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Tammy296
03-04-2009, 09:16 AM
I have never found planning a vacation to be so overwhelming and just so frustrating.

I've been in the midst of planning a vacation (2 weeks from now) for the four of us. Two of us are having a birthday - my dd Amy is turning 1. I've been planning for 2 months now.

Yesterday I spent the better part of a day trying to get a special birthday cake ordered (turned out I couldn't get what I wanted - pooh & friends) and had to settle for something else at an outrageous price. :sad1: I was transferred on the phone 6 times and all anyone wanted to help me with was a podium cake. :sad2:

When we first booked, we couldn't get the resort we wanted. They were all FULL. We had to take a value resort (the same one we stayed in before). The whole trip last time (first time) was FUN but I was so tired after day 4 I can't believe I'm going again for 8 days sleeping on those small beds. :sick: DH and DD10 is just happy to be staying at the same place they're expectations are smaller I guess. They'll be crabbing by day 4 and it will be me who listens to it and feeling guilty cause I can't fix anything. Trust me.

Then to top it off I couldn't get the restaurants I wanted. Thankfully one person (a CM) was kind enough to change our reservations for us to an earlier time and one person was nice enough to give us one of theirs. I can't thank these people enough for helping!! We still have a lot of problems getting what we need though but that's all right. I'm trying to suck it all up and just go with NO EXPECTATIONS and forget trying to plan anything anymore.

This morning I tried to make an order with Garden Grocer and couldn't get the delivery time I wanted. This is just not my luck....

I'm just wondering - does anyone else have the same type of luck when they plan a trip to Disney? I've never planned so much and so hard for anything in all my life. It's very discouraging. :headache: Planning Amy's first birthday will have gone down in the record books for me. I'm sure I'll have the memory and never forget it. :lmao:

Please tell me where the magic is even if its just dropping a penny in a fountain to watch the ripples go because I'm a very confused mother of a 10 and 1 yr old right now. :guilty:

I'm not having any fun at all. Anyone else find the same thing with their trip? If so, what has made it all worth it in the end for you?

Thanks,
-T

MickeyMomOfThree
03-04-2009, 09:25 AM
I am sure it is frusterating, but when you get there you will have so much fun hopefully you will forget about the bumps in the road!

IndyClown
03-04-2009, 09:28 AM
:tink:
Tammy296

FWIW....I have been in a 3 day battle with Disney Dining. I know it feels like it but it's not just you they are pounding into submission. http://www.disboards.com/images/smilies/wink.gif

shordiebecka
03-04-2009, 09:28 AM
Aw...please cheer up! Planning for Disney can be super frustrating, but all that matters is that you make the best out of things while you are there.
It seems that one thing that bugs you is having to stay at another value resort. Have you thought about calling now to see if you can upgrade to anywhere? Usually, its only about 200-300 more, and maybe it will give you a little jump start on disney excitement.

May I ask, where are your dining reservations for now?

Tammy296
03-04-2009, 09:30 AM
Oh! I so hope so! Right now the only thing that makes me go on is my 2 dd's - my 10 yr old said this morning she had a dream that we were leaving for Disney today. :lmao: I told her NO... sorry 20 more days.

My 1 yr old doesn't have a clue but she's curious about all this Disney & Mickey Mouse talk. My DH is just like -- "Whatever" I can't seem to get him excited about anything. And me... I'm just pulling my hair out with everything that's going wrong.

We went out and bought a brand new Combi stroller JUST for this trip (due to the resort & bus issue). I won't be able to fix the issue with my back/bed though and I know I'll be getting it snapped back into place when we return. Forgive me for not looking forward to this trip but I'm really not dissers. However somehow I come to this site and just figure out all I can to make things as special as I can. I'm addicted. :sad2:

I don't know how to right any of it except to just stop planning all together and think "Whatever happens, happens". Maybe then something can go right.

-T

kandemom
03-04-2009, 09:31 AM
Im sorry youre having such a rough time with the planning. It can be tough and frustrating. I have no advice but wanted to let you know itll be ok:goodvibes

brergnat
03-04-2009, 09:35 AM
I'm sorry you're feeling so discouraged, but I have to warn you, if you are feeling THIS badly right now, I hate to see what happens if anything goes wrong ON your trip. It sounds like you are hoping for so much on this trip, and it is these types of expectations for "magic" that usually end up being let down. I'm not trying to bring you down even more, but you have to try to be realistic. Our economy is (you know where) and Disney is a business too, so I wouldn't be shocked to find that the experience in "the World" is a bit different this year than in years past. There may be obvious cut backs, less friendly staff, etc. But we know Disney is capable of extraordinary things, so let's hope they deliver for you.

Now, to try to bring this back to a happy place. :rotfl: I know, I'm all being Debbie Downer right now. I'm going to WDW in 3 weeks, and I have pretty much resigned myself to expecting NOTHING but a "getaway" from my everyday life.

First of all, where are you staying? You mentioned a Value resort, and sleeping on "small beds". Were you trying for a Deluxe? The moderates have the same "small beds", FYI. I don't know your exact dates, but have you tried calling and seeing if anything has opened up from cancellations? It does happen. I'd be calling every day, if I were you! I'd not resort to staying somewhere where I was miserable last time, knowing that the same thing is going to happen again...make cutbacks in other places. I know there are at LEAST DVC locations still available (SSR and OKW) for the next couple of weeks. Could you swing a studio villa at either of those? Would give you larger beds, at least...

Now, onto the birthday cake. I'd honestly save my money. I've heard less than great things about those cakes. Plus, they are huge. Your family won't be able to eat a whole one, and are you really going to bring it back to the room and finish it? They are SO expensive, and how many 1 year olds actually EAT cake on thier birthdays? Neither of mine did. You can get a free cupcake at most TS restaurants if you simply mention a birthday (especially a 1 year old) to your wait person at the beginning of the meal. I would never pay those prices for a Disney cake. They are outrageous, and just not even good cakes. Get the baby a cupcake (and the other person celebrating a b-day on the trip) and just enjoy watching her try to eat it. Trust me, you'll treasure the memory and she'll probably enjoy making a mess out of the cupcake.

About the ADRs, I know what you mean. I didn't have the best luck either making mine. I had to settle for really late dinners some nights, which is not ideal. What are you looking for still? I would try doing a walk up once you are there. May not work, but you could try. I plan to walk up to a couple places where we have 9pm adr's at like 6 or 7pm and just see if we can be seated, cause I don't want to eat at 9pm!!! Otherwise, not much you can do there but keep posting on the cancel/trade board to see if you have anymore luck between now and your trip.

And, re: Garden Grocer. Have you looked into WeGoShop? They're another grocery delivery service. I'm not sure how their delivery times work, but it's worth looking into. Maybe they will have the time you want.

Keep your head up. You're going to WDW! Try to stay positive. Your trip will be miserable if you go into it like that! Relax...take a nice bubble bath, and take a break from the planning from a day or so, just to recharge.

Good luck!

Tammy296
03-04-2009, 09:37 AM
No, I haven't tried to change the resort. My DH is mad at me for even thinking about it!! :confused: He says "nothing is good enough - why do you want to change??" - money is the issue for him. He thinks cheap and I think 'oh my poor back'. To me, money is not an issue :sad2: My DD said she liked the resort we stayed at before but they forget how badly they complained after day 4. We are Mainers and really big things are not our thing. But hey! Their backs were fine...me, I'm just a tired mom I think. I remember getting my back worked on last time. Cranky and overworked right now to boot. Disney to me, is just more work. If I get one smile out of my DH, My DD's from this trip I just keep thinking THEN something must of went right. So I hope I see a smile... one smile please??? until then I just can't get into the Disney magic. I'm sick with worry and dread. :sick: I drove home from work yesterday thinking OH NO the whole way home.....

Thanks for all your encouragement dissers. I don't know what I'd do without you!

seadd67
03-04-2009, 09:43 AM
Relax:goodvibes your putting so much presure and stress upon your self! Its so uneccery.
Frist of all take a couple of days of planning off the more you think about It the more upset you will get your self,we all need a break from planning at some point. There was a post about re calling back to see If you can get a up grade really, try It there Is cancelations, rooms open up from Block reservations. But just from my experince the beds can be as hard In the value as they are In Mods,so you might want some comfert from knowing you are at least saving some $$. As far as the plans go?? plan as much as you can then what happens happen yuo and your Family will end up happy just to be there,you will see the results In the eyes of your children.

hmdavid
03-04-2009, 09:45 AM
:grouphug: The frustration of planning will help your vacation go more smoothly once you arrive. It will all be worth it. I hope you have a wonderful trip!!!

:tinker:

summermac
03-04-2009, 09:51 AM
Hang in there! I'd also save the $$ for the dumb cake and get a cupcake, bring some candles and wallah, instant birthday.

I think at this point (2 weeks to go) it's time to stop the planning & get on with the excitement. Go online and look at stuff on YouTube. Look at the attractions on wdw.com. All that stuff!!

:)

Marquis de Disney
03-04-2009, 09:53 AM
I too think the WDW birthday cakes are kinda overrated. You might want to try checking out disneyflorist.com for their various birthday packages. Otherwise, hang in there.....the moment you walk into Main Street USA and see Cinderella's Castle, it will all become worth it. :-)

fairestoneofall
03-04-2009, 10:01 AM
Relax! If you go into this trip with dread, you won't let yourself have fun!

Did you try to get into Coronado Springs? They have queen beds in the rooms now. :) I know that I can't handle the double beds either. We spend several nights at Coronado Springs in November and it was SO nice to have a little more room.

For my DD's 5th birthday, we just did the $12 cake that the restaurants keep daily. It was delicious--well worth the $12. And our party of seven (DS didn't eat any) couldn't finish it--we took the rest back to our room. :) Plus, we ate at CP and they brought DD a birthday cake signed by the characters. They lit a candle and we all sang Happy Birthday. :cutie:

Laurabearz
03-04-2009, 10:08 AM
Vacations are not always vacations for mom... we still have to do what we do, only we are not at home where all our stuff is... I say book a massage for when you get home :thumbsup2

Here are a few tips... Relish in child swap! This is great for your dd 10, as she gets to ride twice and it's nice for the alone time without the baby. I made my DH and I switch off who would ride first (longer time watching the littleone) and who would do the Fastpass return.

Dont plan everything, but have a plan for everything haha I find my family likes to hear... Would you rather do this or this?

Try and find joy in the little things :hug:

Tammy296
03-04-2009, 10:16 AM
Thank you so much for all of your "magical memories" and helpful suggestions and just kind words!

The CM I was working with really seems to want to help. I was so dissapointed this morning because I can't get a cake in Epcot for my DH's birthday now. They said to bring our own! :scared1: Excuse me? Oh boy...:sad2:

So... I just told the CM I'm scrapping the cake idea for everyone - even DD1. I DO like the cupcake idea though and I think I'll take y'all advice on that one! :thumbsup2 Babies really are easier to please and I know I can please Amy (maybe not my DH or DD10) but I DO know that I can get a smile from AMY (no matter what we do)!! That alone is something to look forward to.

As for the resort issue. I think I'm going to have to suck that one up. I don't know anything about the resorts at WDW & what kinds of beds they all have. You'd think with all my planning I'd know something about now. It's not that ASSR is all that bad (it's not) but those beds are bound to make me work harder in 8 days than anything else. Well I could always tell DH he has to sleep on the floor. :lmao: Just kidding..

Colleen27
03-04-2009, 10:22 AM
I have never found planning a vacation to be so overwhelming and just so frustrating.

I've been in the midst of planning a vacation (2 weeks from now) for the four of us. Two of us are having a birthday - my dd Amy is turning 1. I've been planning for 2 months now.

Yesterday I spent the better part of a day trying to get a special birthday cake ordered (turned out I couldn't get what I wanted - pooh & friends) and had to settle for something else at an outrageous price. :sad1: I was transferred on the phone 6 times and all anyone wanted to help me with was a podium cake. :sad2:

When we first booked, we couldn't get the resort we wanted. They were all FULL. We had to take a value resort (the same one we stayed in before). The whole trip last time (first time) was FUN but I was so tired after day 4 I can't believe I'm going again for 8 days sleeping on those small beds. :sick: DH and DD10 is just happy to be staying at the same place they're expectations are smaller I guess. They'll be crabbing by day 4 and it will be me who listens to it and feeling guilty cause I can't fix anything. Trust me.

Then to top it off I couldn't get the restaurants I wanted. Thankfully one person (a CM) was kind enough to change our reservations for us to an earlier time and one person was nice enough to give us one of theirs. I can't thank these people enough for helping!! We still have a lot of problems getting what we need though but that's all right. I'm trying to suck it all up and just go with NO EXPECTATIONS and forget trying to plan anything anymore.

This morning I tried to make an order with Garden Grocer and couldn't get the delivery time I wanted. This is just not my luck....

I'm just wondering - does anyone else have the same type of luck when they plan a trip to Disney? I've never planned so much and so hard for anything in all my life. It's very discouraging. :headache: Planning Amy's first birthday will have gone down in the record books for me. I'm sure I'll have the memory and never forget it. :lmao:

Please tell me where the magic is even if its just dropping a penny in a fountain to watch the ripples go because I'm a very confused mother of a 10 and 1 yr old right now. :guilty:

I'm not having any fun at all. Anyone else find the same thing with their trip? If so, what has made it all worth it in the end for you?

Thanks,
-T

Awww, try not to stress so much. Remember, a bad day at Disney is better than a good day in the real world. :goodvibes

Planning a Disney trip on short notice is so tough, because there are so many people who plan so far ahead.

There's probably nothing to be done about the resort, though it couldn't hurt to poke around on the webiste and see if something has opened up. Availability changes constantly and you might get lucky.

Try not to worry too much over restaurant reservations. Disney has a lot of cancellations and no-shows, and we've been pleasantly surprised by our ability to get walk-ups or last-minute reservations. If there is some place you really want to eat but haven't been able to book, try calling that morning, checking at guest services at the park you're in at meal time, or just walking up to the restaurant.

Cakes are so hit or miss, and I can't believe this is the best Disney can do. I've ordered two cakes so far and will be doing another one for our next trip, and in the past I've gotten so frustrated with the person I was talking to that I hung up and called back later or the next day in hopes of getting a different CM. On the bright side, that did work and we got the cake we wanted both times. There's nothing that can be done about the Pooh thing because there are some copyright issues involved there, though.

As far as Garden Grocer goes, remember they aren't the only delivery service out there. If they can't fit you in at a time that works for you, you might want to check out WeGoShop. We've used them in the past and are very happy with their service. They'll be delivering for us again in May.

Just take a deep breath, close your eyes, and picture the look on your 1yos face when she sees her favorite character in person or rides Small World or tastes a Mickey bar for the very first time. That's what really matters in a Disney vacation, and it is so easy to lose sight of the magic in all the planning.

ROEDISNEY
03-04-2009, 10:25 AM
I really hope you have a Magical Vacation :yay:

catne
03-04-2009, 10:29 AM
As one who also has back problems from hotel beds (not just Disney!) Here's my tip...go to Walgreens or Walmart pharmacy department & spend $20 to get the biggest electric heating pad - out of the box, it'll lay flat in your suitcase & not take much space at all. Every day you're there, spend at least 20 min. on the heating pad - 30 if you can spare the time...and take ibuprofen each night before you go to bed (to relax muscles) Take it again each morning (again, to keep those muscles relaxed.)

When I do this plan, while I won't say my back doesn't hurt at all, it is very much more manageable. And start this plan right away the day you get there, don't wait until it hurts! :goodvibes

Colleen27
03-04-2009, 10:30 AM
Thinking more on the cake issue, did you see these - http://disneyworld.disney.go.com/celebrations/customizations/?facetNameng:hasCelebrationTypeFacet=facetValueng: birthday . They're cute, small, inexpensive and apparently much easier to order than custom cakes. According to reports on the cake thread, they're $15 and the restaurants have them on hand so ordering it is as simple as having them note it on your restaurant reservation.

DISNEYNV
03-04-2009, 10:41 AM
We try to plan everything according to schedule, but with little ones you have to expect some setbacks. Now, remember that this is your vacation. It's suppost to be fun and at least somewhat relaxing. I don't get stressed until the actual packing part... Shuddering as I think about it! If you don't get the resort or restaurants you want don't let it destroy your Disney trip! Your kids can pick up on the stress and you want it to be fun for them, right?!

Breathe! Relax! It is only as magical as you let it be. Your vacation will neutral fun. Talk to your DH and get on the same page as to what you want to make put of your trip.... Mostly magical family memories! The resort and ADRs should come seconary.

As for the cake... Save your money for the nice cake and party for your DD when you get home! I would just get her the birthday button on her trip. Get the mouse ears with a birthday theme and have her wear them. Or buy a cute princess dress and have her picture taken in it all day on her special day!

Most of all have a fun trip. Remind yourself daily why you are at Disney!

Ariel Wanna-be
03-04-2009, 10:49 AM
:grouphug:

hockeymomNS
03-04-2009, 10:53 AM
Oh my please relax.

I think that you have been given some good advice re heating pad and checking out other resorts.


You will be travelling with a one year old and having done that, you need to plan less and just let the magic take over. Get her a cupcake on her birthday and have a party for her and hub upon return. I have done this as well. This is a time to enjoy the countdown, everything will fall into place.:hippie:

adventure_woman
03-04-2009, 11:23 AM
:hug: First, please remember why you are going to Disney. To have a great vacation and have good family time. If you are stressed out this much already, you are going to have a miserable time at Disney. AND, who wants to spend all that money and be miserable? SO, you need to relax and know that things are NOT going to go as planned. Your 10yr old is going to want to do different things than your 1 yr old. Your 1 yr old may be PETRIFIED of the characters and rides and scream the whole time, while your 10yr old is loving it. Go into your vacation knowing that everything will NOT go as expected, and just go with the flow. Also, try not to wear everyone out. Take afternoon breaks. You will not see everything and you will leave with a list of things you wanted to do and didn't get a chance to do. Also, please be realisitic. You said you have been planning for 2 months. Is that when you made your hotel reservation and ADRs? If so, it's not surprising that you didn't get exactly what you wanted - many people are planning 6-12 months (or more!).

Just take a deep breath and have a great time. You'll be at Disney! :banana: Watching your girl's faces will be wonderful.

Sandy321
03-04-2009, 11:23 AM
Great Advice here!! Brergnat - :thumbsup2

I've gotten birthday cakes in the past - way over rated - TOO EXPENSIVE!! Save your money and the aggravation, if Disney doesnt want your money - go for the free cupcakes!! Make sure you note on all your ressies its your DD 1st bday and your DH bday (that way you can get 2 cupcakes and your 10 yr old can have some too!!)

The BEds are a PAIN - serious!! BUT again, the positive is your dh and your dd are happy, you arent "wasting" money and the theming is wonderful - they have better bus service at the values (imho - we stayed at POR and it was such a waste both in time and money - it was such a long walk to the food court we never went there!! ) Now I have read that people have had success in getting padding added to teh bed - so take the money for hte birthday cake buy one of those egg carton mattresses at Bed Bath and Beyond (I think Sears may sell them too!) and ship it down to the resort - then throw it away afterwards!!

ADR's - where are you eating? You may be disappointed, but we may be able to help you overcome that - for instance LeCellier everyone raves on it here, but since the menu change - blah! If you are doing a Grand Floridian resort restaraunt - ie 1900 Park Fare, or the Grand Tea, or Cafe - order a slipper dessert for $15 bucks and the kids will share!! Skip the cakes! IF you are going to a Boardwalk area the Boardwalk Bakery sells a cute Mickey Mouse tiny cake that is on the DDP snack credit...

Go to the Board here Creative DISigns I think - make a countdown for your Fridge - they add magical trivia - go to you tube watch a movie of WISHES with your DD 10 - see this trip thru her eyes...

and keep posting - I'd love to help cheer you up!!

DisneyMim
03-04-2009, 11:28 AM
First Relax!! Don't worry so much about all the stuff, you will miss so much of all the little things that make up a great vacation. As soon as you get to Disney you will feel the magic. About the cake....when my son was little we spent almost every birthday (of his) at Disney. At first I thought that I had to have a cake for him. I did it all, buy one from the restaurant, buy my own, etc. Finally I figured to just let a cupcake or whatever dessert he ordered do for the birthday cake. He never knew, or cared about, the difference. By all means order a cake if you want it, but don't feel bad if it doesn't work out. Heck, you'll be celebrating at Disney!!!

Enjoy the Magic!!

Sandy321
03-04-2009, 11:31 AM
Here's a link to a countdown Calendar
http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2046994

THis board has LOTS of creative ideas - autograph books - maybe make a journal for your dd10, my dd always loves doing that... (I get the templates from mouseforless.com http://www.mouseforless.com/downloads.shtml#kids)
http://www.disboards.com/forumdisplay.php?s=&daysprune=&f=105

Here's a pic of the bakery on the Boardwalk - do know you can NOT do it all, you can NOT plan fun - its the magic of Disney, to let go and let it happen -

http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c228/angelmum3/Disney%20Oct%2008/WeddingPictures-somedisney006.jpg

I was reading on Theme Park thread about Harmony Barber Shop - some complain about the dye and picie dust, but for $7.50 - I know the wait may be too long, but for a fisrst haircut? maybe its worth it!! How fun for both your kids!

clutter
03-04-2009, 11:42 AM
Did you say you're staying at All Star Sports? When were you there last? They replaced all of the matresses in August (we saw the new ones get rolled in everyday). The new ones, still doubles, are wonderfully comfortable. When I have to share a bed with my dd, I bring some Ambien with me. But if you really don't want to stay there, just keep checking. I went to the website often when I wanted a different resort over christmas. I did get it, finally. When it showed up, I booked through the website, then had to cancel my original ressie. The refund did take a few days (less than thay said), but I got what I wanted, so I didn't care. As for dining, just keep calling, or go to your second level of choices. Some of our new favorite restaurants are the ones we had to book over christmas because nothing else was available.

Don't stress, you'll be at Disney!!! You will be having so much fun, don't stress.

pagano12111
03-04-2009, 12:01 PM
Definately, call for an upgrade. People change their plans all the time or can't go at all. There are cancellations out there, you just have to call at the right time. I have always been able to get the location or time for dining/rooms that I have wanted, it just took perseverence on my part.

Good luck and heres some Pixie Dust

Kelly

bumbershoot
03-04-2009, 12:09 PM
...my 10 yr old said this morning she had a dream that we were leaving for Disney today. :lmao:

I won't be able to fix the issue with my back/bed though and I know I'll be getting it snapped back into place when we return.

Sounds like your DD is already showing you that you can feel the magic. YOu've asked for just a smile, and she's already giving you that! At 10 that's pretty good...when I was 10 I was already moody. You should have seen me on my 10th birthday even when the whole day was planned just for me. Not pretty.

Nothing wrong with having a chiro appt when you get home...very healthy!

But have you considered getting one of those "egg crate" mattress pads....could buy one, space-bag it (or put it one of those big huge ziploks that compete with space bag) and put it in the luggage. Then put that under the sheets...when I used to have one, it was really nice.


IThe moderates have the same "small beds", FYI.


Did you try to get into Coronado Springs? They have queen beds in the rooms now. :)

That's what I was going to say! We're heavy into pre-pre-pre-planning for our first trip, and that keeps pulling CSR out ahead of CBR for us.



The CM I was working with really seems to want to help. I was so dissapointed this morning because I can't get a cake in Epcot for my DH's birthday now. They said to bring our own! :scared1: Excuse me? Oh boy...:sad2:


My goodness! I didn't even think they'd let you do that...


Here's a pic of the bakery on the Boardwalk - do know you can NOT do it all, you can NOT plan fun - its the magic of Disney, to let go and let it happen -

http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c228/angelmum3/Disney%20Oct%2008/WeddingPictures-somedisney006.jpg


Even that cake on the left is cool. Could bring in some cake decorating gel (assuming no food issues or ingredient allergies) in a tube, buy one of those, and write on it whatever you want to for the birthday people.




re: your back and money...it's either co-pay for the chiro (which again is healthy anyway) or a bit more for another resort, or...and I like this one...how about a spa treatment wherever they have spas? I saw massage tables and rooms on the big Coronado Springs Resort thread...that could make it all worth it, AND get you away for a few hours. :goodvibes Hubby will either get painful cranky you or spend a couple bucks and have a happy healthy relaxed wife! gosh, which one should he choose.... :upsidedow

PebblesMom
03-04-2009, 01:10 PM
I hope everything works out :grouphug:

Colleen27
03-04-2009, 02:11 PM
I was reading on Theme Park thread about Harmony Barber Shop - some complain about the dye and picie dust, but for $7.50 - I know the wait may be too long, but for a fisrst haircut? maybe its worth it!! How fun for both your kids!

To expand on this idea... A haircut there is like $14 and if you get your DD's first haircut there, she'll get special Mickey ears with "First Haircut" embroidered on them and a "Magic Moment" certificate to commemorate the occasion. My older DD had her first haircut there (at 4) and Im chomping at the bit to take the baby too even though I'm sure it'll be years before she needs a haircut. :rotfl:

dispatch21
03-04-2009, 05:59 PM
Keep your head up n smile :)

tkitty
03-04-2009, 08:18 PM
I feel for you girl- I tend to also feel like it's my job to see that everyone is happy, has a good time, and make everything perfect on our vacations. Planning is good, but always have a plan B, and be happy with it. You've got great advice here, take what you have, and get excited about it! Don't be too set on anything, because anything can happen!
Have a super fantastic trip, and just enjoy watching the joy on your kids faces! RELAX! :grouphug:

KSG'sDisneyMem
03-04-2009, 09:23 PM
Hi OP, there is nothing like the magic you get when you take a trip to the World. I would definitely say forget the cake and relax. What will be, will be. Let some of it go and remember you are going to the most fun place! There are other options for cake, such as the lovely French bakery located at the France Pavillion in World Showcase. Also, if you know that day 4 is the day you all crash, plan that day to be your relaxing day. Sleep in, hang out by the pool, have DH watch the kids, or trade off with each other, and go for a massage at one of the many spas located at WDW. This would be especially good for you as a relaxation option. We never do the parks for more than 3 or 4 days straight on a trip. You have 8 days so be sure to take a whole day off in the middle of it. Stroll around DTD, explore your resort, and again, relax by the pool. If you have the $$ do the massage as it will help you relax, help your back issues, and allow you to enjoy the second half of your trip. If I were going to plan anything at this point, it would be the day of relaxation for your family mid-way through your trip. Think about it. We always do this break, I do not do a massage, but we do rest in the room, spend time relaxing by the pool and tour DTD or roam around another resort we have not visited before. Also, as a previous poster mentioned if you are staying AS the ASSp and ASMu have been renovated recently. All of the rooms have been updated. The only one not done yet is ASMo. Also, Pop has been recently updated as well. This is your little ones first trip to Disney and your are celebrating birthdays as well! Just being at Disney for my birthday is going to be enough for me. Since I am an AP holder, I am going to use the fun card instead of the free park entry, and buy something I really want! Have a wonderful trip and remember that it is all in the magic of moments....and we all know WDW can deliver that.

Disneymama09
03-04-2009, 10:37 PM
I am sorry nothing is going your way.. I know the feeling.. Dont forget DisneyWorld is about the Small Things..

**eeyore**
03-04-2009, 10:53 PM
In regards to the bed issue - why not bring a twin-sized inflatable mattress for your 10yo to sleep on, use one of the resort's pack n plays for the 1 yo and you and DH each get your own bed.

Best of luck to you and your family:grouphug:

pktbMouse
03-04-2009, 11:35 PM
Vacations are not always vacations for mom... we still have to do what we do, only we are not at home where all our stuff is...

Oh Laurabearz..you couldnt be more right about that..there is no vacation for us Moms...we are heading down first week of May...I originally suggested the vacation as I have had a bad year and Im pretty worn out right now. it went from me suggesting a nice week relaxing in the bahamas to a week at the Keys to a week at Carribean Beach resort to finally what Hubby and son wanted...a week at POP century!!! Im going to be more worn out by the time I get back...I will also be travelling with my 9month old who dosnt like anyone right now except me..not even hubby so that will be fun!!! Did I mention he is teething!!!!!!just shoot me now..:scared:

Colleen27
03-05-2009, 06:48 AM
Oh Laurabearz..you couldnt be more right about that..there is no vacation for us Moms...we are heading down first week of May...I originally suggested the vacation as I have had a bad year and Im pretty worn out right now. it went from me suggesting a nice week relaxing in the bahamas to a week at the Keys to a week at Carribean Beach resort to finally what Hubby and son wanted...a week at POP century!!! Im going to be more worn out by the time I get back...I will also be travelling with my 9month old who dosnt like anyone right now except me..not even hubby so that will be fun!!! Did I mention he is teething!!!!!!just shoot me now..:scared:

I so know what you mean about the baby! DH thinks I'm crazy for even suggesting a Disney trip because our youngest is 7mo old and in that same phase. She's breastfed, just started refusing bottles about a month ago, and is the cheeriest baby ever... If I'm in the room! :scared1: If I go out of sight, we've got problems. We're working on "training" her before we go. DH is watching her more instead of me handling everything with her in tow while he's at work, and even if she does fuss the whole time I'm at the store or taking a walk or whatever, it is never for long and she does seem to be learning that DH can meet her needs too.

Melissa
03-05-2009, 07:07 AM
I haven't read all the replys so maybe you already do this but if you want to get excited and make the trip special, try doing some Tinkerbelle or Mickey gifts for your kids. You can get a lot of stuff at the dollar store and do little notes from Mickey or Tink or any character that they like. You leave little surprises each day or just once whatever you want. I have always done this and it makes my dd's trip and it is fun for me to think up stuff. If you want to do it and need ideas PM me I'll be glad to help.

Tammy296
03-05-2009, 08:09 AM
OK. Everyone has had some wonderful suggestions!! Thank you!! :hug:

This DIS group is great. I can't honestly tell you how much stress I have been feeling lately. Total meltdown mode and I know it's because of the birthday planning - planning 2 birthdays one being a FIRST and everything else. Especially with a hard to please hub!! :eek:

I was finally transferred over to concierge services (after being transferred about a dozen times to the WRONG people who cannot & did NOT help :sad2: ) In any case, the concierge CM is NICE BUT not helping much either. :sad2: She says she is willing to do anything to make me happy (and I'm not asking for much!!) but everything I mention is a no-go. :mad: So what gives? I'm so confused and LOST. But like everyone says hey this is Dis right??? (I'll try to remember that friends...)

We've somehow gone from discussing birthday cakes to beds, to everything else that's been going wrong in my planning! How hard is it to make a cake? A small cake is all I ask for. :scared1: In any case, I finally DUMPED the cake idea because when the CM said I can't get a cake in Epcot unless I bring my own to Tutto (for my DH) so why bother doing either birthday at all???? It just doesn't seem fair. The CM said she felt bad and would do anything to make me happy. Yep I FELT BAD. :headache: REALLY bad. :sad2: I don't know how she felt but yep I feel BAD. Like a bad mother, a bad wife.... whatever. And someone here said the work for a mom is never over. You're right. I love my job as mom but I'm exhausted. The CM said "I want you to remember what it was like to be a kid again". Uh huh... I don't want to remember my childhood please. I had an impossible father. :eek: My mother worked tirelessly as a maid, a mother, and not much else. She is now like the wall nothing left. So I don't want to remember that.

In any case, I made the suggestion of possibly getting the bakery to make and deliver some fudge to our room for my husbands birthday. Nope! No go. Are you kidding? I mean I can't make fudge for the life of me (I tried 5 sheets for xmas this year and failed) but they can't either??? It's a simple request. They can do all of these things supposedly on their website but no fudge? I'm confused. I mean here I am willing to PAY for it. And I'm being told I have to make it and ship it ahead.:happytv:

Ok so I'm back to square one in my planning. I explained how I've been through every Disney phone tree there is trying to get help from where we're staying to getting dining reservations (Fantasmic is impossible, 50's prime time for dinner is impossible, Crystal palace around 5-7pm time is impossible). :sad2: I'm deaf and called through the TTY line. I couldn't get through. Not even an answering message. And Calling through the Relay. :lmao: Do you know how many times I get hung up on? Ok so going to a moderate, impossible nothing available! Getting groceries delivered is finally happening but way before we even get there. Need I say spoiled yogurt? So I had to compensate.

I'm bringing my heating pad with me and some Ambien as one person suggested. I may have to knock myself out through the whole trip just to get through it. I hope that helps. :sick: But to say am I looking forward to this? No, uh huh still not. And I honestly don't mean to be a disney downer here....Really.

The CM is trying to get us into Fantasmic and my kids will like that I'm sure I know my 10 year old will. :yay: She's the only one whose smiling that is until last night when I told her there was no birthday cakes for Amy and John to be had. Now she's not any happier than I am. She WANTS to call them and said she'd probably end up crying. :headache: I should have just kept my mouth shut. Good going mother. :rolleyes1

So here I am... still planning. Thanks for everyone's wishes and kind thoughts and need I say -- HELPFUL suggestions?? I'll figure this all out soon I hope.

:grouphug:

CruisingCamper
03-05-2009, 09:00 AM
All I can say is WOW!

We just changed our reservation from March 27 to March 13th for the week! :cool1: Just yesterday... I called and switched our reservations to that date, at Fort Wilderness Campground and then I called and canceled all my ADR's for the week of March 27th, then rebooked all the ADR's for the week of March 13th...Talk about stressful! All b/c my DH wants to go snow skiing again at the end of March, so we had to move up the Disney trip!! I had to go plead with the boss to be off two weeks earlier..with only a week's notice!!:headache:

Now, I have 5 days to buy supplies and pack! We also need a new stroller and a portable DVD player for the drive down! We have some speed shopping to do this weekend!!! And I am EXCITED...but ready to go!!! I can't wait!

Stress!!!:scared1: Yes, I am stressed...but not as much as you! Just think, like someone said before, a bad day at WDW is better than a good day at work.

I also have a very bad back and WDW is tough, b/c you're not sleeping in your own bed, and you walk a million miles! Sometimes carrying little ones, you have to pack the diaper bag, etc... But my DH is helpful! And he loves DIsney! A bad DH could ruin your trip!

All of the suggestions have been a excellent way to reduce back pain...I even go as far as taking an Advil every 4 hours and then, at night I take two! A mattress pad and heating pad are also great ideas!! And always take a hot bath in the morning and before bed to soak those tired muscles! Shoes..always wear comfortable shoes!

If your dreading your trip...maybe you should cancel..and save the money to do something else your DH would enjoy too! It might make taking a vacation a lot less stressful.

Anyway, I hope you have a good time, if you do go!!!

jessandalexsmom
03-05-2009, 09:06 AM
It will be magical beyond your wildest dreams. Trust me. Enjoy your vacation!!

mommytobug
03-05-2009, 09:28 AM
You need to breathe. I think you are wanting everyone to run circles around you and know what you want and need. It does not work that way. If they do not make fudge, they don't make it. If we all called with request of things they did not do can you imagine the craziness it would cause? I dont understand the cake issue. We have celebrated dd's birthday there several times. I have never ordered a special cake but she always got a cupcake or something. She loved it. You can go to the dining threads and there is one for cakes with the number to call. You will pay a pretty penny for it. But, you can order it. As far as the bed, that is why we only do deluxe. I cant and will not sleep in anything less than a queen. I have chronic back pain and fibromyalgia. Disney vacations can be hard and if the bed is awful, that makes me miserable. I will stay 4 days in a deluxe instead of 7 in a value. You give and you take. Decide what is more important. I am sitting here thinking why did you not plan a beach vacation or something you could do to relax. My dd loves the beach and disney. You have to breathe, decide what is imporant, and go with the flow. I would call about an upgrade and ignore your husband if he does not want to plan. My husband HATES planning so I dont mention anything until time to go. We both are happy. I have control and he isnt bothered with minor details.

bartleby1
03-05-2009, 09:31 AM
Oh wow. You sound really miserable and stressed about this trip. I think sometimes lots of people get really overwhelmed because they want their trip to live up to impossible expectations. In some ways, it is almost like planning your wedding! You do so much research and planning to make for the "perfect" day (or trip), but unfortunately nothing is ever perfect and sometimes things don't always go as planned. Please try to look at the big picture and try to let some of the smaller things slide on by.

As others have said, you'll be in DISNEY! Enjoy yourselves! There is plenty of happiness to be found! Don't let the smaller things get in the way of the big picture.

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about the cake. I'd throw a few candles in my bag, order some pastries from the bakery in France, stick the candles in and sing happy birthday!

Your trip doesn't have to be perfect to have a great time. Perfection is way overrated!:rotfl:

Tammy296
03-05-2009, 09:52 AM
A deluxe is surely nice but we are small town people who do not need big time things. If I bought a deluxe for 8 days I'd probably have to take out a second mortgage to do it. :rotfl: But yes I see your point. And I'm not trying to make you upset but your DD's 1st birthday -- what did you do for her? As a mother, I'm not Tori Spelling hoping to pop out a huge blast of fireworks for Amy here but a pooh cake is not a long haul. No pooh cake? ok How about any kind of fresh cake that tastes like an eclair? That was my request. And a Jessica Rabbit cake for DH is also not a big request. Both of which I got a NO on. Ok so... I DOWNSIZED heavily on fudge and still got the NO's. :sick: The point being is this...what is do-able??

Did you ever try to call through a relay service or TTY line they have? I could have posted this in any thread from the disabilities thread to the food & cake thread to the family thread to the strategies thread, the resort thread... it belongs in them all I'd say. In some way...

The point is this -- I do NOT expect disney to run circles for us NO. But common courtesy and doing what they advertise they can do IS ANOTHER THING. We paid good money hard earned money for this trip in an economy where most people are struggling (including us) We still did it for our kids. Why advertise special occasions and show all these wonderful things you can and will do on the internet but if you call and ask for them HEY ITS TOO BIG OF A DEAL. So see my :mad: ? You don't say you can have a specialized cake made for someone and then when you call you get the middle finger run around 5 times over.
Please. The point is simple. And I get the middle finger run around not only on this but almost everytime I call about every situation I've planned for since I booked the trip. And I am asking for things Im willing to pay for simple things, every day things a lot of people on here are also requesting. Hey as one poster said somewhere along the lines - it just pays to ask!

Disney, I'm doing this for my kids. You're right I could have gone anywhere else including an all-inclusive vacation in the Carribean. I have before. Would my kids have liked that? No probably not. :sad2: So we picked Disney because "of the magic".

If you call the Disney Florist and get lousy service or no service for what you paid for (which someone on here reported happening to them) what would you want? If you call Disney and they shell out on an empty promise (non existent) what would you want? If you call, and get no answer - what would you want? So no, I'm not trying to be mean here just say hey where's this "magic"? Where's the customer service? Where do I find it? What can I do for baby and husband to make it special for them? That's all.

Anyone and everyone has called and getting their dining reservations - and some aren't. They don't need the relay service. They're hearing.The point is they call back like me almost daily. Some get what they want some don't. Granted! However, they don't get the five finger discount on every call because they don't have to call the helpless Disney TTY line or through the relay service. Their calls don't last half the day and their calls don't get hung up on at the beginning of "hi" because some cast member doesn't understand what the relay service is. I'm trying to educate on what it is and say where's the customer service? I'm not trying to make a mountain out of a mole-hill, just get what I paid for.

Thank you for hearing me out. To everyone, thank you so much for listening and being empathetic. If we didn't have this dis-board to vent I don't know what many of you would do it's good to share a common link with others somehow. Even if its just stress in planning. We're all going and want to go to the same place on earth - DISNEY.

-T

mommytobug
03-05-2009, 10:17 AM
A deluxe is surely nice but we are small town people who do not need big time things. If I bought a deluxe for 8 days I'd probably have to take out a second mortgage to do it. :rotfl: But yes I see your point. And I'm not trying to make you upset but your DD's 1st birthday -- what did you do for her? As a mother, I'm not Tori Spelling hoping to pop out a huge blast of fireworks for Amy here but a pooh cake is not a long haul. No pooh cake? ok How about any kind of fresh cake that tastes like an eclair? That was my request. And a Jessica Rabbit cake for DH is also not a big request. Both of which I got a NO on. Ok so... I DOWNSIZED heavily on fudge and still got the NO's. :sick: The point being is this...what is do-able??

Did you ever try to call through a relay service or TTY line they have? I could have posted this in any thread from the disabilities thread to the food & cake thread to the family thread to the strategies thread, the resort thread... it belongs in them all I'd say. In some way...

The point is this -- I do NOT expect disney to run circles for us NO. But common courtesy and doing what they advertise they can do IS ANOTHER THING. We paid good money hard earned money for this trip in an economy where most people are struggling (including us) We still did it for our kids. Why advertise special occasions and show all these wonderful things you can and will do on the internet but if you call and ask for them HEY ITS TOO BIG OF A DEAL. So see my :mad: ? You don't say you can have a specialized cake made for someone and then when you call you get the middle finger run around 5 times over.


Please. The point is simple. And I get the middle finger run around not only on this but almost everytime I call about every situation I've planned for since I booked the trip. And I am asking for things Im willing to pay for simple things, every day things a lot of people on here are also requesting. Hey as one poster said somewhere along the lines - it just pays to ask!

Disney, I'm doing this for my kids. You're right I could have gone anywhere else including an all-inclusive vacation in the Carribean. I have before. Would my kids have liked that? No probably not. :sad2: So we picked Disney because "of the magic".

If you call the Disney Florist and get lousy service or no service for what you paid for (which someone on here reported happening to them) what would you want? If you call Disney and they shell out on an empty promise (non existent) what would you want? If you call, and get no answer - what would you want? So no, I'm not trying to be mean here just say hey where's this "magic"? Where's the customer service? Where do I find it? What can I do for baby and husband to make it special for them? That's all.

Anyone and everyone has called and getting their dining reservations - and some aren't. They don't need the relay service. They're hearing.The point is they call back like me almost daily. Some get what they want some don't. Granted! However, they don't get the five finger discount on every call because they don't have to call the helpless Disney TTY line or through the relay service. Their calls don't last half the day and their calls don't get hung up on at the beginning of "hi" because some cast member doesn't understand what the relay service is. I'm trying to educate on what it is and say where's the customer service? I'm not trying to make a mountain out of a mole-hill, just get what I paid for.

Thank you for hearing me out. To everyone, thank you so much for listening and being empathetic. If we didn't have this dis-board to vent I don't know what many of you would do it's good to share a common link with others somehow. Even if its just stress in planning. We're all going and want to go to the same place on earth - DISNEY.

-T
Oh, you are not upsetting me at all. You are the one upset. My dd's first birthday was at home with family and very close friends. I made a ladybug cake before the ladybug theme was "in". She ran around and played and we had a blast. Nothing big but memories were made. As for your deluxe mention, we are the biggest "small town rednecks" you will ever know so please dont think we are snobs who only do deluxes. We both work and we dont have a house too big, or new cars, or dine out regularly. We like to be comfortable and so we work around what we have to in order to be comfortable. Some are comfy at the values ( and I see noting wrong with them-you have complained about the beds and also the decor). As for the cake, they have a line to call. They have cakes to offer. They have beautiful wonderful cakes that do cost a lot. They have all kinds of choices. They cant only do what they do. Have you tried using an outside service or have you asked about them decorating the rooom-they offer that now I believe). If you have a hearing problem, now is the time to ask you dh for help. HE needs to help you call if you cant get through. Also, you could consider staying off site so you can have a comfy bed.


I dont know what the middle finger run around is, sorry. I do know I have read on the cake thread and seen pictures of wonderful cakes. They can only do what they do.



I hope you find happiness in your trip and everything else. It seems that nothing is making you happy at this point and that makes me sad. Your kids will surely see your frustrations. I still do not see anything concrete that you could report as rude, only frustrations about not getting what you want when you want it. I will also say that I always plan through Dreams Unlimied if I dont use my DVC points. It is worth every penny for them to make my ressies, note special request and for me to just show up. They dont charge for this service, so you are paying as though you booked direclty through disney.

Tammy296
03-05-2009, 10:45 AM
I did book directly through Disney. As a deaf "er" I even tried to email several times.

No, not complaining about ASSR's deco at all. Just the beds for someone w/o back problems it would prob be ok. ASSR is actually pretty cool in many ways, but with a baby included (a crib and 2 beds) I wonder about the kind of "room" we'll have. I'm afraid of "squished" and "uncomfy" and of course the beds again.

I did try and ask for just a regular cake, just not a podium cake. It was going to cost $90 for a small round white cake with a choc tinkerbell top. It was the idea of the CM to make it that way even after I sent about 5 different pictures of cakes I could live with. When I first emailed the photos and the CM said no on them because of such and such, she then asked to take my credit card to put down on a cake and then asked me how much I was willing to "pay". Excuse me? I mean something just doesnt sound right here. Don't they usually give you a quote on a cake first before asking you what you're willing to pay? So I told them oh between $40 and $100. Before they said no on the cake I wanted. Anyway it doesn't matter anymore. Whats done is done.

I've decided without the cake (only choice I seemed to have) and to go with a cupcake and bring candles.

Soooo... you're right thought My DH should be stepping up and helping out with the phone deal. He isn't involved with the planning (about like he is at home with Amy too always busy or non-existent LOL) but has plenty to say about the things I do (you're right about that). I'm a little mad at myself now and thinking I shouldn't have listened to him. I did however try to book 5 different types of resorts and couldn't get any of them. I've called Disney at least daily when before I booked and paid in full, they said "Oh we get cancellations all the time, keep calling back". I booked, kept calling back anyway. I just got the feeling like maybe Disney would have said anything to get me to book and pay for the trip? ya know?

And why have a tty number if no one picks up at all? This def belongs in a different thread but oh well. It is what it is.

Thanks for all suggestions and help! Without the board I'd have no suggestions at all so something is coming from it. :)

-T

Sandy321
03-05-2009, 10:54 AM
Tammy - more hugs from me!! :grouphug:

I'm glad you found a place to vent, and I hope some of the posts were helpful!

I'm also surprised that you are deaf!! My son is hard of hearing, and I worked at the Deaf/hard of hearing school for a few years! so trust me when I say what you are doing and planning - AWESOME!!

let me know if you need anything, or I can help with anything! Relay calls are a big PAIN - I cant believe they (Disney) isnt working more with special needs - maybe you can go through the Special disabilities office at Disney? Talking Hands on the Disabilty thread has mentioned some helpful things in the past, and that board has posted about using that office for other needs???

dont know for sure, jsut thinking out posting...

adventure_woman
03-05-2009, 10:54 AM
I am so sorry that you are not having a good time planning. I have no idea what it is like to have to go through the TTY. For my DDs 1st birthday, we too just had it at home. I would say that just being at WDW for her 1st b-day would have been awesome, not worrying about a cake. If you are truly going on the vacation for the kids, I would try to not stress out about it - about anything. If you are miserable, they will not have a good time either. Especially your 10-yr old, she will remember. Disney is not a 'relaxing' vacation like the Caribbean is. It is a get up and go and do stuff type vacation. If you are already stressed out before you even get there, you will not have a good time. You don't want the memory of your DDs 1st b-day to be one of stress and wishing you had stayed home and had a party. I hope you can find a way to have a great time, despite the issues you have had already, and the problems/issues you will have while you are there (and we ALL have a little something negative happen while we are there - it is just how we handle it that makes the difference). ;)

Grumpy's Gal
03-05-2009, 11:52 AM
The moderates have the same "small beds"

Good luck!

That's not true.

Moderate Coronado Springs has QUEEN beds. And I love them!

seadd67
03-05-2009, 12:12 PM
So are the Beds really that much diffrent??.We have stay at the POR and at POP and again at pop In a few weeks(:cool1:) and I could not really feel any diffrence and I have a not so great back:rotfl2:. The beds were?? how can I say this ok,,not so ok?:confused3. I need a softer bed(a slept In bed as I like to say) and theres seem a little stiff,but after 12,14 16 hours out they seem like the most heavenly beds in the world,but if I was going to go out and buy a matress this would not be the one I buy.Thats were the oK part comes IN:rotfl2:.So do the Delux have a diffrent typ?

Sandy321
03-05-2009, 12:13 PM
I just went to the DIsney FLorist Website -

http://www.ftdfloristsonline.com/waltdisneyworldflorist/product/waltdisneyworldflorist-sweet-honey-balloons-Winnie-the-Pooh/display

Its $55 for this Pooh Birthday arrangement - but for a 1 year old, you wont want the gummie candy - you can email them and just ask what it would cost to do Pooh balloons and a Pooh plush... and I would order the Kool Snack for your ten year old (its listed at $30)

check what they have for $30 - $40
http://www.ftdfloristsonline.com/waltdisneyworldflorist/category/birthday/0-40/display

We got a candy bar cake one year that was so cute! I cant find a pic of that - but here's what we like to order:
http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c228/angelmum3/Disney%20Sept%20O7%20Pop%20resort/IMG_3360.jpg

http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c228/angelmum3/Disney%20Oct%2008/IMG_0692.jpg

ETA - I went to the dollar store and picked up that plastic tablecloth! as well as a few "surprises" I gave to her each morning!!

Sandy321
03-05-2009, 12:19 PM
Know that every year is different, just ask that your birthdays are included on your resservations,

when you check in make sure you tell them that you are celebrating your child's FIRST birthday and you DH's birthday...

I will say that I've read several posts on how DIsney is cutting back - so I completely understand why you are trying to arrange to pay for a special cake - I have never eaten at Tutto so I dont know what they will or wont do...

here is dd at Princess Storybook Breakfast at Norway
http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c228/angelmum3/Disney%20Oct%2008/IMG_0806.jpg

we didnt ask for a cupcake, they brought it... we got this at a couple of places - but again - it was last year, and I understand things change...

I posted because I thought the cupcakes had candles - but maybe you never know, they may run out... I know they used to do make your own cookies here for birthdays so I was surprised she got a cupcake!

bumbershoot
03-05-2009, 04:04 PM
OP, are you calling the Cake line? I wonder if the numbers you have to call b/c of the relay are just getting you to the wrong people?

Though I read that the cake people aren't all that nice either, but at least they are the actual people you need to deal with.

So are you calling, or can you have your husband or a good friend call, the number(s) from the cake thread (http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=25734133#post25734133)?

On that first post, it does say a Pooh cake isn't possible, but they are talking about the figures. I don't know if you can get things "painted" on cakes, but I DO know that cake people sometimes only think they understand what you are saying. Once we went to a party and a friend of the family had made this amazing stand-up Barbie cake, it was "3 dimensional" (of course everything is, but you know what I mean). My mom asked the cake-maker if she could do one like that for my brother's b'day, but with Batman. She said yes. And then made a sheet cake with some plastic Batman figures on top. Of course I realize now that the barbie cakes are from special molds, but my mom didn't know that, and the cake lady didn't understand what my mom didn't know, and thought she knew what my mom was asking for...it was a difficult situation. I discovered the same problem with wedding cake makers.

So look through that thread and call the number there (or have a close friend do it if hubby doesn't want to), if you haven't done that...and since you're talking about talking to the Conceirge services I'm thinking you're talking to the wrong people...



I'm sorry this isn't the trip you wanted. :hug: :hug:

Wunderkind
03-05-2009, 04:17 PM
I have never found planning a vacation to be so overwhelming and just so frustrating.

I've been in the midst of planning a vacation (2 weeks from now) for the four of us. Two of us are having a birthday - my dd Amy is turning 1. I've been planning for 2 months now.

Yesterday I spent the better part of a day trying to get a special birthday cake ordered (turned out I couldn't get what I wanted - pooh & friends) and had to settle for something else at an outrageous price. :sad1: I was transferred on the phone 6 times and all anyone wanted to help me with was a podium cake. :sad2:

When we first booked, we couldn't get the resort we wanted. They were all FULL. We had to take a value resort (the same one we stayed in before). The whole trip last time (first time) was FUN but I was so tired after day 4 I can't believe I'm going again for 8 days sleeping on those small beds. :sick: DH and DD10 is just happy to be staying at the same place they're expectations are smaller I guess. They'll be crabbing by day 4 and it will be me who listens to it and feeling guilty cause I can't fix anything. Trust me.

Then to top it off I couldn't get the restaurants I wanted. Thankfully one person (a CM) was kind enough to change our reservations for us to an earlier time and one person was nice enough to give us one of theirs. I can't thank these people enough for helping!! We still have a lot of problems getting what we need though but that's all right. I'm trying to suck it all up and just go with NO EXPECTATIONS and forget trying to plan anything anymore.

This morning I tried to make an order with Garden Grocer and couldn't get the delivery time I wanted. This is just not my luck....

I'm just wondering - does anyone else have the same type of luck when they plan a trip to Disney? I've never planned so much and so hard for anything in all my life. It's very discouraging. :headache: Planning Amy's first birthday will have gone down in the record books for me. I'm sure I'll have the memory and never forget it. :lmao:

Please tell me where the magic is even if its just dropping a penny in a fountain to watch the ripples go because I'm a very confused mother of a 10 and 1 yr old right now. :guilty:

I'm not having any fun at all. Anyone else find the same thing with their trip? If so, what has made it all worth it in the end for you?

Thanks,
-T

^^^ Tammy, look at it this way. At least your family gets to go to WDW to celebrate your daughter's birthday. That will be wonderful for her and your entire family. As far as the cake order goes, I'm assuming you called them and just couldn't get the type of cake you wanted? I'm sure your daughter will love the one she'll be getting. She will! As far as the ressies go, I feel your pain; but do try to call them between now and your departure day. You never know what might open up. Don't worry too much, sometimes the best trips are the least planned. Enjoy your visit! :flower3:

bumbershoot
03-05-2009, 04:40 PM
Oh, you were asking what others did for a 1st b'day? With our son my MIL gave him a traditional Korean party. He really coudln't have cared less. We delayed solids with him so there was absolutely NO way his tummy was ready for the swirl of allergenic ingredients in a cake, so he played with the rice and I drank some soup "for" him since I was his main source of nutrition, and it was done. No cake needed, except for the adults.

Babies don't care about 1st birthdays, only adults do. And just being at Disney for a birthday, IMO, is enough for any age! Doing anything more is, ha ha, icing on the cake. :)

bumbershoot
03-05-2009, 06:49 PM
Me again. I can't stop thinking about your cake ordering problems! I've started reading through the massive cake thread b/c of your post. :scared1:

This post (http://www.disboards.com/showpost.php?p=28732619&postcount=1624) sounds like the conversation you must have had... Where you just have to come up with the exact right words to cause the person to access the part of their brain holding the info you need. :headache:

Tammy296
03-06-2009, 06:28 AM
Hi all,

First of all I hope everyone understands what the REAL part of the problem is...

1) Disney is NOT picking up their TTY (for the deaf) line. Not even an answering service answers, not even an answering machine. This is seen as a MAJOR problem in the eyes of a deaf person. It means we do not have access to disney!! If we email, we get an automated email back and nothing more!

2) Yes the cake is part of the issue but the 1st issue is really just compounding the first.

For those on here who may think I am just "looking" for something - I feel you're saying I'm just making complaints to get something for "free". That's not the case here. I just want equal access to Disney like anyone else. To be treated with respect.

I want to do what everyone else wants to do. Make their child's birthday "special". I understand that Disney works with thousands if not millions of people daily. It's their job and they advertise "the world" to many and have a wonderful history behind them to deliver "the magic".
I understand that for people with disabilities, this is a "work in progress" for Disney. Hopefully it will get better and be better understood when I am through.

I think I am finally getting through to one cast member about my never-ending troubles (Not sure yet we'll see I should know by next week). The phone calls just compounded to many other things, one after another. Getting my questions answered there was not happening. :scared1: So you can see why I was so scared that maybe this would be a HORRIBLE vacation. I'm really NOT a difficult person to please and I'm not ASKING FOR THE WORLD ON A SILVER PLATTER.

Disney is now trying to make up for the troubles I face. We'll see... all I really want is for someone to pick up that darned TTY and if they can't to have equal access to a CM like anyone else. So far I'm getting that and my questions answered so things are starting to look up here. Now what to do about the other stuff? Well I'll figure it out but I want everyone here to KNOW -- your suggestions have ALL BEEN VERY HELPFUL AND THANKFUL!!

To you Dissers... THANK YOU for being a friend. :grouphug: My addiction to Disney and DIS is so obvious is it not??

Thanks!
-T

Laurabearz
03-06-2009, 07:38 AM
Tammy I would go and post over on the DisAbility section of the DIS and ask them about better TTY lines for you to call.
The peeps over there have all the hook ups! :thumbsup2

Marquis de Disney
03-06-2009, 07:52 AM
Tammy,

I know that you mentioned that your husband is not cooperating in terms of talking to a CM to rectify your various situations. But is there anybody else such as another family member or friend who can make the call for you?

From what I have learned after my various trip plans to WDW, everything always seems to right itself in the end. I am sure the same will be for you.

Sandy321
03-06-2009, 10:03 AM
TAmmy Thanks for the update!!

I can only imagine how proud you must feel to take this huge problem that at times must have felt insurmountable - and yet you are!! You are doing it!! :cool1:

That is quite an accomplishment for a Deaf person to be heard!!

I'm so glad there are helpful Dis'ers that can give you suggestions to navigate the HUGE world of Disney!! and all you just asked for was :pixiedust: and a kind word!!

:grouphug:

Now go watch youtube!! I have to share when I get a tad "Down" for all the "stuff" that is going wrong here - well DD just put in her ipod into the speakers and BLARED WISHES (I'm sure the neighbors across the street as well as next door could hear it!!) It put me on Mainstreet at dusk, and to hear and feel those fireworks going off... :wizard: Those are the memories that take hold, so when I finally GET on mainstreet and SEE the castle.... I do cry!!

Cant wait to hear about your great memories!