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LovelyPrincess432
02-09-2009, 06:54 AM
My fiance and I are going back and forth between trying to put together an affordable wedding at home, or having an escape wedding. Ever since I was little, I wanted to have a wedding in Disney World, and an Escape is really all we can afford. However, I wonder if I'll regret not getting to have all my family there with the 18 guest limit.

Therefore, I would love to hear from those who've had an Escape Wedding or vow renewal, or plan on having one. If you could share your experiences, I would greatly appreciate it!princess:

Why did you choose to go with an Escape wedding?
What did you love or regret about this choice?
Basically, what was your experience? And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony?

JandJ
02-09-2009, 09:19 AM
Why did you choose to go with an Escape wedding?
I wanted to marry the love of my life at Disney with only the few people who mattered most to us. An Escape wedding gave us exactly what we needed with the added bonus of a built-in excuse why I didn't invite my second cousins or the aunt & uncle I never liked anyway. If we'd had a traditional wedding I would have had to invite those people and I honestly didn't want anyone there who didn't truly know and love us both.

What did you love or regret about this choice?
No regrets. Our wedding day was perfectly magical!

Basically, what was your experience? And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony?
After the ceremony we mingled during the cake cutting. We did not do a first dance, it just seemed silly to be the only 2 people dancing. After all the pictures we said good night to everyone and went up to our room for a private dinner. Our guests either went to dinner, to MK, or the Marketplace. We hosted a brunch the next day with our guests plus 1 (my BFF's now-husband who didn't fit in the ceremony guest limit). That same day we met up with out of state friends at MK. That night we went to PI and met up with several other friends and went dancing. I suppose now you could go to Boardwalk for that.

We had initially planned an at-home reception but my mom passed shortly before the wedding so we canceled. Planning that reception was causing me a lot of stress. We had a set budget and it kept creeping up and up. If we'd had the party it would have been fine I'm sure, but I know it would have been an afternoon full of questions like whether or not Mickey Mouse walked me down the aisle (most people just don't get it!) and entertaining those same people I didn't want at my wedding in the first place. Not a regret but a reality in my family - we have not been invited to any of my cousins' weddings since we didn't invite any of them to our wedding (we have been invited to several on DH's side of the family). I am 100% fine with that and I suppose if we'd had the at-home reception they'd behave differently.

Lynn5700
02-09-2009, 10:06 AM
We chose escape because it was less stress, nice and intimate and afforadable.

Only thing I regret is going to the Grand Floridian Cafe for our luncheon. It was horrible and gross. Wish we went to Ohanas. I went for atmosphere over good food.

Our experience was lovely and amazing!!! Everything seriously was perfect!

irisbud
02-09-2009, 10:16 AM
Why di you choose to go with an Escape Wedding?

From the moment I knew you could get married at Disney World, it was what I wanted to do. For us, it was cheaper (and easier) to do an Escape Wedding than it would have been to do an at home wedding. For a wedding at home, we would have had to invite many, many people, and the cost, when all was said and done, would have been astronomical, not to mention the stress factor. I have some OCD tendencies :rolleyes1 , so the best thing we could have done was take the majority of the work out of my hands! We sisn't want to do a Wishes wedding either because, even though it is more customizable, there were not that many more people we would have invited that would have made the journey with us, so there was no point in spending the extra money for it. Luckily, my wonderful DH agreed to go along with this :lovestruc

What did you love or regret about this choice?

I also have no regrets about this. It was the best thing that we could have done, and everything worked out even better than I had hoped for. We had the most pefect, most magical wedding day :cloud9:

Basically, what was your experience? And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony?

We had a great experience. I was very relaxed throughout the entire day, which was a big deal for me. Everything went so smoothly and was done so well that I really couldn't have asked for better. So many people offered us kind words and congratulations; it was overwhelming.

We did the cake cutting and some pictures, then mingled with our guests a bit while eating our cake. That evening, we hosted a DP in the Morocco Pavillion, which was lovely as well. The next day, we invited everyone to join us for lunch at Biergarten. I thought we found a good medium between spending some time ith our guests and giving them (and us) time to have a nice vacation! :goodvibes

We are planning on having an at home reception later this spring, though we still need to hammer out all of the details!

gradtchr
02-09-2009, 10:26 AM
Why did you choose to go with an Escape wedding?
We chose it because I wanted my family there. DH's family could not travel even to where we would have had it if it were not at Disney. We also did not want a huge wedding because DH is not overly comfortable in front of large crowds with teh attention focused on him.

What did you love or regret about this choice? It was perfect for us. I have absolutely no regrets. I got the wedding I wanted at the most magical place on earth. We got to do things like the wishes cruise on the grand 1 that never would have happened at home. It was an absolutely amazing experience!

Basically, what was your experience? My experience was that it was amazing. I got gorgeous flowers, a romantic backdrop, unique opportunities, and I had the wedding I wanted.

And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony? My parents church actually had a shower for us after the wedding so we celebrated wit them then. With others we didn't really do antyhing.

CharacterFan
02-09-2009, 11:10 AM
Why did you choose to go with an Escape wedding?

I'm a huge Disney fan, and DFi is also a Disney fan, so it was a no brainier that we'd get married at Disney. Also, by getting married out of town, it keeps the number of unwanted guests down, since they'd have to travel. We also only have about 8 guests that are family, and don't have a lot of friends who would travel to Orlando so we didn't think we'd find more then 10. Also, we didn't think we'd could meet the minimums that they require for a wishes wedding since we want to do a Friday wedding (10/1/2010), and $20,000 is a bit more then my budget.
What did you love or regret about this choice? The only thing I'm regretting is that I have too many people for my dream location. (But I had my bridezilla moment, and I've moved on)
And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony? We're going to do a meal of some sort. We're also planning that during the break the guests can come with us to Magic Kingdom for a tour of our favorite attractions. If it's a MNSSHP night, we're going to plan a late lunch/early dinner, and go with our families and friends to our favorite party.

Tink&PirateMama
02-09-2009, 11:50 AM
Hi,
We are going with an escape because it's just four of us (for a VR, and for our actual wedding in 2000, we eloped with 2 witnesses, so we're pretty private about these things in general!). However, for those that want a lot of people there, I do believe some people chose to have an escape to save on cost and then later have a reception type of thing- like a big brunch at a disney resort restaurant with more people just after the ceremony as an option for you, if you really wanted more people than the 18. Or you could try to do something in the evening with the fireworks? Another option would be do not do an escape, but to go with something at a disney world hotel (like dolphin/swan) that is cheaper but still very disney- I don't know much about that, but I'm sure others do- I bet that is a way to have a lot more people and have disney and stay in a budget. Ofcourse, that is if your loved ones could make the trip, but it is another option. Also, with lots of destination weddings, people come back to a big BBQ or party or more formal reception to celebrate with pictures or video (and sometimes even renewing vows). It all matters what is meaningful to you and your husband (to be)- where do you want to say your vows and celebrate?

Good luck with your decision!

gemmybear83
02-09-2009, 11:54 AM
My fiance and I are going back and forth between trying to put together an affordable wedding at home, or having an escape wedding. Ever since I was little, I wanted to have a wedding in Disney World, and an Escape is really all we can afford. However, I wonder if I'll regret not getting to have all my family there with the 18 guest limit.

Therefore, I would love to hear from those who've had an Escape Wedding or vow renewal, or plan on having one. If you could share your experiences, I would greatly appreciate it!princess:

Why did you choose to go with an Escape wedding?
Although I'm not married yet we have gone with an escape wedding as we wanted to keep it small, and intimate - which is the type of wedding I have always wanted. I also really like the fact its a package as it helps to manage costs.
What did you love or regret about this choice?
I would like it if there were more choice regarding wedding locations - although I love the one I picked - Yacht Club Gazebo and more choice would probably be a bad thing!
Basically, what was your experience? And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony?
No experience yet -ask me in the coming months :)

LovelyPrincess432
02-09-2009, 12:58 PM
Were the things included in the package enough (photography, flowers, etc.) , or did you upgrade?

gradtchr
02-09-2009, 01:29 PM
I personally booked outside photography. At the time DPS was not doing the work that I have seen recently and pictures were really important to me. The flowers I got were perfect!

Tink&PirateMama
02-09-2009, 01:44 PM
Were the things included in the package enough (photography, flowers, etc.) , or did you upgrade?

I think this varies- I've seen a recent post of several brides that did no or very minimal upgrades. Some upgrade a lot. I believe both are very happy with how it turned out!

At this time (and it does seem to change as I learn more!), we are planning to add on the following:

Dessert Party- Illuminations/Epcot
Floral- just a rose wand for my daughter and boutinere for my son, and rose petals for location- because I love rose petals!
Photography- I am planning to go with Randy, but hopefully use my photo time at the dessert party. Using him with the extra hours I wanted and the cd of images was actually cheaper, and I really, really liked his work so I thought that would help to relax us!
Characters- for my kids:)
Transport- Cinderellas coach, well, that's a crossing my fingers- but it's likely at this point!

But honestly, I know I would be very happy with just adding on the floral for my kids! The rest is just extra magic:)

Petals & Pixie Dust
02-10-2009, 07:18 AM
My fiance and I are going back and forth between trying to put together an affordable wedding at home, or having an escape wedding. Ever since I was little, I wanted to have a wedding in Disney World, and an Escape is really all we can afford. However, I wonder if I'll regret not getting to have all my family there with the 18 guest limit.

Therefore, I would love to hear from those who've had an Escape Wedding or vow renewal, or plan on having one. If you could share your experiences, I would greatly appreciate it!princess:

Why did you choose to go with an Escape wedding?
What did you love or regret about this choice?
Basically, what was your experience? And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony?

Thank you for posting this! I'm planning an escape and I'm torn. Somedays I feel like I'm missing out on something and other times I feel like a wishes wedding would be too much. I have no desire to invite a ton of people. I'm afraid I'll get stage fright when saying my vows. :headache:
So, anyway, thank you for posting this and to all of those who posted...It makes me feel much more confident that an escape will be perfect.

LovelyPrincess432
02-10-2009, 07:38 AM
Thank you for posting this! I'm planning an escape and I'm torn. Somedays I feel like I'm missing out on something and other times I feel like a wishes wedding would be too much. I have no desire to invite a ton of people. I'm afraid I'll get stage fright when saying my vows. :headache:
So, anyway, thank you for posting this and to all of those who posted...It makes me feel much more confident that an escape will be perfect.

I know exactly how you feel!

So I have to ask, while I have this discussion going. Did anyone have difficulties with their family being somewhat iffy about the idea of traveling to Disney for the wedding? If so, how did you handle the situation? My mom is concerned that it is to much to ask of those family members I chose to make the trip.

Lynn5700
02-10-2009, 09:11 AM
Yeah some people gave me a hard time but I ignored them. It's our wedding, our dream, our wedding and our happiness. I was told it's selfish and blah blah blah. Oh well then I was selfish LOL. I could care less what people thought.

I was sooooo miserable at my at home reception because I did not want to have it..I can not imagine how miserable I would have been at my wedding if I had that at home too. I would have hated every second of it.

Our wedding was best for the both of us. We were happy and the whole day was perfect. I could be offered this big huge million dollar wedding at home and I would still go with our escape wedding.

Petals & Pixie Dust
02-10-2009, 09:21 AM
Yeah some people gave me a hard time but I ignored them. It's our wedding, our dream, our wedding and our happiness. I was told it's selfish and blah blah blah. Oh well then I was selfish LOL. I could care less what people thought.

I was sooooo miserable at my at home reception because I did not want to have it..I can not imagine how miserable I would have been at my wedding if I had that at home too. I would have hated every second of it.

Our wedding was best for the both of us. We were happy and the whole day was perfect. I could be offered this big huge million dollar wedding at home and I would still go with our escape wedding.

Thank you for posting this. I've found some not so thrilled with the idea...but are dealing with it. This thread makes me more comfortable that I am not missing anything by doing a huge gala! I wouldn't be comfortable with that and I don't think DF would be either.

How did you determine the guest list??? This seems to be a bit of a stumbling block for me...

JandJ
02-10-2009, 09:35 AM
Ditto what Lynn said - exactly!! :thumbsup2

As for upgrades/changes:
- Upgraded the cake to my dream cake
- Extra floral (bouts for the dads; corsage for MIL; 3-rose wand for MOH)
- Added a bottle of non-alcoholic cider for the non-drinkers (we had 4 non-drinkers and it was plenty)
- Favors (chocolate wedding Mickey & Minnie)

We used Disney photography and are thrilled with our photos! We had Ty and he did an amazing job! He listened to what we wanted and took pictures for longer than the 2 hour limit. He was great!

Our guest list was easy:
DH's parents (he's an only child)
My daddy (my mom had passed)
My Godmother (who would not have been there if my mom were with us)
My brother and his wife
My sister
My BFF (who is more like a sister to me, and she introduced me to my DH so that was pretty much a no-brainer, she had to be there!)
My favorite niece was my MOH
DH had a BM but he got sick and couldn't travel to the wedding

Who we left out:
Grandparents - I only have one left who couldn't travel anyway, and DH didn't want his there
My sister's other kids - we didn't want children at our wedding anyway and my sister didn't mind leaving them with their father for the weekend
My BFF's now-husband (then-boyfriend) - we didn't have room for him and they weren't that serious back then
Other friends - that was hard, but we realized if we invited this one then we had to invite that one and that one has a husband we have to invite too, and then we have to invite the other one, and it just never ended! Using the Disney guest limit was a handy excuse and we just invited none of them. We did celebrate with many of our friends at MK and PI the next day and night and they had no hard feelings at all - that's when you know they are truly your friends, when they understand ::yes::

Lynn5700
02-10-2009, 09:37 AM
Thank you for posting this. I've found some not so thrilled with the idea...but are dealing with it. This thread makes me more comfortable that I am not missing anything by doing a huge gala! I wouldn't be comfortable with that and I don't think DF would be either.

How did you determine the guest list??? This seems to be a bit of a stumbling block for me...

If it is what you truly want in your heart then you are not missing out.:goodvibes You just have to figure out what is right for the 2 of you. We were going to have a Wishes but because we were paying for it on our own it was going to be too much so why go through all the stress, you know what I mean. Escape worked out better for us..I would have went with a wishes if we could just as long as it was a destination wedding in Disney and not home in crappy Jersey lol!

Ok for the guest list we just invited grandparents and immediate family to the wedding... everybody was invited to our ghetto fab reception UGH! It was fun but so not worth all the stress I went through and the money I wasted on a stupid party to make people happy.

irisbud
02-10-2009, 09:48 AM
Lynn,

That is what I am worried about! We still haven't set a date for our at home reception, but there is a part of me (a big part) that would just rather not have it at all.

I know it's going to be a lot of money and a lot of stress, all to try and make other people happy (who might be momentarily miffed if we did nothing, but would quickly get over it!) I don't even really like parties!

Also, our wedding was so very perfect. It was exactly what I wanted, better than what I wanted. Nothing we do here will hold a candle to it. We aren't planning on having a recpetion where we get dressed back up again, but I think the whole thing may disappoint me deeply. I'm just not into it even though I'm looking for another project since I've been a little down since the wedding and trip are over...

It's important to DH, though, so I've told him that it's his thing. He wants it, so I'm trying to be supportive of it. :goodvibes:

Lynn5700
02-10-2009, 09:51 AM
I know Amy. I think it is a good thing to have it if it is important to DH! That is great that you are being so supportive :)

Maybe you guys can just have a low key party at your house or something, an outside kind of party.. make it fun so it does not stress you out.

Lorelei528
02-10-2009, 09:55 AM
We initially were looking at Wishes, but when my SIL told me if I had it on a Tuesday my nephew wouldn't be able to come in for it, but if I had it on a Friday then he could just call in sick for a day the thing was the Wishes minimum for the Friday I was looking at was $20,000! We are doing a bunch of add-ons, but even with all of it, it doesn't add up to $20k. I didn't want to have tons of people there anyway, and we would have liked to invite a few more (I know DF's mom said all these people wanted to come in from Ireland for it) but we and my mom can't really afford to do it for more people down there (we are however doing an at home reception for about 60 peeps).

Anyway, after all that, it turns out my nephew is taking 2 days off of work, so we really could have done it on a Tuesday! The minimum was much less for a Tuesday and we probably would have made it ok, but when I started to look into changing it, to be honest with you...we LOVE SBP, having the dinner reception in Jiko is totally 'us'....I really didn't know if there was anything we would be getting with a Wishes that we weren't doing with our Escape that would have made a huge difference to us....

So.....Escape it was and is!!!

As far as guests, we have the max at 18 so it's:

me
DF
my mom
my brother and my SIL and my niece
my other brother and my other SIL and my 2 nephews with their gf and DF and my niece
my SIL's mom (who is like an aunt to me)
DF's mom and dad and brother
DF's aunt and uncle
Another of DF's aunts

LovelyPrincess432
02-10-2009, 11:06 AM
If it is what you truly want in your heart then you are not missing out.:goodvibes You just have to figure out what is right for the 2 of you. We were going to have a Wishes but because we were paying for it on our own it was going to be too much so why go through all the stress, you know what I mean. Escape worked out better for us..I would have went with a wishes if we could just as long as it was a destination wedding in Disney and not home in crappy Jersey lol!

Ok for the guest list we just invited grandparents and immediate family to the wedding... everybody was invited to our ghetto fab reception UGH! It was fun but so not worth all the stress I went through and the money I wasted on a stupid party to make people happy.

Lynn,
I feel the same way about the party at home to make everyone else happy. That's what at home wedding's seem to be to me. You have a big huge party so everyone can drink and what not, but Idk if it's really me. As for my fiance, he just wants something special and small and for me to be happy. Which is very sweet of him. I don't know what to do about family though still. My mom was not thrilled by the idea, and I really want her to be there.

Oh and I saw some of your pictures, did you do any upgrades?

-Brit

I also see how the guest list can be a huge problem. My fiance is from a very large immediate family.

Lynn5700
02-10-2009, 11:20 AM
Lynn,
I feel the same way about the party at home to make everyone else happy. That's what at home wedding's seem to be to me. You have a big huge party so everyone can drink and what not, but Idk if it's really me. As for my fiance, he just wants something special and small and for me to be happy. Which is very sweet of him. I don't know what to do about family though still. My mom was not thrilled by the idea, and I really want her to be there.

Oh and I saw some of your pictures, did you do any upgrades?

-Brit

I also see how the guest list can be a huge problem. My fiance is from a very large immediate family.

Aww I'm sure your mom will not miss it!! My dad was not thrilled at first but you know what he went and loved every second of it and had a great time.

I know what you mean about the party. Just have something informal, small and fun.

Did I have any wedding upgrades? The only thing I upgraded was in floral...bridal party floral and the rose petals down the aisle and on the cake table and sand ceremony table.

tinks_1989
02-10-2009, 12:47 PM
Thank you for starting this thread we are having a escape wedding and have had the so and so wont be able to come


i only want the people that matter to me

i only want a home reception to show off all my pictures and prove to people disney isnt a joke its a beautiful location

Lorelei528
02-10-2009, 01:20 PM
i only want a home reception to show off all my pictures and prove to people disney isnt a joke its a beautiful location

We're having an at home reception for a few reasons...I want to wear my dress again, we want to share the day with my friends and other relatives (like cousins) who aren't included for the intimate Escape wedding, we also are hoping to show some pics somehow or even our video to everyone so they can see what a lovely day we had (and yes, how a Disney wedding is beautiful and not just cartoony etc.), plus there's one other reason, but I'm taking the 5th on it...:rotfl:

LovelyPrincess432
02-10-2009, 02:45 PM
Thank you for starting this thread we are having a escape wedding and have had the so and so wont be able to come


i only want the people that matter to me

i only want a home reception to show off all my pictures and prove to people disney isnt a joke its a beautiful location

You're welcome. I think we all have this problem in some way shape or form. The biggest thing is, that most of us grew up with this being on dream wedding, and other people dont get that. I'm also having problems with his side accepting this whole concept. It's like no matter what I cant win here. Keeping my fingers crossed regardless though.

I can't really imagine an at home reception that we could afford that I wouldn't be sitting there going this would have been so much better in Disney.

Thanks for everyone with their help and input on things. Hearing people's experiences definately gives me a good sense of how things may go!

tinkerlisa
02-10-2009, 04:32 PM
Why did you choose to go with an Escape wedding?
What did you love or regret about this choice?
Basically, what was your experience? And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony?

1) We ultimatly decided it would be cheaper. To date so far(wedding is in Sept) we figure around $7000 with the vacation included. If we did it up here, it would cost that and then some WITHOUT the vacation! I never wanted anything big and fancy and we are only having immediate family. If I did it up here, I would have ended up inviting my whole family which is huge! I can use the excuse of the guest limitations for my reason not to invite any one else;)

2) NO REGRETS WHEN IT COMES TO SAVING MONEY!!:lmao: The one cool thing about Disney is if there is something I like that they offer Wishes brides, I can upgrade, like my bouquet for instance.

3) I was thinking about going to dinner maybe at Crystal Palace with everyone so we can see WISHES after, but I think the cake and champagne reception is enough. What I am going to do is go to dinner at a nice restaurant with new hubby:cloud9: I just hope someone will watch my kids:rotfl:

weich1001
02-10-2009, 06:09 PM
1) We ultimatly decided it would be cheaper. To date so far(wedding is in Sept) we figure around $7000 with the vacation included. If we did it up here, it would cost that and then some WITHOUT the vacation! I never wanted anything big and fancy and we are only having immediate family. If I did it up here, I would have ended up inviting my whole family which is huge! I can use the excuse of the guest limitations for my reason not to invite any one else;)

2) NO REGRETS WHEN IT COMES TO SAVING MONEY!!:lmao: The one cool thing about Disney is if there is something I like that they offer Wishes brides, I can upgrade, like my bouquet for instance.

3) I was thinking about going to dinner maybe at Crystal Palace with everyone so we can see WISHES after, but I think the cake and champagne reception is enough. What I am going to do is go to dinner at a nice restaurant with new hubby:cloud9: I just hope someone will watch my kids:rotfl:


If no one wants to watch your kids, you could hire "Kids Nite Out". We used them in September-they are WONDERFUL! They reviewed everything with us on the phone when we made our reservation and then again when they arrived. They played games with the kids, took them to Olivia's at OKW for Dinner, made sure they got their bath's and that they were in bed at a reasonable hour. Their fee's are very reasonable! These two kids aren't used to having a babysitter, whom they don't know-but the sitter warmed them right up and they've even ask when we go back in April if they can get the same person again!

Petals & Pixie Dust
02-10-2009, 07:17 PM
ALL I CAN SAY IS THANK YOU!
This thread made me realize a couple of things.
1. those who are important should be there
2. if people can't understand that that's their issue not mine.
3. I'm cool with the no home reception thing. We'll do an open house when we buy a house anyway.


So, here's my question...How do I get my mother to BACK OFF! Her standard line is "You shouldn't have to miss out on the gifts!" Um...Did she regress to say 8 years old??? :rotfl: She is very quick to stack the guest list with family-but forgets DF has family too...I don't want to say my vows in front of a gazzillion people...Honestly, if I could get away with it just being me and DF I'd be good with that.

Thank you for making it clear in my mind what I want...an escape is perfect.

LovelyPrincess432
02-10-2009, 08:46 PM
ALL I CAN SAY IS THANK YOU!
This thread made me realize a couple of things.
1. those who are important should be there
2. if people can't understand that that's their issue not mine.
3. I'm cool with the no home reception thing. We'll do an open house when we buy a house anyway.


So, here's my question...How do I get my mother to BACK OFF! Her standard line is "You shouldn't have to miss out on the gifts!" Um...Did she regress to say 8 years old??? :rotfl: She is very quick to stack the guest list with family-but forgets DF has family too...I don't want to say my vows in front of a gazzillion people...Honestly, if I could get away with it just being me and DF I'd be good with that.

Thank you for making it clear in my mind what I want...an escape is perfect.

Haha. I have no idea, sorry I don't mean to laugh, but I've heard the very same statement. Everyone is going to take it their own way, and you just have to address whats most important to you.

polynesianbride
02-11-2009, 06:30 AM
Why did you choose to go with an Escape wedding?
We chose to go with an Escape for ALOT of reasons. We didn't want a traditional at home wedding (I was married once before and I already did that... not to mention ALL of our friends have already done that- DF and I are both extremely bored with traditional weddings). So we decided on Disney and decided we just wanted it to be casual and fun. We wanted to get married with a castle view (but right in front of the castle is out of the budget:rotfl:). The WP is too formal for us so that left sunset pointe which is an Escape spot... so Escape it is. That also determined our guest list as 8 is the MAX. We wanted small and intimate but this has been tough. It will be just my parents, his parents, my brother, his brother, and his 2 grandma's (all other grandparents are deceased). There will be other people celebrating with us at Disney- our brothers will each have dates, and DF's aunt uncle and 2 cousins- then maybe my one aunt and uncle from Tampa. We have others that want to come but you know how it is... if this person comes then you have to invite that person...blah blah blah. Plus these extras won't even be at the ceremony so I think it is kind of rude but they knew this was the case from the beginning and are insistent they still want to come so whatever. Anyways for awhile because of all the guest list drama we talked about upgrading to Wishes but in the end decided not to for the following reasons:
- if you have a weekday during a slow season the minimum is not THAT bad but the FOOD MINIMUMS are RIDICULOUS IMO. I think it's going to $75 for breakfast, $100 for lunch, $125 for dinner. I mean $75 worth of bacon eggs and mickey waffles...:confused: (Don't get me wrong I love Mickey waffles)
-we didn't like any of the ceremony sites for Wishes... we really wanted to keep our casual tropical theme and want to see the castle. We thought about the beach by the WP but you can't see the castle from there
-We decided we would rather use the extra money to put a down payment on a house:thumbsup2
So we decided we will have an at home reception to celebrate with all our friends who aren't at Disney with us- this is probably going to be a casual pig roast.

What did you love or regret about this choice?
I love the idea of a casual relaxed wedding that I will actually have FUN at! We will keep the elements we like about weddings but get rid of everything that we don't think is important to us. I'm excited that it will be very small and intimate and that our special moment will only be shared with those MOST important to us.
I haven't had my wedding yet but the only thing I may regret is not having my friends there... but I think the pig roast will make me feel better about this. Some of our friends said they would rather do this than go to Disney for the wedding (of course others are still saying they want to "crash" the wedding)

Basically, what was your experience? And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony?
Like I said I haven't had my wedding yet so all I can share are my plans and expectations. After the ceremony we plan to do the cake cutting- I will eat the cake at this time too bc I love cake. We then will box up the extra cake for the guests. We plan to have Mickey and Minnie and do all the first dance stuff and then get tons of pics. Then we'll have dinner at OHana and hopefully a Wishes cruise on the Grand 1:banana: Then when we get home we will have a giant party with all our friends so everyone can see the pics and DVD and just have more FUN! Keep in mind we plan for this to resemble more of a party than a reception... no ballrooms. We will either wait a few months for the weather to better (maybe our 6 month anniversary) and have an outside pig roast- or we will have more of a cocktail party at an upscale casino near where we live.

As for upgrades...
I plan to change the color of the flowers in my bouquet... don't know if this will be a charge
NO extras bouts or corsages but do plan to fly in fresh leis from hawaii:love:
Mickey and Minnie
MK Photoshoot
Would like to upgrade cake but will have to eval cost
Maybe some extra flower petals

That's about it! Hope that helps. This thread was a great idea:idea: . I love seeing what other escape brides experiences have been like!

tinkerlisa
02-11-2009, 07:55 AM
If no one wants to watch your kids, you could hire "Kids Nite Out". We used them in September-they are WONDERFUL! They reviewed everything with us on the phone when we made our reservation and then again when they arrived. They played games with the kids, took them to Olivia's at OKW for Dinner, made sure they got their bath's and that they were in bed at a reasonable hour. Their fee's are very reasonable! These two kids aren't used to having a babysitter, whom they don't know-but the sitter warmed them right up and they've even ask when we go back in April if they can get the same person again!

Yeah I figured I would try them if my family didnt want to watch them.:)

tinkerlisa
02-11-2009, 08:08 AM
ALL I CAN SAY IS THANK YOU!
This thread made me realize a couple of things.
1. those who are important should be there
2. if people can't understand that that's their issue not mine.
3. I'm cool with the no home reception thing. We'll do an open house when we buy a house anyway.


So, here's my question...How do I get my mother to BACK OFF! Her standard line is "You shouldn't have to miss out on the gifts!" Um...Did she regress to say 8 years old??? :rotfl: She is very quick to stack the guest list with family-but forgets DF has family too...I don't want to say my vows in front of a gazzillion people...Honestly, if I could get away with it just being me and DF I'd be good with that.

Thank you for making it clear in my mind what I want...an escape is perfect.


To get her to back off...hmm... That is hard because each situation is different. Customarily, the brides family pays for the wedding(not so much the case anymore though). DF and I are paying for the wedding ourselves. How i got my mom to back off is by this: "Are you going to help me pay for my wedding(my mom can barely support herself and my sister) because I sure as hell can't pay for a wedding up here with the whole family!" She backed off on that and moved to other tactics like "Lisa, Aunt Jean was already planning a trip to Disney for that same week(YEAH RIGHT) and would like to come to your wedding." I felt bad okaying it for my favorite aunt so now I guess Aunt Jean is coming to! But it makes up for the people on my fiance's side that won't be there i guess. I only invited my favorite aunt because my mom's boyfriend isn't coming and I didn't want my mom to feel all alone.
It is hard getting her to back off. She gets trickier each time we talk about the wedding. The last time I was with her, we went shopping and she asked if she could dress in all black like Morticia Addams!:scared1:

My mom said we should have a wedding up here so we can do a registry. I have been with Stan for almost 8 YEARS!!! We own a house together. I need nothing! Besides I am not materialistic! She was like but you'll get MONEY!! I said "well I signed up for the Disney Honeymoon Registry, let my guests buy breakfast at Chef Mickey's for my kids!":rotfl:

NikkiPants
02-11-2009, 02:38 PM
We are having an Escape wedding because we wanted a small ceremony and would rather it be a private thing instead of a gazillion people there. We are planning on having a reception of sorts when we are home, but I kind of feel like we are doing it to please people. Because believe me when I say that I have a large family and mostly all of them were angry they can not attend our ceremony.
My finacee's family is giving us problems about travelling to Florida. [They are jerks, in general.] We told them they shouldn't come if they don't want to because we don't need the stress.
So really, I say be true to what YOU TWO want. It's your day and you should have it exactly how you want it! :goodvibes

Wish on a Star
02-11-2009, 02:49 PM
I think that my favorite thing about the Escape Wedding that I am planning is that it is stress free. Knowing that this might be the only vacation we are having for a while- I wanted to make sure it was fun and RELAXING. The choices with and Escape allow me to make it unique to me and yet somehow I feel like the choices are not overwhelming. I kinda feel like everything is going to be taken care of when I get down to Florida and I am hoping to feel like a guest at my own wedding- just show up for the fun!!!

D&R love Disney
02-12-2009, 04:36 PM
Why did you choose to go with an Escape wedding?

I wanted a destination wedding at it was between Las Vegas and Disney, Disney won out. We had 9 guests and it was wonderful and then had a big party for 100 6 weeks later at home.

What did you love or regret about this choice?

Loved being able to get married in Disney, loved SBP, and loved having a MK photo session.

Basically, what was your experience? And how did you celebrate with everyone after the ceremony?

Wonderful experience, Disney was great to work with. We upgraded flowers and added the chocolate castle topper to our cake.
The night before the wedding we did a Wishes cruise for us and our guests.
After our 3:00 pm ceremony we had dinner for 11 at Yachtsman Steakhouse. The restaurant did a wonderful job and the food was fantastic.
After dinner we all went back to our suite for a short time to say good night to our guests.

The next morning we had our MK photo shoot and were also chosen to be the Grand Marshalls in the parade!

tinks_1989
02-13-2009, 11:36 AM
We did an Escape Collection (then called "Intimate") vow renewal in January 2007 and frankly found the experience somewhat disappointing. The Disney Weddings people were pleasant but impersonal. There was an element of being "treated like a princess," but it seemed very pre-fabricated and standardized.

this was my main concern of doing a escape wedding

i didnt care if it were just me and dave at our wedding

that quote is from mouse wedding.com and i find it quiet upsetting that a well
known website quiet alot of people use to help plan their disney wedding says that

disneypolybride2008
02-13-2009, 06:38 PM
we picked it because i dreamed of getting married in Disney World. At first on the webiste i only saw Wishes for some reason and was bummed at the 10K minimum expenditure. After thinking i'd have to settle for an at home wedding -with no where around here that i would even want to get married at. Then i searched some more and found Escape weddings... WOW! The price was right and so was the location, Sunset Point. My DH proposed to me at the Poly on my bday in 2007 and we booked our wedding in Disney two months later for NYE 2008. It was a bit of a decision to pick Sunset Point b/c of only getting to have 8 guests. We ended up goign with what we wanted and it worked out fine. We only had 4 guests come anyway. the wedding was so magical and breathtaking! thanks to Stan and Randy we now have gorgeous photos and videos of our special day. Nothign would've came close at home here! Disney is so special to us and to have a weddign there was a perfect fit!! My only regret was that my mom and grandma didnt get to go but they would'nt have been able to come out here where i live either. They were so happy for us and watched ourweddign on a live webcast! I couldnt imagine a weddign anywhere but there! We had rev. Kevin Knox and he was fabulous. Seeign the castle in the background of our photos was a dream come true!

we met our guests for lunch in germany at epcot. it was a bit loud for my grandpa but the rest of us enjoyed it. the cost was great for us too.

it was also nice to have a built in honeymoon, no plane ride after the wedding... just going to play at disney world some more... it was great!

we also splurged and stayed at the Poly and the monorail, lounging on the beach, playing in the pool and seeing the castle, the water parade, fireworks and all that great food made us so happy to have had a Disney Wedding.

:thumbsup2 :thumbsup2 :thumbsup2 :thumbsup2 :thumbsup2 :bride:

Petals & Pixie Dust
02-13-2009, 06:42 PM
To get her to back off...hmm... That is hard because each situation is different. Customarily, the brides family pays for the wedding(not so much the case anymore though). DF and I are paying for the wedding ourselves. How i got my mom to back off is by this: "Are you going to help me pay for my wedding(my mom can barely support herself and my sister) because I sure as hell can't pay for a wedding up here with the whole family!" She backed off on that and moved to other tactics like "Lisa, Aunt Jean was already planning a trip to Disney for that same week(YEAH RIGHT) and would like to come to your wedding." I felt bad okaying it for my favorite aunt so now I guess Aunt Jean is coming to! But it makes up for the people on my fiance's side that won't be there i guess. I only invited my favorite aunt because my mom's boyfriend isn't coming and I didn't want my mom to feel all alone.
It is hard getting her to back off. She gets trickier each time we talk about the wedding. The last time I was with her, we went shopping and she asked if she could dress in all black like Morticia Addams!:scared1:

My mom said we should have a wedding up here so we can do a registry. I have been with Stan for almost 8 YEARS!!! We own a house together. I need nothing! Besides I am not materialistic! She was like but you'll get MONEY!! I said "well I signed up for the Disney Honeymoon Registry, let my guests buy breakfast at Chef Mickey's for my kids!":rotfl:



My mom tries...but oh well. I just wish she wouldn't be so worried about gifts. DF and I have lived together for 8 years...we don't need anything. I think she thinks she has to get back all the money she spent on wedding gifts for people over the years...HER ideal guest list gets out of control! :rotfl:

disneypolybride2008
02-14-2009, 06:26 AM
My mom tries...but oh well. I just wish she wouldn't be so worried about gifts. DF and I have lived together for 8 years...we don't need anything. I think she thinks she has to get back all the money she spent on wedding gifts for people over the years...HER ideal guest list gets out of control! :rotfl:

That's the same similar situation we were in, we were together for 9 years and owned a house together and didnt need anything. We too were paying for the whole wedding ourselves. As it is we have yet to hear a congratulations from his side of the family and have yet to see a card or gift. tomorrow we're having our wedding party at home for our NYE wedding now that our photos and video have just arrived.

I am SO glad we went with our Disney Wedding, after all it's for the two of you, so do what makes YOU both happy. :dance3:

jodeeluvsdisney
02-14-2009, 09:27 AM
Another Escape bride who was extremely happy with her wedding!

It was perfect and magical and stress-free, and best of all affordable considering we paid for the entire thing ourselves. Our upgrades were minimal- rose wand for MOH, flower purses for the moms, corsages for the dads and a corsage for BM. We had the standard cake, no extra drinks, no lavish transportation other than the included limo. We did use outside photography and videography. And of course the MK photo shoot!

We had a luncheon at the Swan and Dolphin and then we did a Grand 1 Wishes cruise later that night after the ceremony and it was perfect since it gave everyone time to change into comfy clothes and nap beforehand!!

I loved the opportunity for the MK photo shoot and just a different wedding all around from what we were used to attending.

I wouldn't change a thing. It allowed us to have a relaxing wonderful time with our immediate families and friends!!

We had a large, very casual at-home reception at our house following the wedding, and we received a ton of gifts even though we had only a couple of tiny registries (both older, lived in our own homes for a long time before marrying- didn't need much!)

tinkerlisa
02-14-2009, 09:47 AM
My mom tries...but oh well. I just wish she wouldn't be so worried about gifts. DF and I have lived together for 8 years...we don't need anything. I think she thinks she has to get back all the money she spent on wedding gifts for people over the years...HER ideal guest list gets out of control! :rotfl:

LOL! At one point my mom tried her hardest to convince me to cancel after I had already paid my deposit! I said why do you plan on dying?:lmao: (we joke like that all the time) she said we can do a potluck dinner at my grandfathers and have the ceremony there. Not that there is anything wrong with that because i have known others to do that, but its just not how i envisioned MY WEDDING!!!

disprincessatheart
02-14-2009, 04:53 PM
My mom tries...but oh well. I just wish she wouldn't be so worried about gifts. DF and I have lived together for 8 years...we don't need anything. I think she thinks she has to get back all the money she spent on wedding gifts for people over the years...HER ideal guest list gets out of control! :rotfl:

We did our escape wedding last spring. My mom was the same way. What she did was invite 50+ people to my shower. I figured if she wanted to do that fine. Well, they all showed up knowing they were not invited to the wedding and brought tons of gifts :scared1: It seemed to please her to be able to throw a nice party at home and invite all her friends and relatives, and to be able to talk up the DIsney wedding. The day of though everyone, even my aunt who'd thrown a huge 200+ person wedding for her own daughter at a very high end place, said it was one of the nicest weddings they'd ever been to. My mom conceeded that it was really great to have everything done for us and to be in such a beautiful place. Everyone still talks about it 9 months later and DH and I are talking about a grand gathering with an anniversary party in 4 more years! DH was thinking VR until I told him that a VR is the same price as a wedding, then he asked if we could just throw a party without the ceremony! :)

LovelyPrincess432
02-14-2009, 05:20 PM
Thanks for all the input, and I'm glad this has been able to help out some others. The escape wedding still sounds wonderful to me, unfortunately I may not be able to have it though. Our parents are helping us pay for everything, and therefore a huge part of the decision making process. While it's nice that they will be helping us out, I feel like the wedding has to be here. We're thinking we may have a disney themed wedding here and then travel to Disney for our honeymoon.