Arrgghhhh...

[Pinky166]

....I am sure many of you have to endure this question too so I thought I would have a rant with the people that will understand this the most!

Had a nice today as my parents came over to visit with my Aunt & Uncle who I haven't seen for about a year (they live quite far away.) I gave them a grand tour of the house as we have done lots of renovating & decorating since they last came to our house about 3 years ago, all was going fine until we sat down for a cup of tea and then it came...the question which I dread..."So where are you going on holiday this year?". Why is it that people who have never been to Disney are so quick to judge.....lots of why are you going there again, what's the point you've seen it all? Then DH pipes up with and tell them where you've booked to go next year....:rolleyes1 (he did it just to wind me up, he was smirking as he said it...so later when he's asleep I will squeeze his bad hand ;) )

It just really winds me up....I don't question anyone else where they choose to go on holiday so why should I get questioned? Yes I am fully aware that I haven't got kids yet but that doesn't mean I can't go to Disney. :confused3

Sorry guys rant over......

[natalielongstaff]

:lmao: you should just be glad other people don't want to go to disney...more room for those of us that do !

Ive given up trying to convert people now :)

[orlandothebeagle]

Why do you care?? Actually that sounds harsher than it is meant!
I get slated all the time for the amount of hols I take, to be fair it used to bother me but now it doesnt, just take a big breath and smile.I say well yuo got to spend the dollars somewhere!:lmao:
When somebody I dont know asks me if I have any hols planned, everybody that knows me s******s out load! cheeky gits!

just incase you wondered the word they have blanked is the same as laughs!

[wilma-bride]

My family (particularly the in-laws) always questioned the number of times we go to Disney, although my Mother's problem with it seems to be more of how we can afford to go rather than why we do :confused3

However, within a few days of being there with the in-laws in April, my MIL said to me 'I can understand now why you keep coming back, I didn't get it before but now I do'. That made my day, I can tell you.

In all honesty, though, I'm with orlandothebeagle on this one, I really don't care if other people don't understand it. I don't choose to spend my money in drink and cigarettes but I don't have a problem with those who do. Each to their own I reckon :)

[Pinky166]

Don't get me wrong it doesn't bother me what people think of what I choose to do with my money/holiday but I hate the fact that people think they have a right to question you over where you choose to go have fun and relax?

[PoppyAnna]

It's when the money argument comes in it really bothers me, as far as I'm concerned if you earn a living fair and square, you spend it how you wish - like Joh says we don't smoke and as we have two little ones a big night for us is a Thai takeaway! I don't preach to those who blow a huge amount of money on fags and booze.

I was recently at a family function, DH's aunt and uncle had just returned from Orlando where his DD lives with her family. They are lovely and we were having a lovely chat about it all and then DH's older brother (who is the most jealous, lazy, poop stirer guy I know) pipes up how he couldn't go there and it's not the real world and it's all fantasy, as if he was some sort of culture buff! I had to walk out of the room and bite my tongue, my MIL (who has never left these shores in her life) heard all this from the other room and saw me walk out and walked into the room and said "I don't know, everybody that we talk to that goes there has the most wonderful time, it must be magical for the little ones, our girls (my DD's) are so lucky to have gone twice already". she then gave me a wink. My BIL went very quiet and changed the subject pretty quickly - he is insanely jealous of my DH and all the things that we do with our girls. They have two boys around the same age as my girls and they have never been on holiday, never even been taken to a farm or anywhere for a day out - so sad that the boys idea of a day out is to go their grandparents to play in a garden, all because their Dad can't be bothered to work regularly, despite being a very talented and award winning carpenter. My FIL is scared of flying and this BIL played on that fear last year went we took the girls for a second time saying how dangerous flying was (terrorists etc) and that he would never take his beloved sons on such a long flight......grrrrr..
WDW isn't the only place we want to take our girls but I can't stand it when people look down at you for your repeat visits when they clearly have NO aspirations of any kind for themselves or their children :mad:

[CHEK]

We have the same said to us!, but we've converted my parent's now they love it just as much as us ;), I think they see all of us having such a wonderful time :goodvibes. But my outlaws :laughing: , oh I mean inlaws :lmao: they don't get us :rolleyes: , they along with a few other's think we're rich (I wish :rolleyes1 ), we work hard, and this is how we like to spend our holidays

[Deedee]

My mom was the same until my dad suggested they go with us one time. Now although through my dad's health i don't think they will be able to go again they both understand why we keep going back.

[Tink2312]

Hey, rant away :lmao: I get asked that question all the time and it's usually coupled with "the face" (the one that suggests that at 23 I must be some kind of billy-no-mates or a saint to go away with my parents - and to Disney as well!) But it works for us!
Some of my friends get it (as they've been almost as much as me) but my best friend thinks I'm a bit loopy (well, that's slightly true, but nonetheless...:rotfl: )
My parents also get asked "the question" by my aunts/ uncles (one of which has never left the UK) and think we must be rich (like the pp says - I wish we were :laughing: )!
I'm totally not bothered - I'm a Disney addict and proud of it! :banana:

[Paul6725]

Just say to them "Yes, I am rich. Maybe if you worked a little harder you could enjoy the sort of life style I have become accustomed to and now take for granted" Then down your cuppa with your little finger sticking out :)

[Lizzy Lemon]

We've got some people coming over tonight (I would call them friends but its getting harder to stay civil with them). The wife especially passes snide comments about our home, furniture, choice of Disney as a holiday, my sons achievements compared to their daughter's, the list goes on. I've been dreading their visit all week but our younger son wants them to come over, he like to play with their son who is also a horrid child. Makes fun of our Ashley and his special needs and is never pulled up on his behaviour. I'm just ready for 'words' tonight!!!!!

[Nubbedy]

Just feel sorry for these people who have never experienced the magic of WDW and Florida, and probably never will. Or even worse, pity the people who have been there but through lack of research and planning had a dreadful time and slate the place every time it gets mentioned. :sad2:

Can you tell that I hear this a lot too?!

BTW Lizzy Lemon - Hope your evening doesnt go too badly. :hug:

Sara. :)

[Paul6725]

If that one kid takes the mick and the parents do nothing you really do need to pull him up on it. Somethings just are not acceptable. And if you're lucky, the parents will get annoyed and they'll be out of your lives.

[mrs-mac]

l seem to have the same situation when l tell people l'm going camping. They are usually people that haven't even tried it but they still feel ok with making comments about my holiday :mad: .

[irongirlof12]

I think folks don't understand unless they have been, I get annoyed about the 'how can you afford it' question and 'haven't you done it all'

I have priced up more expensive holidays to the med than in florida! and I know which I prefer, I can't see the point of paying to spend 14 days lying on a beach with little to do but sunbathe and drink, but do I say this.... no! each to their own.

[orlandothebeagle]

l seem to have the same situation when l tell people l'm going camping. They are usually people that haven't even tried it but they still feel ok with making comments about my holiday :mad: .

:scared1: Camping!!:scared1:

I hate it BUT I can see why others like it, but what about the midges???
I am way too pathetic to get camping!My problem NOT yours!:laughing:

[Cyrano]

Brother is the same but we make him come to DLP to play at being uncle to the troops :lmao: I don't do London, so he wouldn't see them otherwise.
I just say to him and friends that as you don't get it there is little point in understanding why we think it is the most magical place :)

[Tink2312]

l seem to have the same situation when l tell people l'm going camping. They are usually people that haven't even tried it but they still feel ok with making comments about my holiday :mad: .

I agree! My parents own a static caravan in North Wales :wave2: which I'm staying in on holiday at the moment (unfortunately the so-so weather is the reason I'm on the DIS a lot :lmao:). I get that same reaction when I say I enjoy spending my hols in a caravan in North Wales - but the truth is they don't know what there missing! :woohoo:

[Mrs Doubtfire]

Why do people think it has to soooo expensive - I was looking at Lanzarote for next August for 3 & it was coming in at over £3k!!! For that I could go back to WDW!

[Lizzybear]

We get the 'how can you afford it?' thing all the time, usually by people who spend an inordinate amount on their weekly shop or go out drinking all the time. One guy only feeds his dog meat from Sainsburys' deli counter :rotfl: and goes to Europe 4 times a year, I think it comes down to priorities to a certain extent. We make cutbacks elsewhere to be able to go and my bf has been hammering the overtime lately.. HOWEVER, I know we're lucky to be able to afford US holidays full stop as I know many people can't.
Also, I remember my bf telling me recently that a woman in his work said she hated Orlando because the restaurants were too far away from the hotel (I think she's accustomed to resort type holidays where everything is in the one complex within walking distance), there was nothing to eat but burgers (well I guess you COULD only eat burgers if you really wanted!) and there was queues for all the rides (then adding that they never got to the parks until around midday and this was in July/August, hmm!) I think some people have a poor experience because they didn't do any research beforehand but also there are those who just don't like it.. My dad doesn't, his idea of a great holiday is rock climbing every day and if a place doesn't have it then it automatically goes way down in his estimations. This year he's going wilderness camping at Red Rock Canyon near Las Vegas and I can guarantee he won't set foot on the strip! I guess holiday tastes are not always genetic :lmao:

[orlandothebeagle]

Why do people think it has to soooo expensive - I was looking at Lanzarote for next August for 3 & it was coming in at over £3k!!! For that I could go back to WDW!

I was in dublin for 2 night:scared1: now that is expensive!!!!

I love caravans hols, my dog loves looking out the windows, as a treat(lol) we are taking him to ceter parcs next year!!

[Netty]

all i get from people is " your going to florida again??" followed by
"havent you been there enough times" then "don't you fancy going somewhere else for a change, you must be sick of it by now"
all i can say to you is that their just jealous or they jest at the unknown!!!
if you or i said we were off to spain not an eyelid would be batted!! :rotfl:

[The Fetherstons]

Yes we always get the question too....You going back there again???? But having priced up a European holiday we can go to WDW for around just the same cost and we love it so WE DO GO AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN:rotfl:

So Claire you just enjoy your planning :banana:

[Tarheel Tink]

I read here on the DIS a good response to "Don't you get tired of it?" is to reply "Do you get tired of Christmas?".
:goodvibes

[Belle68]

Im a little late catching up on this thread as I havent been very active on the Dis the last few days and I have only skipped through all your relies so forgive me if I repeat anything.

It seems to me there is a big devide the Disney lovers and the other group that just dont have a clue. What gets me is the comments like 'your going again' 'you must be loaded' etc. We work hard and save hard and many of these comments come from people who smoke, spend most of their time in the pub and spend a fortune on wasteful things, but I dont tell them what to spend their hard earned money on so why should they tell me. These people never fail to make me feel guilty and gready though. Its great coming on the Dis and talking to people who share my passion and discovering that Im not the only one who gets silly comments.

[orlandothebeagle]

I read here on the DIS a good response to "Don't you get tired of it?" is to reply "Do you get tired of Christmas?".
:goodvibes

Re Christmas,Yes, every year!!!!:lmao:
BUT never Florida!!!:rotfl:

[kieras nana]

we have travelled abit,thailand,bali,mexico,vietnam,india,malaysia,a s well as europe,but whenever someone said,they were going to florida & disneyworld,i would always feel envious,it was somewhere hubby,was not interested at all:confused:
however,we booked a trip to bali & the bali bombing occured,so we were forbidden to travel,so we had to decide,where to go,pretty sharpish & that is how,our 1st trip happened.
we are now,on our 4th trip,in 5 years & I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!
i'm the manager of a pub & i get the comment ALOT,from the customers.you must be loaded,etc,etc.etc.i just tell them.to add up,how much they spend,a day on beer & times it by 365,then tell me,whos loaded.it soon shuts,them up:)
last summer,we had to open,at 8,in the morning.it was the same customers who comment,that were sat outside,waiting for me,to open up:confused3
we still have so much,to see & do,that we will continue,to ignore the comments & return,again,again & again:cool1:
tracy

[UKDEB]

I suppose people are far more likely to remember that you went to "Orlando" last year (and the year before and the year before that) than if you tell them you're off to Skiathos, Benidorm, Tenerife, The Maldives, Corfu, Turkey, Cyprus, Portugal... In a way, they all sort of blend into one generic destination and I'm sure many people just hear "British Package Holiday". Orlando is much more specific. It immediately conjures up images of Mickey Mouse and the Magic Kingdom. For those who've never had a desire to go, that image must reek of any number of negative connotations: money-grabbing commercialism, lacking in culture, just for kids; so I can see why some might question the sanity of those of us who choose to go year in, year out.

I do admit to allowing myself a wry smile over those who have multiple trips under their belts, but still insist it's beneath them and that they don't really enjoy it. That's plain snobbery. They're judging themselves by some misconceived idea of their position in society. I'm not talking about the people who simply want to experience other places as well as visiting WDW, but those who claim they can't stand the place, yet still keep going back.

[wicket2005]

I don't care what anyone thinks. I think my family have give up on us now. However, what I do find annoying is my Mam and Dad think for some reason once my sons (20 and 18) don't want to go to Orlando we won't be doing it and will start visiting stately homes, museums and the like (which we are not in to). Its like they are forcing what they want to do on us, we don't force our holiday opinions on them. As far as we are concerned we will be still going to Orlando because WE love it.:)

[Snowy-girls]

I suppose we are lucky-we don't get the comments which many of you seem to-which is a shame.
Our family understand our love of going to WDW-especially for our girls sake-that is why we don't holiday anywhere else anymore-as we are able to save and take our girls.As i have started in previous threads-we pay everything in cash-no credit cards.So it takes us 2/3 times longer to pay for our trips to WDW,which we all appreciate more.Hubby works-i don't,i make money on Ebay to contribute to our spends.We don't smoke,go to the pub,and i sure as heck don't preach to others who do-so i understand why you all say that they should'nt to you.
We still take trips to our caravan,which we part own with my Nan+Grandad.I love the caravan and so do our girls+i know it's not abroad but we all love it+see it as a holiday.
Me+Hubby were only saying the other day,that when the girls eventually leave home where will we go on holiday,to which we both agreed WDW :thumbsup2 .x.

[Neoshoegal]

I totally understand you!
It has come to the point where I almost feel I have to apologise for saying I want to go to Disney World again. Like you said, if yu haven't been there, you don't understand. There is just something about that place that makes you feel happy and worry-free, and I like feeling happy and worry-free :thumbsup2

[madmumof2]

I'm having a really hard time with this at the minute.

I've been twice before, both times with my mum. So she's been before, but the first time she was in the process off divorcing my dad, and the second the hotel was awful, so can understand why she didn't have the best time.

I've not been abroad since 2002, and not been to Florida since 2000. I don't get to do yearly holidays, or even one every 8 years! lol. So this trip means a lot to me. Not only are we going to the best place in the world, but it's the first holiday I've been on where I've been the grown up not the child/teenager, my childrens first holiday, and the first time staying onsite.

I don't have much money but I know what I can afford. I've made up a plan of how much needs saving and I'm sticking to it.

Every time I bring it up or mention it to my family, I get rolled eyes, looks between each other, change of subject or a straight forward 'you'll never do it'. They're starting to ruin the holiday for me already, as I can't show them how excited I am, or show them pictures of where we're going, basically, I can't do what they do when they go on holiday.

They've been to Africa in March, Athens in April, Spain next month, and Africa again in October! And that's just the places they have to get a plane to. I have to sit, bored, listening to their plans, and looking at the brochures, when I'm not the least bit interested (well, maybe the safari, but I get to do that in Florida!) but I don't say a word because it's what they want to do.

It's really bringing us all down now and not sure how to tell them nicely to shut up! lol. My mum has been before so I can't even say 'if you've not been, you don'y know'. It might be she had a bad experience before, or it just might not be her thing. Fair enough. But it is mine, and I want to talk to them about all the things we're going to do, like most people do when they go on holida.

I've not even told her I've booked, and probably won't until late next year because I know I'd get a lecture or she'd ruin the excitement. I feel bad that I'm going and it's daft!

I get the 'how can you afford it' too. Look at her listof holidays this year! lol I priced up a holiday to spain and it cost more!!!!! A holiday to Florida doesn't have to be expensive.

It's a shame, because she's a star in every other aspect of my life. I just wish she'd be excited for me.

Sorry for the rant, but this is really getting to me. :(

[Pinky166]

madmum - I really feel for you. :hug: I know exactly how you feel as my family show no interest in my holidays either so much so that they don't even look at our holiday photo's.

Maybe you should print out your post and show it to your mum - she may not even realise that she does it & if she does it may make her rethink how childish she is being....whatever you choose to do don't feel guilty about your holiday - you are planning and saving so that your children will have one of the most memorable times of their lives, don't let jealousy of others ruin what will be the most magical trip you will ever take. If I am ever blessed with children I will cherish the day I get to take them to WDW and see the looks on their little faces. :cloud9:

In the meantime we are all here and you could never bore your DIS buddies with your excitement and plans. :hug:

[wicket2005]

Oh dear, I do so feel for you. Sometimes families can be so cruel without sometimes realising it. I cannot change how your family reacts but please know we all are more than happy to share with your excitement and hear what you are planning to do.:grouphug:

[wicket2005]

[QUOTE=Pinky166;27284714 If I am ever blessed with children I will cherish the day I get to take them to WDW and see the looks on their little faces. :cloud9:

:[/QUOTE]

Too true, it is a pleasure to behold. One of my favourite memories is my youngest son who was 7 at the time, shouting 'I love you Mummy' as he was filled with excitement seeing all the fireworks going off around the Disney castle.

[Snowy-girls]

I So this trip means a lot to me. Not only are we going to the best place in the world, but it's the first holiday I've been on where I've been the grown up not the child/teenager, my childrens first holiday, and the first time staying onsite.


or a straight forward 'you'll never do it'. (

Sorry to hear what you are going thru-how true is the saying 'you can choose your friends but not your family'.

Your first part i quoted-is your first incentive to this holiday-for your children as well as yourself.

The second part i quoted is your 2nd incentive-show her that it can be done+you can do it.I believe that you shouldn't have to prove yourself to anyone-but sometimes in certain cases you do-but do it with dignity,not in a nasty way(as it's obvious you adore your Mum)+she will see herself how wrong she was.

You come on here and tell us all you need to about your holiday-i love reading your blog by the way :thumbsup2 .
You are a role model for some single mum's out there,who can't be bothered to do anything for there family.But you are putting 110% into this+the reward you will get from your childrens faces will make it all worthwhile.x.

[Pinky166]

Too true, it is a pleasure to behold. One of my favourite memories is my youngest son who was 7 at the time, shouting 'I love you Mummy' as he was filled with excitement seeing all the fireworks going off around the Disney castle.

:goodvibes Thanks for sharing, you brought tears to my eyes.....one day I hope that will be me.

[madmumof2]

Aww thank you everyone! I wasn't expecting a personal response, bless you all.

I've got tears in my eyes now lol. Daft ol me.

I think I'll bring it up next time I see my mum, and tell her either to try to be excited for me and take interest or don't even talk about it because it's bringing us down.

Michelle, I can't believe someone reads my drivel! lol I'll have to update more now. What a chore! :P lol My Disney Blog has more posts than my family one! How bad is that??? lol

Thank you for the lovely words. x

I know to come here the next time they make me feel I'm making a big deal out of nothing. lol

My screen saver is the POP entrance and it makes me smile every time I turn the laptop off, so at least I go to sleep with a smile on my face, no matter how bad the day was lol.

You'll all regret saying I can write all about my trip here! You'll be begging to shut me up in the months to come no doubt! :D

[Pinky166]

I hadn't noticed the link to your blog so I am off to check it out now. popcorn::

We would never get bored of hearing about your planning, just remember that we too are all Disney nuts! :hyper: :hyper: :hyper:

[cornish pixie]

We've got some people coming over tonight (I would call them friends but its getting harder to stay civil with them). The wife especially passes snide comments about our home, furniture, choice of Disney as a holiday, my sons achievements compared to their daughter's, the list goes on. I've been dreading their visit all week but our younger son wants them to come over, he like to play with their son who is also a horrid child. Makes fun of our Ashley and his special needs and is never pulled up on his behaviour. I'm just ready for 'words' tonight!!!!!

I can really sympathize with you, we have just waved goodbye to some Friends who stayed with us in our home and experienced the same.
The mum is o.k. and I actually feel sorry for her as she has to put up with a very lazy, ignorant hubbie who thinks he is gods gift!!!!
Anyway he questioned our choice of Holidays and went on and on and on, I bit my lip but my hubbie bless him voiced his opnion I was so proud of him.
I wouldn't mind but mr culture would rather holiday alone anyway, it's the children I feel sorry for but monsters in the making comes to mind!!
Anyway I think we might be holidaying in Disney next time they want a place to stay, Please don't think Im being horrible it's just that I have had enough of having to explain myself in my own home whilst cooking, cleaning tour guide etc for a supposedly called friend.
Rant over:goodvibes
WE ALL LOVE DISNEY IN OUR HOUSE:cheer2:
cornish pixie:goodvibes

[T16GEM]

[QUOTE=Pinky166;27189739(he did it just to wind me up, he was smirking as he said it...so later when he's asleep I will squeeze his bad hand ;) )

[/QUOTE]
sorry this made me :rotfl:

I know what you mean, someone I knew once said that they would never go and then when they did they loved it - I felt very smug! I have only been once with kids - the rest of the time it's been adults only and we have had a ball! 20 years of Disney! :cool1:

[orlandothebeagle]

It is the most exciting thing ever, I dont know why she is like that, I love my mum but she can be really horriblesometimes,what is with mums? they can be real horrible sometimes:confused3
Not the dis mum obviously:lmao:

[Tiggernut_jadie]

I have similar problems with my sister. She loves going to France (not DLRP just France generally) - I've been twice and had truly appauling experiences there so would not go back. However when she is planning her holidays she bores me rigid with telling me every minute detail of her trip. On the other hand she is completely anti-America. She has NEVER been in her life but was one of the Greennham Common women back in the 80's so hates all things American because of that (pathetic I know!). Therefore she couldn't be LESS interested in our trips if she really tried at it but still manages to have a dig about our trips all the same. She wouldn't even let us take her DD with us years ago (back before we had our DD - we'd been told we couldn't have kids so our neice got a LOT of spoiling by us!)

Ironically her DD (who's now 18) has just booked her first 'adult' holiday with her boyfriend....and guees where they're off to in November...yep ORLANDO! :rotfl2: :cool1: My sister was mortified but my neice is so excited....it does make me sad though that she missed out when she was younger! :sad2: