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ChrizJen
11-17-2008, 03:00 PM
(My "TR" about my experience on Saturday)

This is long, but I figured it was worth sharing. It was quite an experience for me...:thumbsup2


When I got word via email that there were to be protests nationwide, and that there would be one here in St. Louis, I made the decision that I would be there. I committed some of my time over the past week to making signs and spreading the word of the event. In an effort to raise awareness of the protest, I sent emails to everyone I know. I simply sent the info to them, and left it at that. I figured I would let them take from it what they wanted.

So Saturday morning came, and my partner and I got bundled up in our layers of clothing, gathered all of the signs, and headed out the door. This was our first political protest, and I was psyched!! I was ready!! I honestly didn’t know what to expect, but I was determined that even if the 5 of us in our group ended up being the only 5 people to show up, we were going to be the loudest, most energetic group of 5 you’ve ever seen! As we approached the Old Courthouse in Downtown St. Louis, I was amazed and a little overwhelmed by what I saw. We were there 40 minutes early, and already the steps and the sidewalk were packed!! It was such a rush of emotion that I can’t even describe it. It was like pride and exhilaration all wrapped up in one. In all, we were told that over 1,000 people showed up. It was amazing.

But the most amazing of all was what happened next. When the sidewalk got crowded and the speakers began making their speeches, we decided that we might be better able to see and hear if we crossed to the other side of the street where there were fewer people. So when it was safe, we made our way to the other side. We walked to a small clearing right across from the steps where the podium was situated. And there he was. Standing alone there at the curb was my father. The mere sight of him brought a whole new wave of emotion across me, and it was everything that I could do to keep from weeping right there in front of him. And that was our moment. You know the one that people speak of, when something happens and you’re able to look at your parents in an entirely different light? That was our moment. I fought back the tears that were flooding in, and I hugged him and thanked him for coming. He must have known from the look on my face just how much it meant to me that he was there, because he said, “Baby, I wouldn’t have missed it for the world!”

Here’s a little back story about my dad and me. He’s known for a while that I’m gay, but we just never really talk about it. It’s a silent understanding that we have. I grew up with strong Catholic influences, and I just always assumed that it was better left unsaid. So I don’t bring it up. He’s respectful of my life, and I’m respectful of the fact that there are some things that he just can’t talk about. It’s always been that way. So you can imagine how overcome I was with emotion and awe that my dad showed up to support me.

We stood side by side holding signs for an hour and a half, not saying one word to each other. Nothing needed to be said. He said it all by showing up. I don’t know if his being there was because he realizes how important it is to fight this fight, or if it was simply because he knows how important it is to me. But to be quite honest, I don’t care. I was moved to tears that day because he showed up in the bitter cold, fighting a terrible head cold, and wearing no gloves on his hands. He showed up. That’s all that matters to me, and he is a different person in my eyes for that.



...DAD, I LOVE YOU!! Thanks for being there! I hope you know how much it meant to me.
Love,
Christal

rosiep
11-17-2008, 03:07 PM
That was absolutely beautiful. I'm here at work and there are tears streaming down my face.
Bless your family!

OrlandoMike
11-17-2008, 03:15 PM
Second the tears here.......

What a great story!

soulmates
11-17-2008, 03:16 PM
Amazing, beautiful story...thank you for sharing, this made my day!!!;)

DVC~OKW~96
11-17-2008, 03:16 PM
Oh my gosh. I cannot tell you how moved I am.

What an incredible person you are, and your father too.

Absolutely incredible.

rpmdfw
11-17-2008, 03:22 PM
In tears at work, here, too!

Congrats to both of you for standing up against intolerance!

jamieandben
11-17-2008, 03:29 PM
Your dad sounds like good people to me.:grouphug:

glenpreece
11-17-2008, 03:33 PM
that was so sweet

Cinderella2004
11-17-2008, 03:56 PM
Know what? This is the first time I've visited this board-the first thread in the forum caught my eye....then I scrolled down and read yours......

I have tears in my eyes for you!!! What a great Dad. That must have been such a special moment for you.

:grouphug:

Uncle Remus
11-17-2008, 05:54 PM
We need this:

http://www.redstaplerchronicles.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/kleenex.jpg


Beautiful story. :goodvibes

kingLouiethe1
11-17-2008, 06:07 PM
I didn't cry, but I came close!

mykidsintow
11-17-2008, 06:33 PM
Aww! WTG, Dad!!!

ChrizJen
11-17-2008, 06:38 PM
Thanks, guys for the kind words!

It was a very special day for me indeed!! :thumbsup2 Not one I'll soon forget.

And because my dad and I have such a difficult time talking about these things, I was thinking of just giving him a copy of what I wrote. Just to show him that I realize it was no small feat for him to be there. And so that he knows the impact he made on our relationship that day. :goodvibes

TuckandStuiesMom
11-17-2008, 07:32 PM
ChrizJen -- that is WONDERFUL!!!!!!!:goodvibes

DVC~OKW~96
11-17-2008, 08:46 PM
Make sure you include our replies too, so he knows that we all think he's one amazing man. :hug:

Saxton
11-17-2008, 09:53 PM
Wow, absolutely incredible. You've got a wonderful Dad!

wallyb
11-18-2008, 05:52 AM
Nice story. :flower3:
Great dad! :thumbsup2

Can't cry - expensive under eye firming treatment.
;)

Disneysoloist
11-18-2008, 06:00 AM
WOW. You must have been blown away. Hugs to you and your dad for bravery alone, let alone an unbelievable love.

hematite153
11-18-2008, 12:24 PM
Ohhh...you made me cry too.

What a great moment for both of you.

bubie2.5
11-18-2008, 12:30 PM
I just read this and not only are there tears streaming down my face, I'm actually sobbing. My father disowned my brother when he came out (at 18) and died long before I knew I was a lesbian. Sometimes I think about what would he had done if he knew about me, you are lucky.

koolaidmoms
11-18-2008, 12:42 PM
How wonderful! You made me cry. If only all children were as loved as you are. :hug:

PennyW
11-18-2008, 02:43 PM
Pass those tissues! How amazing for you ... what a wonderful Dad! :)

PghLybrt
11-18-2008, 02:55 PM
Oh my ....you did it to me too!!!

That story is absolutley wonderful!

ChrizJen
11-18-2008, 03:52 PM
I just read this and not only are there tears streaming down my face, I'm actually sobbing. My father disowned my brother when he came out (at 18) and died long before I knew I was a lesbian. Sometimes I think about what would he had done if he knew about me, you are lucky.

:hug: :sad1:
I'm sorry to you and to all who have to live in the shadow of parents who don't understand.
And yes, I do know how incredibly lucky I am. I've always considered myself lucky to have such a wonderful dad, but it was like a light went off in my head on Saturday.

And I have to mention that my partner called her parents who live in Michigan to tell them about it. Her mom (who's always been very supportive of her) said that she was sad that she couldn't be here with us. But then her dad took the phone started talking about what a waste of time it was, and that we made the choice to live this lifestyle, so we should live with the consequences. :sad1: Needless, to say, Jen was very sad and disappointed to hear her dad say those hateful words. (But on the bright side...if I know Jen's mom, she gave him QUITE an earful after they got off the phone...LOL)

Anyhow, my point is that I do know how lucky I am, and after this experience, I plan to make every moment count when it comes to my dad. I truly believe that this was his way of saying (without really having to say it) that he loves me unconditionally, and he supports me 100%.

DVC~OKW~96
11-18-2008, 04:01 PM
He did say it, your Dad. :hug: He didn't need verbals. He did more than put sound to his support of you, he put action. We value action higher than verbals in some cases, yes? It's also the man thing. Men tend to show, not tell. (I said 'tend'). :)

Your saying that you plan to make every moment count is the critical factor. :) As old and worn out as this concept is, you sincerely never know how many moments you will have. You now have a chance to show him your love and 100% support, eh? :hug:

Timon-n-Pumbaa Fan
11-18-2008, 06:48 PM
Ok, this post should come with a Kleenex warning.

I am glad that you got that surprise. Parents....just when you think you know them. ;)

jenn&nelsonrego
11-19-2008, 11:03 AM
That was absolutely beautiful. I'm here at work and there are tears streaming down my face.
Bless your family!

Second the tears here.......

What a great story!

In tears at work, here, too!



Looks like I am in good company, with my kleenex in one hand, typing with the other and sniffling like a baby...

RickinNYC
11-19-2008, 01:56 PM
Actions speak louder than words and your Dad had a LOT to say! What a great story! Your Dad is a testament to what true fatherhood is all about. AWESOME!:thumbsup2

Debbie Jean
11-19-2008, 02:49 PM
This is the most powerful, touching and moving story I've heard in such a long time... thank you so much for sharing it :goodvibes

:sad: ***happy tears***

npmommie
11-19-2008, 03:39 PM
wonderful story!!:hug:

Tiggernut_jadie
11-20-2008, 05:38 AM
Just caught up with this thread and joining those with tears in theri eyes. I'm so glad for you and your Dad that this happened.

Good on ya Crystal's Dad - you are one VERY cool straight person! :thumbsup2