My son's need for healing severe burns

[Dizneydawn]

Prayers for Baylor

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Hi all,

I come to you today asking for prayers and all positive thoughts for my son Baylor.

He was at a friends house Halloween afternoon (they did not have school that day) following a sleepover the night before. Thursday evening they had had a bon fire in a fire pit and the next day when the mom left for work, the boys were given instructions to stay away from the fire pit. 3 thirteen year old boys do not listen well at anytime, they went down to it and the boy who lives at the house...decided to pour gasoline on the embers...trying to relight wood still left in the pit...

It flashed back towards him..he got scared...dropped the "bowl" of gas he held...and it flew all over Baylor who was standing to his right. The flame followed the gas and Baylors left leg started on fire...

He had jeans on and the fire actually went up under his pant leg. Baylor tried to pat it out with his left hand..then tried to roll it out and when that did not work...he jumped in a pool that was 10 yards away with water thank God still in it.

Over the next 1/2 hour the boys put him in a bathtub..called a neighbor who was a registered nurse and then I got the call...I was 1/2 hour away (they live out in the country) and in route...the neighbor let me know it was pretty bad..

We had an ambulance called and brought him to Regions Hospital in St. Paul which has one of the best burn centers in the United States.

Baylor did not cry that day exept when he was told he would not be playing hockey anytime soon and to miss trick or treating. They said he had severe 2nd degree burns and should heal on his own with no skin grafting. - He was so brave even in the bathtub that he had began to debris his own leg..cuting away loose skin. I think he was also in shock.

We were given state of the art silver patches that heal burns on his leg and silvadine cream for his burns on his hand that were not as deep. He was given the option to go home or stay. He wanted to go home.

Saturday morning he felt good - too good - but by afternoon the burns started to set in and yesterday we went back for a follow up.

When they unwrapped him it was obvious that he sustained some 3rd degree burns as well around his ankle - it looks like the gas pooled at the shoe line.

They are now not sure about skin grafting - they want to give it a week or 2 to see what his body can do on it's own. I have never seen that boy cry in my life as he did yesterday and today form the pain and the dvestation or realizing how bad it is. He has no skin left from the top of his foot/ankle to just below his knee cap on the front of his leg and the burn goes around the back as well... to mid calf.

They want him to excersize the foot an dleg so it does not stiffen while it heals and he just sits and screams from the pain whenever his leg even dangles downwards.

I am waiting a call from the docs again to decide if they want him to go inpatient at this point.

It is round the clock care right now and I am just trying to get as many book parties for Tupperware as I can so I can stay at home with him. I don't think I could leave him now if I wanted to. This is the hardest thing I think I have ever faced as a parent.

They doc's know about the trip and as of now...think he will be able to go - even if he needs grafting...

They say it will be a good motivator for him...now I just need to decide what to do about the trip....do I tell him about it and have him be involved in the planning - get him in on it to suprise the other 2 - or not tell him?

I am worried if we have to delay the trip he will be devestated and feel guilty...

Anyway - please pray for him...I need a miracle now more than ever in my life...and so does he...

This is one of my favorte pics of him

http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s129/dizneydawn/Disboards005.jpg

Thanks -

[lisah0711]

:hug: Hugs and prayers for your son and your family.

[Dizneydawn]

:hug: Hugs and prayers for your son and your family.

Thank you for the support:hug:

[frdeb1999]

Thoughts and prayers heading your way. :hug:

[safetymom]

Sending healing prayers for your son. My son was severly burned several years ago. He had second degree burns on his arm, chest, face. You can hardly tell now.

Just try to take it moments at a time. I know we hate to see our children in pain.

[kimis]

Oh bless your heart. My thoughts and prayers are with him and the rest of the family. Keep us posted!

[quasar4legs]

I shall keep Baylor and your family in my thoughts, what a terrible time for you all. Watching our children in pain is a terrible thing for any parent.

Sending you a big Koala cuddle from down under.

Trish

[karen l]

I'll remember Baylor in my prayers - I hope & pray his recovery is swift. Thank God he stayed calm enough to jump in the pool of water. I hope you're able to make the trip & have a fantastic time. When you have a chance, please try to let us know how he's progressing. :grouphug:

[Elfstar]

Keeping Baylor, you and your family in our prayers. Keep a positive attitude and encourage Baylor to, also. I worked for a plastic and reconstructive surgeon for 13 years - it is miraculous what the body can do to repair itself. It is important that the joint be kept moving but they should give him something for the pain if they haven't already. Even if he needs grafting, his injuries could have been much worse. Please let us know how he progresses.

[Dizneydawn]

Thoughts and prayers heading your way. :hug:
Thank you so much...
Sending healing prayers for your son. My son was severly burned several years ago. He had second degree burns on his arm, chest, face. You can hardly tell now.

Just try to take it moments at a time. I know we hate to see our children in pain.
Thank you for saying that...it looks so awful right now..my biggest concern is the 3rd degree areas...I hope they begin to heal on their own...
Oh bless your heart. My thoughts and prayers are with him and the rest of the family. Keep us posted!
I will...please feel free to read my PTR linked in my signature - it gives you a little look into our family - and Baylor's wit...his good nature will help us all get through this...
I shall keep Baylor and your family in my thoughts, what a terrible time for you all. Watching our children in pain is a terrible thing for any parent.

Sending you a big Koala cuddle from down under.

Trish
Ohh thanks...Baylor would love to visit Australia some day...he actually was just talking about that yesterday that that is his dream vacation...
I'll remember Baylor in my prayers - I hope & pray his recovery is swift. Thank God he stayed calm enough to jump in the pool of water. I hope you're able to make the trip & have a fantastic time. When you have a chance, please try to let us know how he's progressing. :grouphug:
We have to make it - I agree that his being calm saved him more severe burns...such a blessing really..
Keeping Baylor, you and your family in our prayers. Keep a positive attitude and encourage Baylor to, also. I worked for a plastic and reconstructive surgeon for 13 years - it is miraculous what the body can do to repair itself. It is important that the joint be kept moving but they should give him something for the pain if they haven't already. Even if he needs grafting, his injuries could have been much worse. Please let us know how he progresses.

Again...sooo true...he is on pain med - oxycodone with acetominaphine (sp???) and it helps a lot but not all gone which he thinks he should get with it...so trying to help him accept the pain is hard...I think he thought it would be a quicker recovery than it has been...

[CarolynU]

Oh my goodness what a tragic story. You are all in my thoughts. Teenage boys are just that teengage boys. They think that they are invincible as we all did at that age. Keep your spirits up, and I do hope that the pain subsides soon.

[Dizneydawn]

Okay - so I have internet at the hospital and am gratefull to let you all know what is going on...

Baylor's leg started oozing today through the bandages and so we headed to the burn unit again to get re-bandaged....

The look of the nurses face was enough to say it all when she unwrapped his leg...

The doc came in and confirmed it was "not going in the right diretion" and thus the need for surgery tom at 11am

He wil have skin taken from his upper thigh and it will be taken off in several layers so they can use it in sheets to cover his whole burn area on his leg.

When Chad was burned in 1990 they put his skin through a mesh like siv in order to stretch it and that created a waffle pattern on his grafted skin..

Baylor's will not have that look...simple sheets of skin...but they will graft the whole burnt area....not just the few spots of 3rd degree because it would create more of an odd pattern on his leg to have some grafted, some new growth and his original skin...

This way it will only have a fine, white, line like a surgical incession for a scar and that will just be on the outer edges where they attach the graft...

From what I understand the donor site will be very painful..takes 10 -14 days to heal...leg should be okay in about 2 weeks as well...

He will have to wear compression socks on his leg for about a year to make sure the skin strengthens...no contact sports for many months...so no phy ed...no snowboarding and no hockey..but maybe soccer this late spring...summertime...

Literally it will be a year of progress before this is going to be mended...he will be here in the hospital for at least 5-7 days...laying still for at least 4...no flowers or live plants on this floor...we are seeing some kids with their whole heads wrapped...so he is understanding how "fortunate" (his word choice) he is....

Pastor was here earlier...I think that helped Baylor more than anything...

[courtnvm]

I sit here with tears streaming down my face for you and your son. My husband was severly burnt in a house fire about 4 years ago. He had 2 skin graft surgeries on his arm and hand. While it was not my child that went through this, my heart aches for you and your family.

You, your son, and your family will be in our prayers. From what I have experienced, and from what my husband has told me, the graft donor site is the worst of the pain, once the surgery was done.

If I could give you one bit of advice. Please get your son counseling because of this. We have just started it for my husband, and I kick myself all of the time because we didn't do it earlier. He still, over 4 years later, wakes up in middle of the night screaming that his arm is on fire. He doesn't always remember it, but I hear him almost every night.

Please, if there is anything that you need, let me know.

[twinklebug]

:hug: for Baylor...

Your pic of him reminds me of my 11yo... and the story of him standing by watching his friend do something dumb (but not doing it himself!) is exactly what my little guy would have been doing. Oiy. as they say - boys will be boys. What can we do?

You seem to be doing a great job putting up a brave front for him :hug:

Hoping for a great recovery and that he's up running around with the soccer ball around June. :woohoo:

[Dizneydawn]

I sit here with tears streaming down my face for you and your son. My husband was severly burnt in a house fire about 4 years ago. He had 2 skin graft surgeries on his arm and hand. While it was not my child that went through this, my heart aches for you and your family.

You, your son, and your family will be in our prayers. From what I have experienced, and from what my husband has told me, the graft donor site is the worst of the pain, once the surgery was done.

If I could give you one bit of advice. Please get your son counseling because of this. We have just started it for my husband, and I kick myself all of the time because we didn't do it earlier. He still, over 4 years later, wakes up in middle of the night screaming that his arm is on fire. He doesn't always remember it, but I hear him almost every night.

Please, if there is anything that you need, let me know.
Hi - great advice - I think he will need some as well...had some bad dreams already and is definetley feeling depressed about all he will miss out on...that is the biggest reason I want this trip to go on as planned...he needs something to look forward to...

I am glad your husband healed well...can I ask how his accident happened?
:hug: for Baylor...

Your pic of him reminds me of my 11yo... and the story of him standing by watching his friend do something dumb (but not doing it himself!) is exactly what my little guy would have been doing. Oiy. as they say - boys will be boys. What can we do?

You seem to be doing a great job putting up a brave front for him :hug:

Hoping for a great recovery and that he's up running around with the soccer ball around June. :woohoo:

You are so wise about boys...I think that is the most frusterating for me...he stood by and was hurt the worst...but like I told him toaday...God gives you taps on the shoulder and then when you don;t listen he hits ya with a shovel to make sure you do...it's his mission now to figure out what he wasn't listening to before...maybe homework being important....maybe not taking family for granted...who knows...but it is a teaching moment....

If anyone would be willing to send postcards to him from where you live...I think that would be a great way to give him something to look forward to...getting mail...seing on a map where it came from...he loves travel and is interested in many of the states...

Pm me if you would be willing to do that and I will give you his address...

Thanks again for the support you all have given...

I will let you know how he is after surgery...

[CathrynRose]

Oh no, oh no, oh no!!! :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Thinking of you and Baylor. :hug:

[tlens]

I'm so very sorry that your son is having to endure this.

[momrek06]

OP, omg...:hug: :hug: :hug: Op, I am crying for you and for Baylor. :sad1:

OP, something similiar to this happened to my now 26yo son in 1997(15yo). He was camping with buddies. They started a fire to keep the bugs away. Then they decided to toss a football around. My DS reached up in the air for the football and coming down he fell across the fire. His leg went up in flames. Thankfully he had on jean shorts and not the mesh ones the other boys were wearing. The boys had him rolling in all the leaves and the brush of the campsite. Thank God, they were very close to the main gate for the camp. They threw Chris in the car and raced to the main gate. He was then taken by ambulance to the hospital. To get that call that he was in a fire, I could not comprehend what the personel at the main gate were saying...it was like I froze. He was in the hospital for days. No surgery for him, though. He was laid up for weeks. After the hospital, we were sent home with Visiting Nurses to change all the dressings. Our Parish Priest came many times to pray. He was out of it on vicodine for the longest time. He had to learn to walk all over again. I did not sleep for weeks. Everyone in my town was so supportive when word got out about the accident.

He as well was fitted for the leg brace to wear. It was this black stocking. But it was custom fit by specialists dealing with burn victims.

Prayers for you and your family at this time. :hug: I can remember I could not sleep or eat at all, I was devastated YET I had the energy to be there for him 24/7. It was like I required no sleep or food. I sat with him alllll the time whether he was awake or asleep. :hug:

Keep us updated.

What is going on with the other boys involved? I remember Chris' friends were sickened by this, witnessing it all and seeing him in the hospital and in pain. They came by DAILY. They were as devastated as we were. It was so upsetting for everyone.

[ms1031]

I'm wishing Baylor a quick and easy recovery.

Years ago, a nephew (about 16yo at the time), had a bonfire in his backyard with his friends. The next morning, his little brother (5yo nephew) and a cousin (5yo niece) were poking around in the embers. My little nephew then went to the garage and got the gas can. As he began pouring gas on the embers, flames shot up to the can which then exploded. He almost lost his hand.

[safetymom]

OP, omg...:hug: :hug: :hug: Op, I am crying for you and for Baylor. :sad1:

OP, something similiar to this happened to my now 26yo son in 1997(15yo). He was camping with buddies. They started a fire to keep the bugs away. Then they decided to toss a football around. My DS reached up in the air for the football and coming down he fell across the fire. His leg went up in flames. Thankfully he had on jean shorts and not the mesh ones the other boys were wearing. The boys had him rolling in all the leaves and the brush of the campsite. Thank God, they were very close to the main gate for the camp. They threw Chris in the car and raced to the main gate. He was then taken by ambulance to the hospital. To get that call that he was in a fire, I could not comprehend what the personel at the main gate were saying...it was like I froze. He was in the hospital for days. No surgery for him, though. He was laid up for weeks. After the hospital, we were sent home with Visiting Nurses to change all the dressings. Our Parish Priest came many times to pray. He was out of it on vicodine for the longest time. He had to learn to walk all over again. I did not sleep for weeks. Everyone in my town was so supportive when word got out about the accident.

He as well was fitted for the leg brace to wear. It was this black stocking. But it was custom fit by specialists dealing with burn victims.

Prayers for you and your family at this time. :hug: I can remember I could not sleep or eat at all, I was devastated YET I had the energy to be there for him 24/7. It was like I required no sleep or food. I sat with him alllll the time whether he was awake or asleep. :hug:

Keep us updated.

What is going on with the other boys involved? I remember Chris' friends were sickened by this, witnessing it all and seeing him in the hospital and in pain. They came by DAILY. They were as devastated as we were. It was so upsetting for everyone.


When my son was burned I was in NYC on a business trip. My sons girlfriend called to say he was burned and they were talking of life flighting him to a hospital. I was stuck in the city till the next day. I did a lot of praying that night and day till I got home to see for myself how bad his burns were.

He was very lucky because he was wearing safety goggles when he was burned. He only had first degree burns on his face, but his chest and arms had second degree burns. Every so often I take a look at the pictures I took to remind how blessed we were when he healed.

[Dizneydawn]

Oh no, oh no, oh no!!! :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Thinking of you and Baylor. :hug:
thank you for the support
I'm so very sorry that your son is having to endure this.
your thoughts are appreciated
OP, omg...:hug: :hug: :hug: Op, I am crying for you and for Baylor. :sad1:

OP, something similiar to this happened to my now 26yo son in 1997(15yo). He was camping with buddies. They started a fire to keep the bugs away. Then they decided to toss a football around. My DS reached up in the air for the football and coming down he fell across the fire. His leg went up in flames. Thankfully he had on jean shorts and not the mesh ones the other boys were wearing. The boys had him rolling in all the leaves and the brush of the campsite. Thank God, they were very close to the main gate for the camp. They threw Chris in the car and raced to the main gate. He was then taken by ambulance to the hospital. To get that call that he was in a fire, I could not comprehend what the personel at the main gate were saying...it was like I froze. He was in the hospital for days. No surgery for him, though. He was laid up for weeks. After the hospital, we were sent home with Visiting Nurses to change all the dressings. Our Parish Priest came many times to pray. He was out of it on vicodine for the longest time. He had to learn to walk all over again. I did not sleep for weeks. Everyone in my town was so supportive when word got out about the accident.

He as well was fitted for the leg brace to wear. It was this black stocking. But it was custom fit by specialists dealing with burn victims.

Prayers for you and your family at this time. :hug: I can remember I could not sleep or eat at all, I was devastated YET I had the energy to be there for him 24/7. It was like I required no sleep or food. I sat with him alllll the time whether he was awake or asleep. :hug:

Keep us updated.

What is going on with the other boys involved? I remember Chris' friends were sickened by this, witnessing it all and seeing him in the hospital and in pain. They came by DAILY. They were as devastated as we were. It was so upsetting for everyone.

His friend who had the gas is very upset...so is his mom since it happened at her house....calling all the time...that boy is getting grief from kids at school that he did this on purpose...not true and not fair...

thanks for the stories everyone - it helps me feel not so alone...

I am exhausted...but I am glad I am here with him...would not want anyone else to be and I am such a control feak tha I could not handle people not giving me every detail....

Thanks again to those who asked for his address...he will love getting mail...

His surgery went well...donor site takes up most of his thigh...yes it is painful...but his graphs look awesome I guess...

I am trying not to be ill from looking at his donor site...I am getting a tougher gag reflex than I thought possible...

[debbi801]

:hug: Your son and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Please PM me your address and I will send your son a post card from Maryland. :grouphug:

[momrek06]

thank you for the support

your thoughts are appreciated


His friend who had the gas is very upset...so is his mom since it happened at her house....calling all the time...that boy is getting grief from kids at school that he did this on purpose...not true and not fair...

thanks for the stories everyone - it helps me feel not so alone...

I am exhausted...but I am glad I am here with him...would not want anyone else to be and I am such a control feak tha I could not handle people not giving me every detail....

Thanks again to those who asked for his address...he will love getting mail...

His surgery went well...donor site takes up most of his thigh...yes it is painful...but his graphs look awesome I guess...

I am trying not to be ill from looking at his donor site...I am getting a tougher gag reflex than I thought possible...

Ohh....Dizney, please absolutely come here and update us as often as you can. ::yes:: First of all, I just clicked on your t.r. in your siggy and Baylor is ADORABLE!!!! :goodvibes Please PM me with his address, I would LOVE to send him a card!!!! Yup, as his Mom, it is amazing the strength that you will find you have...::yes:: I could not believe that I basically had no sleep for the first week but could function. At times, I just would fall asleep in my chair when he was asleep and wake up actually refreshed. :eek: I think back at that time and think "how did I get through it all"....and you do and you will. I learned a big lesson from this in reaching out to people. Before Chris' accident when I heard someone was in an accident, I would never think to go to their house and instead felt that they would want their privacy.....well my friends, neighbors, strangers I did not know ALL CAME BY and guess what WE WERE THRILLED. There were so many meals that were dropped off; as well as those asking to clean my house, get groceries, sit with Chris while I slept. It was amazing.....people are amazing. :goodvibes

:hug: to You and :hug: to Baylor!!!


edited to add: you posted his pic in your OP, but my virus protection is crazy and it was red x'ed out!!! Hence seeing his pic in your siggy!!!!

[lucyanna girl]

Many prayers and good wishes headed your way. Please be comforted that more people care than you will ever know.

Penny

[Dizneydawn]

:hug: Your son and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Please PM me your address and I will send your son a post card from Maryland. :grouphug:
Thanks and looking forward to hearing from you...
Ohh....Dizney, please absolutely come here and update us as often as you can. ::yes:: First of all, I just clicked on your t.r. in your siggy and Baylor is ADORABLE!!!! :goodvibes Please PM me with his address, I would LOVE to send him a card!!!! Yup, as his Mom, it is amazing the strength that you will find you have...::yes:: I could not believe that I basically had no sleep for the first week but could function. At times, I just would fall asleep in my chair when he was asleep and wake up actually refreshed. :eek: I think back at that time and think "how did I get through it all"....and you do and you will. I learned a big lesson from this in reaching out to people. Before Chris' accident when I heard someone was in an accident, I would never think to go to their house and instead felt that they would want their privacy.....well my friends, neighbors, strangers I did not know ALL CAME BY and guess what WE WERE THRILLED. There were so many meals that were dropped off; as well as those asking to clean my house, get groceries, sit with Chris while I slept. It was amazing.....people are amazing. :goodvibes

:hug: to You and :hug: to Baylor!!!


edited to add: you posted his pic in your OP, but my virus protection is crazy and it was red x'ed out!!! Hence seeing his pic in your siggy!!!!
Thanks - he is a beautiful boy wiith a great spirit and that will help him heal...
Many prayers and good wishes headed your way. Please be comforted that more people care than you will ever know.

Penny

Thanks again to you and everyone - theu just changed his dressing on his graft site - I had to be out of the room for that...

met a family from Sioux Falls whose 29year old son/brother was life flighted here Halloween night...seems a drunk friend lit his costume on fire to see how flamamble they are and if the wrnings were needed on costumes...3rd degree ver both feet and legs nd right hand...2nd over the rest...45% of his body is 3rd degree...so awfull...

[jobo]

:hug: My thoughts are with Baylor and you and your family. I have been reading your pre-trip report and let me tell you, I had to bite my lip not to laugh out loud (not advisable to bring to my bosses attention that I’m doing nothing!) You have a wonderful gift in your writing.
I would love to send a postcard from Fabulous Las Vegas to Baylor. Please PM the address.

[Dizneydawn]

:hug: My thoughts are with Baylor and you and your family. I have been reading your pre-trip report and let me tell you, I had to bite my lip not to laugh out loud (not advisable to bring to my bosses attention that I’m doing nothing!) You have a wonderful gift in your writing.
I would love to send a postcard from Fabulous Las Vegas to Baylor. Please PM the address.

Glad you like the PTR...what did you think was a laugh out loud moment? Most like the Grush N Gusher fiasco...

I will pm you the address....

Thanks again to everyone..Baylor will just flip out upon getting any mail....it will be great..:)

[jobo]

I make a loud snort / cough when I read the Laura Ingalls part.... that was too funny - I also like the crusher gusher too. It's all good! We are off to Disneyland in two weeks, I'll send Baylor a postcard from there too. :goodvibes

[TheDisneyGirl02]

:hug:

Please keep us updated on how he is doing. :hug:

[Mackey Mouse]

Lots of good wishes and healing pixie dust coming your way.. It is so scary when are our children are so hurt, we hurt for them. Keep up your strength, your good attitude and strength will get you and Baylor through.. he is such a cutie.. Hugs..

[Mommaof3]

I will be praying for your dear Baylor. I understand the pain of watching your child in pain. PM me your address and I will send a card to him. Again, I am so sorry for the accident and will be in prayer. Melissa

[momrek06]

Dawn, how did Baylor's weekend go? :hug:

Any updates?

[ZPT1022]

Best wishes for a good recovery. My cousin had something similar happen when we were kids, the only difference was that it was his face and not his leg and believe it or not, if you looked at him now you would never guess that anything had ever happened. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that your son has a similar recovery. :hug:

[Dizneydawn]

:hug:

Please keep us updated on how he is doing. :hug:
Will do - please read below...
Lots of good wishes and healing pixie dust coming your way.. It is so scary when are our children are so hurt, we hurt for them. Keep up your strength, your good attitude and strength will get you and Baylor through.. he is such a cutie.. Hugs..
He is doing pretty good today..thank you for the well wishes...
I will be praying for your dear Baylor. I understand the pain of watching your child in pain. PM me your address and I will send a card to him. Again, I am so sorry for the accident and will be in prayer. Melissa
Thanks and I will pm you...
Dawn, how did Baylor's weekend go? :hug:

Any updates?
yup...
Best wishes for a good recovery. My cousin had something similar happen when we were kids, the only difference was that it was his face and not his leg and believe it or not, if you looked at him now you would never guess that anything had ever happened. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that your son has a similar recovery. :hug:

Thank You for your testimony on how the other side will come out in the long run...it is good to hear that...

Baylor Update..
He had the nurses and Doc try and remove some of his staples today with morphine and some other amnesia/narcotic...no go Idaho...Baylor was not liking that at all...so tom. they wil be putting him under local sedation to get them out...we then will know prognosis and when he will be coming home...

Doc is very excited about our trip...says Baylor should be good to go...with resting etc...but a lot of the hard times under our belt...

Wil let you know more tom...need him to start liking proteindrinks so he can keep his strength and skin growth high...any suggestions??? I am trying smoothies out of the mixed berry one tonight....

[quasar4legs]

I hope things go alright tomorrow, this must be a harrowing time for your family.
Regarding the smoothies, frozen berries are a favourite addition in our house but another thought would be to make hot chocolate with protein powder added.
What about protein powder added to custard or desserts or even ice-cream.
It's hard to get them to eat if they don't feel well.
Keep us posted, I am sending positive thoughts.

I'd like to send a card from Australia, would you mind sending me your address.
Trish

[Dizneydawn]

I hope things go alright tomorrow, this must be a harrowing time for your family.
Regarding the smoothies, frozen berries are a favourite addition in our house but another thought would be to make hot chocolate with protein powder added.
What about protein powder added to custard or desserts or even ice-cream.
It's hard to get them to eat if they don't feel well.
Keep us posted, I am sending positive thoughts.

I'd like to send a card from Australia, would you mind sending me your address.
Trish

Great ideas..I will be trying them...:thumbsup2

[Dizneydawn]

So this morning he wasin the OR for about 45 minutes...had his staples taken out of his donor site and his graft site...not sure how many staples total...he did well and now has a cast on his lower leg covering the graft site...stabilizing it and it should probably be taken off in 10 days or so...the doctor had a back to back chedule so he has not spoken to me since the procedure...

They are hoping to give him some walking steps tom. and then maybe he can come home as soon as then or the next day...:worship: I miss being at home with him so much and the kids miss him as well...

I am not sure what the short term will be like for Baylor...he is on a new medicine for anxiety...to try and help him get through the dressing changes and his nervousness...he is only starting to talk aboutthe accident..we are learning some details about how long actually the boys with him waited to call for help...and though the boys feel bad...there is no comprehension at most 12 year olds for long term ramifications...one of the boys called him on his cell phone yesterday and asked him where he was at. :sad2:

Baylor siad..'The hospital you idiot..." and the boy responded with..."Still?"

So he is getting to the point of angry very fast and yet as a boy and as a 12 year old...loyal to his friends yet understanding that maybe that loyalty goes at some level at out of sight...out of mind...

I spoke with the mom of the home where the accident happened at...she knows I need her home owners info..she has not contacted them at all yet...:scared1: and I am nervous...I just need to speak with her agent and get some financial things underway...from what I am understanding their medical liability portion should be released right away...but the liability itself will be not settled for a long time to come...

I hope that he will be getting better soon with everything...

Thank You again for all those saying they will send him a postcard...he will be so thrilled... :grouphug:

[kimis]

Baylor will be in prayers for a long time. I was wondering if you would pm me with an address to mail him a card. Thanks

[Mrs. M. Mouse]

Disneydawn I just found this thread! I'm so sorry that Baylor has to go through all of this! I wish him a quick and less painful recovery. best of luck getting the homeowner's insurance info from the other mom. I hope she cooperates with you.

[Dizneydawn]

He was in a great mood today when I got to the hospital...his Dad stayed with him last night and when he saw me he smiled :love: and told me he had gone to the bathroom on his crutches and was mobile...with pain but moving...he is seeing Gilette's Childrens Hospital physical therapy today at 2pm so that will determine if he can go home today or not. You can have no idea how much I look forward to that. Today was the first genuine smile I have seen on him since the accident. It melted me into a puddle...but the nurse was there so no PDA's allowed...:rolleyes1

Busy day today also finalizing many trip plans...cutting costs where we can and making sure of parade times and our ressies...will update that.... :banana:

A big funny yesterday...I found where you can order those customised maps on the website for the parks...was all excited to order them and have Bqylor help decide where we wanted to go...thought he would like some trip planning power...:cool1:

Not so much..:confused3

His exact words were...

"This is stupid...you know where everything is...it's not a suprise or like you won't be able to find it...this is as usefull as getting a map of your own house..." :cool2:

I was laughing my hind end off...and shocked...he is totally right...and I guess not an obsessive Disney Freak Planning God in the making at all...:sad2:

The other huge agenda I have is finding businesses/people willing to help with a fundraiser for him...the liability portion of the homeowner's insurance will not be decided for at least 18-24 months out and there will be so much in costs before then that will be incurred it is not even funny. It is very frusterating that Baylor misses 18 months of beinga kid, I miss 5 weeks minimum of work that due to my biz will be felt for at t least 3 months...we have to pay all the deductibles...gas..parking costs etc. up front and the insurance companies that we all pay on a monthly basis will not help out with those costs on a minimum basis even...yes..a $1000 medical is coming...but that will go straight to his deductible on his health insurance...our out of pocket is not touched at all...and so far I have calculated and journaled at least $2500 in OOP costs and loss of revenue for the family...and the bills have not even styarted coming yet...all the co-pays for his physical therapy, medicines and follow up visits will be at least $2,000 they have figured for just the short term...and then the new year starts and here we go again with another deductible...

That frusterates me the most...and now we are learning that yes the kids who put him in the tub after he was burned were helpfull in doing that much...butt hey also were the same kids refusing to call for help while my son sat in the tub...because they were scared how much trouble they would be in...

Best guess...he was burned around 1pm or so and I did not get a call until 2:05 p.m. So knowing he was hurt and scared for that long while 2 boys tried to cover there own butts by washing his gas soaked jeans and telling him that it wasn't that bad makes me very angry...and now we will have to wait for help for our family for 24 months because of this...makes me furious...

Okay..sorry to rant...but I felt the need...and I am trying to get better with the anger I truly am...it will take some time I guess...

[marshallandcartersmo]

He was in a great mood today when I got to the hospital...his Dad stayed with him last night and when he saw me he smiled :love: and told me he had gone to the bathroom on his crutches and was mobile...with pain but moving...he is seeing Gilette's Childrens Hospital physical therapy today at 2pm so that will determine if he can go home today or not. You can have no idea how much I look forward to that. Today was the first genuine smile I have seen on him since the accident. It melted me into a puddle...but the nurse was there so no PDA's allowed...:rolleyes1

Busy day today also finalizing many trip plans...cutting costs where we can and making sure of parade times and our ressies...will update that.... :banana:

A big funny yesterday...I found where you can order those customised maps on the website for the parks...was all excited to order them and have Bqylor help decide where we wanted to go...thought he would like some trip planning power...:cool1:

Not so much..:confused3

His exact words were...

"This is stupid...you know where everything is...it's not a suprise or like you won't be able to find it...this is as usefull as getting a map of your own house..." :cool2:

I was laughing my hind end off...and shocked...he is totally right...and I guess not an obsessive Disney Freak Planning God in the making at all...:sad2:

The other huge agenda I have is finding businesses/people willing to help with a fundraiser for him...the liability portion of the homeowner's insurance will not be decided for at least 18-24 months out and there will be so much in costs before then that will be incurred it is not even funny. It is very frusterating that Baylor misses 18 months of beinga kid, I miss 5 weeks minimum of work that due to my biz will be felt for at t least 3 months...we have to pay all the deductibles...gas..parking costs etc. up front and the insurance companies that we all pay on a monthly basis will not help out with those costs on a minimum basis even...yes..a $1000 medical is coming...but that will go straight to his deductible on his health insurance...our out of pocket is not touched at all...and so far I have calculated and journaled at least $2500 in OOP costs and loss of revenue for the family...and the bills have not even styarted coming yet...all the co-pays for his physical therapy, medicines and follow up visits will be at least $2,000 they have figured for just the short term...and then the new year starts and here we go again with another deductible...

That frusterates me the most...and now we are learning that yes the kids who put him in the tub after he was burned were helpfull in doing that much...butt hey also were the same kids refusing to call for help while my son sat in the tub...because they were scared how much trouble they would be in...

Best guess...he was burned around 1pm or so and I did not get a call until 2:05 p.m. So knowing he was hurt and scared for that long while 2 boys tried to cover there own butts by washing his gas soaked jeans and telling him that it wasn't that bad makes me very angry...and now we will have to wait for help for our family for 24 months because of this...makes me furious...

Okay..sorry to rant...but I felt the need...and I am trying to get better with the anger I truly am...it will take some time I guess...

I am so upset to read this part. I understand boys will be boys, and 12 y/o boys aren't the smartest kids in the world........but hopefully the other boys will have some sort of punishment. Have you talked to their parents at all? I can't believe the mother of the boy whose house your DS was at hasn't called her home owners insurance yet. That just shows me that either don't realize how seriously hurt your DS is, or they are all worried about "getting in trouble", or worried their premiums will go up.

Well you know, if that's the case it's time they all grew up and realized the boys did some pretty stupid things and it's time the should do everything they can to help your DS. And that means get the show on the road and call their insurance company.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, it is in no way directed at you or your family. It just breaks my heart that the families of the other boys are not bending over backwards to do anything they can for you. That boy that called surprised your DS is still in the hospital........:mad: His parents obviously haven't told him how seriously your DS was hurt.

:hug:

[Dizneydawn]

I am so upset to read this part. I understand boys will be boys, and 12 y/o boys aren't the smartest kids in the world........but hopefully the other boys will have some sort of punishment. Have you talked to their parents at all? I can't believe the mother of the boy whose house your DS was at hasn't called her home owners insurance yet. That just shows me that either don't realize how seriously hurt your DS is, or they are all worried about "getting in trouble", or worried their premiums will go up.

Well you know, if that's the case it's time they all grew up and realized the boys did some pretty stupid things and it's time the should do everything they can to help your DS. And that means get the show on the road and call their insurance company.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, it is in no way directed at you or your family. It just breaks my heart that the families of the other boys are not bending over backwards to do anything they can for you. That boy that called surprised your DS is still in the hospital........:mad: His parents obviously haven't told him how seriously your DS was hurt.

:hug:

Thanks for your response..I too am pretty upset...the home owner's is underway after I called her yesterday - then I called her agent and he filed the claim instead of having her do it - I think he was frusterated she had not even contacted them...waiting for fire marshall to call me back..making sure report is right and not submitted without Baylor's portion of the story...which they do not have as of now...

As for trouble...the one boy -(N) has not contacted us at all neither has the parents...and as far as the other boy (B) his mom has offered help etc..but they are not aware of the Nintendo being played while Baylor sat in the tub...the refusal to call for help etc...and legally I am being advised not to speak in detail with her for the liability case...ugh...:headache:

[twinklebug]

I can't even begin to imagine the medical costs involved when a crisis occurs - I hope you can get it all straightened out before the bills start coming at you. (I'm still baffled over PPO copays grrr. I'll say this, the good ole HMO make bills easier.)

A story about kids and when others are injured:
My eldest son (a 6' tall, 15 y/o at the time) was playing tag around the house with a buddy when he accidentally slammed a door on my 3 y/o's face. The doorknob cracked his little brother's eyebrow right down the center. Both boys felt bad it had happened, but what surprised me is they tried so hard to convince themselves that despite washcloths full of blood that it was OK to have 3 eyebrows. They REALLY didn't want the little guy to go get stitches. I don't think the boys meant harm or were covering their butts as much as they were hoping that the injury would magically heal itself. It takes an adult to understand the implications of injury and the essence of medical response timing.

There's nothing you can do to change the past, just make the best of the future & hopefully everyone will have learned (and heal!) from it :)

[kimis]

Have your family and friends hold a huge car wash. Call every news station in your area and every radio station. We did this for a man who needed a kidney transplant and it was very succesful. Also hold a friends/family garage sale. Also get a hold of the Shriners. Don't they help with kids that are burned? These are just a few ideas but I hope they help.

[TheDisneyGirl02]

That frusterates me the most...and now we are learning that yes the kids who put him in the tub after he was burned were helpfull in doing that much...butt hey also were the same kids refusing to call for help while my son sat in the tub...because they were scared how much trouble they would be in...

Best guess...he was burned around 1pm or so and I did not get a call until 2:05 p.m. So knowing he was hurt and scared for that long while 2 boys tried to cover there own butts by washing his gas soaked jeans and telling him that it wasn't that bad makes me very angry...and now we will have to wait for help for our family for 24 months because of this...makes me furious...

Okay..sorry to rant...but I felt the need...and I am trying to get better with the anger I truly am...it will take some time I guess...

They waited an hour to call for help to cover their butts?! That is horrible! I can only imagine how much it hurts you to know that. Have you thought about going to talk to somebody? :hug: Hugs to you and your family.

[Dizneydawn]

I can't even begin to imagine the medical costs involved when a crisis occurs - I hope you can get it all straightened out before the bills start coming at you. (I'm still baffled over PPO copays grrr. I'll say this, the good ole HMO make bills easier.)

A story about kids and when others are injured:
My eldest son (a 6' tall, 15 y/o at the time) was playing tag around the house with a buddy when he accidentally slammed a door on my 3 y/o's face. The doorknob cracked his little brother's eyebrow right down the center. Both boys felt bad it had happened, but what surprised me is they tried so hard to convince themselves that despite washcloths full of blood that it was OK to have 3 eyebrows. They REALLY didn't want the little guy to go get stitches. I don't think the boys meant harm or were covering their butts as much as they were hoping that the injury would magically heal itself. It takes an adult to understand the implications of injury and the essence of medical response timing.

There's nothing you can do to change the past, just make the best of the future & hopefully everyone will have learned (and heal!) from it :)
Thank you for sharing your story with me...In my head I know they were just scared...but Baylor is burned worse than what even should have happened because the water they had him in had gas from his skin...which soaking in only comlicated the burn more...so in my heart it's a different story ya know...that frusteration will subside as time goes by...hope your son's eyebrow healed great!
Have your family and friends hold a huge car wash. Call every news station in your area and every radio station. We did this for a man who needed a kidney transplant and it was very succesful. Also hold a friends/family garage sale. Also get a hold of the Shriners. Don't they help with kids that are burned? These are just a few ideas but I hope they help.
Great ideas...car wash in iwnter may have to wait in MN...20 degrees today! Shriner's is a great option and we are having a botique/garage sale next weekend...
They waited an hour to call for help to cover their butts?! That is horrible! I can only imagine how much it hurts you to know that. Have you thought about going to talk to somebody? :hug: Hugs to you and your family.

Thanks for all that and yes I am talking with our pastor....



Great news...he is home...came home Wed. night late and I am sorry for not being on sooner but he is a full time job lright now...

I am just thrilled to make food for him and watch movies with him in our home and spend time watching him just even hang out with his friends and siblings...

Thank you to all the well wishers...he got a package from Askelton yesterday with a few pins and pens from Disney...he was thrilled...

I can't wait till the mail starts coming!

[quasar4legs]

So pleased your 'baby' is home.
I am sure Baylor must be feeling better getting back to familiar surroundings with his family. Try to find some time for yourself to have a nap, or sit with a cup of tea for a few quiet moments. It's important for mum's to take care of themselves so that they can be strong enough to take care of everyone else.

Hugs to you all:hug:

Trish

[A Mickeyfan]

I am just reading this now. Thank God he is home and doing better...:goodvibes What a nightmare you have been living.. and he as well...:sad2:

[Mommaof3]

I continue to read the updates here and I can not imagine what your child has been through and what you are going through. My heart aches. I know nothing I say can take away what has happened, but please know that your son is in my prayers. You are in my prayers.

When my twins were born prematurely. we spent many weeks in the hospital with sick babies. One night the dr. called us to come to the hospital to hold one of the boys. The dr. didn't think he would survive the night. We went, and by God's grace. our child made it. It was a very long, hard night followed by months of extra care. My heart knows about my child suffering. but not through such an accident. I just can't grasp what you must feel.

I sent a package and card on Friday. They should arrive soon. Hope a little love from Texas brightens your son's spirits.
Melissa

[chicagodisneyfan]

The other huge agenda I have is finding businesses/people willing to help with a fundraiser for him...the liability portion of the homeowner's insurance will not be decided for at least 18-24 months out and there will be so much in costs before then that will be incurred it is not even funny. It is very frusterating that Baylor misses 18 months of beinga kid, I miss 5 weeks minimum of work that due to my biz will be felt for at t least 3 months...

Hugs to Baylor.

But am I to understand - you are intending to sue your friend for an act your son willingly participated in? I do not think that is right.

Paying for the medical bills is one thing, but to sue for damages :confused3

[3DisneyKids]

Busy day today also finalizing many trip plans...cutting costs where we can and making sure of parade times and our ressies...will update that.... :banana:

The other huge agenda I have is finding businesses/people willing to help with a fundraiser for him...

Dawn--you KNOW I am praying for Baylor and your whole family.

But please, think about the ramifications of the above. You cannot simultaneously have a fund raiser to pay for medical costs and go to Disney. People in the community will freak out. I mean...their argument will be that if you can afford a Disney trip then you shouldn't need to raise money for medical costs. Or their argument might be that if he is well enough to go to Disney then he was not that badly hurt.

Now, yes I know your situation and all that has been going on for the past year, but the rest of the world doesn't. And this is just not going to play well. This is how families end up in the news...and not in a good way.

[twinklebug]

Hi D thinking of you (and kicking myself for not getting Baylor's mail off - I'm WFH today, maybe I can sneak away form the laptop at lunch) ... How's Baylor doing? Has he been able to get out yet? I have only experienced one *tiny* 3rd degree burn in my life (right down to the bone, kid: making a gingerbread house w/boiling sugar - I was so dumb) and it felt as though it was on fire for 1/2 year. More hugs to him... and you! :hug: :hug:

Has this affected your other children? It's a very scary situation for all. Fire was always my worst nightmare a child (even though I LOVE campfires).

A little nosy - but what are your plans for thanksgiving?

Thank you for sharing your story with me...In my head I know they were just scared...but Baylor is burned worse than what even should have happened because the water they had him in had gas from his skin...which soaking in only complicated the burn more...so in my heart it's a different story ya know...that frustration will subside as time goes by...hope your son's eyebrow healed great!


Ah the third eyebrow is no more :) It was funny as the insurance requires us to get the go-ahead from the doctor before heading off to the ER, so I called the office. Over the phone the doc thought he could "glue" his cut shut. When we got there we didn't even get past the reception desk and the doc came over and said "nope - he really does have 3 - he needs the ER" LOL. The docs in the ER were funny too as all they wanted to do was discuss what type of pizza they were ordering after they were done with Alex.

[Dizneydawn]

So pleased your 'baby' is home.
I am sure Baylor must be feeling better getting back to familiar surroundings with his family. Try to find some time for yourself to have a nap, or sit with a cup of tea for a few quiet moments. It's important for mum's to take care of themselves so that they can be strong enough to take care of everyone else.

Hugs to you all:hug:

Trish

Thank You...

I am just reading this now. Thank God he is home and doing better...:goodvibes What a nightmare you have been living.. and he as well...:sad2:
Nightmare yes but getting better...
I continue to read the updates here and I can not imagine what your child has been through and what you are going through. My heart aches. I know nothing I say can take away what has happened, but please know that your son is in my prayers. You are in my prayers.

When my twins were born prematurely. we spent many weeks in the hospital with sick babies. One night the dr. called us to come to the hospital to hold one of the boys. The dr. didn't think he would survive the night. We went, and by God's grace. our child made it. It was a very long, hard night followed by months of extra care. My heart knows about my child suffering. but not through such an accident. I just can't grasp what you must feel.

I sent a package and card on Friday. They should arrive soon. Hope a little love from Texas brightens your son's spirits.
Melissa
Thank YOu so much for the support and the package...you have no idea how excited he was and so impressed with the generosity of strangers...

Thank you to everyone who have sent postcards and tokens of their thoughts...
Hugs to Baylor.

But am I to understand - you are intending to sue your friend for an act your son willingly participated in? I do not think that is right.

Paying for the medical bills is one thing, but to sue for damages :confused3

I am not sure what you understand about insurance or not but here are some facts...
#1 You cannot in the state of MN settle a liability claim against the insurance company when it involves a minor unless it is in front of a judge...so legal representation is mandatory...This is to protect the minor and make sure they are compensated for medical bills and any pain or suffering damages they may deserve.

#2 You cannot get medical reimbursement beyond the $1000 or anything else unless you actually sue the insurance company for the liabilty portion...that is exactly what the term is and that is exactly how it goes...we are not suing them for anything above what the liability portion of the insurance allows and that means not going after them personally.

#3 As far as suing for damages for what my son willingly participated in...that I have a major problem with...

My son did go to the fire pit...he should not have done that...absolutely not...

but he did not bring the gas...he did not pour it on the fire and he is not responsible for that...on top of that he layed in a tub crying for almost an hour while his skin sluffed off his leg...while the home owners son played Nintendo...refused to call 911, give my son a phone and hid his portion of the incident as much as possible...he lied to a fire marshall...a police officer and parents because he knew what he did was wrong in bringing the gas...and I do forgive him for that...he is a kid...but do not think that my son willingly wanted gas bought to the fire...he tried to talk the boy out of it...all 3 boys have since said that...and as a parent...if you leave kids alone in your home...you are responsible for what happens via your insurance...if I wanted to be vindictive I could be by suing them on a personal level...but that is not what I want....



Dawn--you KNOW I am praying for Baylor and your whole family.

But please, think about the ramifications of the above. You cannot simultaneously have a fund raiser to pay for medical costs and go to Disney. People in the community will freak out. I mean...their argument will be that if you can afford a Disney trip then you shouldn't need to raise money for medical costs. Or their argument might be that if he is well enough to go to Disney then he was not that badly hurt.

Now, yes I know your situation and all that has been going on for the past year, but the rest of the world doesn't. And this is just not going to play well. This is how families end up in the news...and not in a good way.

E - I appreciate what you are saying and I know you are not aware of everything...Not sure if when we talked we addressed this but since you posted it here I thought I should respond since others might be wondering the same...

First of all...any fundraiser money will be going into an account set up for Baylor's medical needs strictly...and will be overseen by his attorney....

Second...the trip is paid for already...our time share through DVC covers the stay....our tickets are free/paid for and our airlines is already paid for 2 months ago as well...It would cost $500 to change them to a different time...

The only thing needed is spending money and that we can deal with as we go...we have a 2 bedroom at OKW so we can cook all our meals if we choose to...

I had originally thought of cancelling the trip..but at the advice of his Doc's and the social workers...they are saying we need to go...Literally had a meeting for over 2 hours on his well being and they all were in aggreement that I was wrong to cancel the trip...they also told me I was wrong in having him go to school for only his core classes...that he needed a slow start back into school because he will be exhausted...and they were right about that as well...he went to art, zoology...and study hall yesterday and he was exhausted...slept 3 hours yesterday after 1/2 day of school... he will look at this as his fault if it is cancelled and also he needs something to look forward to...they are worried about his mental health...he is seeing a counselor...and that is what to me is the most important...

As far as the fundraiser...

Our church and his school teachers etc...wanted to do something for him...they all are aware of the trip...they knew it was planned long before...and they thought it would be a good way for the kids through his confirmation/school to feel like they were doing something..that they had kids coming forward saying that they felt helpless...

The social worker at the hospital was the one who advised me to get whatever help for him that we can now because as time goes by and they see him improving that they may think he does not need any...so acting now is important...that the medical bill portion will be building as we go because it is a 3-4 year recovery...

So I am in aggreement that I need to make sure that no one thinks that the money allocated for Baylor is going to our trip...and our attorney in fact said that the Dis Boards postings will be huge...because I have a diary of the trip...Baylor's inury etc...and can prove that he was hurt long after tickets were bought....etc....if anyone questions anything...

Truthfully, I am not worrying about that...I still believe in the best in people...and will work for my son as hard as I can...and protect him as much as I can as well.

I know that you were worried about the reation of the community and I am glad you are my friend to be looking out for me. I had thought of many of the things you mentioned here and will continue to make sure I am watching out for as much as I can...and I have great friends like you to help with some stuff I may miss...:hug:
Update...Baylor is doing better...he is at school half days this week...then back at the doc for his cast to come off on Friday and will post more then...

[Dizneydawn]

Hi D thinking of you (and kicking myself for not getting Baylor's mail off - I'm WFH today, maybe I can sneak away form the laptop at lunch) ... How's Baylor doing? Has he been able to get out yet? I have only experienced one *tiny* 3rd degree burn in my life (right down to the bone, kid: making a gingerbread house w/boiling sugar - I was so dumb) and it felt as though it was on fire for 1/2 year. More hugs to him... and you! :hug: :hug:

Has this affected your other children? It's a very scary situation for all. Fire was always my worst nightmare a child (even though I LOVE campfires).
They are doing okay - and yes....he is much more leary about a fire now...even candles...
A little nosy - but what are your plans for thanksgiving?

I think we are going to Omaha for Thanksgiving...and the kids will then go to Iowa for the weekend to be with their Dad's family...

Ah the third eyebrow is no more :) It was funny as the insurance requires us to get the go-ahead from the doctor before heading off to the ER, so I called the office. Over the phone the doc thought he could "glue" his cut shut. When we got there we didn't even get past the reception desk and the doc came over and said "nope - he really does have 3 - he needs the ER" LOL. The docs in the ER were funny too as all they wanted to do was discuss what type of pizza they were ordering after they were done with Alex.


That crack me up...when I was in the operating room with Carsyn...the phone rang and then the Doc answered "Pizza Hut"...I was a little concerned he was then using a scalpel on my belly...:rotfl2:

[3DisneyKids]

Hey Dawn--glad to hear that you thought of these issues. :goodvibes I would just hate to see your name get dragged through the mud unnecessarily, you know? I mean, that is just the WORST. When you do everything you can to be a good person and do the right thing and then get falsely accused of being unethical. Especially in a small community.

On to more important things...glad to hear that Baylor is back at school and starting to resume parts of his life. Even though he is exhausted, I am sure it is good for him to feel like he is productive and interacting with friends, etc. Is he going to school on crutches? Or is he walking independently yet? Does he have to take the bus??? Oh, that would be awful!

Hope you guys are all hanging in there!

[Dizneydawn]

Hey Dawn--glad to hear that you thought of these issues. :goodvibes I would just hate to see your name get dragged through the mud unnecessarily, you know? I mean, that is just the WORST. When you do everything you can to be a good person and do the right thing and then get falsely accused of being unethical. Especially in a small community.

On to more important things...glad to hear that Baylor is back at school and starting to resume parts of his life. Even though he is exhausted, I am sure it is good for him to feel like he is productive and interacting with friends, etc. Is he going to school on crutches? Or is he walking independently yet? Does he have to take the bus??? Oh, that would be awful!

Hope you guys are all hanging in there!

Hi chickie....
Yup this is me on my laptop from home...Thank You God for home internet again...:worship: I feel so dissconnected when I cannot keep up as much as possible...

School on crutches...his cast will come off on Friday and we will know more then...they may put another cast on him or they may decide just to do compression stockings at that point...I am nervous to see the result...

He is glad to be around friends again but also frusterated because all of his friends snowboard/ski and play hockey..just like he did...and we have 3 ski hills within 20 miles of our home and they opened last weekend so he is watching out his window people heading out...knowing he wil not this year at all...no contact sports including gym or sledding...so MN in the winter and nothing to do but stay inside is pure torture...they are also hesitant for him to be out eve building snow forts or anything for long periods of time because his new graft site can get frost bite so easily...

His donor site is startingto loose the protective sheet of cloth that they had put on it to let it heal after surgery...it is probably 18"long and 10" wide...the bottom of it where his blood pooled is literally a 1/4 inch thick scab...and the rest looks as he puts it..."Like Beef Jerky"!:scared1:So as this material peels off...we need to cut it back so it doesn't catch and rip on anything...and it itches like peeling skin from a sunburn...we lotion the exposed skin daily...and I am hoping it is all off in the next 2 weeks... but that still gives him the most disscomfort...it stretches and pulls and feels like it is ripping he says...

I can upload pics here if you guys want to have a better idea of the injury...but I will warn you all they are pretty graphic and not for the faint of heart...so let me know if this is something you might want to see or if I should skip it...

I just thought that many of you had kids and I think that it would be a great learning tool to really show them what playing with fire and gas can do...Baylor has been asked if he would like to become part of the hospital's burn unit outreach program that goes to schools and talks to kids about fire safety first hand...because h eis 12 they think he could really help with both the elementary schools and the middle schools...

Like he said..."You think that if you catch on fir ethat you can just slap it out...but you can't it isn't that easy...and then you think you can just roll it out...but that doesn't always work either...I wish I would have really known that because I thought if anything bad happened I could take care of it."

Again...kids donot think long term and they think they are invincible...but it has almost been 3 weeks and believe me...he still cries every day about how stupid he was for being down by the fire pit...and that he should have listened to his parents and other adults...and he wishes he would have been louder or walked away when the boy brought the gas down...but you try and be cool at some level as a kid and you don't want as a boy to look like a pansy...and again...the burn nurses said that they rarely see girls his age in there..thatthe chip in women that worries and says...how bad can this go...is already in them at that age...

It's a miracle any of us survive raising boys...but then again...girls have their mood swings...and that is not any fun either!(Ahemmm..can you tell who I argued with this morning!):lmao:

[courtnvm]

Hi - great advice - I think he will need some as well...had some bad dreams already and is definetley feeling depressed about all he will miss out on...that is the biggest reason I want this trip to go on as planned...he needs something to look forward to...

I am glad your husband healed well...can I ask how his accident happened?


I was out of town for a girls only trip and my husband was home with our kids that were 1 and 3. The boys wanted chicken nuggets and french fries for dinner, and because I never let him fry them and I was gone, he decided to fry them. It had been snowing that day, so everyone was dressed warm. He put the pot of oil on the stove and turned it on high so it would warm up quickly. He left the kitchen to take off his sweater and the smoke detectors went off. By the time that he got back to the kitchen, the whole stove was on fire. He got it out and was going to throw the oil outside. When he moved the pan, it added oxygen and ignited it again, sending oil and flames up his right arm. One boy was in the back of the house and our oldest watched the flames go up his daddy's arm. My husband opened the front door and threw the pan outside. The firemen tell us that when the front door was opened, it should have caught the entire house on fire instantly.

He has been through 2 skin graft surgeries and has 100% usuage of his hand and arm. That is a total miracle.

We both have been praying for your little guy.

[Dizneydawn]

I was out of town for a girls only trip and my husband was home with our kids that were 1 and 3. The boys wanted chicken nuggets and french fries for dinner, and because I never let him fry them and I was gone, he decided to fry them. It had been snowing that day, so everyone was dressed warm. He put the pot of oil on the stove and turned it on high so it would warm up quickly. He left the kitchen to take off his sweater and the smoke detectors went off. By the time that he got back to the kitchen, the whole stove was on fire. He got it out and was going to throw the oil outside. When he moved the pan, it added oxygen and ignited it again, sending oil and flames up his right arm. One boy was in the back of the house and our oldest watched the flames go up his daddy's arm. My husband opened the front door and threw the pan outside. The firemen tell us that when the front door was opened, it should have caught the entire house on fire instantly.

He has been through 2 skin graft surgeries and has 100% usuage of his hand and arm. That is a total miracle.

We both have been praying for your little guy.

I got goose bumps reading this...Baylor's Dad was burned in the exact same way when we were dating..oil...nuggets...the whole bit...except when he took the oil outside..to throw it over the deck railing (men must think alike...get fire out of house now...)..my mom's deck broke...and the oil fell on him...he had 3rd degree burns on his left arm...grafting on shoulder and elbow..and left ring finger...taken from left thigh...they put his through a mesh spreader though...so he has the diamond pattern on his skin...with Baylor's they did what they call strip grafting...which is taking sheet for sheet....

Thank you sharing your story with me...and all of us...I hope you are all healing because as I have learned...it is a family burn...not an individual burn...:hug:

[Guerrero2915]

Dawn,
I just found this post today, and to read all the way through to see how baylor was doing before I posted. I am so glad he is doing well and starting to some semblence (sp??) of normality. Please PM me with an address to send him a card and also any info on the fundraising (where to send, etc.)Please know my family and I will be praying for Baylor, you and your entire family.
God Bless:grouphug:

[Dizneydawn]

Dawn,
I just found this post today, and to read all the way through to see how baylor was doing before I posted. I am so glad he is doing well and starting to some semblence (sp??) of normality. Please PM me with an address to send him a card and also any info on the fundraising (where to send, etc.)Please know my family and I will be praying for Baylor, you and your entire family.
God Bless:grouphug:

Thanks and I did pm you....

He got bumped into at the end of school today and tore his donor site a little bit...hurt like heck I guess and he just called asking to come home... so I am off...he made it through the day though! I am so proud of him...even if he is there at all...he handles it so much better than I would...:flower3:

[Guerrero2915]

Thanks and I did pm you....

He got bumped into at the end of school today and tore his donor site a little bit...hurt like heck I guess and he just called asking to come home... so I am off...he made it through the day though! I am so proud of him...even if he is there at all...he handles it so much better than I would...:flower3:
OUCH!!! It is good to hear that he made it through the day,Kids amaze me sometimes with the strength and resillence. And you are pretty strong yourself seeing our children in pain is alot to handle, not sure how I would do it if were one of mine. God Bless your strength.:hug:

I PMed you with my info.

[Dizneydawn]

Hi guys..Baylor is going back to burn unit today...getting cast off and I will see the results of the graph for the first time...

Not sure what next steps are but will post...

Has anyone had kids who have been having night terrors before? The past 2 nights Baylor is waking up...not really...sobbing so hard he cannot breathe...and it is scary...going to talk to docs today - but wanted advice if you had any...

THANK YOU SO MUCH....to all that have sent postcards and packages for Baylor..he has his map out to make sure he knows where Texas is, Vegas, Maryland, Delaware, Florida and Illinois too...I may be forgetting someone...I will add if I did...

Anyway - will be back soon to let you know how he did ....:love:

[A Mickeyfan]

I hope all went well at the doc's! I just want to add that I too feel your family needs to keep your Disney trip... your son needs to have something happy and fun. The trip would be a good thing for him :goodvibes

[Dizneydawn]

I hope all went well at the doc's! I just want to add that I too feel your family needs to keep your Disney trip... your son needs to have something happy and fun. The trip would be a good thing for him :goodvibes

Thanks for the support...I am getting excited to leave...so is he...:lovestruc

So Baylor's graph site looked alittle caggey right now but the docs were thrilled and said it looked like it was from a month out post op...not 2 weeks so that is great...but it was purpley and very thin looing still..but the top og hi sleg looked great where the burn was not bad...from mid to his ankle was the worst...and they did graph the ankle...he has a walking cast on now..thinner than the last one...and next Tuesday will hopefully get a compression stocking on that he will have for the next 18 months to hold the graft and new skin buds down so it heals flat...that will come off and he can bathe but must be worn 99% of the time...

He is walking well on it though and can have more flexibility than we expected this soon so I am pretty happy for him...:yay:

Thanks again for all the support from so many of you...

[kpadalik]

Hi guys..Baylor is going back to burn unit today...getting cast off and I will see the results of the graph for the first time...

Not sure what next steps are but will post...

Has anyone had kids who have been having night terrors before? The past 2 nights Baylor is waking up...not really...sobbing so hard he cannot breathe...and it is scary...going to talk to docs today - but wanted advice if you had any...

:

First let me say that I have been following your journey and your son's recovery and you are in my prayers. To have a child go through something like that must be awful and reminds us all to never take life for granted. You are a brave woman and your son has an amazing strength for all to be admired.

As far as the night terrors go, my DD (almost 6) has had night terrors before, although only a few. I'm not really sure what is recommended to get your child through the terror, but with my DD, I hold her and talk very softly while rocking her. Usually only a couple of minutes of reassurance calms her down and she drifts back to sleep. She never wakes up during these episodes and has no recollection of them. However, I would be almost positive that Baylor's night terrors are due to post traumatic stress disorder and definitely need to be discussed w/ a doctor.

Good luck to you and a speedy recovery for Baylor!

Kristin

[Mommaof3]

Just wanted to check in to keep up with Baylor's progress. I really hope your trip comes off as planned. It seems it would give him something to look forward to and help keep his mind busy. My mother wears a compression sleeve. She doesn't mind it at all. (not for a burn--different condition) It does attract some attention, but not lots. She has had it for about 8 years and we all forget about it now. I hope Baylor continues to heal both physically and spiritually. I also hope that your family has a nice Thanksgiving.
Melissa :goodvibes

[Guerrero2915]

Just wanted to say I am glad he is progressing so quickly. Know that you are still in my prayers. Sorry i did not thatcard out today, (we had a leak at the house about 2 wks ago, and today there was water everywhere again) I will get it out ASAP though. God Bless.

[A Mickeyfan]

When exactly is your trip to Disney? If it is during any of my long weekend, I might be able to pop up and say hi :wave2: I have a 16 yr DD that I can bring up and maybe she can hang out with your DS for a bit. We let our Disney pass expire but we can meet up for lunch or something... We currently only have Universal passes... so if you have plans on doing the parks there too... we can go there with ya...

You should try to plan a mini meet for all that may want to meet your son. He really is a trooper to endure what he has gone thru. It might bring up his spirits too, knowing that so many people care about him... people that do not even know him.

[Dizneydawn]

:hug: First let me say that I have been following your journey and your son's recovery and you are in my prayers. To have a child go through something like that must be awful and reminds us all to never take life for granted. You are a brave woman and your son has an amazing strength for all to be admired.

As far as the night terrors go, my DD (almost 6) has had night terrors before, although only a few. I'm not really sure what is recommended to get your child through the terror, but with my DD, I hold her and talk very softly while rocking her. Usually only a couple of minutes of reassurance calms her down and she drifts back to sleep. She never wakes up during these episodes and has no recollection of them. However, I would be almost positive that Baylor's night terrors are due to post traumatic stress disorder and definitely need to be discussed w/ a doctor.

Good luck to you and a speedy recovery for Baylor!

Kristin
Hi...we are seeing a doctor next week if it does not go away...they think his medicine weaning may play a role because he is now able to not only feel but remember more...he remembers waking up and crying and cannot catch his breath because he is sobbing so hard and begins to crawl around in his bed like he is experiencing anxiety...

Thank you for the well wishes

Just wanted to check in to keep up with Baylor's progress. I really hope your trip comes off as planned. It seems it would give him something to look forward to and help keep his mind busy. My mother wears a compression sleeve. She doesn't mind it at all. (not for a burn--different condition) It does attract some attention, but not lots. She has had it for about 8 years and we all forget about it now. I hope Baylor continues to heal both physically and spiritually. I also hope that your family has a nice Thanksgiving.
Melissa :goodvibes
We are going for sure but it may be a difference in some of the hotel stays - may stay off property a bit cheaper ...And I am glad we are going as well...he really needs this as does the whole family..this is the most stressfull events I have ever gone through..I can be in the hospital all day long but seeing the way this has affected his self -esteem has hurt me to the core...he is frusterated at his life reight now but truthfully...so aware of those still battling a bigger fight...when we went to the doctor on Thursday...he wanted to look back at the burn unit...visited some ogf his nurses...saw the man still there from Sioux Falls...he was sleeping so Baylor decided next Tuesday he wanted to bring him something to help him try and keep awake...he thought a movie from our home (they have tons of movies but when you are there for months...new videos are a nice change ...so we are going through our videos and bringing ones we are done with...
Just wanted to say I am glad he is progressing so quickly. Know that you are still in my prayers. Sorry i did not thatcard out today, (we had a leak at the house about 2 wks ago, and today there was water everywhere again) I will get it out ASAP though. God Bless.
Thanks and please yes still mail out a postcard to him..he loves looking forward to the mail system!

When exactly is your trip to Disney? If it is during any of my long weekend, I might be able to pop up and say hi :wave2: I have a 16 yr DD that I can bring up and maybe she can hang out with your DS for a bit. We let our Disney pass expire but we can meet up for lunch or something... We currently only have Universal passes... so if you have plans on doing the parks there too... we can go there with ya...

You should try to plan a mini meet for all that may want to meet your son. He really is a trooper to endure what he has gone thru. It might bring up his spirits too, knowing that so many people care about him... people that do not even know him.

Thanks for that idea...we have Saturday the 13th open pretty much and will love to say hi to people whenever they may have the chance...we will be oing to Universal for my older son's B-day on the 14th...read my PTR...and you will see pics of the whole gang...DS 17 1/2...DD 15 too....and on the last 2 pages there is a new itenerary schedule...actually I think on the top of the last page...

Link is in my siggie....

[twinklebug]

HI - Thinking of Baylor's night terrors... My son's close enough to your son's age that I understand they're still "little" on the inside even though they push each other to grow up.

It may sound silly, and there's no need for any of his friends to know, but does he have a favorite toy, stuffed animal or even a blanket (again, I said it would sound silly LOL) that he'd feel safer with at night? My son was having sleep-walking nightmares every night after his father abandoned the family. The only thing that seemed to calm him down was keeping the light on at night, a light saber beside his bed & holding onto a few friends. I allowed him whatever he needed to make the transition and show him everything's fine ;) I'm not worried about long-term effect of him sleeping with such aids, he'll outgrow it eventually and we're down to a night light now.

[Dizneydawn]

HI - Thinking of Baylor's night terrors... My son's close enough to your son's age that I understand they're still "little" on the inside even though they push each other to grow up.

It may sound silly, and there's no need for any of his friends to know, but does he have a favorite toy, stuffed animal or even a blanket (again, I said it would sound silly LOL) that he'd feel safer with at night? My son was having sleep-walking nightmares every night after his father abandoned the family. The only thing that seemed to calm him down was keeping the light on at night, a light saber beside his bed & holding onto a few friends. I allowed him whatever he needed to make the transition and show him everything's fine ;) I'm not worried about long-term effect of him sleeping with such aids, he'll outgrow it eventually and we're down to a night light now.

Already with you on that...I had his siblings bringhis 2 'Blankets" in the hospital...they actually came in wearing them like super capes! :rotfl2: He did use them inthe hospital but since we got back he has not used them again...in fact at the hospital they gave him a blanket that people make for patients in the burn unit because they are there for so long...it was flannel with motorcross on it and smaller...like a lap blanket...

I need to dig them out...I am washing his sheets right now as we speak...and just put them back on his bed.

Thanks for the reminder...

How is your son doing now?:hug:

[twinklebug]

Already with you on that...I had his siblings bringhis 2 'Blankets" in the hospital...they actually came in wearing them like super capes! :rotfl2: He did use them inthe hospital but since we got back he has not used them again...in fact at the hospital they gave him a blanket that people make for patients in the burn unit because they are there for so long...it was flannel with motorcross on it and smaller...like a lap blanket...

I need to dig them out...I am washing his sheets right now as we speak...and just put them back on his bed.

Thanks for the reminder...

How is your son doing now?:hug:

Alex is doing much better (thanks!) - he still needs his "sleeping buddies" but He's not wandering into my room at night (or slunking down in a random corner) crying yet sleeping at the same time. I'm sure it was the feeling of loss of control and the built-in safety children just assume is there in life that did it. Now his father is back around a few hours every other sunday with promises of dogs, horses, trips to europe (none of which will happen) and already asking to keep the kids overnight at his girlfriend's house where he's living. :rotfl: It's been 2 years, but after what he did to the kids, Oh heck no ;) Things are settled down into a routine and I won't have them upset.

Did you find the blankets yet? :goodvibes

[momrek06]

Dawn: Wow, sounds like Baylor is doing well and receiving nothing short of EXCELLENT care between the hospital and now home. :goodvibes

Are the night terrors subsiding at all? That must be so upsetting for all of you to see this now. This poor child has had to endure allot and now these night terrors....:sad1:

Keep us updated, Dawn!!! :thumbsup2

[A Mickeyfan]

Thanks for that idea...we have Saturday the 13th open pretty much and will love to say hi to people whenever they may have the chance...we will be oing to Universal for my older son's B-day on the 14th...read my PTR...and you will see pics of the whole gang...DS 17 1/2...DD 15 too....and on the last 2 pages there is a new itenerary schedule...actually I think on the top of the last page...

Link is in my siggie....

Not sure what I can swing that weekend, if anything, it would only be up for one day, Saturday the 13th. I will see what I can do. I was hoping that you were coming closer to Christmas break. My DD cannot miss anymore school this semester since she missed 5 days when my mom died last month. I could try to drive up on a Friday night, have Saturday there, then head home on Sunday.. gotta see.

I read your link, you have your plate full.. and that is what you guys need. Lots of fun for all to have.. and good memories to replace the recent (bad) ones.. :grouphug:

[sanilacjack]

Wow!
Just read your entire thread. MY thoughts and prayers go out to Baylor and your family. It's amazing how you don't realize how strong you are as a mother until something like this happens.

We will arrive at the world this Thursday. I would be happy to send baylor a post card from Mickey with a "See ya real Soon" attached to it.

Kim

[Dizneydawn]

Baylor went to school today with no crutches...he is walking so well I busted out bawling this morning...so happy!

Back to the burn unit today to see his graph site and see what they wil be doing form here on out...

The insurance agent is driving dow 4 hours to see us afterwords..he has called several times in the past 2 weeks to see how he is doing...saying they are acknowlidiging fault and want to make sure he is getting better...makes me a bit leary though...usually that is not how these situations work...will let you know...

[Dizneydawn]

Not sure what I can swing that weekend, if anything, it would only be up for one day, Saturday the 13th. I will see what I can do. I was hoping that you were coming closer to Christmas break. My DD cannot miss anymore school this semester since she missed 5 days when my mom died last month. I could try to drive up on a Friday night, have Saturday there, then head home on Sunday.. gotta see.

I read your link, you have your plate full.. and that is what you guys need. Lots of fun for all to have.. and good memories to replace the recent (bad) ones.. :grouphug:
Let me know - I will PM you my cell #
Wow!
Just read your entire thread. MY thoughts and prayers go out to Baylor and your family. It's amazing how you don't realize how strong you are as a mother until something like this happens.

We will arrive at the world this Thursday. I would be happy to send baylor a post card from Mickey with a "See ya real Soon" attached to it.

Kim

I pm'd you my address...thanks for the well wishes...


I don't think I am as strong as I thought..my hair is falling out huge and I actually am seeing a specialist today about that situation...maybe I am internalizing all this crud...ugh:headache:

[momrek06]

Baylor went to school today with no crutches...he is walking so well I busted out bawling this morning...so happy!

Back to the burn unit today to see his graph site and see what they wil be doing form here on out...

The insurance agent is driving dow 4 hours to see us afterwords..he has called several times in the past 2 weeks to see how he is doing...saying they are acknowlidiging fault and want to make sure he is getting better...makes me a bit leary though...usually that is not how these situations work...will let you know...

:cheer2: :dance3: :cheer2: :dance3: :cheer2: :dance3: :cheer2: :dance3:


YEAH BAYLOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so sure he will have an awesome day. Everyone has missed him for sure!!!!:teacher:

[Dizneydawn]

hi all...

Baylor had his appointment and we have some good news some not so great news...

Bad news first - his graph site did not take on the front of his shin where the worst of the burn had happened...a size about the same as a 50 cent piece or so...

We will wait and have an appointment on the 18th of December to see if it will fill in on it's own...or if they will need to re-graph that area...

next - I am glad to report the rest of the site looked amazing and that they are hoping it will keep on course and he can rsume somewhat of a normal life after Christmas if no grafting is needed again...:worship:

The insurance agent was very nice - he is not one bit happy with his clients...said they were 100% responsible for this because they left kids home alone...on top of the fact I foud out that she had been drinking the night before when they had had a bon fire "with her supervision"... in the front of the house and told the boys they could start it on their own...

Then the thing that fried me the most...is that she lied to the agent...told him all 3 boys were throwing gas on the fire...and that I knew that she was not going to be home...:headache:

Not cool and a freakin lie...the adjuster even said she contradicted what the fire marshall's report said...

They are going to try and get a small settlement for us to help with my missed work...hopefully will have in December sometime...if it is approved...which is not mandatory for the to do and according to him(Unorthodox) so we shall see what happens...

Getting some stuff packed tonight for the trip so we can see how much we have and finalize minor things...Baylor needs to get special tennis shoes...so hopefully can find them this weekend that do not rub on his graft site...

Ugh...

[momrek06]

The insurance agent was very nice - he is not one bit happy with his clients...said they were 100% responsible for this because they left kids home alone...on top of the fact I foud out that she had been drinking the night before when they had had a bon fire "with her supervision"... in the front of the house and told the boys they could start it on their own...

Then the thing that fried me the most...is that she lied to the agent...told him all 3 boys were throwing gas on the fire...and that I knew that she was not going to be home...:headache:

Not cool and a freakin lie...the adjuster even said she contradicted what the fire marshall's report said...

They are going to try and get a small settlement for us to help with my missed work...hopefully will have in December sometime...if it is approved...which is not mandatory for the to do and according to him(Unorthodox) so we shall see what happens...


WOW, now this is sad....:headache: So on top of everything Baylor and your family has been through with this accident....to find out all this today.... :sad2:

At the same time Dawn, you have so much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving ::yes:: and that your Baylor will ultimately be fine.....and to think what could have happened. :sad2:

:grouphug:

[twinklebug]

Hm. I'd have a few questions for the insurance guy - such as how did he know the mom had been drinking the night before? And, there is a difference between one beer and a bottle of wine. How much was she drinking? I'm not standing up for her by any means. She was wrong starting with NOT DOUSING a FIRE PROPERLY and in my town you have to have a proper fire pit which it sounds like she didn't have. No to me, he may have been nice, but it just sounds a little like Mr. Insurance Man was easing over to your side hoping you'd open up on some info.

As for all three kids throwing gas on the fire - I think anyone with a brain can figure out that first one to toss the gas would also be the last.

It does sound like she's rethinking her story in hopes of saving herself money. Bad. Bad. Bad. As I tell my kids, if you do something wrong - fess up and fix it, the sooner, the better. Don't hide it as it only makes matters worse.

[Dizneydawn]

WOW, now this is sad....:headache: So on top of everything Baylor and your family has been through with this accident....to find out all this today.... :sad2:

At the same time Dawn, you have so much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving ::yes:: and that your Baylor will ultimately be fine.....and to think what could have happened. :sad2:

:grouphug:
I agree and second that motion...I also will be sending you a packet on Friday for Tupp...:)
Hm. I'd have a few questions for the insurance guy - such as how did he know the mom had been drinking the night before? And, there is a difference between one beer and a bottle of wine. How much was she drinking? I'm not standing up for her by any means. She was wrong starting with NOT DOUSING a FIRE PROPERLY and in my town you have to have a proper fire pit which it sounds like she didn't have. No to me, he may have been nice, but it just sounds a little like Mr. Insurance Man was easing over to your side hoping you'd open up on some info.

As for all three kids throwing gas on the fire - I think anyone with a brain can figure out that first one to toss the gas would also be the last.

It does sound like she's rethinking her story in hopes of saving herself money. Bad. Bad. Bad. As I tell my kids, if you do something wrong - fess up and fix it, the sooner, the better. Don't hide it as it only makes matters worse.

Baylor was the one who said she was "having a beer with her friend" when the bon-fire form the night before happened.

I am not saying at all that that is a big deal or anything...but what she said was that she was down by the firepit the night before that she was never letting the boys be down there without adult supevision so they should have known not to be there the next day....so Baylor said..."That is not true..she told us we could start the bon fire when she wa son the porch having a beer with her friend...that porch is in the front of th house so she was not watching us..."

So my frusteration is just that...she is trying to come accross as not liable and the attorney knows she is full of beans...
Sorry for the confusion when I wrote it the first time...

And I agree at many levels the insurance agent may be out to find info...but the truth is here in MN - it will be before a specialized judge for children and settlements...so I think they are not able to get away with as much as they can with adults...:woohoo: I have spoken to a few attorneys who have said that kids are protected here...so I am thankful for that as well...

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone...:lovestruc

[Dizneydawn]

Hello everyone,

Just a quick update on Baylor.

He is walking pretty well now with no aids at all...the spot on the center of his leg is still open but looking better - from what I can tell.

He went to his grandparents home for part of Thanksgiving this past weekend and I need some advice...cause I want to punch his Grandma in the mellon right now...(Dad's side)

He showered there and had to change his bandages. Grandma asked to see his leg...she then says.."That looks just terrible Baylor...just horrible...worse than what I expected..." etc..etc...:mad: :headache:

He talked to his Dad immediatley about it on the phone...then when he told me..was upset...saying...."I wanted to tell het thanks a lot for making me feel better about my leg."

So his Dad called Grandma after they left...told her that she needs to watch her word choices around him...that he is very emotional right now and although it still looks very raw...we all know it is a long recovery and need to remain positive for Baylor.

She said...

"If your kid is going to be that sensitive about that...than he does not have to come here again."

I am so angry at her...blame the kid for not wanting someone he loves to be disgusted by him.

So what do I do...Christmas is around the corner...she is always like this...

My good friend Erika from the Dis said he should make the decession to go or stay..that he has a say in his relationship...and I agree...

She will not say she was wrong...if anything she will call and act as if everything is normal...

My thought...at 60 years old...It is abouttime she learns to appologize and if she can't....she will not have access to hurt my son again...but it is u to Baylor's Dad as well and I am glad he is protecting Baylor..even if it hurts because it is his mom.

Okay - that is about it...

Baylor has made cards to send out to all of you who sent him care packages/postcards for those I have addresses for...you are the reason I believe in humanity...the Dis brings out the best in people!:grouphug:

[LuvOrlando]

I am so sorry you and your son have to deal with something like this but am pleased with the positive progress you keep experiencing.:hug:

[ZPT1022]

hi all...

Baylor had his appointment and we have some good news some not so great news...

Bad news first - his graph site did not take on the front of his shin where the worst of the burn had happened...a size about the same as a 50 cent piece or so...

We will wait and have an appointment on the 18th of December to see if it will fill in on it's own...or if they will need to re-graph that area...

next - I am glad to report the rest of the site looked amazing and that they are hoping it will keep on course and he can rsume somewhat of a normal life after Christmas if no grafting is needed again...:worship:

The insurance agent was very nice - he is not one bit happy with his clients...said they were 100% responsible for this because they left kids home alone...on top of the fact I foud out that she had been drinking the night before when they had had a bon fire "with her supervision"... in the front of the house and told the boys they could start it on their own...

Then the thing that fried me the most...is that she lied to the agent...told him all 3 boys were throwing gas on the fire...and that I knew that she was not going to be home...:headache:

Not cool and a freakin lie...the adjuster even said she contradicted what the fire marshall's report said...

They are going to try and get a small settlement for us to help with my missed work...hopefully will have in December sometime...if it is approved...which is not mandatory for the to do and according to him(Unorthodox) so we shall see what happens...

Getting some stuff packed tonight for the trip so we can see how much we have and finalize minor things...Baylor needs to get special tennis shoes...so hopefully can find them this weekend that do not rub on his graft site...

Ugh...


If you haven't yet, start keeping a log of your conversations with people that have anything to do with the accident. Write the date, the time and the person's full name and what happened in the conversation, and that way if anyone tries to go back on what they said, you will have it all there in writing. No, it's not perfect but it helps.



As for the grandmother, I would let your son decide. It sounds like odds are that she will say something rude or inappropriate again, and make it out to be Baylor's fault. Talk to his Dad and try to get him to agree that that's not what Baylor needs right now so that you can all be on the same page, but most of all, what your son says is the most important. :hug:

[marshallandcartersmo]

I thought about your DS last night. I was getting dinner out of the oven and burned the tip of my finger on a pan. Just one second on the pan and it hurt like crazy!!


I thought of your DS and can't imagine the pain he's going through. :hug:

[momrek06]

Baylor has made cards to send out to all of you who sent him care packages/postcards for those I have addresses for...you are the reason I believe in humanity...the Dis brings out the best in people!:grouphug:

Oh, how sweet, Dawn!!! I hope he got my card?? I included a little something in it for his trip to WDW! :mickeyjum

Any recent UPDATES, Dawn??? :surfweb:

[momrek06]

DAWN: HOW WAS DISNEY??? I HOPE EVERYONE HAD A GOOD TIME!!! :goodvibes

Update us when you have a chance!!!

[Dizneydawn]

I am so sorry you and your son have to deal with something like this but am pleased with the positive progress you keep experiencing.:hug:
Thanks for the well wishes continuing...
If you haven't yet, start keeping a log of your conversations with people that have anything to do with the accident. Write the date, the time and the person's full name and what happened in the conversation, and that way if anyone tries to go back on what they said, you will have it all there in writing. No, it's not perfect but it helps.

Good ideas..again..can never have to many of them...

As for the grandmother, I would let your son decide. It sounds like odds are that she will say something rude or inappropriate again, and make it out to be Baylor's fault. Talk to his Dad and try to get him to agree that that's not what Baylor needs right now so that you can all be on the same page, but most of all, what your son says is the most important. :hug:
News on that front...they will be going for Christmas there...his Dad has worked out some things with her...and I hope it goes well...
I thought about your DS last night. I was getting dinner out of the oven and burned the tip of my finger on a pan. Just one second on the pan and it hurt like crazy!!


I thought of your DS and can't imagine the pain he's going through. :hug:
I know...Treyner burned his hand on a stove on vacation that he did not realize was still hot...he was using some words of pain...and Baylor just walked past him...and daid..."Don't be such a baby...":thumbsup2 :rotfl2: The whole trip he was funny about his injury....we were at Jaws at Universal...and he sat on the left of the boat...and when Jaws got shot and burst into flames...he said..."Sure...make the burned kid sit next to the fire..." He is really coming to terms using his humor...but then there is the times when it is so heart wrenching...he will have to lotion his graph site...and just start crying...not so much from pain anymore...but from the fact that he can't feel it normally and he says his skin feels like leather...and sensory/tactile feelings just freaks him out...

He worries about scaring on his donor site of all things...again...uppper thigh...looks great....lighter pink in color...but it takes up most of his upper thigh..so hethinks it will be a huge scar...the truth is though...that willl fadethe most...and his hair will grow over it...so eventually it will look the least like a scar...
Oh, how sweet, Dawn!!! I hope he got my card?? I included a little something in it for his trip to WDW! :mickeyjum

Any recent UPDATES, Dawn??? :surfweb:

DAWN: HOW WAS DISNEY??? I HOPE EVERYONE HAD A GOOD TIME!!! :goodvibes

Update us when you have a chance!!!

Yes mam! Did not get back till the 15th..and then no computer till the 16th because some server had crashed while we were gone and they had to re-set a whole bunch of stuff on their end...ugh..

Baylor did so well....gained 10 pounds...ran and played in the ocean..and in the pool...got over people looking at his compression stocking when he saw someone with a water proof cast on...I will post some pics for you all this afternoon...started my TR so please read that for all the info if you are into TR's!

We really did have a great time...long but too short at the same time...My kids are beach kids though...want to go back to the Ocean next time for the whole time...give them water and sand...and they would prefer that over a park anyday...:)

[Dizneydawn]

here is some pics of Baylor from the trip....

http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s129/dizneydawn/00000040-1.jpg

http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s129/dizneydawn/00000051-1.jpg

[momrek06]

DAWN, Thanks for the PM!!!!!!!! So good to hear from you!!!!!!! :hug:

I am excited that Baylor is doing GREAT!!!! :dance3:

Bring on the NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!! :woohoo:

[ameraumi]

Many more gppd thoughts and prayers coming Baylor's way!

My DS was 4.5 yrs old and got his foot caught under the belt of our treadmill. While it was not the same type of burn, they did consider it a 3rd degree burn. He spent 2 weeks in the hospital, an hour away from home. The belt had rubbed across the skim like sandpaper would have and went down to his bone. He had to have his muscles reattached as well as a skin graft.

11 years later he does have his scars but they fad a little more each year. He was very brave thru it all, just like it sounds Baylor has been.:hug:

[FSUDisneyGirl]

I know it's been a while, but prayers for Baylor being said down here in Florida! How is he doing? He sounds like a super brave boy! :thumbsup2 :thumbsup2 :thumbsup2