Leaving significant others...

[jellipop]

I just had "the talk" with my boyfriend of 3 years about what's going to happen in late May when I leave. He's proposed that we split...I really don't like this idea. I'm heartbroken he doesnt have any hope of it working because it's long distance, he's the only person I have here in Philly (besides my family, which I'm desperate to get away from). I'm kinda torn...I want to do the college program more than anything though I've been through everything with Steve. I hate losing him...

Disney:confused3 Steve

::sighs::

[jedihunny]

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[Tink the Rock Star]

Like JediHunny said, it's doable. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years, and it's been long distance the entire time. For us, it started out Washington state to Nevada, now it's WA to Florida.

Both parties have to be willing to make the effort.

Phone calls, texting, and instant messaging are great ways to stay in touch. Plus, if he can afford it, he can come visit you! Disney World is the best place for dates!

Good luck.

[alindaloo]

Oh Jellipop...I am so sorry to hear that. It worries me how quickly he moved to ending things. Especially after 3 years. I wouldn't give up your disney experience for someone who is not even willing to try long distance. I think it shows a lack of appreciation for the wonderful girl that is "jellipop":) Best of luck with that. Sending many happy thoughts your way

[PrincessJordynx]

Well I think he's not strong enough if he already went to that decision..you still have months! My bf and I have been going out for 8 months now. A month after we were together he was taken into military custody in the middle of the night and was gone for 4 months. I never got to say goodbye, the first month or so I was only able to write, finally he got a computer so I saw him over the web cam..that was like 2 months in. We stayed together through all that after only being together a month. Now its my turn to leave him and we are both willing to make it work. thats the key. you have to trust eachother so much that you wont let anything happen. I wish you luck and hope things work out for you.

[stephanie1755]

I agree with everyone else, the long distance is doable. I also strongly feel that if you are ment to be letting go and seeing if you come back together in the future it will happen!!! Good luck and I hope you two can figure out a happy medium so you don't have to give something wonderful up in either situation!

[jellipop]

Hopefully we can work something out, I really do love him more than anything, he's the only one that keeps me sane here. I don't know what disney is going to hold for me....I do know that I have to go though.

My deceased granny kinda told me at a psychic reading thing (think John Edwards if you know who he is). My mom got our family tickets to a psychic medium and my grandma made it clear that I'm meant to go to Florida, by doing what I asked her to do prior to going to this event. I said "granny if you come through tonight I want you to yell at my mama that I can go to Florida." And she did!!! That was kinda creepy lol.

Ok, back to the convo. I'll try talking to him about the idea. I hope he'll warm up to the idea. He means everything to me.

[twinsfreak]

Sorry to hear about your situation...good luck with whatever you choose. I know I was supposed to go to Disney for spring but I ended up satying here for my girlfriend of two years. Then just a month ago she broke up with me and I found out she cheated on me :( But now im going to Disney for fall advantage and Im really looking forward to it!

[PrincessJordynx]

Sorry to hear about your situation...good luck with whatever you choose. I know I was supposed to go to Disney for spring but I ended up satying here for my girlfriend of two years. Then just a month ago she broke up with me and I found out she cheated on me :( But now im going to Disney for fall advantage and Im really looking forward to it!

what a biotch. good for you bud. glad you got another chance.

[twinsfreak]

what a biotch. good for you bud. glad you got another chance.
haha yeah thats what all my friends are telling me....and shes not happy that im leaving but thats too bad. I officially accepted today and im arriving may 27 :)

[Wiisa]

You only live once...that's how I look at it. I've been with my boyfriend on and off for 7 years. The OFF parts are the long distance parts. We didn't want to restrict ourselves or each other from moving on if it happened or having a good time. In the end, we always end up back together. Testing the relationship this way makes it stronger, anyway. It's better than forcing a LDR and then ending up doing something you or him regret. Not saying that WILL happen, but even those who love each other do this if they are put in certain situations.

[jellipop]

I think us splitting would probably be the best, if it's meant to be, we'll find our way back again. We always have. We dated when we were 14, met when we were like 8, started dating when I was 19...it's been a bumpy ride but we're still here for each other. Maybe I'll find someone better in Florida? If something happenss like that...I'll always love Steve though.

[twinsfreak]

I think us splitting would probably be the best, if it's meant to be, we'll find our way back again. We always have. We dated when we were 14, met when we were like 8, started dating when I was 19...it's been a bumpy ride but we're still here for each other. Maybe I'll find someone better in Florida? If something happenss like that...I'll always love Steve though.
Yeah I was thinking maybe i would find someone better in florida...if i can find a girl that wont cheat on me. Problem being, what happens when I have to leave? haha

[PrincessJordynx]

yall just need to go and have fun and not hold back. since yall are single, just let what happens happen. if you meet someone it may be just for 5 months or it may last you never know. life's too short.

[twinsfreak]

yall just need to go and have fun and not hold back. since yall are single, just let what happens happen. if you meet someone it may be just for 5 months or it may last you never know. life's too short.
Good point. haha im still trying to learn how to act single....its a little difficult for me since its only been a month

[Sorahana]

I think us splitting would probably be the best, if it's meant to be, we'll find our way back again.

This is some good advice to yourself to follow =). I totally believe if things are meant to be they WILL find a way.

[DisneyLover0526]

I'm so glad that I'm not the only one going through this! My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now...and we've had this discussion MILLIONS of times! What's also messed up about the situation is that not only am I trying to get into Disney...he's going into the Army! At first, we decided that it would probably be best to break up for that little bit of time, but he doesn't want to lose me if I find somebody to be with while I'm up in Orlando...and he's going to be missing me A LOT!!!...but if we stay together...I won't be able to talk to him while I'm doing the internship because he would be going through Basic Training...and we would have little to no contact during that time....which completely SUCKS!!! I really don't know what I'm going to do...I really do love him....but sadly either way...I'm losing him......

[twinsfreak]

I'm so glad that I'm not the only one going through this! My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now...and we've had this discussion MILLIONS of times! What's also messed up about the situation is that not only am I trying to get into Disney...he's going into the Army! At first, we decided that it would probably be best to break up for that little bit of time, but he doesn't want to lose me if I find somebody to be with while I'm up in Orlando...and he's going to be missing me A LOT!!!...but if we stay together...I won't be able to talk to him while I'm doing the internship because he would be going through Basic Training...and we would have little to no contact during that time....which completely SUCKS!!! I really don't know what I'm going to do...I really do love him....but sadly either way...I'm losing him......
im sorry to hear about that! i guess all you can do is decide what would be the best way to go...

[DisneyLover0526]

im sorry to hear about that! i guess all you can do is decide what would be the best way to go...

Thank you for the reassurement! But that's the thing...i don't know what to do....I wish reality was like Disney...Dreams Do Come True :wizard:....all we would ever need in life is a little bit of Faith, Trust, and Pixie Dust :)

[twinsfreak]

Thank you for the reassurement! But that's the thing...i don't know what to do....I wish reality was like Disney...Dreams Do Come True :wizard:....all we would ever need in life is a little bit of Faith, Trust, and Pixie Dust :)

haha that would be awesome. I know when i was supposed to go in spring, my girlfriend said she was going to break up with me if i went....i ended up cancelling for spring (not cause of that), but she ended up cheating on me and dumping me a month ago anyway....but maybe ill find someone in florida :) anyway, i guess what im trying to say is in order for it to work, you both have to trust each other 100%

[graygables]

Oh Jellipop...I am so sorry to hear that. It worries me how quickly he moved to ending things. Especially after 3 years. I wouldn't give up your disney experience for someone who is not even willing to try long distance. I think it shows a lack of appreciation for the wonderful girl that is "jellipop":) Best of luck with that. Sending many happy thoughts your way

Ding, ding, ding!!! Exactly my thoughts. I'm older (and have more insurance ;) ), but I also have a LOT of experience with long distance relationships. My Dad was an Army officer, so I watched how my parents handled separations. My first boyfriend was German and we moved back to the States. We kept our relationship going for quite some time with only snail-mail (this was back in the day, y'know). I finally moved on to an Army man myself. There were several separations, but they were not what did the marriage in. I met my current husband online waaaayyyy back before it was "done". We were 1,000 miles apart, but made it work with phone calls, email, and letters. We've been married for almost 14 years now. I'm currently at WDW on the CP myself and my hubby is back at home and we're doing fine. Yes, we miss one another, but we're both comfortable with our relationship and we understand that I am where I am supposed to be right now.

I think too many relationships don't have strong enough foundations, though, and can't weather a separation. To be honest, if that's the case, it won't weather much else, either.

[Berlioz70]

Like Gray, I also went on the CP as a married woman and left my husband at home. It really was not bad, we talked nearly everyday on the phone and tried to video chat when we had time. My roommates loves to get in on the action and video chatted with him as well so when he came to visit they already felt like they knew him.

You know when it feels right... the decision for me to move to FL was not a hard one. He knew it was what I wanted and he supported it from the get-go... if you're running into problems I would check out the base of the relationship and see if anything there can be strenghtened.

In other news... we both live here now, and we're both Disney employees!

[Joanna71985]

In other news... we both live here now, and we're both Disney employees!

OT- but where does he work??

[Berlioz70]

He's at Partners!

[kmg148]

I remember reading someone say on Facebook that they didn't know anyone who left for Disney in a relationship and stayed in that relationship. However, if you both are strong, it definitely is doable.

I've been with my boyfriend since the middle of last summer, and it's going great so far. I was able to visit home earlier in the week for a few days, and he has been down once a month. If you really love each other, it comes easily!

Webcams are awesome, and help out a lot!

[jellipop]

I'm sure I'll find someone better when I'm there, I've been spending ,y spring break at my boyfriend's house and I guess I found some reasons hy he isn't the best person for me. I really hope to find someone in disney (also someone who can set up my xbox live without the wireless because my boyfriend did that all for me lol

[twinsfreak]

I'm sure I'll find someone better when I'm there, I've been spending ,y spring break at my boyfriend's house and I guess I found some reasons hy he isn't the best person for me. I really hope to find someone in disney (also someone who can set up my xbox live without the wireless because my boyfriend did that all for me lol

haha yeah, ive been hoping i can find someone down there too....but i also need to realize that you cant try to force something....you just have to let it happen

[DisneyLover0526]

I remember reading someone say on Facebook that they didn't know anyone who left for Disney in a relationship and stayed in that relationship. However, if you both are strong, it definitely is doable.

I've been with my boyfriend since the middle of last summer, and it's going great so far. I was able to visit home earlier in the week for a few days, and he has been down once a month. If you really love each other, it comes easily!

Webcams are awesome, and help out a lot!

I really wish that I can do that! What makes it hard for me and my boyfriend is that while I'm doing the internship (really hope I get accepted already!), he's going to be in the Army doing basic training. I've heard stories about people who do basic training aren't allowed to make phone calls, or write letters for a while. Not being able to hear from my boyfriend is going to KILL me...but we agreed that since he has to go in July, and I leave for Orlando in May, that he would drive up to see me every chance he gets before he leaves......and believe me...my boyfriend and I are MADLY in love with each other lol....so I'm probably just overreacting about the whole "separation" thing

[graygables]

he's going to be in the Army doing basic training. I've heard stories about people who do basic training aren't allowed to make phone calls, or write letters for a while. Not being able to hear from my boyfriend is going to KILL me

Sweetie, I promise you, it will NOT kill you. ;) It will be difficult, yes, but think of all the men and women who have gone before you through basic training, deployments, war, and worse. It will make you strong. It will make your relationship strong IF it has strong roots to start with. You will find something inside you that, if allowed to build, becomes a courage like you've never known. He will not be the only warrior to emerge on the other side.

[DisneyLover0526]

Sweetie, I promise you, it will NOT kill you. ;) It will be difficult, yes, but think of all the men and women who have gone before you through basic training, deployments, war, and worse. It will make you strong. It will make your relationship strong IF it has strong roots to start with. You will find something inside you that, if allowed to build, becomes a courage like you've never known. He will not be the only warrior to emerge on the other side.

WOW! What you said really touched me! Just reading what you had to say gave me hope that everything is going to be alright....it even brought a tear to my eye (i tend to get emotional at times)...but Thank You So Much!

[PixyDusted]

I was lurking but I have to chime in. I had a boyfriend when I moved down to Orlando to fulfill my dream internship over 3 years ago. We broke up.

I met another man down here who's amazing and we're engaged and getting married. And I live where I want (Orlando) and have a DREAM job. I can't say I could imagine living anywhere else, with anyone else. Things happen for a reason.

Don't stay behind for him. Absense makes the heart grow fonder sometimes. And other times, there's perhaps something more wonderful for you around the corner. Just have the courage to see what it is.

That's my 2 cents. Good luck to you! :goodvibes