O/T 1st night without a dummy give me strength

[buzz for boys]

:scared: Title says it all really trying to get my 2 1/2 yr old daughter to give up her dummy because she keeps biting through them and to be honest im convinced that she dont need it!!
Someone just needs to tell her that!! Been nearly 2 hours since she went to bed and she still awake and moaning for it !!!:scared:

[alisonbestford]

Oh dear :scared1:

Afraid I've always been one for an 'easy life' so have waited til the kids gave up 'comfort' items of their own accord ........Found DS's (now 21) 'blankie' hidden at the bottom of his bed when he was 11 and we moved house......:rolleyes1

Hope everything goes ok and you get some sleep - biting through her dummy doesn't sound healthy........ :flower3:

[AlanUK]

Just popping this over to the community board :)

[Bolanette87]

My parents bribed mine out of me with a Green Care Bear when I was younger....

If you can get through tonight she probably won't ask about it again!

Bob xoxoxox

[Lisash]

When my kids were small we got them off dummys at Christmas time by leaving them for Santa on Xmas Eve with a note to ask him to swap them for a gift (I thinks DD's was a bike). If they complained about wanting the dummy back afterwards I said they could have one but the gift had to go back. It seemed to do the trick ;) Good luck :)

[natalielongstaff]

Im hoping you have a better night tonight, if you don't give in then it should only take a few nights :hug:

[Tillybud]

We need to think about taking dd's away. When we took ds away we planted it in the garden and he's still waiting for the 'noonoo' tree to grow ;) good luck with it xx

[florida sun]

Good luck and hope you managed to get through the night:goodvibes

[Clare D]

Oh dear. With my first I never gave him a dummy for fear of this problem, thankfully he didn't seem to need one. However by the time Owen was 7 weeks I nearly ran to the shop to get him one. Not looking forward to this problem either but from what friends have told me in a similar position they do grow out of it themselves eventually.
Have you thought about a comfort blanket instead or like I have for both of mine a Kaloo bear that is a head attached to a flat fabric body so they are a comforter too. They do them in pink and she could choose her own.
Good luck and hope you had some sleep last night

[Cyrano]

Oh dear. With my first I never gave him a dummy for fear of this problem

We stuck to this principle with our three as well.

From friends the idea of that she is a big girl with a suitable reward seems to work.
Agree with others, stick to it I'm sure you will manage to wean her off the dummy :)

[T16GEM]

When my kids were small we got them off dummys at Christmas time by leaving them for Santa on Xmas Eve with a note to ask him to swap them for a gift (I thinks DD's was a bike). If they complained about wanting the dummy back afterwards I said they could have one but the gift had to go back. It seemed to do the trick ;) Good luck :)

This is what my Mom did with me! then the next night I wanted my dummy back and she said that the Reindeer were using them! :rotfl: I am trying to summon up the courage to try and get Shelby's dummy off her now, she only has them to sleep most of the time, but as Harley is still pretty little she would just nick his if she wanted one! :laughing:

[pixiepower04]

From about the age of 2 and a half we told the kids that when they were 3 they were now a 'big boy/girl' and had to leave their dummy out for the dummy fairy to take away and give to another baby who needed it.

We got a friend to write a thankyou note from the 'dummy fairy' and they were chuffed to bits and very proud to have helped another little baby :love:

[buzz for boys]

Thanks for the support x DD did eventually go to sleep at just after midnight she woke again at 3am and asked for her dummy so DH said ill go look for it and then just got back into bed :rotfl2: She just rolled over and went back to sleep without it !!!
She woke this morning and has decided that the spiders have took her dummy *** spiders are nasty :rotfl:
Bless her im just hoping that tonight goes as easy. I was going to wait for her to give it to santa but I was getting worried about her biting them in case she choked on some of the silicone in her sleep
Fingers crossed for tonight - wish me luck !!!
Louise x

[mandymouse]

Aww bless her, I'm glad she was OK in the end :)

[PoppyAnna]

Best of luck for night two!

Both my girls suck their thumbs, and while I'm not happy about it they have regular dental check-ups which are always okay and they only suck them when they are tired now.

All three of my best frinds girls had dummies but she took them away after their first birthday as she felt they could get comfort from a cuddle etc.
This seemed to work for her as they were still quite young and hadn't got too attached, I suppose.

[poppie123]

Good luck for tonight.:wizard:
My youngest was 3 when i finally managed to get her off her dummy. In the end the only thing that worked was i cut the top off of it with a pair of scissors (when she wasn't looking of course) and left the dummy on the table.
When she did venture over to it she kept putting it in her mouth taking it out and looking at it over and over. She herself decided that the dummy was no longer any good and that was it so to speak!

[thelittlemermaid83]

Good Luck!

My DD had a dummy till she was about 8 months untill she bit the thing, no dummy was good enough for her after that. It had a large teet and all the ones i saw were small ones.

She soon got over it, hope your little one does too :hug:

[buzz for boys]

Omg I am in total shock my dd took herself off to bed I gave her a drink and a kiss and then 10 minutes later she was fast asleep - not even a mention of a dummy !! Cant really be that easy can it ????

[thelittlemermaid83]

YAY! Well done!

[PoppyAnna]

Omg I am in total shock my dd took herself off to bed I gave her a drink and a kiss and then 10 minutes later she was fast asleep - not even a mention of a dummy !! Cant really be that easy can it ????

Brilliant! Good girl!

[Tammy Stringer]

I remember trying to wean our girls off theirs - when they were about 2.

We left them out "for the birds" and said they needed them for their babies!!!!:rotfl: and in return they would be leaving a little gift. When they woke up the dummies were gone and they had a book which seemed to do the trick.

I must admit I wouldn't have been without dummies though when they were little - a real godsend to comfort them and help them sleep.

Tammy

[natalielongstaff]

Omg I am in total shock my dd took herself off to bed I gave her a drink and a kiss and then 10 minutes later she was fast asleep - not even a mention of a dummy !! Cant really be that easy can it ????

Thats brilliant :cool1:

[buzz for boys]

Bless her she did sleep through without it last night and I was so pleased. Then I took her to playschool she normally goes in holding her dummy even though she always gives it to them without it going into her mouth she went crazy because she didnt have it and seriously sobbed. When I collected her she was begging for it - feel like a complete cow now but still staying strong. Never realised how much reassurance the dummy offered her !!

[PoppyAnna]

Bless her she did sleep through without it last night and I was so pleased. Then I took her to playschool she normally goes in holding her dummy even though she always gives it to them without it going into her mouth she went crazy because she didnt have it and seriously sobbed. When I collected her she was begging for it - feel like a complete cow now but still staying strong. Never realised how much reassurance the dummy offered her !!

Thats a shame, you may have to replace it with another token she is happy to give them, young children often want to take "tokens" with them to regular places they go or visit. My DD3 has to take an object to pre-school every time she goes:confused3

The friend I spoke about previously came to my house once for a playdate with her eldest who was 15months at the time and the two girls were tired and started falling out, my friends DD kept going to her change bag looking for her "yum-yum" as she called it - she was so miserable when she realised it wasn't there she screamed and cried for ages but my friend stayed strong (it is hard) and didn't give in......she said the same thing, it really did comfort her more than she knew.

[jackieleanne]

My mum did the santa thing with me at Christmas he got my dummy and I got a special present for giving it up.

[T16GEM]

I'm glad that last night went well. I am sticking to the "only when you are sleeping" thing at the moment - just until we come back from Florida then they are out of here! I don't think it would be fair to take them off her when she will be in a strange environement and may find it hard to sleep anyway. :)

[jackieleanne]

One thing that could be good is using teddy's as a comforter, my mum did with me and now she hates the fact im still hooked on them and have way to many. She told Jonathan I wasn't allowed to get more than one in Disney and he listened he was terrified of getting in her bad books. :lmao:

Its good she got through the night is there anything like a teddy or favourite toy or book she could take with her to give to them.

[arieliwish]

I hope it gets better for you soon.

DD (now 13) had a dummy til she was almost 4, DS was born when she was 3 and half so we delayed taking it off her til later. By then she kept it by her bed and only used it at night. She decided she wanted Thomas Tank Engine Big Loader so we left Tinkerbell a note asking to swap her dummy for it. She did ask for it a couple of times but accepted Tink had taken it.
DS (now 10) had his til he was 1, he had 3 great big fat dummys, one in each hand and one in his mouth, but he bit the end off all of them in the space of one week, and refused the nice neat new ones I had. And that was him off them!!

Its like anything with kids, you think each phase will never pass and before you know it it has. Blink of an eye.

Lynn
:goodvibes

[emily1982]

Mine fell down the toilet and that was the end of that!!!

I remember looking down the toilet seeing it there and my mom saying 'well, im not getting another one'. I was probably about 3 or 4.

[Cyrano]

Bless her she did sleep through without it last night and I was so pleased. Then I took her to playschool she normally goes in holding her dummy even though she always gives it to them without it going into her mouth she went crazy because she didnt have it and seriously sobbed. When I collected her she was begging for it - feel like a complete cow now but still staying strong. Never realised how much reassurance the dummy offered her !!

You have done well :)

Agree with others that a reward may be due for DD :thumbsup2