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mbo516
03-16-2009, 09:41 PM
Okay here's some background lol. I've been on 6 disney cruises now. Number 7 is a 7 day booked for this july. Anyway I turned 18 before my 6th cruise last year. All of my family is over 18 that came, there was no problem with anyone being left out of anything. But anyway heres where my actual question comes in. Now my girlfriend is coming and possibly a younger cousin, they are both teens not over 18 however. I don't know what to do cause I cant leave my girlfriend to do adult stuff. Does anyone have any precedents possibly of them being merciful and letting your younger guests come in with you? Now let me tell you I and my cousin of the same age do not look 18 one bit and we got carded so many times in every adult section, so trust me I know this is a long shot, but I'm just wondering if anyone has any stories of something relating to this. Also, could swear I had an account on this website back in the VMK days, I don't know- couldn't remember the login. Thanks anyone with info, hope I put enough info to explain this lol.

mmouse37
03-16-2009, 09:47 PM
Okay here's some background lol. I've been on 6 disney cruises now. Number 7 is a 7 day booked for this july. Anyway I turned 18 before my 6th cruise last year. All of my family is over 18 that came, there was no problem with anyone being left out of anything. But anyway heres where my actual question comes in. Now my girlfriend is coming and possibly a younger cousin, they are both teens not over 18 however. I don't know what to do cause I cant leave my girlfriend to do adult stuff. Does anyone have any precedents possibly of them being merciful and letting your younger guests come in with you? Now let me tell you I and my cousin of the same age do not look 18 one bit and we got carded so many times in every adult section, so trust me I know this is a long shot, but I'm just wondering if anyone has any stories of something relating to this. Also, could swear I had an account on this website back in the VMK days, I don't know- couldn't remember the login. Thanks anyone with info, hope I put enough info to explain this lol.

How old are they...they don't have to be over 18, but they do have to be at least 18 and not younger to visit the adult area of the ship.

If anyone is younger than 18 THEY WILL BE CARDED AND ASKED TO LEAVE whatever adult area they are in. Sorry but that is the way it is. They won't be able to go to the adult pool or the clubs, or the spa or Palo. Your date of birth is encrypted in the card so it is easy for them to tell who belongs and who doesn't.

If you want to spend time with them you would have to hang out with them in non-adult areas.

I know it is not what you wanted to hear but that is the way it is, especially if you all look young. DCL has a responsibility to keep the adult areas adult and they will approach anyone who they don't think belongs in an area.

MJ

mbo516
03-16-2009, 09:49 PM
Mmm yea I figured as much I know the rules I was just wondering if anyone has ever found a way to use a sob story to get them in so I had some hope

lbgraves
03-16-2009, 09:53 PM
Sorry, but I for one am grateful that DCL does not bow to "sob stories" so that we can enjoy adult evenings without kids there. You know the situation before cruising so you have plenty of time to make plans for the cruise.

mmouse37
03-16-2009, 09:53 PM
Mmm yea I figured as much I know the rules I was just wondering if anyone has ever found a way to use a sob story to get them in so I had some hope

They definitely won't listen to a sob story. You have to realize any CM that lets a minor in an adult area is apt to lose his or her job.

I am sure there are teens who got away with but I am sure they looked a lot older.

MJ

BibbidyBobbidyBoo
03-16-2009, 09:55 PM
I have to agree. If they gave into sob stories (she's my girlfriend, she's my daughter and we're travelling alone together, etc.) then there would probably be a LOT of underage/nonadults in the adult areas. So they need to be strict about this in order to be fair to others.

mbo516
03-16-2009, 09:58 PM
yea its just like i dont know if you just understand where im coming from with this its tough cause my cousin comes with my family and hes 18 so i cant really leave him or her you know. this is the flaw in their separation

Khazid
03-16-2009, 09:58 PM
I had a feeling MJ would come to the rescue with this one, I swear, if anyone knows anything DCL it's her!

Back to the OP....I feel your pain, but there are those of us that enjoy the time away from the "kidlets".

Luckily, there are still a ton of things to do on the ship that you could all enjoy together. Take the advice given to plan ahead and really look at the activities that you can all do that are within the areas you all have access too, but still have the feeling of being in the "adult" world.

Trust me...10 years from now, you'll be KILLING yourself to be a kid and hang out doing kid things...wait...I'm in my late 30's and still haven't grown out of it. Heck, Disney is still a passion of my DW and I...I'm Peter Pan dangit!!!

sorry...PTI, just enjoy yourself and don't stress out about the adult areas :):dance3:

mbo516
03-16-2009, 10:03 PM
yea to be honest im deff going to at least give it a shot at sneaking her in lol..were not obnoxious people or anything i mean i think me and my cousin with the college people invading every adult thing were 100x more obnoxious than ill be this year with her there..so hey ill give it a shot..theyre just gonna say no or catch us and thatll be it lol..its just hard cause the only thing that includes us all is family stuff = childish..eh well make our own entertainment i suppose..honestly i could care less about adult stuff i just feel bad dragging my cousin down

mmouse37
03-16-2009, 10:10 PM
I had a feeling MJ would come to the rescue with this one, I swear, if anyone knows anything DCL it's her!

Back to the OP....I feel your pain, but there are those of us that enjoy the time away from the "kidlets".

Luckily, there are still a ton of things to do on the ship that you could all enjoy together. Take the advice given to plan ahead and really look at the activities that you can all do that are within the areas you all have access too, but still have the feeling of being in the "adult" world.

Trust me...10 years from now, you'll be KILLING yourself to be a kid and hang out doing kid things...wait...I'm in my late 30's and still haven't grown out of it. Heck, Disney is still a passion of my DW and I...I'm Peter Pan dangit!!!

sorry...PTI, just enjoy yourself and don't stress out about the adult areas :):dance3:

Thanks...that was very kind!!!

MJ

BibbidyBobbidyBoo
03-16-2009, 10:14 PM
yea its just like i dont know if you just understand where im coming from with this its tough cause my cousin comes with my family and hes 18 so i cant really leave him or her you know. this is the flaw in their separation
Huh?
is your cousin 18 or "younger" like you mentioned in your first post? If he's 18- why would you have to leave him or her?
*so confused*
Okay well if you're going to do whatever you want to do- then I guess there was really no point in asking this question/thread was there?

From your reaction to the answer you received it sounds like you want to do the adult things- and you want them to also even though they aren't 18/adults. You're not open to doing things THEY can do -along with them- you just want them to be in the adult area even though they aren't adults- and you're going to sneak them in or try to anyway. So why ask? LOL

lbgraves
03-16-2009, 10:14 PM
yea its just like i dont know if you just understand where im coming from with this its tough cause my cousin comes with my family and hes 18 so i cant really leave him or her you know. this is the flaw in their separation

yea to be honest im deff going to at least give it a shot at sneaking her in lol..were not obnoxious people or anything i mean i think me and my cousin with the college people invading every adult thing were 100x more obnoxious than ill be this year with her there..so hey ill give it a shot..theyre just gonna say no or catch us and thatll be it lol..its just hard cause the only thing that includes us all is family stuff = childish..eh well make our own entertainment i suppose..honestly i could care less about adult stuff i just feel bad dragging my cousin down

We were all under 18 once and we do understand what you are saying but the rules are there for a reason. DCL does not have a "flaw" in their rules of how they seperate the ages in the adult activities. There is alcohol being served and honestly the comedy acts that perform at night in the clubs are NOT intended for kids. If everyone who has someone 17 with their family/traveling party was able to bring them into the club it just wouldn't be the same. If you look underage expect other guests to point you out to the CMs to card. Your GF and Cousin know what the deal is. If your family wants to ditch them and go to the clubs without them, that is your family's decision, not DCL's. If they don't want to go by the rules and are not going to be happy if they do...then they should not go on the cruise while they are not 18. Is it worth it to you to not be permitted to enter the adult clubs at night along with the underaged kids after being caught "sneaking" them in one night?

TiaMaria
03-16-2009, 10:15 PM
yea to be honest im deff going to at least give it a shot at sneaking her in lol..were not obnoxious people or anything i mean i think me and my cousin with the college people invading every adult thing were 100x more obnoxious than ill be this year with her there..so hey ill give it a shot..theyre just gonna say no or catch us and thatll be it lol..its just hard cause the only thing that includes us all is family stuff = childish..eh well make our own entertainment i suppose..honestly i could care less about adult stuff i just feel bad dragging my cousin down


Not a good idea, kiddo. It's not cute and it's not clever. And I have to add, that I, for one, would rat out anyone that I suspected that I saw trying to pull this stuff - and I guarantee you I'm not the only one.

Those are the rules - deal with them, or perhaps try Carnival or another cruiseline that might fit your needs.

Being a grown up is about way more than your age. Sorry.

mbo516
03-16-2009, 10:21 PM
We were all under 18 once and we do understand what you are saying but the rules are there for a reason. If everyone who has someone 17 with their family/traveling party was able to bring them into the club it just wouldn't be the same. If you look underage expect other guests to point you out to the CMs to card. Your GF and Cousin know what the deal is. If your family wants to ditch them and go to the clubs without them, that is your family's decision, not DCL's. If they don't want to go by the rules and are not going to be happy if they do...then they should not go on the cruise while they are not 18. Is it worth it to you to not be permitted to enter the adult clubs at night along with the underaged kids after being caught "sneaking" them in one night?

I know we got pointed out a lot last year because we go out of our way to participate in everything. It actually got annoying because nobody believed we were 18, I doubt a year has changed anything. The thing is I dont care to do adult stuff without her so it doesnt matter if they see it they see it..fun over..but its just like an awkward situation..i know what you mean everyone would do it..but this is the one situation where its especially hard..more so than a younger family member..you just say hey go meet people in the teen section or whatever..im not going to say that to her obviously..im sure well find stuff to do i just dont know exactly after about 10 30 what well do with ourselves i dont want anyone getting bored or upset with me..because shes never been on one she doesnt know shes dragging my cousin down and i didnt want to inform her or she wouldnt want to go

mbo516
03-16-2009, 10:25 PM
Not a good idea, kiddo. It's not cute and it's not clever. And I have to add, that I, for one, would rat out anyone that I suspected that I saw trying to pull this stuff - and I guarantee you I'm not the only one.

Those are the rules - deal with them, or perhaps try Carnival or another cruiseline that might fit your needs.

Being a grown up is about way more than your age. Sorry.

relax, but honestly its a cruise, have fun..if someones bothering you and you think theyre underage then say something..but if youre going out of your way then its a bit obsessive. but if you understand what im trying to say here i dont know..im almost 19..i dont consider myself an adult in any way but unfortunately i am and it does create this problem

lbgraves
03-16-2009, 10:28 PM
I know we got pointed out a lot last year because we go out of our way to participate in everything. It actually got annoying because nobody believed we were 18, I doubt a year has changed anything. The thing is I dont care to do adult stuff without her so it doesnt matter if they see it they see it..fun over..but its just like an awkward situation..i know what you mean everyone would do it..but this is the one situation where its especially hard..more so than a younger family member..you just say hey go meet people in the teen section or whatever..im not going to say that to her obviously..im sure well find stuff to do i just dont know exactly after about 10 30 what well do with ourselves i dont want anyone getting bored or upset with me..because shes never been on one she doesnt know shes dragging my cousin down and i didnt want to inform her or she wouldnt want to go

You say she is your girlfriend? How about communicating. She isn't going to be stupid and not be able to figure out what is going on after the first couple nights. Maybe it isn't a good thing that she goes this time. The world won't come to an end because you don't see each other for 7 days. You are not being fair to her and it is costing someone A LOT of money for her fare along with your cousin who you already say you are going "to be bringing him down" if you don't go to the adult clubs at night. You know that there are movies and family activities after dinners are over. If that isn't going to be "fun" for you then you owe it to her to tell her the truth.

mbo516
03-16-2009, 10:32 PM
I must say that was the most sensible and fair thing said. But I honestly wouldnt be too into the whole meeting college kids thing this year like i was last year..so its better being potentially bored with her there i suppose..well see what happens..maybe get her a fake id? i can pass as a teen? kidding..but well see

TiaMaria
03-16-2009, 10:33 PM
relax, but honestly its a cruise, have fun..if someones bothering you and you think theyre underage then say something..but if youre going out of your way then its a bit obsessive. but if you understand what im trying to say here i dont know..im almost 19..i dont consider myself an adult in any way but unfortunately i am and it does create this problem

I get what you're saying, but what's next - you just try to buy alcoholic beverages for all of you to see if you can get away with it?

I'm no Puritan, I was quite the rowdy teen not that long ago, but in situations like this (cruising on DCL especially), stuff like this is what annoys all real grown ups.

Repeating - another cruise line such as Carnival may be more befitting to your needs at this time in your lives - until you all get on the same age level at least.

mbo516
03-16-2009, 10:35 PM
ah come on though not looking to fight but alcohol and watching a show is completely different..i dont drink thats not what this is about..its just about im in a tough spot with this..as for carnival..no thanks..id rather stay home..

BibbidyBobbidyBoo
03-16-2009, 10:37 PM
I know we got pointed out a lot last year because we go out of our way to participate in everything. It actually got annoying because nobody believed we were 18, I doubt a year has changed anything. The thing is I dont care to do adult stuff without her so it doesnt matter if they see it they see it..fun over..but its just like an awkward situation..i know what you mean everyone would do it..but this is the one situation where its especially hard..more so than a younger family member..you just say hey go meet people in the teen section or whatever..im not going to say that to her obviously..im sure well find stuff to do i just dont know exactly after about 10 30 what well do with ourselves i dont want anyone getting bored or upset with me..because shes never been on one she doesnt know shes dragging my cousin down and i didnt want to inform her or she wouldnt want to go
Well, the problem is that you're an adult dating someone that's not an adult. I'm not saying that's a problem persay- I'm saying in THIS situation that's the problem... so yeah, you need to do what your girlfriend can do for her age. and if you have other family members that are adults too and expect you to be with them- you need to say hey, my girlfriend isn't an adult and I don't want to leave her alone. That's what happens when you're dating someone younger than yourself? :confused3

I must say that was the most sensible and fair thing said. But I honestly wouldnt be too into the whole meeting college kids thing this year like i was last year..so its better being potentially bored with her there i suppose..well see what happens..maybe get her a fake id? i can pass as a teen? kidding..but well see
LOL Well if you look as young as you say- you're probably more likely to get away with passing as a teen than her passing as an adult- and probably less likely to get "turned in" some teen guessing that you're older- than an adult guessing you're a teen and turning you in. However, as a parent of a teen I wouldn't be so happy about adults being in the stack. HOWEVER... it's actually that way now anyway! If someone is over 18 and still in highschool and/or graduated but hasn't started college yet- they can go in the stack. So potentially there could already be some "almost" 19yr olds in there- against my wishes (LOL) so you'll probably be able to pull that off. *sigh*

I understand that's a tough age. I know when my daughter is 18 and in college she won't be able to go to the stack- so she'll probably want to see the adult shows/etc. at that time. HOwever, if she's dating someone under 18- she can't try to get the younger person to tag along just so she can still do the adult things. She'd have to make a choice- either go without the person she's dating (or underage relative, friend, etc.) or NOT go and do things that the younger friend/relative/etc. can do.

Just curious- are you in highschool this year? And you're going in July? If you are in highschool this year and have not started college before the cruise (which I assume you won't have in the summer months) then you ARE eligible to go in the teen stack with her. You can go to adult things with couson who is 18, and teen stack things with girlfriend- from what I've been reading about the age rules. (since if you're 18 and haven't gone to college yet you can still go in the stack)

lbgraves
03-16-2009, 10:39 PM
Please don't even go there and it won't be possible on the ship. They go by a birth certificate to encode the KTTW card. No chance to switch cards with someone else either because now they are taking your picture after you check in that is linked to your card being swiped and brings up your profile with the picture.

Long shot but are you still in high school and not yet in college? It may be an option for you to join her in the stack group. The other option for you is to sign up both of you up on your cruise meet thread and find other kids your ages before the cruise. [I say kids because at that age you still are...enjoy it while you can seriously!] You may find you can form your own small group and make plans away from the adult areas on your own. Everyone says that their kids 18-21 can't find much to do. They should be willing to get you in touch with the kids in that age group for the cruise to hopefully eliminate that problem.

TiaMaria
03-16-2009, 10:40 PM
ah come on though not looking to fight but alcohol and watching a show is completely different..i dont drink thats not what this is about..its just about im in a tough spot with this..as for carnival..no thanks..id rather stay home..

No fights. As Lisa said above, there are movies and other "family" type activities after dinner. You just need to resign yourself to this or resign youself to separate in the evening (which doesn't sound fun for either you or your girl) You just wouldn't all be able to do the comedy shows and adult clubs together. Sucks, but just think logically - this is the last year you'll have to worry about this, right?

Khazid
03-16-2009, 10:42 PM
I don't think anyone is looking to fight, but the mention of a fake ID and sneaking people into areas that according to Cruiseline Rules are offlimits is definitely a moral judgement that some (including me) would frown upon.

I would agree with Tia, perhaps DCL isn't the right "match" for you and your cruise mates right now.

mbo516
03-16-2009, 10:43 PM
well yes depending on the timing of the cruise next year..well figure something out..im sure well have fun somehow..i hope

AlexandNessa
03-16-2009, 11:34 PM
Once upon a time, I was platinum elite (or whatever it was called) on Continental. I was entitled to an upgrade to first class, based on availability. Traveling alone, I got that first class upgrade and enjoyed the heck out of it. When I traveled with BF, I sucked it up and traveled coach because I wasn't about to leave him in coach while I enjoyed first class. It's called a relationship. If she is your girlfriend, talk to her. Decide what's going to happen before the cruise. This way, there is no disappointment.

It sounds to me like you want to do things in the adult areas of the ship. Trust the DISers when they say you will not be able to enjoy the adult areas with your girlfriend if she is under 18. Plan ahead. Good luck.

mrsklamc
03-17-2009, 05:01 AM
In the words of Paul Reiser (you probably don't know who that is but that's ok)

Nevergonnahappenmyfriend....

A 17 year old in an adult area would be a huge liability, and if there's one thing Disney's going to be good at, it's protecting themselves from liability.

Better to have a chat with cousin and GF now and figure out another plan, because I guarantee that Plan A (fool someone about her age when you have to give them a certified copy of her birth certificate) will never work.

BethC1952
03-17-2009, 07:36 AM
yea to be honest im deff going to at least give it a shot at sneaking her in lol..were not obnoxious people or anything i mean i think me and my cousin with the college people invading every adult thing were 100x more obnoxious than ill be this year with her there..so hey ill give it a shot..theyre just gonna say no or catch us and thatll be it lol..its just hard cause the only thing that includes us all is family stuff = childish..eh well make our own entertainment i suppose..honestly i could care less about adult stuff i just feel bad dragging my cousin down

Not a good idea, kiddo. It's not cute and it's not clever. And I have to add, that I, for one, would rat out anyone that I suspected that I saw trying to pull this stuff - and I guarantee you I'm not the only one.
You're right--I would point it out to a CM the minute I saw it.

I pay a LOT of money to cruise on Disney without kids because I like the idea that there's an area where "adults only" is strictly enforced. I don't dislike young people, but when I'm on an adult vacation, that's what I expect. I know there are lots of kids on the ship, and I know that I can get away from them at any time.

OP, your attitude shows your lack of maturity, your lack of respect for rules, and you're setting a bad example for those younger than you are.

Beth

SplashMountainManiac
03-17-2009, 08:10 AM
I really have to say something. I have been on the boards for a long time and I have never seen you all acting like this. This is a very difficult situation, I have been in it myself before. I'm 19 by the way. I don't see any advice being offered. I see everyone berating this person for asking a question, and trying to find a way to spend time with everyone. It seems to me that every time a question is asked everyone is exploding into an adults only rant. Yes, the enforcement of the adults only areas is important. Yes, a 17 year old will not be let in. But how about offering some advice such as, studio sea has some really fun family events you could do. Or, there are movies in the theatre that run late. Please stop defending the territory and start helping. I really think better of you all than what I have been seeing. Also, to all of you pointing out the people you think are under 18, please let the staff handle this. My friends and I are carded frequently enough without the passengers helping out, we just want to enjoy the areas we are allowed to and not constantly be bothered. Thank you all for listening and I hope I don't come across to strongly. Just had to say something.

mrsklamc
03-17-2009, 08:23 AM
I really have to say something. I have been on the boards for a long time and I have never seen you all acting like this. This is a very difficult situation, I have been in it myself before. I'm 19 by the way. I don't see any advice being offered. I see everyone berating this person for asking a question, and trying to find a way to spend time with everyone. It seems to me that every time a question is asked everyone is exploding into an adults only rant. Yes, the enforcement of the adults only areas is important. Yes, a 17 year old will not be let in. But how about offering some advice such as, studio sea has some really fun family events you could do. Or, there are movies in the theatre that run late. Please stop defending the territory and start helping. I really think better of you all than what I have been seeing. Also, to all of you pointing out the people you think are under 18, please let the staff handle this. My friends and I are carded frequently enough without the passengers helping out, we just want to enjoy the areas we are allowed to and not constantly be bothered. Thank you all for listening and I hope I don't come across to strongly. Just had to say something.

I suggest you re-read the thread.

In reality, several people did offer other options, and the OP announced that they were going to attempt to break the rules. No one got hostile until then.

This isn't a new situation to Disney, and I'm sure they will handle it.

Additionally, trying to get a fake ID would endanger GF's health- no medical release form, insurance problems, etc. Just don't do it. Time to have a mature talk with GF and cousin.

lbgraves
03-17-2009, 08:30 AM
I really have to say something. I have been on the boards for a long time and I have never seen you all acting like this. This is a very difficult situation, I have been in it myself before. I'm 19 by the way. I don't see any advice being offered. I see everyone berating this person for asking a question, and trying to find a way to spend time with everyone. It seems to me that every time a question is asked everyone is exploding into an adults only rant. Yes, the enforcement of the adults only areas is important. Yes, a 17 year old will not be let in. But how about offering some advice such as, studio sea has some really fun family events you could do. Or, there are movies in the theatre that run late. Please stop defending the territory and start helping. I really think better of you all than what I have been seeing. Also, to all of you pointing out the people you think are under 18, please let the staff handle this. My friends and I are carded frequently enough without the passengers helping out, we just want to enjoy the areas we are allowed to and not constantly be bothered. Thank you all for listening and I hope I don't come across to strongly. Just had to say something.


Have you read all of the posts? Movies and family events that are offered were suggested a couple times. This is going to be a topic that does get some strong opinions. The DIS boards is not a place to talk about how to get around the rules and the posts here have defintely not come close to the level of even considering closing the thread that some topics tend to attract.

If someone sees a person they think is under 18 in an area they are not going to not alert a CM to it. The CMs work in the same areas and will recognize you if they have already carded you. Being carded is something that you will need to just deal with, expecially considering that the drinking age is 21. You still have a couple years to go before that is an issue. I was carded in the grocery store when buying beer for DH until I had two kids with me in my 30s. At some point you take it as a compliment.

Narnian_Princess
03-17-2009, 08:35 AM
I haven't seen anybody "berating" anyone here. Of course, I spend time on the Community Board, so perhaps I'm immune to berating. :laughing:

I've been in similar situations, being 17 and hating the teen club and not being allowed into the adult areas. Find something to amuse yourself; breaking the rules isn't one of them. Go to the sports area and play basketball, lounge by the pool or go see a movie. One of my favorite things to do at night when the decks were quiet was stand at Deck 10 Forward and be absolutely blasted by the wind. Silly little fun things like that are way better than sneaking around.

Donald_Quackers
03-17-2009, 08:40 AM
I really have to say something. I have been on the boards for a long time and I have never seen you all acting like this. This is a very difficult situation, I have been in it myself before. I'm 19 by the way. I don't see any advice being offered. I see everyone berating this person for asking a question, and trying to find a way to spend time with everyone. It seems to me that every time a question is asked everyone is exploding into an adults only rant. Yes, the enforcement of the adults only areas is important. Yes, a 17 year old will not be let in. But how about offering some advice such as, studio sea has some really fun family events you could do. Or, there are movies in the theatre that run late. Please stop defending the territory and start helping. I really think better of you all than what I have been seeing. Also, to all of you pointing out the people you think are under 18, please let the staff handle this. My friends and I are carded frequently enough without the passengers helping out, we just want to enjoy the areas we are allowed to and not constantly be bothered. Thank you all for listening and I hope I don't come across to strongly. Just had to say something.

No offense, but I have been seeing advice in the posts. People suggesting that if the OP was still in High School, she could join her GF in the Stack for teen events, among other things. It's not all berating the OP (and even then I wouldn't go so far as to calling it 'berating').

Yeah, I agree the OP is trying to get away with breaking the rules, but if my one cruise with Disney is any indication, they go out of their way to make sure there are plenty of things to do for all age groups. You can take a look at the navigators to get an idea of what you can do together so you aren't bored.

You might also want to consider making up your own activities -- a hide and seek with clues around the ship that would help you find the other, a scavenger hunt -- looking for hidden mickey's?

Elphie&Me
03-17-2009, 08:55 AM
Oh kid, most of us here are not teens (Hell, most of us would kill to be thirty-something again. LOL) but we do remember and understand young love. You want adult activities but don't want to spend time apart. Welcome to being an adult in a relationship.

Work with all the idea's and suggestions for things to do together that everyone has given you. That's what being an adult in a relationship is all about. If you enjoy each others company first and foremost, then you will have fun at any number of activities being suggested. :teacher:

brianvdb
03-17-2009, 11:16 AM
Okay here's some background lol. I've been on 6 disney cruises now. Number 7 is a 7 day booked for this july. Anyway I turned 18 before my 6th cruise last year. All of my family is over 18 that came, there was no problem with anyone being left out of anything. But anyway heres where my actual question comes in. Now my girlfriend is coming and possibly a younger cousin, they are both teens not over 18 however. I don't know what to do cause I cant leave my girlfriend to do adult stuff. Does anyone have any precedents possibly of them being merciful and letting your younger guests come in with you? Now let me tell you I and my cousin of the same age do not look 18 one bit and we got carded so many times in every adult section, so trust me I know this is a long shot, but I'm just wondering if anyone has any stories of something relating to this. Also, could swear I had an account on this website back in the VMK days, I don't know- couldn't remember the login. Thanks anyone with info, hope I put enough info to explain this lol.

I agree, this is a tough situation. You've got a limited time to spend with your girlfriend and family on vacation, so pleading with CMs and potentially getting tossed out of the adult area probably isn't how you want to spend your time.

I would try and maximize the time you spend in the ports. The age seperation that you talk about is not an issue there. Get up early, go into port, and stay spend the whole day hanging out together. Maybe go on a few excursions?

On the ship, you'll want to look at the navigators and see what you all can do together. Maybe catch a couple movies, shoot some hoops, hang out at the family pool...

Look at it this way, you've probably enjoyed the last 6 cruises you've been on... you'll probably enjoy future cruises... on this one, you're just going to have to be a little creative to make sure everyone has a good time.

Lemoe
03-17-2009, 11:35 AM
Controversial but....

In 2007 I was 17 and on a Med cruise with my family who are all over 18.
I went in the adult pool and the bars to see comedians. I wasn't noisy, childish or "messing about" and I wasn't asked my age once.

Should I have been in there? Technically no, but it didn't hurt anyone else that I was there with my family. I'm not the kind of person who would go into the stack and mingle....especially when everyone else was about 14.

So, take what you will from that.

Lemoe

Elphie&Me
03-17-2009, 12:02 PM
:teacher: Controversial but....

In 2007 I was 17 and on a Med cruise with my family who are all over 18.
I went in the adult pool and the bars to see comedians. I wasn't noisy, childish or "messing about" and I wasn't asked my age once.

Should I have been in there? Technically no, but it didn't hurt anyone else that I was there with my family. I'm not the kind of person who would go into the stack and mingle....especially when everyone else was about 14.

So, take what you will from that.

Lemoe

So then the cast members only ask the immature 17 year olds to leave an adult only area? That is too gray a way to follow and enforce age restrictions on anything in life. We have rules for behavior in most countries on this planet that include age restrictions.

Bottom line is adults pay a great deal of money to cruise. Especially on DCL. And we do it with the promise of adult only areas. For all those under 21 years of age, you will get there. Clubs, bars, driving, voting, etc. Your time as an adult may last 60 to 70 years. Your teen years will go faster then you can possibly comprehend. :teacher:

andeeNjoel
03-17-2009, 12:08 PM
My DH and I just got back from 4 nights on the Wonder last week. We were high school (and college) sweethearts. We do not have children yet, but we attended many more 'family' activities than 'adult' activities and had a great time!

Some of the funniest moments were when parents and children were contestants on games together and were surprised by what the other had answered.

I bet you will all be so busy during the days at ports of call that you may be surprised at how little you may actually feel you are missing in the 'adult' areas.

So I agree with some of the others- look over some of the posted navigators and plan your special trip- together.

Have fun!:flower3:

fakereadhed
03-17-2009, 03:35 PM
If you've been around these boards long enough, you should know not to ask about whether you can try to bend any rules. There are no gray areas here on the DIS. Add sneaking your mature under-18 girlfriend into the adult areas to pool hopping, mug-reusing, and saving a pool chair or a hammock. ;)

Why do they bother asking? :confused3
:rotfl:

Mrsjvb
03-17-2009, 04:04 PM
yea to be honest im deff going to at least give it a shot at sneaking her in lol..were not obnoxious people or anything i mean i think me and my cousin with the college people invading every adult thing were 100x more obnoxious than ill be this year with her there..so hey ill give it a shot..theyre just gonna say no or catch us and thatll be it lol..its just hard cause the only thing that includes us all is family stuff = childish..eh well make our own entertainment i suppose..honestly i could care less about adult stuff i just feel bad dragging my cousin down


why do you feel the need to break the rules? you are no more special or more deserving than any body else, and frankly I am offended that you are coming on here admitting you intend to flaunt the rules and will actively try and break them.

this entitlement attitude that the younger generations seem to have is appalling. I hope you DO try and DO get caught and thus are subject to restriction on board. so what if you think it isn;t fair? I happen to not think it's fair that my quiet time could be interrupted by a bunch of kids who wanna break the stated rules.

there are PLENTY of things you and your cousin can do that are NOT in the adult only section.