has anyone gotten divorced to move to FL?

[newholidayx2]

theres a chance I may be getting divorced in the very near future and moving to FL
any tips on making the transition any easier?

[CastleCreations]

theres a chance I may be getting divorced in the very near future and moving to FL
any tips on making the transition any easier?

I don't know if I have any tips to make it easier...but I got divorced and moved down here. My mother lived here and I had her, but the transition was interesting.
I'm not sure what your current situation is now, but if you need a friend to chat with, you can PM me..
:grouphug: Big hugs to you...good luck with everything.

[Loverly]

I remember a DISer who actually did this.
She was sort of "addicted" to WDW and vacationed there a lot-like for weeks at a time-at the Swan
She ended up leaving her DH (and her kids with him) and worked at WDW driving on The AK Safari ride.

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[j109]

any tips on making the transition any easier?

Stop obsessing over Off Kilter?

[Loverly]

We just saw them for the first time at WDW-after 12 + trips there-they were good!:thumbsup2

[phinsphan]

I'm recently divorced and it stinks! I couldn't imagine moving at this point but if you can more power to you! Divorce stinks!!!!:guilty: :sad1:

I'm sorry that you might be getting divorced especially if you have kids. My boys are with my ex/their dad this weekend. Thankfully I get them for Thanksgiving. It's no fun and I wish you the best!

[nurse.darcy]

Okay, divorce is one thing. Divorcing to move to Fla so you can go to WDW more is just plain crazy. . .lol. Having been divorced I know this is a hard thing. . .

[Loverly]

Okay, divorce is one thing. Divorcing to move to Fla so you can go to WDW more is just plain crazy. . .lol. Having been divorced I know this is a hard thing. . .

I agree. I think the joy and fun some people have at WDW creates a false reality that they wish they could go to WDW every day and their life would be perfect-ya know?

That is what happened to that person I mentioned-I can't imagine giving up seeing my kids every day or week(hers were middle school age-lived up North) in order to run a WDW ride every day and earn a "so-so, but not that great salary":confused3

[lookingforward]

I live in south Florida and there is a sense of "vacation/paradise" when people relocate here. They are usually dissapointed when they realize that living here is much different than vactioning here. The name of your thread states Gotten divorced TO move to FL? Not sure if this is accurate but if that is the reason for the divorce (to live in Florida) then I would rethink.

As much as I LOVE disney moving to be closer to it can't compare to the thrill of a vacation there. Think traffic, work, grocery shopping, hurricanes, etc (normal everyday life) and you have a picture of LIVING here. Think magical moments, clean surroundings, fantasy and you have a picture of disney getaway. Neither the two shall meet.

[sandybobandy]

I *just* started the divorce process and have flirted with the idea of moving to FL with my dog. But then I realize the economy sucks just about everywhere and the last thing I need ontop of the stress of my marriage ending is finding a place to live, a new job, and trying to find a salon to help me deal with my hair in a humid state like Florida. :)

Anyway, maybe I'll move there some day. I'm only 26 so I know I have plenty of time to make that decision.

I wish you luck in whatever you decide!!

[LindaR]

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[goofy4tink]

I guess it depends on what kind of support system you have in Florida. If you'll pretty much be 'on your own' then I say don't do it. Making a move to someplace so distant from where you are now is hard enough when you have a support system. But, to do it, alone, on top of a divorce...well, I certainly wouldn't do it.
I am planning on moving down to Florida when my dd gets through college, with my dh. But, I can't imagine divorcingand them making such a drastic move.
If you have family there, then it may be okay. But, I have to tell you.....central Florida and Orlando are not 'WDW'....WDW is fantasy..Orlando is no different than any other major city...crime, griminess, homelessness...all the regular city issues, maybe more since it's so warm. You don't have the cold weather to alleviate some of the crime. At least up north the crime rate drops when it gets to 35 degrees!!

I certainly would hope that you aren't thinking of divorce as a way to get to Orlando. Kind of a harsh choice to make, for kids that are involved.

[newholidayx2]

Because of coming to wdw solo ive met several local people. When I was here in Sept I met someone and now not sure where my feelings lie - right now Im thinking definately down here. My marriage hasnt been happy for quite a long time, we were just coasting along. Whats holding me back is not wanting to move on my own, needing that support system.
Ive been staying in a town about 30min drive from WDW, getting over there about every other day. So yes I do know living in FL isnt just going to Disney.

[lookingforward]

Because of coming to wdw solo ive met several local people. When I was here in Sept I met someone and now not sure where my feelings lie - right now Im thinking definately down here. My marriage hasnt been happy for quite a long time, we were just coasting along. Whats holding me back is not wanting to move on my own, needing that support system.
Ive been staying in a town about 30min drive from WDW, getting over there about every other day. So yes I do know living in FL isnt just going to Disney.

I do hope you find happiness. Living in a unhappy marriage is a difficult thing. I hope things work out wherever you want them to! :goodvibes

[acm563]

Because of coming to wdw solo ive met several local people. When I was here in Sept I met someone and now not sure where my feelings lie - right now Im thinking definately down here. My marriage hasnt been happy for quite a long time, we were just coasting along. Whats holding me back is not wanting to move on my own, needing that support system.
Ive been staying in a town about 30min drive from WDW, getting over there about every other day. So yes I do know living in FL isnt just going to Disney.

Typically I would be thinking none of my business, stay out of it but ieyiyi.....cant keep quiet with this post and since you invited comment.
At first I thought you were saying you were getting divorced and wanted a change of scenery so you were thinking of moving to Fl...and I have to agree with others who posted that without family etc there then it would be one stress on top of another stress and I would wait let life calm down get my life together and then if the idea of moving to Fl was still as attractive I would go for it..however this is now what I read...
"I have been unhappy with my marrage, have been going to Fl solo, found some one who floats my boat for whatever reason and so now I am ready to dump everything , includingmy marriage to move to Fl to be with someone whom I really dont know from Adam..."
If you are unhappy with your marriage then do one of 2 things, work on it and make it better or get a divorce and get your life together and find YOU first. Until you find "you" and know that you can live a life alone you are just trading one set of problems for a whole other set. I am curious as to how old you are. I am just saying think and let your head rule this decision and not your libido. Is it possible this fantasy could work? yes by some miracle but its not likely. Obviously something is lacking in your relationship with your spouse but I definitly dont see this as the answer.

[*pixie*dust*]

So you met someone is FL in September and you want to leave your spouse to go there? You are headed for disaster my friend. Disaster.

[Carrieannew]

Go for it. You only live once. Get out of the unhappy marriage. It wont last with this person but if Florida is where your heart is. Go.

I will probably be the only one to post this way. But heck do it. Dont look back with regrets. Move on. Live.

[acm563]

Go for it. You only live once. Get out of the unhappy marriage. It wont last with this person but if Florida is where your heart is. Go.

I will probably be the only one to post this way. But heck do it. Dont look back with regrets. Move on. Live.
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Hhaha, Carrie...you know how to bring a chuckle and one thing is for certain it wont last with the person in Florida...
So in other words, no sympathy coming from Carrie , if you want to screw your life up. hey go for it:lmao: In one sense I completely agree but the mothering side of me has to say WTH are you thinking, snap out of it!!!!!!!!!!!!! One guarantee is that 'the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence' Take that from me, I am old......lol

[Carrieannew]

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Hhaha, Carrie...you know how to bring a chuckle and one thing is for certain it wont last with the person in Florida...
So in other words, no sympathy coming from Carrie , if you want to screw your life up. hey go for it:lmao: In one sense I completely agree but the mothering side of me has to say WTH are you thinking, snap out of it!!!!!!!!!!!!! One guarantee is that 'the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence' Take that from me, I am old......lol

I just think staying in a marriage for the ease of it, or for the kids or for any other reason is wrong. If you are so unhappy leaving crosses your mind even once, or you leave once and come back. Go. Stay gone. The other person is better off without you. They deserve someone better. Not someone who wants to leave, or has left, and came back. Your only going to mess that person up even more. And that person will be "damaged" for a long time.

And you deserve more. You deserve to be happy. If Florida makes you happy go. She is young if I remember correctly with her whole life ahead of her.

Frig it all and go. Do it. Take the chance. The relationship is a rebound. And we all know how well those work. Someone will get used... someone will get hurt. Life hurts us all at one point. Take the leap.

[acm563]

I just think staying in a marriage for the ease of it, or for the kids or for any other reason is wrong. If you are so unhappy leaving crosses your mind even once, or you leave once and come back. Go. Stay gone. The other person is better off without you. They deserve someone better. Not someone who wants to leave, or has left, and came back. Your only going to mess that person up even more. And that person will be "damaged" for a long time.

And you deserve more. You deserve to be happy. If Florida makes you happy go. She is young if I remember correctly with her whole life ahead of her.

Frig it all and go. Do it. Take the chance. The relationship is a rebound. And we all know how well those work. Someone will get used... someone will get hurt. Life hurts us all at one point. Take the leap.

Whoa girl....lol...go back and read what I wrote...I am all for getting out of a marriage if it sucks and is beyond fixing...I never advocate staying anywhere you are miserable....Where I think the foolishness comes in at is leaving your spouse because of someone else, because that IS a rebound relationship. I am just saying, either fix your marriage or get a divorce, THEN find you, BEFORE you jump into another relationship!

[lookingforward]

Take each issue seperately. If the marriage is broken then leave. But make sure the "broken" part is a true assessment of the marraige and not the thought that something better is waiting.

THEN...if the new guy is still there when you extract yourself from the broken marriage then give it a shot. The two must be seperate issues for clarity and for fairness.

I do agree with Carrie though....live the best life you can manage. Be happy and be true to yourself.

[acm563]

****disclaimer*** for anyone who might not know Carrie and I are friends which is why I can disagree with her...hahahh I looked at what I wrote and thought someone that doesnt know us might misunderstand that so I thought I would clarify

[Carrieannew]

****disclaimer*** for anyone who might not know Carrie and I are friends which is why I can disagree with her...hahahh I looked at what I wrote and thought someone that doesnt know us might misunderstand that so I thought I would clarify

who are u

[acm563]

who are u

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IDK...I thought YOU did.....

[Carrieannew]

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IDK...I thought YOU did.....

All I'm sayin is live for the moment. Do it.

End quote.

[goofy4tink]

Sometimes, it's just easier to walk away, and move on to something that looks 'better'. I know this, I've been there. My first marriage wasn't all that terrific, but I stayed. Then, I met someone, far away from home, and thought it was so much better than what I had at home. Thank heavens I didn't make a move....I was living in lala land. Now, I did leave the marriage a few years later, and have been happily married for 18 years. I did have 9 year span in between..yes, it was filled with my now dh (took him awhile to commit!!). But, would my first marriage have worked out, if I had stayed? Maybe. It was comfortable, if unexciting. Perhaps if we had worked at it, made an honest effort, it would have survived. But, as usual, hindsight is 20/20. I'm happy now, my ex is happier now. We both remarried, and had another child each.
Is this what the OP 'should' do? Not neccesarily. As long as you can honestly say that you have done all you can do, to keep the marriage together, then fine, make the move. But realize....it will cause damage to the child. You may think it won't but it will. Unless you are leaving an abusive situation, your child will have some lasting issues regarding a move, on the mother's part, to a state 1300 miles away. I know, there will be some that will disagree. That's okay. But, life, and marriage, isn't all about what's easiest or the most fun.

[lookingforward]

Sometimes, it's just easier to walk away, and move on to something that looks 'better'. I know this, I've been there. My first marriage wasn't all that terrific, but I stayed. Then, I met someone, far away from home, and thought it was so much better than what I had at home. Thank heavens I didn't make a move....I was living in lala land. Now, I did leave the marriage a few years later, and have been happily married for 18 years. I did have 9 year span in between..yes, it was filled with my now dh (took him awhile to commit!!). But, would my first marriage have worked out, if I had stayed? Maybe. It was comfortable, if unexciting. Perhaps if we had worked at it, made an honest effort, it would have survived. But, as usual, hindsight is 20/20. I'm happy now, my ex is happier now. We both remarried, and had another child each.
Is this what the OP 'should' do? Not neccesarily. As long as you can honestly say that you have done all you can do, to keep the marriage together, then fine, make the move. But realize....it will cause damage to the child. You may think it won't but it will. Unless you are leaving an abusive situation, your child will have some lasting issues regarding a move, on the mother's part, to a state 1300 miles away. I know, there will be some that will disagree. That's okay. But, life, and marriage, isn't all about what's easiest or the most fun.

I totally agree. Great advice! :hug:

[ObsessedwiththeMouse]

theres a chance I may be getting divorced in the very near future and moving to FL
any tips on making the transition any easier?

My brother moved down to Florida and is currently a cast member. He left the day he graduated high school and hasn't looked back.

For him, the transition, location-wise, was easy because my mom quit her job to help him. She moved his stuff down, went with him and picked out an apartment, got everything "set up", so to speak. I think having family down there will really make your move a lot easier.

On the downside, he's totally living in "the Disney bubble". It's very hard to get him to pay his bills (my mom still pays his rent b/c Disney doesn't pay alot), go shopping other than Disney or really anything NOT having to do with Disney. So, I can understand when people talk about a 24/7 vacation.

BUT, I also agree with Carrie above. You only live once. Go for it. If your heart is truly in Florida, then you should make the move and just do it.

Whatever you decide, good luck to you.

[brittsmum1998]

Do you have a teenage boy or am I mistaken?

[Loverly]

When I was here in Sept I met someone and now not sure where my feelings lie - right now Im thinking definately down here. .

That was only two months ago!

And what about your son?:confused3

[brittsmum1998]

I'm sorry but I have to chime in again. You said upwards in this post that you are hitting WDW every OTHER day...thats like a DVC vacation to me (one day in the parks one day out) I'm not sure you can still say you aren't "there" :confused3

I really think you should step back and think about this.

[Nie0214]

You need to take things separately. If your marriage isn't working, you need to sit down and figure out if you want to work for it or if it's beyond repair. If you decide to go through with a divorce, after that you need to rebuild and learn how to be on your own again before you can consider being with someone else. Just judging by you saying you need support to move down there shows that you really need to learn how to live with yourself.

Running away with someone you met two months ago while married isn't going to work. The real world isn't a fairy tale, sorry to say.

[leelip1982]

Dont Move To Florida. Im A Native And The Crime Is Out Of Control. Orlando Is In The Top 10 In The United States.



Dont Move To Florida

[brittsmum1998]

Dont Move To Florida. Im A Native And The Crime Is Out Of Control. Orlando Is In The Top 10 In The United States.



Dont Move To Florida

Another good reason to stay 'on property' when at Disney. I never realized the crime until we stayed outside the park at the Vistana and realized Orlando had their own 'MOST WANTED' station 24 hours per day :scared1:

Hopefully the OP will add this to the numerous list of reasons why she SHOULD not move to Orlando. :confused3