other guy also, is going to realize what a great girl they had in you. Then they are going to be kicking themselves silly for letting you go. So keep your chin up, and keep trucking. :thumbsup2

[ChevyNat]

I've been single for 2 years now... Ex, walked out on me and the 2 kids, said that he wanted to live is life to the fullest without responsabilities... well, he still has to pay, but I have the kids full time. ha!
So 40, single, 2 kids.... that's pretty much it for me. ha!ha! ha!

[Floydian]

I've been single for 2 years now... Ex, walked out on me and the 2 kids, said that he wanted to live is life to the fullest without responsabilities... well, he still has to pay, but I have the kids full time. ha!
So 40, single, 2 kids.... that's pretty much it for me. ha!ha! ha!

Just goes to show how different people can be. I've been single with no responsibilities for about 5 years now, and feel like my life isn't even close to as full as it had been when I was married with two kids. :confused3

[ChevyNat]

I love my responsabilities ha! ha!
And yes my life is full... actually maxed out ha! but I would not have any other way :)

[Natalie_89]

its tough, we got back together last week then 2 days ago out the blue he did it again to me ..it my fault for goin back i no for future now instead of gettin hurt once i got hurt twice :sad1:

[black562]

its tough, we got back together last week then 2 days ago out the blue he did it again to me ..it my fault for goin back i no for future now instead of gettin hurt once i got hurt twice :sad1:

I hate to hear that and I'm very sorry. Hang in there girl...and ya know, one of these days he'll look back and kick himself for ever letting you go, but then it will be too late. You'll find someone better...someone who realizes what he has and hangs on to you!!!

Sending some hugs your way!!!

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

[Natalie_89]

I hate to hear that and I'm very sorry. Hang in there girl...and ya know, one of these days he'll look back and kick himself for ever letting you go, but then it will be too late. You'll find someone better...someone who realizes what he has and hangs on to you!!!

Sending some hugs your way!!!

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

thank you ... i no this is true and i will find someone else its just hard when its fresh i guess ... i no now not to go back i cant do it :guilty: xx

[jagfanjosh3252]

*cracks knuckles*

Want me to take care of him for ya?

[Natalie_89]

*cracks knuckles*

Want me to take care of him for ya?

haha .. make him disappear for a week or so so i dont have to see him lol :wizard:

its hard *** we have the same group of friends so we kinda have to see each other

[palmtreelover08]

Coming from a single NJ mom of a 5 year old princess...

1. Yes, you are hurting now..so take some deep breaths.
2. Like many of the PP's said.. you are young, have your child and your health.. these are things to celebrate.
3. Just keep humming.. "Some day my prince will come" from Snow White..you just never know when you'll meet that special someone. but most importantly..
4. Enjoy the time you have with your son. These are amazing times in your sons life...don't let the fact that you don't have your own special partner right now keep you down too long and don't let being a single parent stop you from doing anything you want to do with your child.
5. One last thing.. when your child looks at you and smile..just remember, you are doing something right...he is not only smiling with his face, but with his heart..

Hang in there..:grouphug:

[black562]

I've often noticed that the things that ex boyfriends/girlfriends hate more than anything is to see you out, enjoying yourself and having a good time. In other words, they hate to see you move on. I also believe in karma and that good things happen to good people and vice-versa. You take care of yourself and live life to its fullest, and he'll regret the decisions he's made and pay for those decisions eventually. You sound like a great person and deserve better.

Some hugs for you!!! :hug::hug::hug:

[Natalie_89]

i love you guys all on here and ur kind words xx

[ChevyNat]

Yes, it's hard when they leave us... but I gave myself 100% to my kids and enjoy every minute with them... They are growing up loved, healthy and surrounded by my family. And every single one of my ex's family is stunned to see me move on and enjoy myself on my trips with my kids and being happy without him and continuing my life... I think like Joe said it... it's worse for them ha! ha! Loving it!

[disney.freak]

well babe, you'v finally met your Disney Prince. and here i am :)

i love you babe, cant wait till Jan :) xxxxxxxx <3

[Mahorn]

Natalie I just wanted to say that i empathize with you. Its not easy being a single parent even when you have help from family and friends. I like so many others had my ex husband walk out on me with three kids. Its not easy and I have my ups and downs, but its okay and I am trying to enjoy my "freedom' when I have it. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on you can pm me.


Chin up things will get better.

[DisneydaveCT]

Natalie, I know the pain and confusion you were feeling a few months ago. Just a few months after I proposed to my last :love:, she changed her mind an called off our engagement. While disappointing, I know that in time I will find a new princess: to :flower3:. When and where, only time will tell. But if I accept my DB-I-L's advice, I should hold out for a fellow DVC member, who may or may not golf. He shared this advice with me while we were golfing at HHI this past week. I think I will see what Disney Princess comes my way and take it from there.

[GrimGrinningVal]

This is why I love the disboards.... everyone comes together with support and love. Even those not directly involved with this thread can come away feeling better by reading other's advice / stories and take it to heart in their own life. Thanks everyone!:grouphug:

[ttester9612]

I believe I have you all beat. I'm 53, was married at 21, divorced at 29, then remarried at 36, became a widow at 43, and been single ever since. I do have 1 son who is 25. It took some adjusting to being a single parent to a teenage son. But I did it and now I'm totally content with my life. Sure I won't mind meeting someone again, but to tell you the truth, I haven't really been looking.

Natalie enjoy the time you have with you son. Before you know it he will be grown and out of the house. Your still young, don't rush into any relationship. Have some alone time and find out want you want to do.

[StitchesGr8Fan]

Try being 32 and single your in great shape sweetie.

Not helping! I just turned 29 and am freaking out about still being single!

[champ5601]

No worries, you are still young, you have your whole life ahead. I've had my fair share of break-ups. Just enjoy every day and that someone will show up one day, probably sooner than later. :goodvibes

[momsoftwins]

Well I am a divorced mom of 2. 34 yrs old n I will tell ya being alone is a hard thing. But my girls r my life. But it would also be nice to have someone to share an adult conversation with. I know I have to be patient n things will happen as they should but what a bonus if he was a disney freak too!!

[MICKEY88]

I believe I have you all beat. I'm 53, was married at 21, divorced at 29, then remarried at 36, became a widow at 43, and been single ever since. I do have 1 son who is 25. It took some adjusting to being a single parent to a teenage son. But I did it and now I'm totally content with my life. Sure I won't mind meeting someone again, but to tell you the truth, I haven't really been looking.

Natalie enjoy the time you have with you son. Before you know it he will be grown and out of the house. Your still young, don't rush into any relationship. Have some alone time and find out want you want to do.

Darn,, I was about to post that I had everyone beat until I saw your post.

I'm 51,, married at 23 , divorced at 35, remarried at 40, divorce will be final any day now. at 51
December 5th I met an incredible woman, we dated several times a week for 3 weeks..everyone who saw us together commented on how happy we looked together and what a great looking couple we were, she kept telling me how happy she was, I smiled and laughed more in 3 weeks than I had in the past 11 years..and I was happier than I've ever been,

New Years Eve she told me it was over..??? :eek::eek::confused3:confused3

I leave Wednesday Morning for WDW, staying in Orlando 'till the 22nd, I sure hope Disney can lift my spirits..

to the OP, your pain is fresh, as others have stated, keep your chin up, enjoy your son, when the time is right a good man, who appreciates all you have to offer, will come into your life

[ttester9612]

Darn,, I was about to post that I had everyone beat until I saw your post.

I'm 51,, married at 23 , divorced at 35, remarried at 40, divorce will be final any day now. at 51
December 5th I met an incredible woman, we dated several times a week for 3 weeks..everyone who saw us together commented on how happy we looked together and what a great looking couple we were, she kept telling me how happy she was, I smiled and laughed more in 3 weeks than I had in the past 11 years..and I was happier than I've ever been,

New Years Eve she told me it was over..??? :eek::eek::confused3:confused3

I leave Wednesday Morning for WDW, staying in Orlando 'till the 22nd, I sure hope Disney can lift my spirits..

to the OP, your pain is fresh, as others have stated, keep your chin up, enjoy your son, when the time is right a good man, who appreciates all you have to offer, will come into your life

OMG...sorry to hear that you were dump. Did she even tell you why?
Enjoy Disney and I hope it does lift your spirits. I'll be leaving on Friday for a cruise to the Caribbean's which I can't wait to get out of this cold weather.

[Oz-kateer]

I know the feeling - I got dumped first thing in the morning on new years day! But this was years ago, am over it now...

I've been single for 6 years and actually like it. I have a good job, my own house by the beach in a great city, a lovely son, nice friends, supportive family, and can come and go as I please with no hassle. :goodvibes

[MICKEY88]

OMG...sorry to hear that you were dump. Did she even tell you why?
Enjoy Disney and I hope it does lift your spirits. I'll be leaving on Friday for a cruise to the Caribbean's which I can't wait to get out of this cold weather.

it was crazy, she's a 45 year old Thai woman, so we did have some communication issues, last wednesday she texted me, told me she was off work and had an appointment to get her hair done, I texted back and said Ok talk to ya later/..

she then called from the salon and said she was in the chair and her friend was doing her hair as we spoke,

I told her I didin't understand what they could possibly do to make her any more beautiful than she already is.

she told her friend, who then asked if I was her boyfriend, she said we had been dating for 3 weeks, her friend then said who is he to tell you that you shouldn't be doing something for yourself, he is obviously a control freak, you should run from him now before it gets worse..:eek::eek:

I tried explaining that I never said she shouldn't be doing it, and pointed out that I didn't text or call to stop her when she told me where she was going, and that had she not called we never even would have had the conversation, plus repeatedly told her that her friend was way wrong,

.. she chose to believe her friend rather than a guy she only knew for 3 weeks , even though all her other friends and coworkers, have been asking her for 3 weeks, why she seems so much happier and is looking so alive and younger etc etc... she had even told me how happy she was and how glad she was that we met...

:sad2::sad2:

[ttester9612]

Mickey88...I assume the friend doesn't even know you. Hopefully she will come to her senses and realized it was all a misunderstanding.

[MICKEY88]

Mickey88...I assume the friend doesn't even know you. Hopefully she will come to her senses and realized it was all a misunderstanding.

the friend has no clue who I am,

I'm hoping that somewhere in the midst of my trip My phone will ring and it will be her

[Kabuli1]

I'm sorry for the pain several of you have experienced recently. So are any of you 50ish single folks going to be down there 1/23-30 cause I'm about to be suddenly single again and it's going to be tough after dating 1 1/2 years. I'll know more how I really feel after this all goes down this weekend. He has been so special to me, but he just can't move past his love for his deceased wife and I always come in a distant second. Yes, it is going to hurt. It would be nice to raise a glass w/ all of you "Here's to finding our best friend" BTW, DisneyDave in CT, I am a DVCer but I don't golf!

Karyn

[MICKEY88]

I'm sorry for the pain several of you have experienced recently. So are any of you 50ish single folks going to be down there 1/23-30 cause I'm about to be suddenly single again and it's going to be tough after dating 1 1/2 years. I'll know more how I really feel after this all goes down this weekend. He has been so special to me, but he just can't move past his love for his deceased wife and I always come in a distant second. Yes, it is going to hurt. It would be nice to raise a glass w/ all of you "Here's to finding our best friend" BTW, DisneyDave in CT, I am a DVCer but I don't golf!

Karyn

unfortunately I leave the 23rd for home, I would have loved to raise a glass with you

[Kabuli1]

What time are you Leaving Mickey88? I get in around noon. Aww, heck, just stay an extra day!

[MICKEY88]

What time are you Leaving Mickey88? I get in around noon. Aww, heck, just stay an extra day!\

I leave early in the morning..
I really wish I could stay longer, last year I came to orlando for 2 weeks and stretched it to 3, I got in a bit of trouble at work for that one..

I just can't do it this time because work will be getting busy starting next week